How to Chat with Girls on WhatsApp: 15 Tips (10+ Screenshot Examples)

Every girl you meet in the club… you later talk to on WhatsApp.

Every girl who gives you her number on Tinder… you send messages to on WhatsApp.

Same goes for the ladies you meet on the street, on Happn, on Inner Circle or wherever.

WhatsApp is a central hub you always have to go through.

If you’re not completely sure if your WhatsApp chats are optimal…

…then you risk losing a big part of your chances with girls.

Wherever you met them…

Today I am going to teach you how to flirt with girls on WhatsApp like a baws.

So you stand out from the crowd and girls will send you big chunks of text when they say they have to ‘’tell you something’’.

In this article you get:

  • 15 Tips to chat with girls on WhatsApp
  • How you make girls addicted to your text messages
  • How to prevent losing your mind over your chats
  • How to make women melt for you with your voice messages
  • 10+ Screenshot examples from my phone
  • What to do if you’re too nice (this will instantly make you more dominant)
  • How to make a flirty WhatsApp status
  • The ultimate guide for guys to chat with girls on WhatsApp…

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Tip 1: Turn the ‘blue ticks’ into your wingman

Hohoho, I’m sure you know them.

The little ‘check marks’ next to each WhatsApp message.

  • One single grey tick means your message has been sent, but not yet received by the other person. (Maybe her phone is on airplane mode or she’s somewhere with bad connection)
  • Two grey ticks means your message has been sent and received BUT she hasn’t read it yet. Maybe she’s at the gym. Maybe she hasn’t checked her phone in a while. Maybe she’s avoiding you.
  • Two blue ticks means your message has been sent, received and read. This is the phase where you start to worry.

This good old meme illustrates it nicely.

This dude sends a very vulnerable message to which he expected a reply.

She reads his message and next is radio silence.

Alright, alright, now you know how the check marks work but… how do you use them to your advantage?

I have two solutions for you.

You apply the first one if you’re not yet the biggest ladies man.

The second strategy you only want to use if you’re quite confident about your seduction skills.

Oh, and later in the article I will also give you a sneaky trick to bypass those blue ticks.

Tip 2: How to be more relaxed in your WhatsApp messages

This is so important if you want to learn how to chat with girls on WhatsApp.

Because do you catch yourself checking the chat with your girl too often?

Before she even sent you a new text?

Maybe you were hoping she had already sent something?

Maybe you want to see if the grey ticks have turned blue?

All these little nervous behaviors MESS UP your chances with this girl.

You’re clearly way too attached to this specific lady.

It’s perfectly fine to like her that much. But if you don’t want to scare her off, you can NOW stop your blue check mark obsession.

How you do that?

  • Open WhatsApp
  • Go to Settings
  • Privacy
  • Uncheck ‘read receipts’
  • Enjoy the peace and quiet

As the screenshot above indicates, now you can’t see when someone has read your message.

Just like they can’t see if you read theirs.

Several of our coaches turn off this setting.

They don’t have time for girls that become needy when the coach decides not to reply to a message for a little while.

Do you not feel like dealing with needy women either, or do you just value your online privacy?

Then you can switch the ‘Last seen’ function to ‘Nobody’ while you’re at it.

Now when people open their conversation with you, they can’t see when you were last online at the top of the screen.

Just as with read receipts, now you yourself also can’t see when other people were last online.

Perfect if you are heartbroken every time your crush is online at midnight, but doesn’t text you.

Awesome! You can’t see when girls have read your texts anymore. No more reason to obsess about your WhatsApp conversation with her and spend every waking second opening her chat.

Bonus benefit:

Now no one can see when you were online last or when your read a chat you’re instantly more mysterious.

She has no idea if you were online.

Maybe you’re busy climbing Mount Everest.

Or maybe you’re busy having your 3rd foursome of the day.

Tip 3: How you make her long for your messages

Skrrrrrrrrt!

And so we arrive at the second solution.

This time we’re not only gonna make sure the blue ticks don’t make you paranoid…

…we will make sure they will actually HELP you with how to chat with girls on WhatsApp successfully.

Once again: I don’t recommend the following if you’re not a seasoned player.

But it can never hurt to read this and expand your knowledge. #nerdyface

For those who payed attention, you have seen that in the screenshots above my read receipts ARE activated.

My ‘Last seen’ status on the other hand, is turned off.

Why?

Let us begin with ‘Last seen’.

The benefit of turning it off?

No one in the world knows when you were online last. Including your colleagues, your boss and your girlfriend (if you’re a sneaky snake that likes playing with fire).

Just like when you have the blue check marks turned off, you’re giving away less information. The less information you give away, the more mysterious you are. And as you probably already know, a mysterious man wets about twice as much pussy as a transparent man.

The benefit of leaving the ‘Last seen’ status on, is closely connected to the benefits of leaving the ‘read receipts’ on.

You do this when you WANT girls to see that you’re online… but not texting them.

For those who read my 19 Text Signs She Likes You, you will know everything about this behavior:

Getting a girl to chase you like that, is possible when you use the blue ticks as your wingman.

At msg 1 she sends me three emojis. Laughing at my text and secretly hoping that I will continue the chat.

When I read her chat and stop talking… she will see the blue check marks…

She’s now in exactly that fucked up situation you were in every time a girl gave you blue ticks but didn’t respond.

So what does she do?

Exactly what you would do when you feel neediness towards a girl you’re crazy about.

She sends another WhatsApp text message.

Which I also read and leave unanswered.

A solid hour later she tries again. With the same result: no answer.

A while later I put her out of her misery and bless her with the sweet taste of my attention.

I tell her my WhatsApp notifications are turned off. This doesn’t make any sense because she got to see blue ticks.

BUT…

It is a very good point. Which I will be giving you in a bit, after I show you the ‘blue tick’ trick.

Tip 4: My sneaky ‘blue ticks trick’

Straight to business!

If you have your read receipts turned on, then your crush will see the blue check marks when you’ve read her message.

Wouldn’t it be amazing if there was a way to see when she reads YOUR messages WITHOUT her seeing when you read HER messages?

Well, my dear bro, that way exists.

And here is how you do it:

  • Make sure your conversation with her is not opened. If you have WhatsApp running in the background make sure you’re in the messages tab
  • When you see that you get a text message, put your phone on airplane mode.
  • Now open the conversation and read her messages.
  • Done reading? Leave the conversation and go back to the overview with all the chats.
  • Once back in the overview, you turn airplane mode off again.

Bang bang! You just read her messages without her knowing.

By turning on airplane mode when you’re in her chat window your phone can’t connect to internet and therefore won’t know that you have read the messages.

After reconnecting to the internet, WhatsApp doesn’t send a read receipt. As long as you have closed the chat at that time.

You don’t want to use this technique all the time, that would cost you too much time. But at crucial moments, this sneaky method can help you out of a sticky situation.

Tip 5: Turn your WhatsApp notifications OFF (neediness killer)

In the video about my Tinder experiences I told you that ‘’turning off WhatsApp notifications has an ENORMOUS benefit.’’

What that benefit is, I would tell you another time.

Well, my dear bro, that time has come.

Whichever way you look at it, most dudes are simply too needy.

And even those who over time have acquired an abundance of girls, still act needy when that perfect girl suddenly turns up.

One of the side effects of neediness is that you reply to her messages too often and too fast.

She sends you a text?

BANG, you’ve read it immediately and as soon as you know what to say, you text back.

Now the fact that you read her message won’t be a given to her when you’ve turned off the blue check marks.

But as soon as you reply it’s obvious of course.

Now I want you to be honest with yourself…

…are you someone that checks the conversation with his crush ASAP every time she chats something?

If the answer is ‘’YES’’, I want you to turn off your WhatsApp notifications now.

The reason is simple.

If you add up all the extra time you’ll take to reply, you’d be amazed how much it is.

You won’t get the constant reminder of a notification whenever you get a text.

However cute she is, you’ll be surprised how forgetful your brain is.

Before you know it, you’re busy with all sorts of things, while she’s already sent you something.

By turning off your notifications, you’ll automatically make yourself a little less available.

Tip 6: WhatsApps most powerful weapon: Voice Messages

The best approach on how to chat with a girl on WhatsApp…

…is that you don’t.

“Why, Louis???”

Aaaaaaaaaaaaah… voice messages…

…The NUMBER 1 reason I still direct girls to WhatsApp so to seduce them

If Instagram were a bit more chat-friendly, then I wouldn’t add women anywhere else but to Instagram.

(My love for Instagram and why it is the perfect platform to flirt with girls can all be discovered in my Flirting on Instagram article.)

Anyway,

WhatsApp. Voice messages. Fuck… YES.

What is lacking in text messages?

They miss all sorts of things. Touch, eye contact, smell, and so on…

These matters are reserved for ‘’real’’ contact. Face to face.

Text messages miss EMOTION.

If you’re a genius writer who would even put Shakespeare himself to shame, then you probably have no trouble evoking emotions with just the written word.

But if you are a mere mortal?

Then it will be a hell of a lot harder spiking these emotions through text, than when you’re right in front of her.

Voice messages bring you one step closer.

Suddenly you have powerful elements that have always been missing in your chats.

There’s warmth in your voice, INTONATION, volume…

When you’re teasing her, she can even hear that you’re talking with a smile on your face.

(Some companies teach their support staff to talk with a smile on their face. The customer on the other end hears this and is inclined to react in a friendlier way.)

Long story short…

Suddenly you’re much more of a HUMAN being instead of the 10.000th random dude in her inbox that she doesn’t know anything about.

Your voice —especially when used correctly— will make sure she only has eyes for you. Fuck all those other guys in her inbox.

“But Louis… If it works so well and is so powerful… why is nobody doing it? And why aren’t other dating coaches talking about it?’’

Good question…

Because most guys rather play it safe than experiment. And because most dating coaches simply aren’t as good as me.

You need proof?

Alright then:

—According to H. my voice is sexy.

—According to S. my voice is cute… uhhh sexy.

—L thinks my accent is “super hot”.

—This girl suddenly thinks I’m “super fucking hot”.

—And finally this chick thinks my voice and accent are <3 <3 <3. On top of that she can’t wait to send me a voice message back.

Now you may be thinking I’m just bragging about my Divine voice. My deep, hoarse, MASCULINE voice that leaves no panty dry…

That’s the whole point… my voice isn’t Divine. Let alone masculine.

I have a pretty average voice.

Maybe you attended one of my seminars or you watched on of my Youtube Videos.

Then you know I’m no Sean Connery.

(How brilliant was Sean Connery in “The First Knight”?)

If this guy would want to flirt via WhatsApp chat, he would have complete harems just by using voice messages.

Enough about my bro Sean.

My point is:

Voice messages are extremely seductive. Even if your voice is mediocre. They are incredibly rare in her inbox and they make you more human. You are now the dude that spikes her emotions and makes her fantasize about that date with you.

To summarize:

  • Turn off your blue check marks (or don’t if you’re already a pro)
  • Turn off WhatsApp notifications
  • Use voice messages (and talk your way to her heart)

The secret effects of your WhatsApp profile picture

Yes indeed, bro.

There is certainly more to gain from your WhatsApp profile picture than you think.

I use it mainly for THREE reasons.

And you will get them all, free of charge. Because today it’s the festive holiday of rimming.

Tip 7: The Tinder Effect

Who are the gilrs you chat with on WhatsApp?

Ladies whose number you got on the street, at the club or on a dating site or app.

I make a distinction between the ladies you’ve met in real life and the ones that you met online.

The girls that you transfer from dating apps only know you from your pictures.

The ladies whose numbers you got after a good conversation or a lusty kissing marathon, only saw you in real life. Never in a picture.

Did you just go out gaming and are you expecting a truckload of fresh females in your inbox?

Set your best photo as your WhatsApp profile picture.

The odds that these girls don’t exactly know what you look like anymore are HIGH.

Just like on Tinder, your profile picture has to work its magic immediately.

Are you the sloppy type that has a shitty, dimly lit 2 year old picture on WhatsApp?

Bummer. If your interaction before wasn’t rock-fucking-solid, she might lose interest very fast.

Do you have an amazing picture?

Good. When she sees it, there’s nothing that she would want more than getting to know you after your fun conversation on the street or your little dance at the club.

What if you’re expecting women from Tinder or other online dating platforms?

You have two choices.

You either set your best online dating profile picture as your Whatsapp photo, so she recognizes you immediately…

…or you set a photo she has never seen before, showing a bit more of you that ‘random girls on Tinder’ don’t get to see. This gives her even more the feeling she’s getting closer to you.

Holy Tip:

If  you’re active on dating apps or WhatsApp, you probably sometimes don’t know what to say to a girl.

Annoying!

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Tip 8: This is how you polarize her to the next level

Are you the type that likes going a little over the top… then I have a good tip for you.

I myself have had uuuuuuuuuhm… pretty… extreme photos on WhatsApp for years.

They work like a charm for my type of game.

And at the same time they made everything a little bit awkward when I was thrown into group chats for Christmas parties.

An example?

I proudly used this picture for centuries:

This image won’t be appreciated by everyone, but the ladies I admitted to my WhatsApp usually are into this kind of humor.

On top of that, they knew exactly what they could expect when they got to know me a little bit better.

It made sure at least, that a lot of girls would text me with some sort of comment about it.

Tip 9: Change your picture at the right time (there are 3 opportunities)

There are three good moments to change your picture.

The first moment is tied to the second.

This is when you have a new photo that is simply more attractive than your current one.

You always want to put your most attractive picture on Whatsapp, just as you would do with Tinder.

The better the photo, the easier your chats will go.

The second reason is that if you change your profile picture, people will often notice this.

They won’t get a notification, but when they’re scrolling through their messages overview, your new picture will stand out.

They suddenly see an image they’re not used to seeing.

This is noticeable and they will check it out.

Don’t be surprised that some girls will reopen a dead convo when you upload a new picture.

Coincidence will have it that while writing this article, I changed my picture and I got a comment on it straight away.

“Nice pic” she says shortly after I changed my WhatsApp profile picture.

When I first set up my pink sweater picture on WhatsApp the compliments came pouring in.

I just shot it and set it up for the first time.

Conversations I had already forgotten suddenly came back to life…

 …without me saying a single word.

The third reason to change your WhatsApp profile picture is to target one specific girl at a time.

Are you chatting with a girl who you think will be very much into a specific picture of you?

Good. Upload the fucker.

Are you talking to a proper lady who shows to be quite kinky in the sack?

Good. Put up a meme just like the “bueno” one of above.

It generates extra attraction for that specific girl, and later you can just change your photo back to your usual pic.

Tip 10: How you brainwash her (and yourself)

My good old (and ugly) TextGod coach Daniel, has a brilliant trick for you.

To stay ahead of the competition, he came up with the nickname-trick.

Whenever he takes down a girl’s number, he sends her a screenshot of what he named her in his phone.

Next he says:

“Daniel Dreamman”.

The effect?

Because he gives her a nickname and subsequently gives himself one, she will often save him under that name.

And what do you think gives her more positive emotions every time she sends you something?

Daniel

or

“Daniel Dreamman”?

Whenever you apply this trick, you best go for an alliteration.

In my case it could be one of these:

“Lovely Louis”

“Ladies man Louis”

“Laidback Louis”

“Lieutenant Louis”

“Legendary Louis”

“Lameass Louis”

“Lowlife Louis”

“Love of my life Louis”

You get the gist.

A nickname like “Loser Louis” or “Lameass Louis” can work just as well.

A man who doesn’t take himself too seriously is usually a f_ _king boss.

Coincidentally I’ve been doing something like Daniel does for years…

…only it’s just a tiny bit more sneaky.

(I am Lowlife Louis, after all)

What should you do to get on the level of a Lameass?

  • Open WhatsApp
  • Go to Settings
  • Click on your name
  • Remove everything that is there

It probably just had your name.

“John”, “Dave”, “Rob”, …

Not that this matters a whole lot, because if you make sure she saves you as your self-chosen nickname, she will only get to see that.

BUT…

When you text a girl for the first time on WhatsApp, she has not yet saved your number.

So she will see your everyday name. The one you filled in yourself.

The solution?

I simply added some cute hearts.

Whenever I send her the first messages, she gets a notification on her screen of my name with some hearts, and of course the text that I sent.

Once she saves your number in her phone, she won’t see your self-chosen name…

…but it sure as hell works for the initial conversation AND…

…it primes her.

“Priming? What is that?”

”Priming is a technique whereby exposure to one stimulus influences a response to a subsequent stimulus, without conscious guidance or intention.”

—Wikipedia

She will be more inclined to be sweeter to you when at the beginning of the conversation she constantly sees hearts next to your name.

Is your name Chris and do you want her to see you as her crush?

Set your name as “Crush Chris” and make your love life on WhatsApp a little easier.

Tip 11: How you become more dominant without behaving differently

I told you before…

What makes chatting so different from real life conversations with girls, is the fact that you have way less tools at your disposal.

Touch her? Forget it.

Stand closer to her to build up tension? Not possible.

So what do you do if you’re too nice?

How do you come across as more manly if all you’ve got is text messages?

How can you make sure you come across as someone who:

  • Is not childish
  • Is dominant
  • Knows what he’s doing
  • Is not too sweet
  • Is a “rare” man

It almost sounds too good to be true… But these 5 things can all be achieved with one small trick.

What this trick is?

Using correct spelling, grammar and punctuation. And omitting those dirty, disgusting emojis.

This lady was extremely happy she found someone with correct spelling and punctuation for a change.

Do you mess up things like “your” and “you’re”?

Do you write “Beautiful” with two L’s instead of the correct version with one ‘’L’’?

Do you put your e’s before your i’s?

Then you may come across as more childish.

If we’re talking punctuation…

…which of the following sentences comes across as more dominant?

“take off your jacket”

“Take off your jacket.”

The first one looks pretty casual.

The second exudes more authority and dominance.

The first is typed by a 15 year old boy.

The second was typed by a pimp ass CEO like Christian Grey.

Bang bang!

You don’t have say anything extra smart or witty. By simply watching HOW you type, you immediately become a whole lot more attractive.

Tip 12: How to be the most thoughtful man in her inbox

When we give bootcamps, we always teach our students a technique that helps them when they score a number.

This technique makes sure that as soon as they start chatting, a deeper connection will form immediately.

She will feel as if you really know her already…

And this exact same trick can be applied while Tinder texting.

How does it work?

Easy.

When she tells you something you don’t want to forget, you write it down.

Open contacts in your phone. Search for her name and edit the contact.

Here you can edit all her info, such as her number, but also her e-mail etc.

There’s also a box with “comments” or “notes”.

Here you want to write down all information about her that you want to remember

Inside jokes that you had together, for example.

Or her birthday.

If you don’t have her on Facebook and you don’t get a reminder about her birthday, she will be absolutely amazed when you wish her a happy birthday.

Anything you want to remember and might want to use at a later time, simply write it down in the ‘’notes’’ box.

Check this WhatsApp conversation of coach Daniel:

Or fly to Vegas and get married with a fake Elvis so you have your EU passport.

Haha you have quite the memory

…She says when she is surprised that Daniel still remembers that they once talked about spontaneously flying to Las Vegas to get married by one of those cliché fake Elvises.

How do you remember these kind of details with ease?

You bang them in your notes.

Recently a dude told me that he thought it was “lame”. He called it cheating and “if you really appreciate someone, you know these things by heart”.

When I asked him if he knew the birthdays of all his family members and friends by heart, or maybe sneakily has a birthday calendar in his kitchen, he got a little quiet…

Cheating or being efficient, call it how you please.

I know that it works. And I know Dale Carnegie talks about it in his legendary bestsellerHow to Win Friends & Influence People”. 

Tip 13: Flirting through your WhatsApp status

Here I will show you how to use your WhatsApp status to your advantage. You will learn how to automate your mobile device so girls will start texting YOU first.

So how does this work?

There are two different kinds of status in WhatsApp:

  • Your account status
  • Your WhatsApp story

First of all, your account status is normally used to show your contacts what you are doing at that moment. But it can also be deployed as a secret weapon to give an emotional spike to the girls in your WhatsApp chat, making her want to respond quicker and with more enthusiasm.

90% of guys do this completely wrong. They don’t get any further than the automated statuses such as ‘’Busy’’ or ‘’At the gym’’.

Some people never even change the default ‘’Hey there! I’m using WhatsApp.’’ The remaining 10% have some cheesy Dr. Seuss quote nobody cares about.

Since almost everybody is either using standard texts or cheesy quotes as their status, you easily stand out when you have something original.

Now I can already hear you thinking… ‘’But Louis! What do I write then?!’’

I’m glad you asked bro.

Your status should intrigue and raise more questions than answers. You want to apply a technique that a lot of newswriters use. What is this technique? You’ve guessed it: clickbait.

Clickbait is used by newswriters to get people to read their articles. If you use this in the correct way, your inbox will be overflowing with messages.

I’ll give you an example:

‘’Whatever you heard about me last night, it’s not true.’’

People will feel the uncontrollable urge to know what happened last night. Here, check out these screens.

When someone asks you what happened last night, there are many fun ways to respond. I’ll give you an example in screen below

One of my most copied statuses is the following…

It will make you seem schooled in the Latin language, while potentially increasing your chances of getting nudes.

What this funny status is?

The profound Latin frase: sapnu puas.

Well… For those of you who never studied the classic languages… this isn’t actual Latin.

Go ahead, type it into your phone.

Now turn your phone around.

What does it spell?

Sneaky, isn’t it?

And as you can see below, there are some curious girls who respond well to the romantic ‘Latin’ language.

Let’s be honest… Not exactly the nude I was hoping for. But she did revive the conversation after 3 months of radio silence.

The next screen is from a chat with a girl to whom I gave my number on Tinder.

As she has to add me, and girls are very curious creatures, she checked out my status and said the following.

Notice how after the joke about the status, she’s immediately down for hooking up to get a few beers together. Of course the whole interaction on Tinder was of influence as well, but every spike of emotion will increase your chances of #getting her on a date.

Where you can edit your account status:

  1. Go to Settings
  2. Click on your name
  3. Go to About and phone number
  4. Here you can choose your status or make your own text.

Tip 14: Whatsapp Story your way to glory

Does the chat with girls on WhatsApp seem like a chore sometimes? Can you not keep track what kind of funny video or meme you should send to which girl?

Well, no more! With just one simple act you can set up your WhatsApp so women will text you. It’s called: WhatsApp Story.

It’s very similar to Instagram Story. You post a video or photo that will be visible for 24 hours.

You can leave out the WhatsApp stories or… you can make it your unique flirting tactic. See, other than South-American chicks, almost nobody uses or even knows about this feature. So you will be sure to stand out even more.

When you are in your chat overview and one of your contacts posts a story, a little white circle will appear next to the ‘status’ overview.

So if you post a story, all of your contacts will see the same in their chat overview. If they click on your status, they will see your story very easily since nobody uses it. This way, you will have more girls who will flirt with you on WhatsApp.

To give you an idea what kind of stuff to post on your story, check out this lovestruck lady in the picture below. Or see more examples in my #OTTG Workskhop.

Tip 15: Flirty WhatsApp text message examples

Regardless of how amazing your chats go with girls.

Sometimes you will get stuck.

You’ll be thinking “How do I impress this girl on WhatsApp? What to send her in the chat??!!”.

I sure do know those moments.

I never get stressed anymore, because I built an entire library of witty messages to use on WhatsApp.

The wholy library of lines I keep for my courses, but you can get the free bonus 10 Texts That Always Work for free.

Download it now, and always have something funny to say in the chat!

Phew…

That were a bunch of tips ’n tricks which you can now use as you please.

Apply these tips and notice how chatting with girls through WhatsApp will go a whole lot smoother.

I hope it works out for you bro!

Till the next!

Blessings,
Louis Farfields

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