Tinder can be SO much fun when it’s going your way…
But sometimes, all the cards seem to be stacked against you…
You’re swiping profile after profile and still:
I meant on Tinder…
“Am I really that much uglier than everybody else?”
No, you are not.
There’s just room for improvement. And this is where I put on my cape to save you.
In this article you’ll get:
- How you are chasing away potential matches RIGHT NOW (and how to fix it)
- How to get to the top of the Tinder food chain
- 33 tips to get swiped right
- The secrets of a profile picture that does get matches
- The hidden way of maneuvering around the ‘no matches on Tinder bug’
- The best way to get matches when you don’t look like a model
- Exactly what I did to become 614% more attractive on Tinder. Voted by random women
- And much, much more…
By the way, did you know I created The Profile Checklist. You just fill in the blanks, and you discover where your profile is lacking the necessary attraction switches. As a bonus, I review a Tinder profile from a reader, using The Profile Checklist. Knowing your flaws will get you on the path to multiplying your matches. Download it here for free.
Why are you not getting any matches on Tinder?
And no, you’re not ugly.
Your ELO score is ugly.
Because without a good ELO score you won’t get any matches.
What is this ELO-thingy I’m talking about?
Your ELO-rating is the secret score that Tinder gives to your profile behind the scenes.
Whenever people email me, complaining about their number of likes, it usually boils down to one of these 2 problems:
- They are fairly new to Tinder and are getting few matches
- They used to get likes, but are no longer getting matches on Tinder
Men and women in the first category usually don’t know much about Tinder and how it really works.
This becomes crystal clear when I see their profiles.
As soon as the ‘matchless’ start reading my tips, I stop hearing complaints about not getting matches.
The next time I hear from them, they are grateful and hungry for more.
Are you relatively new to Tinder and do you fit into this category?
Well, go out and buy an inflatable donut, because you will be swimming in matches after you’ve read this:
Or do you belong to the second category?
You’ve had some success before, but now you’re not getting matches anymore?
Then you’re exactly where you need to be and I will give you my first tip right away!
It may sound really extreme, but I assure you…
It. Is. Damn. POWERFUL.
And 32 tips will follow after that. Every single one backed by science.
That way you will know more about Tinder profile photos, and you will get a higher ELO score than all your competitors.
Without further ado, let’s get into the nitty gritty…
#1: Delete Tinder from your phone… and then install it again.
I know this seems like a really drastic measure, but it is exactly what you need and I’m about to tell you why:
Tinder is very smart. It remembers every little thing that you do on the app and processes these actions in its very complex algorithm.
Without you even knowing, you have done some things that Tinder finds very unattractive. These unattractive behaviors have all gone to your ‘ELO-home’. They knocked everything off the table, trashed the place, set your kitchen afire, and stole your TV.
Suddenly your ‘ELO-home’ is not a very attractive place anymore. This is why you are getting no matches on Tinder anymore.
I know you might want to glance back at old messages (you can learn a lot from them). Save these if you want and then completely delete tinder from your phone so you can start with a clean slate.
PS: By removing and reinstalling Tinder you will also immediately rule out that you get fewer matches due to a mistake by Tinder itself. If you want to be completely sure nothing is wrong with your account, link it to a new Facebook account.
#2: Know where your selfie belongs
I don’t lie when I tell you that I still see a ridiculous amount of selfies on dudes’ Tinder profiles. It’s not strange that guys resort to this style of photography. After all, it’s superfast to take a selfie. Moreover, you can shoot it in exactly that angle you think looks best.
(which is also your first critical error, but more on that later)
In a recent study, it turned out that 82% of the participants felt that fewer selfies should be posted on social media.
In yet another study, it was shown that selfie-makers are viewed as:
- Less attractive
- Less friendly
- More narcissistic
Whilst the maker of the selfie believes he actually looks BETTER in the photo.
Not exactly the impression you want to make on the ladies.
As if this is not bad enough, a survey from Zoosk showed that profiles with a selfie get 8% fewer messages. So, my dear bro, know where your selfie belongs.
#3: Make sure you’re ALONE in the picture
Ever swiped a profile where you had to play Sherlock Holmes to identify the woman who owns the profile? Annoying right? Guess what, women think so too.
So when you put a picture on your profile, make sure you’re the only one in it.
All alone, without friends.
This point was proven by research where scientists viewed the brains of women who were judging Tinder photos.
The researchers discovered that a photo on Tinder should be processed as easily as possible by our brain.
Guess what women don’t feel like doing when they’re swiping?
Figuring out which guy in the picture is you.
And even when it’s abundantly clear who you are in your Tinder profile, a picture with just you in it is by far the most effective.
This is especially true for your first picture.
A group photo can definitely add to your profile, but it should NEVER be the first picture.
More about group photos later.
Video: You’re not ugly, but your profile might be
In this video I’ll give you practical tips and examples.
To go from no matches to mo’ matches.
This video is focussed on males, but girls can learn a thing or two as well.
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#4: Stay away from unnecessary distraction
This tip is much more subtle, that is why so many people are messing up their profile this way.
Your photo becomes harder to process if it has people in the background.
In fact, it becomes harder to process if it has anything at all in the background.
For example, the left photo gets more likes on Tinder than the right photo. Just because there is no annoying bird sticker in the background.
“The devil is in the details”
In a seemingly innocent flock of birds in this case.
#5: Make smart use of ‘Signaling’
Speaking of backgrounds…
On your first picture, you don’t want any unnecessary distraction. But in other pictures, you can make the background work in your favor.
Rest assured that girls will notice everything there is to be noticed. They will have seen every little pixel of your picture. And if those pixels coincidentally convey that you’re a boss, she will not only see that, she will feel it.
A study proved that men who were photographed in a high-end luxury apartment, were found more attractive than men who were photographed in a ‘standard’ apartment.
As you can see in the graph below, our dear friend in the yellow shirt was found more attractive in the high-end apartment.
We tested this for ourselves as the true nerds that we are.
Here is my colleague Tindercoach Dan, photoshopped into two different apartments:
The results in Dan’s experiment were similar to the ones from the other study. Dan was found more attractive in the high-end apartment.
Fun fact: Men found women to be a little more attractive in the standard apartment.
Fun fact #2: The same goes for cars. If you’re being photographed in, let’s say, a kickass Lamborghini, you will be perceived as high status, and therefore more attractive. Make sure though, that you’re behind the wheel or doing something very naturally in the back of the car.
Someone who’s simply posing against or next to the car, will be seen as someone who is trying to impress. In other words: a filthy try-hard.
If you don’t own a luxurious apartment or a fancy car, you want to make sure that the whole vibe of your picture conveys value. The theory of ‘signaling’ tells us that everything in your picture has to contribute to a positive impression.
A picture of you slouching in your chair, gently cupping a glass of beer doesn’t say much positive about your life.
Rather casually place a trophy in the background that you won during swimming classes when you were 10.
#6: Get some fresh air
What if you don’t have a luxury apartment, Lamborghini or a swimming trophy?
What if none of the rooms in your house is of value to your pictures?
Well, then you are in the same situation as almost every guy out there.
But don’t panic.
According to dating site Zoosk, the average ‘outdoors picture’ will generate 19% more messages than the average ‘indoors picture’.
#7: Woof woof
This will improve your profile massively.
Chances are you like dogs.
It seems like the 3 most popular things in this age are:
So it’s a good strategy to take a picture with man’s best friend.
The perfect pic would be on a mountain in Thailand with your doggo, while feeding him some California rolls.
Nah, just kidding. Don’t push it.
In some cases a photo with your dog is best as a first picture.
ONLY an animal is allowed to be with you in a first picture. But DON’T be around other humans as it confuses the person who is swiping. Or even worse: you might set them up for disappointment, when on this pic you don’t appear as the most attractive person of the group.
Back to our lovely pets.
A study shows that men with a dog look:
- More friendly
- More relaxed
Especially men who want to score in the relationship department, will want to take a picture with a doggo.
It takes responsibility and nurturing skills to raise a dog.
Women can almost feel their uterus pulsate when they see you with a dog in the picture.
Also you will notice that a lot of ladies can’t resist to start the conversation about your four legged friend.
Don’t own a dog? Borrow this wingman… uh winganimal, from a friend or go out for a walk with a lonely dog from the shelter.
You can even quickly borrow one from a stranger on the street. Just like we did in this video where I go on a quest for the Ultimate Tinder Profile Picture
###video coming soon with Yens about the ultimate profile photo!
#8: Wear red
A study showed that if you want your picture to pop, you have to wear red.
Another study showed that both men and women found each other more attractive when they were wearing something red.
Not only do you look more sexy, you also stand out more from the infinite horde of men wearing nothing but dull neutral colors.
Not convinced yet?
Tinder analysed 12.000 pictures and concluded that as many as 72% of all men wear neutral colors in their profile pictures.
Still need more convincing?
Guys that wear red are also perceived as having higher social status.
So throw your grey sweater back in the closet, bro. Time for red.
#9: Don’t show more than your torso
For your first picture it has been proven very clearly that it’s best to show only the top third of your body.
From just under your chest to just above your head.
That’s it. Nothing more, nothing less.
The neurological research of Dutch ST&T also showed us how important this is.
#10: Smile… just the right way.
This is a controversial topic…
Not everybody is on the same page when we talk about the smile. OkCupid came up with this chart:
This chart shows that a man is most successful when looking away from the camera while not smiling.
But a recent study from PhotoFeeler says you’re best off to smile while looking at the camera.
When you’re looking away from the lens, it doesn’t matter too much whether you’re smiling or not.
So, if you’re looking into the lens, then you should smile… But which smile is the best?
That too, has been researched by PhotoFeeler. If you go for a big smile with your teeth showing, you look more:
So a healthy smile that shows your teeth is better than smiling with your lips pursed.
A forced smile never comes across well. Make sure your smile looks very natural. If necessary, ask your photographer to make you laugh.
More of these special tips?
It is possible to have too much of a good thing. People who had their mouth fully opened while laughing, were perceived to be nicer than people with a more modest smile. But… they were also perceived as being less competent and influential.
Oh and by the way… do you think you’re not the best looking of the bunch? Maybe this will cheer you up: researchers from Switzerland found that a happy expression can even compensate for relative unattractiveness. And last but not least: A British study showed that you look more healthy when you have beautifully white teeth.
And with healthy I mean more suitable for making babies. So it can work in your benefit to edit your teeth to a whiter tone. Personally I recommend brushing your teeth thoroughly and a visit to the dentist every once in a while.
#11: Take up a lot of space
You’ve probably just practiced your smile
However, do you still need a little push in the right direction, think about the following when the photographer asks you to smile:
In the video above, Ethan and Hila of H3H3Productions are laughing about the commotion concerning ‘manspreading’.
I won’t waste too much breath on the subject. I just want you to know what manspreading is, because you can use it in your pictures.
Manspreading AKA taking up as much space as you can, creates super hot Tinder pictures.
Research shows that postures that make you big, eg arms and legs wide open, make you more attractive to others.
And like Harvard’s social psychologist Amy Cuddy explains: “high power, big-making poses” exude power and confidence, while “low power” poses do the opposite.
Most guys think the next thing is impossible to change or improve.
Let me show you something special.
#12: The secret to a great jawline
This one thing might make all the difference between a Tinder match, and a ‘well, I guess she never saw my profile…’.
The jawline is a very attractive symbol of masculinity.
…Every woman loves it and every man wants one.
Well… maybe you’re not in the best shape of your life right now. And maybe you don’t have a jawline that has the ability to cut open coconuts?
If that’s the case, then you are in the same boat as this fellow:
So, what did this guy do?
He followed the advice of legendary portrait photographer Peter Hurley.
“I want everybody to imagine that there’s a hook in the top of your head, and it’s pulling you up to the ceiling. When you’re up there, I want you to increase the distance between your earlobes and your shoulder blades. Now I want you to jam your forehead forward a little bit.”
- Keep your head as high as possible, like there’s a hook pulling your head up.
- Shoulders down
- Push your forehead forward a little.
From a double chin to a jawline in 1,2,3.
Me and my team created a actual Tinder Profile Checklist.
It includes all the important pointers that make or break a Tinder profile.
You just fill in the 30+ questions, and BAM! You instantly know how much you score, and where to improve!
I’m not asking anything for it, you can download it here for free.
#13: SQUINCHING: the secret for more confidence in your picture
One of those golden nuggets that will increase your chances of getting laid through Tinder.
(Or find a dream girl.)
This secret is so cool that when I first discovered it, I immediately ran to the mirror to see if I already knew how to ‘squinch’.
Because it’s one of those subtle things to make you get a +1 on your manliness.
Have you ever stood before a camera?
Tell me, were you at ease?
Chances are you weren’t completely relaxed but rather self conscious.
And it shows in the picture. What most people do, is open their eyes widely. Little do they know, this conveys FEAR and INSECURITY.
The trick to prevent this is squinching. You’re going to reduce the distance between your upper and lower eyelid. Mainly by raising your lower eyelid.
It sounds more complicated than it is.
See how the fellow below:
On the left he does what every man does who is not an experienced model: he opens his eyes.
On the right he does what photographer Peter Hurley tells him to do: he squinches.
If you want to learn how you do this with ease and would like to see some examples, Hurley explains it quite nicely for you here:
I must say, this is effective, but be cautious.
Don’t overdo the squinch. because according to this study you will appear less suited as a long term partner. Unless of course, that’s your goal. 😉
And for all the Rick and Morty fans reading this, please don’t confuse squinching with squanching.
#14: Make clever use of the ‘leftward bias’
A lot of men and women think that they have a ‘good side’.
If you’re someone whose right side for some reason looks way more attractive than your left side…
…then you can take pictures of the right side of the face. If not, you’re better off taking pictures of the left side.
Researchers discovered that people have a high preference for pictures that show the left side of someone’s face as opposed to the right side.
A clever dude I coached came up with the idea of mirroring pictures of his right side in Photoshop, to make himself look more attractive.
Good idea, but sadly this doesn’t work.
A theory says that the right side of your brain controls regulation of your emotions whilst also controlling the muscles in the left side of your body. That’s why your left jaw is more expressive.
Making it impossible to cheat and mirroring pictures of your right side.
He who wants to get more matches on Tinder, should take pictures of the left side of his face.
Portrait of Louis Betts by William Merritt Chase
Fun fact: to impress your date or be the smartass at a party: This ‘leftward bias’ has been around for hundreds of years. Painted portraits throughout history show the left side way more often than the right side.
#15: Listen to your parents: keep your back straight
Unless you are completely new in the dating scene, you know that posture is extremely important.
Research has shown time and again that good posture displays high self confidence. In tip 12 I already spoke about manspreading and high power poses. These Power Poses can’t occur without a straight back.
Sometimes I coach really tall dudes. They’re often taller than the photographer, which gives their pictures a frog perspective. Or they want to use a group picture, but they stand out a lot from the rest of the pack.
Example of a frog perspective portrait
If you’re really tall, Peter Hurley advises you to spread your legs instead of arching your back. This technique is super helpful when you’re making a picture of only your torso and head… AKA the best Tinder photo.
#16: Group photos? Not without these golden rules
Reasearch at the Royal Holloway University of London, states that you will automatically be found more attractive when you take a picture with less attractive people.
This phenomenon was given the sad name “Ugly Friend Effect”.
Behavioral economist and professor at Duke University, Dan Ariely, wanted to check if this was indeed the case.
He conducted an online experiment and noticed that when you add an equivalent person, who is slightly less attractive to the picture, your perceived attractiveness rises..
This may all sound confusing, so let me make it clear for you:
Prof. Ariely showed women two CGI-pictures (computer generated images). One was Tom and the other was Jerry.
When the women saw only these two pictures, they voted both men to be equally attractive.
When a third person was added to the picture: an ‘ugly’ version of Jerry, then suddenly the women voted the ‘normal’ Jerry to be more attractive than Tom. When ‘ugly’ Jerry was replaced by ‘ugly’ Tom, then ‘normal’ Tom was suddenly seen as the most attractive of the three.
A third study, conducted by researchers of California University, found that people are more attractive in a group picture than when they are in the picture alone.
This is called the ‘Cheerleader Effect’.
The woman on the left was voted more attractive in the group picture, than when she was shown alone.
A group photo should never be the first picture on your dating profile.
In addition, a group photo can rapidly devalue your profile. For more tips ‘n tricks, check out my Tinder Profile Tips article.
#17: ALWAYS show your eyes
In your first picture, you always want to show your eyes.
A study by Photofeeler teaches us that people judge your personality differently when your eyes are covered.
And not in a good way…
People who wear sunglasses appear less friendly. People whose eyes are covered by their hair appear less competent and less influential.
So your eyes must be visible. He who covers his eyes, may have other secrets… and is therefore not to be trusted.
By the way, that’s also why humans have white in their eyes, to make it clear where we are looking, and thus WHERE our interest goes to.
According to Tinder it’s best to look straight into the camera. This should get you 20% more swipes.
Jordan Peterson said this about the matter:
“Eye contact indicates interest and it also indicates, at least in principle, possibility of approach”
Two other statistics by Tinder related to covering part of your head:
- If you wear a hat, you can count on 15% fewer matches
- If you wear (sun)glasses, you could get 12% fewer swipes
So: No facial obstruction, time to get contacts bro.
#18: What everyone forgets: the importance of trustworthiness
Everyone knows you have to look good in your pictures.
But you don’t hear anything about looking trustworthy…
Well, ask a woman how she feels about online dating and her safety.
Women invest a crazy amount of time in elaborate escape plans and safety measures to keep themselves safe.
Women who date online worry about their safety.
They even do so when their date looks like a friendly and trustworthy guy.
If your profile looks less reliable or even aggressive… then I wish you a lot of luck breaking through all those extra barriers.
By the way, are you looking for a serious relationship?
Women who are looking for a long term relationship will more easily swipe right on guys who look trustworthy.
Smiling in your pictures is probably the best way of gaining trust.
A second trick of looking more trustworthy, is by enlarging your pupils.
Researchers discovered that people with dilated pupils were seen as more trustworthy than people with more constricted pupils.
I can already hear you think, bro. “How can I enlarge my pupils just before I take a picture?”
Buy a decent amount of coke, and ram it down your nose Henry the Hoover style.
Research shows that just thinking about a dark shape, or even imagining you’re in a dark room, can be enough to dilate your pupils.
Or maybe when you were a kid you played that game where you keep your eyes closed for a while and then opened them. Your friends could see how big your pupils were and how they would shrink down by the sudden cast of light.
Don’t feel like doing fancy psychological tricks or children’s games? Then you can always edit your pictures.
And if you’re choosing to alter your photo, put in some effort to edit the ‘limbal ring’ as well.
The ‘limbal ring’ is the outer ring of your iris. A study by The Journal of Evolutionary Psychology showed that people were found more attractive when this line is thicker.
#19: Never take a picture with flash
Short and simple.
Don’t use flash when you’re making pictures for your dating profile.
Artificial light, especially that of flash photography, makes for:
- heavy shading
- more visible wrinkles
- red eyes.
In addition it makes you look up to 7 years older according to this study.
So unless you want to look a whole lot older to become someone’s online sugar daddy… no flash.
Are you working with a photographer who has mad skills and who knows how to take good pictures with all kinds of light, by all means, let him do his thing.
#20: The best light: The Golden Hour
The flash will fuck up your face more often than not.
So what kind of light should you use for your photos???
Natural light will often give the best images.
And according to OKCupid, pictures that were taken during ‘The Golden Hour’ are the most attractive.
‘’The golden hour, also referred to as the magical hour, is a term in photography, marking the short period after sunrise or before sunset, where there is more indirect sunlight, making the light a redder, softer tone. Because the sun is at the horizon, the light travels over a longer distance through the atmosphere. The blue light is scattered, allowing more red light to be present.”
The blue line indicates how attractive a picture is.
The black/yellow circles display the position of the sun.
During the golden hour, there are two peaks of maximum attractiveness.
This site shows you exactly when the golden hour is where you are located right now.
Now, let’s get REAL masculine…
#21: Show your balls
All exhibitionists and other creepers can put their balls back in their pants.
Or leave ‘em hanging for all I care.
What I mean with ‘’showing your balls’’ is that it pays to show that you have balls, as a figure of speech.
Women are naturally more attracted to men who do not fear a challenge. If you do brave things in your picture, you can count on a few extra ladies.
A few good examples of some ballsy activities for your pictures:
- Rock climbing
- Bungee jumping
- BMX, Skateboarding, snowboarding, and so on…
The risk that you’re taking, should be a necessary risk. No unnecessary risks or crazy stuff that you did when you got up on the roof of a building site while you were drunk out of your skull.
Risks that link back to the good old primitive era where men were hunters and gatherers, work like a charm. That’s the way to show you’re an alpha male instead of a pussy ass beta boy.
Oh and remember when I told you that a picture of yourself behind the wheel of a luxurious ride can also work really well?
Make sure to wear a seatbelt, because apparently something small like that can make you look less attractive.
Unnecessary risk, bro.
You can make your first picture even more impressive by doing something extreme in that picture, but it should still live up to the basic rules of a good first picture. Otherwise, you put this picture in spot 2, 3, or 4.
The next tip will give you insight on what type of shave is best for you.
Because it matters, especially in the type of woman you want to attract.
#22: There exists a best beard for Tinder
I have a question for you…
Are your friends (or girlfriends) inviting you to participate in this year’s ‘no shave november’?
Very politely tell them to fuck off.
Your beard is a very powerful tool to lure the ladies with, and sometimes even keep them.
According to research, a stubble beard is the most attractive type of beard. It beats the clean shaved look, the light stubble and the caveman beard.
A good scruffy look beat the shaven look with a solid 20%.
Researchers assume that facial hair exudes maturity and masculinity. Add to that a little dominance and aggression and you have an incredibly attractive combination.
The long beard scored lowest on attractiveness, it scored best in the health and parenting department. So if you are planning to start a family, try a bit more beard.
If a beard really doesn’t suit you, or your beard looks like the pubic bone of a 13-year old boy going through his first month of puberty, you’re better off shaving. Looking well-groomed is always more important.
Are you not completely sure if you’re better off with or without beard?
In a minute I will show you a bulletproof way to find out.
#23: Show your muscles, in the strong way
People love complaining about their looks and their genetic misfortune.
Coincidentally, it’s often these complainers that look like they don’t take care of themselves nor go to the gym.
Researchers have already proven that muscular men are more successful when it comes to short term relationships.
Interestingly, muscular men don’t only have more sexpartners, they also have more sexpartners who are already together with someone.
Males with an average build are deemed most attractive.
Are you someone who doesn’t go to the gym or doesn’t work out at all? Then I advise you, from the bottom of my heart, to start right now. The benefits go far beyond just getting women. Oh and FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, please listen to this lady who says what so many women think:
The toplesss mirror selfie is one of the worst scoring pictures ever.
#24: Don’t show booze
This one seems pretty clear. And yet, this mistake is made over and over again.
People holding an alcoholic beverage are seen as less intelligent.
Some men think others are impressed by their drinking skills
‘The Journal of Consumer Psychology’ dubbed this the ‘imbibing idiot’ effect.
#25: Have that drink BEFORE your picture
I’m a big believer of going out WITHOUT getting absolutely wasted.
But sometimes it’s completely OK to have a drink (or two (or three (or four (or five)))).
One of those moments is just before your photoshoot.
Research has shown that a ‘’slightly intoxicated’’ person is voted to be more attractive than someone who is sober. People who drank more were deemed less attractive in the picture.
If you’re inclined to have a drink before your photoshoot because you’re nervous or maybe even afraid, then I recommend that you go sober. Get yourself out of that dirty comfort zone.
#26: Approach a girl before your shoot
Aaaaah, here it is.
The tip that might be the hardest of them all.
All the more reason to do it.
David Ian Perrett, professor and researcher at the University of St. Andrews in Scotland, says that men look more attractive in pictures taken within 5 minutes of talking to a friendly woman.
If you have a nice chat with a woman, you look way happier in your picture. In addition, you are seen as a more attractive option for long-term relationships.
Conclusion: Before your shoot, approach a woman for a friendly chat. Is your photographer a woman, have a little chat with her.
#27: Adjust your bio (algorithm tip)
Like you have read in my other articles, men with a bio get 4 times more matches than guys without a bio.
If you apply my photo tips, then your bio isn’t THAT important.
Pictures, and mainly your first picture, are the key to Tinder success.
But when a woman sees your profile, and doesn’t immediately swipe left or right, she will check your bio.
This is your last chance to convince her.
Remember what we spoke about in the beginning of this article? That secret score that Tinder gives to a profile behind the scenes? Filling in your bio will automatically raise the ELO score of your profile.
You can go about writing your bio in different ways, but that’s a whole different ball game, which I will not be discussing here. If you want, you can open my Tinder Profile Tips article in a different tab and read it when you’re finished with this article. There you’ll find everything you need to write a bio that attracts women like a light attracts moths.
In any case: write a bio. And if you write one, might as well get it right the first time.
#28: Tinder boost
For a couple bucks you can activate Tinder Boost.
You activate it by clicking on the purple lightning bolt in the bottom right corner. Do you see it? Or are you still checking out the twins?
According to Tinder, your profile will be on top of the swipe-stack in your area for 30 minutes. Women opening Tinder will almost immediately see your profile. You should get 10 times more profile views than usual.
Once you have applied the tips from this article, and you’re not against spending a bit of money, you can immediately test the strength of your new profile.
Or test your profile’s strenght for free here, with the free Tinder Profile Checklist.
If you have Tinder Plus or Tinder Gold, then you already get one free boost each month.
Women you have matched thanks to your Tinder Boost, will get the boost-lightning-bolt-icon next to their name.
#29: Fill out all your profile info (ELO score!)
Tinder takes into account a thousand-and-one different variables to calculate how eligible you are.
Filling in your entire profile can make you more attractive to Tinder’s algorithm.
Personally I don’t find it super interesting to tell everybody to which school I went and what job title I have at company X. If you went to some Ivy League school such as Harvard, you can put this in your bio. Do you have a profession or title every woman thinks of while she’s aiming the shower head between her legs? Then yeah, add this to your profile. Do you have an Instagram that’s attractive to women? Link your Instagram to your Tinder profile.
That way everybody also knows you’re a real person and not some annoying bot.
- Once your profile is flooded with matches, I recommend checking out my article about how to keep the conversation going on Tinder
#30: Use Tinder more often (ELO score!)
Who do you think Tinder wants using the app more than anyone else? There is one specific category of people that any dating site or app loves more than all others. Beautiful women of course.
If there are beautiful women using the app, the rest will follow.
Hordes of men will register because they all want to get to know these gorgeous ladies.
So Tinder’s first and foremost priority is keeping the women happy.
How they do that? By supplying them with the right men.
The most desired women will get to see the highest scoring men. There’s a lot of little factors that contribute to a person’s popularity.
One of those factors is how often someone uses Tinder.
In case you didn’t know: women like attention.
The more active men are on the app, the more attention ladies get.
So check your Tinder on time, and send messages to your matches straight away.
#31: Send a message right away (ELO score!)
Yep, you read it right.
If you want to be any good at Tinder, I challenge you to send your new matches a message right away.
There’s two reasons to do so:
The first reason has to do with your ELO score.
Tinder rewards active behavior and gives you a little boost if you take action.
The second reason has to do with your journey from dating apprentice to experienced, attractive man.
There’s not a lot of guys that can open a conversation in an original way. Not on Tinder and not in the club. Not at the bar and not in the street.
If you make a habit of starting every conversation yourself instead of hoping your match will send the first message…
…then you’re not only twice as manly, you’ll also get a better ELO score.
And I’m not talking about copy-pasting some opener. I’m talking about personalized, ridiculously effective, self made openers.
Want to know how to do that? I’ll guide you step by step in my Tinder Tips article. You’re welcome. 😉
#32: Swipe selectively (ELO score!)
Aaaaaaaah, the eternal debate.
Should you swipe everything to the right at the speed of light.
Or should you only like women that you have a sincere interest in?
Supporters of the first option argument:
- It saves time
- You don’t have to think
- You can decide later who you want to talk to
Sounds quite logical… if you don’t know how Tinder works.
Because what those guys don’t know, is that every time they swipe, they’re lowering their ELO score.
They’re swiping all kinds of accounts that nobody else is swiping, and thus Tinder knows that they’re either:
- A bot
- Extremely desperate
- Or they would even shove their shlong up an exhaust pipe if nobody was watching.
So what does Tinder do? They lower your ELO score. And as a result you’re being shown to less attractive ladies.
#33: Don’t pick your own best photos
Here we are.
After 69 tons of pure value… we have reached the final tip of this article.
One I have been holding back with pleasure, because I wanted to finish strong and make sure you don’t forget this one.
And that tip is:
Don’t pick your own photos. Let strangers pick them for you.
Scientific research explains it really well:
“However, contrary to predictions based on people’s general expertise in self-presentation, other-selected images conferred more favorable impressions than self-selected images. We conclude that people make suboptimal choices when selecting their own profile pictures, such that self-perception places important limits on facial first impressions formed by others.”
Translated for you to human language:
If you select pictures of yourself, you don’t choose the pictures that others find most attractive.
You have seen your own face so many times that you’re overlooking certain things. Also, you have certain uncertainties that will direct your focus to things that may be less important to others.
The same applies when you ask advice from people you already know.
Complete strangers judge better.
They will — just like women on Tinder — form an idea of who you are within a second. Not only are they getting information from the background, your clothing, and posture. Even the smallest forms of expression on your face add to the impression you’re giving. All these things combined, give her an idea of your personality.
This immediate form of judgment based on someone’s appearance is called ’thin slicing’. And it happens every time someone looks at you. On Tinder but also in real life.
I myself have a photo that I always thought could only have this effect:
I would have bet money that this photo would do well on dating sites.
But when I had the photo judged by random women from all over the world, the average reaction appeared to be a little different:
But don’t panic! I have something for you so you will never make this mistake.
How you are chasing away women RIGHT NOW
What happened with my picture is not a unique event.
Everywhere online, men are unknowingly sending the wrong signals. Apparently, I looked very aggressive in my picture while I thought I was exuding a healthy dose of mystery.
In science, I found the answers to my questions:
We use different parts of our brain when looking at pictures of ourselves than when we’re looking at pictures of others. We literally don’t see the same thing other people see.
You and I know about ourselves that we’re not creepy or evil dudes. When we see a picture of ourselves, these possibilities do not even come to mind.
But the women you meet on Tinder have ZERO information about you beforehand. They can therefore quickly be scared off by an expression that appears to them as ‘suspicious’ or ‘judgmental’.
And this is exactly what had happened with my photo.
It is also the reason why I make most of my participants smile in their pictures.
Pictures without a smile can easily be interpreted in a lot of different ways.
This is the body language translation of a smile:
“I am harmless, everything is okay!’’
When that smile is missing, your picture can easily be interpreted the wrong way. Details such as lighting, posture, and eye contact can just as easily influence the viewer’s judgement.
My best picture, and how you discover yours
Okay, enough chit chat.
Time to put my money where my mouth is.
Let’s see if I’m full of shit…
…or if I’m 100% right, as usual.
Below you see a picture of yours unruly.
I was interviewing chicks about their first kiss in Barcelona for a YouTube video
When I saw this picture, my initial reaction was: “Nice!”.
My thoughts: I’m looking good, my hair looks good, I have a nice tan from the Spanish Sun, I managed to sneak in a little bicep flex, my face is fully visible, etc.
To add to that, I’m doing my thing with the interview and I’m rocking a mysterious gaze James Bond himself would have been jealous of.
I figured this picture will score me some extra m’ladies on Tinder.
When I had this picture judged by random women on photofeeler (and that is exactly what I want you to do), it turned out I didn’t come across so well.
According to the results I came across as:
- Moderately attractive
For someone with an IQ of 169, a cheat count of 0, and looks you would never hear me complain about, these were not the best results.
In comparison to other men my age, I came across as smarter than 30%, more trustworthy than 19% and more attractive than 73%.
In other words:
- 27% looked more attractive
- 70% looked more intelligent
- And a whopping 81% looked more trustworthy
Ouch, not the best results.
The competitive monster in me got a wake-up call. And armed with about 69 scientific studies about attractiveness, I was gonna give these numbers a serious boost.
Together with a friend who’s a photographer, we went out for a night of serious shot-snapping.
The picture that I eventually put on Tinder was this one:
I wasn’t too big a fan of this picture. By my own judgment I was more attractive in other pictures. But as you have just learned, you never pick your own picture.
He who wants the best results, let’s other people rate multiple photos. And that’s exactly what I did.
By applying the tips from this article we instantly went from:
From smarter than 30% to smarter than 91%
From more trustworthy than 19% to more trustworthy than 90%
From more attractive than 73% to more attractive than 100%
Bro, that’s a growth of:
Halleluja. What a little bit of research can do for you.
Now I know it’s not so easy to find a good camera and a good photographer, applying these tips and going home with an amazing picture.
That in itself is actually good news.
Because for many this will be too much effort. Which makes you pop out even more if you DO take action.
So… I wish you lots of fun shooting and even more success on Tinder.
Do you have any questions or did you find this article interesting or entertaining? Feel free to drop your opinion in the comments or send me a mail, I read them all.
PS: Here you have an overview of all the photo tips you can apply to your future Tinder pictures. Maybe you’ve noticed that one of the tips in this chart has NOT been covered in this article. However, the contrast tip is one of the factors that weighs the most. But don’t panic, you can read everything about it in my article about Tinder Profile Picture Tips.
*Photofeeler score is the average of Smart, Trustworthy, and Attractiveness.
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