Tinder has a reputation for one night stands, hookups and booty calls.
But what about finding a long-lasting relationship?
But what about Tinder for marriage?
Can Tinder help you find your significant other or, dare I say it, soulmate?
Read on and you’ll:
- The best dating apps for marriage
- A copy paste Tinder bio to attract like-minded matches
- Why swiping for Mister or Misses Right is easier than you thought
- My simple strategy for finding your true love online
- The 10 texts that always work
- 2 Smart ways to weed out all the ‘casual daters’
- Get 3 ways to endlessly keep the conversation going
By the way, did you know I created The Profile Checklist. You just fill in the blanks, and you discover where your profile is lacking the necessary attraction switches. As a bonus, I review a Tinder profile from a reader, using The Profile Checklist. Knowing your flaws will get you on the path to multiplying your matches. Download it here for free.
#1: Can you get married through Tinder?
After this tip, you never have to wonder whether you can find your spouse on Tinder.
Because this tip gives the definitive answer if Tinder can help you find your true love.
You might be considering online dating for the first time.
Maybe you’ve worked your way through all other dating apps and want to try Tinder.
Perhaps you’ve already been on more than 10 Tinder dates.
All that’s going through your mind is:
Is it even possible to find love online?
Or am I doomed to walk an endless digital landscape filled with fling seekers?
It’s natural if you feel like giving up on dating apps.
But that would be a mistake.
Because finding spouses on Tinder is becoming increasingly common.
The New York Times’s wedding announcements section shows a significant increase in partners finding each other on Tinder.
Couples therapist Matt Lundquist says more and more clients first met each other on Tinder.
A study by SimpleTexting discovered 15% of couples who met online, date for a year or longer. 13.6% get engaged or married.
Long-term relationships started via dating apps are actually pretty common.
Which doesn’t surprise me.
I’ve met countless women and men who met on Tinder, claiming to be “in the best relationship ever”. So it’s definitely possible to find the magical love on Tinder we know from rom-coms.
Want some proof? Let me throw more numbers at you from SimpleTexting:
38% of men and 44% of women are looking for long-term relationships on apps!
And over 50% of users have never had a one night stand! Suddenly Tinder doesn’t seem so casual, does it?
What’s more, finding romantic love on Tinder is finally no longer taboo. Lots of married couples who met on Tinder quit being ashamed. They are even paying homage to where it all started.
Just check out the hashtag #TinderWedding on Instagram. Over 2.000 photos of smiling faces, wedding cakes and flowery brides.
The #TinderWedding-tagged pictures seem to shout, “Screw what you think. I met the One on Tinder and I’m getting married!”
Tinder isn’t the only contributing factor in normalizing Tinder weddings. A study by PNAS shows how 30% of all American marriages come from people who met on a dating app.
So the idea Tinder is only for casual flings is losing traction.
Even Tinder is joining the wedding fun.
After receiving thousands of success stories from people who got a relationship, life partner, or even a baby, Tinder started supporting couples by sending messages, presents, and hosting wedding ceremonies in their offices.
Etsy also hopped onto the Tinder wedding bandwagon. Garlands, Tinder photo props, personalised wedding cards, mugs, custom matchboxes. Tinder paraphernalia everywhere!
More and more people on dating apps are falling in love and want to get together in holy matrimony. And the market is finally catching up.
While it’s fine to meet in the classic way, online dating is no longer scoffed at. You can find your soulmate anywhere. Who cares if it was online?
The important thing is finding that special someone.
#2: Tinder marriage success stories
Discover the secrets of three lucky couples who met and married through Tinder.
For some, Tinder is an infinite virtual marketplace where you can shop for sexy singles. But for others, Tinder is love.
Najwa and Azfar were pronounced husband and wife 19 months after matching.
Which is funny considering Najwa only got onto Tinder for fun. “I don’t even remember swiping him”, says the young bride, “the conversation just took off and it was like we’d known each other for years.”
Their advice for finding love online?
Just do it.
“Take risks. Fall in love”, says Azfar. “Meeting people traditionally doesn’t guarantee a lifetime of happiness either, so take the risk and get on Tinder!”
Next up are Rena and David, who have been married for over four years since swiping right.
Rena was a bit of a hermit and had been single for years. After much debating she decided to go for it and installed Tinder.
Similar to our previous couple, once Rena and David started chatting, the conversation just kept going and going.
They met up after two weeks of texting and their long talks continued.
“After our first date I could already see that Rena had everything I wanted in a wife”, says David.
Rena and David also offer advice for those looking for relationships.
“Be open and take it as a place for you to meet more people, have more options, or even make a friend”, says Rena. But she adds, “Be careful. Don’t put all your hopes into thinking you’ll find your soulmate.”
Rena’s husband chimes in, “Think about what you want before looking. Do you want them to make you laugh? Do you want them to be driven in their career? If you know what you want, dating apps are great. Because you can get all of this information before even meeting someone.”
That’s actually very solid advice.
Do your homework before you get Tindering!
#3: The pros and cons of finding romance on Tinder
Finding love on Tinder is tough, but you’re about to discover how you can make it a lot easier.
You might think that Tinder is about silly bios, cheesy pickup lines and rubbing bods. But Tinder is also a place of love and romance.
More than anything, the dating app is a new way for us to conquer our loneliness without leaving the house.
The biggest upside to this new way of dating is:
You can meet more people than you can through your social circle, or cold approaches if that’s your thing.
Greater numbers mean a bigger chance of success.
After all, finding true love is similar to winning a raffle.
Hidden in a bucket with thousands of tickets are one or a couple of studs with winning numbers.
The more tickets you buy, the larger the chance you win a prize.
Which brings us to the downside of online dating.
Finding your significant other on Tinder isn’t easy.
Compared to the little pond of real life, Tinder is an ocean.
Which in many ways is a pro, but it’s also a con.
You see, when we meet our sexual partners through our bubble of friends, or through school and work, then we tend to have a lot in common.
And commonalities make us feel connected.
But once you go looking for love outside of your turf, the chance your date and you think differently about life, goes through the roof.
While you might have ideas of long walks on the beach and falling in love, your Tinder match could be thinking thinking, “I still got it!”
When your Tinder game is fire.
What does this mean?
Tinder invites more potential partners into your life than you can handle and most aren’t going to be a fit.
- Super easy to meet new people
- Meeting more people means a bigger chance of finding your partner
- Go on enough dates and you’ll find your future husband or wife
- The further you go from home, the less you and your match are likely to have in common
- You may have to go on thousands of dates to find your true love
- That’s more dates than you’re likely to handle
So the odds of finding love are stacked against you.
Luckily, we can change those odds in your favor. Read all about it in the next tip on attraction.
#3: How to tell if your match wants a relationship
If you’ve ever thought of deleting Tinder from your phone because “no one on Tinder wants a relationship anyway” this is for you.
If you’re still reading, I’m confident you’ve lost time and energy dating the wrong people.
And if life really threw you a curveball, you started a relationship that was doomed to fail.
Well there really are plenty of people on Tinder looking for relationships.
You too can weed through the jungle of fling seekers and find your Romeo or Juliet.
But before you can start whacking, you need to be able to quickly recognise the weeds.
How do you do this?
By becoming a high end sales(wo)man.
If you’re out of the know, peddlers of upscale products don’t sell their goods to anyone.
Upmarket products are exclusive.
The salesman will only sell to you if:
- You have enough money
- Know the right people
- Are experienced enough to use his product
If the salesman wasn’t so picky, he’d spend half an hour pitching his $10,000+ product to a college student who doesn’t have a cent to her name.
Major time waster.
So how does the salesman find the right clients?
And how do you filter on Tinder to prevent wasting your precious time?
With your profile.
Am I filtering yet?
The following shouldn’t surprise you.
First impressions matter… A LOT.
When you enter a job interview dressed like MC Hammer, you make a worse impression than if you show up in a suit.
But wear the same parachute pants to an interview at the local hip hop radio station, and your chances of getting the job go up.
Because you’re dressed for the job you want to have.
Your profile has a similar power of attraction.
And you want to channel that attraction properly. Otherwise you might send the wrong signals, like wearing parachute pants to an interview at the bank.
#4: The pictures that are keeping you from finding love
Your photos may be chasing off your future spouse without even knowing it.
But I gotchu, fam.
So you’re looking for a long-term mate.
And you understand that you want to use your profile to attract the partner of your dreams.
Which means the opposite of what you want, is to look like the person who only wants to tussle under the sheets.
So what are the photos that give off the casual sexual vibe?
Let’s start with the men.
- Bathroom selfies in front of your cumstained mirror
- Showing off your leg-sized arms
- Beer guzzling club photos with your drunk homies
- ‘Look at how cool I am in front of this Lambo I don’t own’ -shots.
And for the ladies.
- Necklaces dangling into cleavage shots
- Duckface selfies
- Bikini photos (it’s fine to have one, but not as a first picture and don’t have too many)
- Party pics where you are clearly intoxicated
Take this with a grain of salt, because if you want to attract a partner who parties a lot, then by all means go all out!
But generally it’s best to show more personality, and less shallowness to find a partner on Tinder.
Let’s have a look at the kind of pictures that will HELP you find love.
Instead of working against you.
#4: The pictures that attract your future spouse
If you have any doubts about what relationship-attracting Tinder photos look like, this part is for you.
You know you want to avoid looking like a slut or manwhore.
You know you want to look more trustworthy.
But you don’t know what those photos look like.
Let me help you.
For the duderinos:
- ‘Spontaneous’ photos of you walking down the street in a suit
- You cooking up a hot meal in a short-sleeved python-exposing tee
- You playing with a pet
And the ladies?
- Walking down the street with your little niece or cousin
- Kneading dough in the kitchen while wearing apple-bottom jeans
- Playing with your pet
While you can show off skin and curves, don’t make your body the focal point.
Your goal is to strike a balance between sexy and mature.
And remember: the more you capture your caring and responsible side, the more likely you’ll attract mates looking for marriage.
Bonus Tinder photo: you in fancy clothes doing your taxes.
By the way, I wrote an extensive guide with 11 tips and many examples on getting the perfect Tinder profile picture. Obviously the tips also work for other dating apps and sites.
Call a friend with a cutting edge smartphone or camera and set up a photoshoot in a location where you like to hang out. Mention the shoot is for Tinder and offer to take photos for your friend’s profile too. Next you put on a slick outfit and shoot at least a hundred photos, posed or candid, it doesn’t matter. The trick is to make countless photos.
Do you want to use multiple photos of your shoot on your Tinder profile? Make sure your pictures don’t LOOK like they are from the same shoot.
Wear different clothes. Pose in a different environment. And use different lighting.
#5: How to find the perfect partner with your bio
If chasing down your Romeo or Juliet on Tinder feels impossible, you’re in the right place.
With the photos out of the way, let’s move to your profile’s filtering flagship, your bio.
The two most important rules for writing an engaging bio are: be unique and keep it short.
If your short life story applies to almost anyone, you failed and need to hit delete.
Don’t be a basic Becky or a regular Joe.
Which reminds me of the #1 mistake by romantic online daters: being overly serious.
No matter how much you want to tell the world “swipe left if you’re looking for a one night stand”, ladies. Keep it out of your bio.
Even if finding your future husband is the goal, keep your demands fun. Even something as simple as, “Not a prude, but only a monogamous dude can see me nude.” is better.
A bio for the hombres, “Looking for a relationship. I take it slow and don’t visit the boudoir on first dates. Super boring for some ladies, but that’s me.”
Be warned. A guy keeping ladies at an arm’s length, is to women what catnip is to kittens. They go crazy for it.
Even though the message of the two above bios is the same, the flavor is very different.
Because women on Tinder tend to be overly serious, bordering on being demanding. And men can be overly casual, making themselves look like clowns.
If you do start dating, don’t have sex for at least a month. Tell your date you’re taking it slow.
Considering you want a relationship, your aim is to find out if you’re right for each other. And while sexual compatibility is important, it comes second to chemistry. You either have it, or you don’t.
And I know a month might seem like a long time to you. But if you see your match once per week, then that’s just 4 dates without sharing a bed.
In case you need some more inspiration for funny Tinder bios, I have over 33 examples in the article I wrote on the subject!
Next up are eye-grabbing openers!
#7: The conversation starter that makes your match want more
In this tip, I’m giving you the opener that not only starts a fun conversation, but also helps you find your true love.
Because you’re about to learn how to grab anyone’s attention, even if they have the attention span of a newborn baby.
And as an added bonus, the opener you’re about to learn also works as a filter!
Back to why “Hey” is an awful first message.
For starters, it’s generic. Making you seem dull and lazy.
And if being boring isn’t enough, your uninspired text also makes your match feel unimportant.
“Is that all I make you feel?”, thinks your new Tinder pal.
And even if your match does appreciate your stale text, it doesn’t exactly spark a conversation.
Think about it. What is the reply you’re likely to get in the best case scenario?
Or if you’re lucky, “Hey, how are you?”
I’m falling in love already.
Sarcasm aside, how do you jumpstart a fun conversation online?
By being unique. Which is easier than you think, because most people have a talent for being uncreative.
So a little creativity goes a long way.
Here’s a goofy opener:
“Hiking through nature, downing a pizza, or punching Donald Trump in the throat. Pick one”
This sentence is good for three reasons:
- It grabs the reader’s attention by being different.
- It’s easy to reply to.
- And it gives you an idea of who you’re dealing with.
Three for the price of one! It doesn’t get much better than that.
What’s more, the ‘pick one’-format is super easy to tailor to your own humor and interests.
Just think to yourself, “What is important to me in a partner?”
Consider politics, hobbies, diet, work, family and religion.
As with anything personal, it’s dangerous territory. So choose your words wisely.
Once the conversational ball starts rolling, keep it moving.
More on that in the next tip.
#8: Keeping the conversation going on Tinder
Follow the advice from this tip, and you’ll never have issues keeping a conversation going again.
Now, I know you’ve had the next experience:
You just sent a series of texts to your Tinder match and were eagerly waiting for a reply. And when it comes, all you get is a simple “Haha” or an emoji.
What’s going on?
Do you suck at texting? Are you doomed to be single until death? Should you just rescue a whole litter of cats at the shelter and call it quits?
Hell to the NO!
Because with what you’re about to learn, she’ll be sending much more than just “Haha”.
The first rule of texting mastery is: lead the conversation.
And you can lead in several ways. Three of them being:
- Expanding on their texts
- Asking stimulating questions
- Sharing a titillating story
The first is self explanatory, pick any word or phrase from your Tinder match convo and add onto it.
Is the subject cats? Give your opinion and experiences on cats.
Nothing comes to mind? Generalize and see what you know about pets.
Do you draw a blank on pets? Generalize even further and talk about animals.
If you see the Tinder message notification, don’t wait to reply. Text back immediately. With all the distractions a phone offers, if you’re slow to respond you might miss your window to keep the conversation moving.
To eventually transition to Whatsapp, you want to strike when the iron’s hot.
Next up is stimulating questions.
As you can guess, these are not generic interview questions, like: “How are you doing today?” or “What do you do for work?”
If you’re going to ask any question, it has to spark emotion. Delight, joy, surprise, confusion. Even evoking anger is better than nothing.
Because emotion drives your Tinder partner to respond! And a flatline conversation drives your Tinder match away.
Some examples of questions. Ranging from mild to spicy.
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Finally, we arrive at telling a titillating story.
It’s another great way to keep the conversation going.
The bar for a titillating story is lower than you might think.
For example, the other day I left the house without my phone. As luck would have it, my friends didn’t show up. So now I was forced to talk to strangers and convince them to let me ring my friends on their phone.
Tough for some.
But an easy feat for the TextGod.
All I had to do was let someone hold onto my empty wallet while I ran away with my new iPhone 10.
Just kidding. It was an iPhone 9.
But seriously, little stories like this are gold.
Not only are they emotionally stimulating, your adventure gives your match an idea of what you’re like.
#9: The best dating apps for finding your husband or wife
After reading this tip, you’ll know what the best app is for finding your perfect partner.
I know the struggles you’re experiencing.
You want to find love online, but there is one huge obstacle.
The most precious of all resources.
And you only have so many hours in a day.
If you’re an adult, at least 8 of those hours are spent on work.
Additional time is used up on grocery shopping, cleaning and looking at cute cat videos online.
So any time you have to find a mate, you want to spend wisely.
But the amount of different dating apps is staggering.
Tinder, Happn, Bumble, Badoo, PlentyofFish, OkCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel, Match, Lovoo.
The list goes on, and on, and on.
You’re not going to use them all. So which do you pick?
The short answer?
Every country has its own favorite.
In the US, Tinder is the clear winner with Match being second.
The North Western countries of Europe also have an appetite for Tinder. Eastern Europeans seem to prefer Badoo, as do Spain, Portugal and Italy.
But what’s most popular doesn’t necessarily mean it’s right for finding a relationship.
You’re not the only one who is struggling to have a dating life. That’s why there are dating apps for working professionals.
Those tend to be no-nonsense and straight to the point: are you or aren’t you a fit for me?
Finding someone who understands your lifestyle is going to be far easier on an app made for the busy adult.
These apps often cost a few bucks, but that’s a plus
Because those who are ready to pay for love are clearly committed and ready to meet up. While the people on the free dating apps can be serious flakes.
A study by Pew Research Center shows one-third of people on Tinder have never actually gone on a date with someone they swiped. Though most of these are millennials between 18 and 22.
To sum it all up.
Any app that forces users to invest time (by answering personal questions beforehand) or money (like a subscription) increases the chances of finding like minded romantics.
This is thanks to the foot-in-the-door technique.
The more you invest at the start, the more likely you are to see it through to the end.
But free apps like Tinder can be just as good for finding your Tinderella or Prince Charming. Because if you hit it off, chances are you’re going to want to stay together for the long haul.
Get Tinder, experiment with local dating sites and focus on filtering.
If you’re looking for an educated partner between 24-39, then the dating app Bumble is also a recommended download. The dating site ‘elitesingles’ is also an option but in a slightly older age range.
But whatever app you choose, you mustn’t forget to do one thing.
The more you enjoy connecting with people, the better vibes you give off, and the more attractive you’ll be.
Super cheesy, but it’s true.
#10: What to do when your match doesn’t reply
The instinct to double text after being ignored is most likely killing your chances of seeing your Tinder match.
Keep reading and you’ll get 10 foolproof ways of getting your match to respond.
Spend enough time on Tinder and you’ll eventually come face to face with the ultimate dating bad guy:
The conversation dies down and you don’t know what to say.
You fire off a text anyway.
But your match didn’t bite.
Suddenly it seems like she’s ghosting you.
That’s rough, dude.
And I know. I was ignored all the time when I started out.
But now I have a library full of homemade answers ready to grab her attention.
And even when I can’t copy paste a line directly, I can use my archive as inspiration for something new.
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Now you know all you need about using Tinder for marriage, don’t forget to send me an invite to your wedding.
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