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Louis Farfields
Apr 10, 2025
So you’re chatting with a dry texter. And it’s hard to make your conversation fun and interesting.
Or it’s you who is dry texting and you have no clue how to turn things around.
In this article I’ll teach you everything there is to know about dry texting.
Does it mean the other person’s not into you? How do you spice things up? How to prevent dry texting in the future? We’ll cover it all.
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What is dry texting?
So what is dry texting exactly? It’s when someone gives your short, lazy replies like, “Haha lol” or “K”. It’s easy to get frustrated on the receiving end, because it feels like you’re in charge of keeping the conversation going.
Examples of dry messages
Here are 10 quick examples of dry texts.
- haha
- lmao
- lol
- sure
- yes/ya/yep/yeah/yea
- no/nah/nope
- mmhm
- okay/kay/k
- you?/u?
- thanks/thx
How do you recognize a dry texter?
It takes more than one short answer to label someone a dry texter. Someone is a dry texter when they’re guilty of multiple of the next chatting behaviors:
- They often send one-word answers.
- They’re comfortable answering questions briefly without asking anything in return.
- They tend to reply to a portion of your messages and ignore the rest.
- They’re slow to reply, leaving you waiting for days at a time.
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Let’s look at what typically motivates someone to send dry texts.
- They don’t like texting.
- They’re busy. They see your text notification and answer you with what little time they have available
- They aren’t emotionally invested. You’re cute, but you failed to create any real connection and aren’t a priority to them.
- They’re not interested (anymore), but are too polite to reject you. So they’re sending you dry texts in hopes that you get the hint.
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If you’re not sure if the dry texts are a fluke or a sign they’re not into you, these are the questions you want to ask yourself:
- Are they more proactive or reactive? If you’re always the one who sends the first text, they’re probably not that into you.
- Are they still asking you questions? Questions are a clear sign they’re still curious about you.
- Do they seem excited to talk to you? If they’re still laughing, hearting messages and spamming emojis, then things are probably going fine.
- Are the dry texts relatively rare, or is it their default way of communicating? If the dry messages are a new development, they might be busy, or you said something to upset them.
- Have you made plans to meet up? If you’re going to see each other in real life soon, it makes sense to text a bit less.
Long story short: if they’re not giving you any clear signals of interest, they’re likely dry-texting you because they’re too polite to reject you.
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Get it for free!How do you turn around a dry conversation? 6 Best tips
You’re about to see a conversation a female friend of mine had that perfectly showcases dry texting.
She just matched a guy on Tinder who was less than amazing. So she showed her disinterest by sending dry texts. Have a look for yourself.
I know I said that dry texting was infuriating and bad. But there are always two sides to a story. And in this case, I think the dry texts were more than deserved.
As you can hopefully tell from the above screenshot, our guy in grey was not doing a great job of being flirty or fun. Right off the bat, the guy sets himself up for failure.
Besides giving my friend a terrible dilemma to choose from, he makes it incredibly easy for her to answer with a dry text. So she does.
How does he try to fix it? By asking her a Yes/No question! So she replies with another dry text. Then he follows it up with another Yes/No question so she again responds with a dry text! You get the idea.
So how do you turn around a conversation that turned dry?
Here are some great ways:
1. Match their investment
For someone to get interested and attracted to you, they have to feel that they haven’t won you over already.
They want to have the feeling you’re a catch and they have to work to keep your attention and approval. So, if you’re trying too hard and investing too much, you automatically become less interesting. They feel like they’ve already got you.
The solution?
Mirror their investment while keeping things fun and flirty.
Are they sending you short, dry texts? Then send short, fun texts back. This wonderful combination makes you interested yet challenging. A very attractive combination.
What does that look like?
Suppose they say, “I’m reading a book”. Then you want to reply something short and sweet like, “Be careful now, you might turn into an even bigger geek”.
2. Ask open-ended questions
Asking yes/no questions is basically begging for a dry text. So it’s better to ask open-ended questions. Questions you can’t usually answer in just a few simple words. Those invite the other person to invest more.
Imagine they said, “I like to watch movies.” What’s a good question to ask in return that mirrors their investment? Let me tell you:
“You’re really going to keep me in the dark about what kind? You’re such a tease”.
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3. Go against the flow
A biiig cause of dry texting is people pleasing. Guys especially tend to be mega happy just to be chatting with a girl and they’ll do close to anything to keep the conversation going.
Hardly a turn-on, right? Do you know what is wildly attractive to most people? Going against the flow.
It shows that you’re willing to take risks and break the connection. That shows confidence and self-worth.
So do you notice someone dry texting you? Be a bit tougher on them. Don’t be the happy kid who laughs about everything and agrees with everything. Push back a little.
Suppose they just sent you this message, “I’m in bed.” What’s a light-hearted way to create some tension? Perhaps by sending them this:
“In bed already? Are you saving your best moves for later?”
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4. Accuse them of falling for you
The antidote to dry conversation is fun. Sounds simple and it is! But few people actually know how to do it. So let me quickly help you out:
Suggest they’re crushing on you, or whatever other fun crosses your mind.
- [She says she’s at the gym] “You getting swole for me? That’s so sweet”.
- [She says she’s tired] “Worn out from thinking about me all day? Can’t blame you”.
- [She says she’s out shopping] “Awwww you buying something special for me? I promise to act surprised when you give it to me”.
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5. Send a photo that triggers emotion
Photos are visual. And that’s why they usually trigger way more emotions than just plain texts. Send them a pic of something cool you’re doing or seeing.
Perhaps a pic of the sea or ocean, a guy outside walking his cat, or a couple of llamas having sex.
The beauty isn’t just that you’re hitting her up with something else than a text, it’s also very low investment. This keeps you from seeming desperate for her attention.
6. Call him/her
Another bold move. Some might find this scary. However, especially if you’ve already met, it’s not weird at all.
It’s the perfect way to figure out if they’re still interested. And because they can hear your voice, it’s way easier to make a positive impression while playing with your tonality and volume.
How do you stop yourself from being a dry texter? This is how you keep conversations fun
What if you’re the dry texter? What if every conversation becomes dry and you have no clue how to change things up?
Here are some tips to stop being a dry texter and become more attractive over text:
1. Change your texting from informational to emotional
This might be the most important lesson you ever learn about texting.
Attraction and fun conversations are not the result of exchanging facts and information like your job, where you live, and what you enjoy doing.
It’s the result of creating emotions. Having fun. Teasing. And that has little to do with getting to know each other factually.
You do get to know each other, but on a whole different level.
2. Don’t just ask questions, but create fireworks
Most people’s conversations turn into an interview. Here’s what you need to understand: seduction isn’t about getting to know each other, but about creating fireworks.
How do you do that? Let me give you a few ideas:
- Use language of desire. “You like spicy food?? That’s kinda hot 🌶️”.
- Share what you like. “You know why I matched you? Your Princess Mononoke poster.
3. Show sincere interest
If she tells you stuff, don’t just leave it at that. Be truly interested. Ask for more. Ask how she experienced things or how something is for her.
Even just being sincerely interested and asking deeper questions can create captivating conversations. Just be sure not to linger too long in ‘curious’ mode or you’ll seem more like her therapist than lover.
A big part of seduction is switching gears before the conversation turns stale.
4. Build tension
This is the missing ingredient in most boring conversations. If you want to create attraction and have fun, then don’t search for connection all the time.
Attraction comes from playful tension. By sprinkling in some contrast into your conversations, you’ll stay unpredictable and exciting.
So tease them. Make big, fun claims about them. Tell them they remind you of the little mermaid. Or accuse her of just trying to get into your boxers.
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5. Be radically authentic
At TextGod, Radical Authenticity is one of our core values. What I mean by that is this:
Most people try so hard to please the other person through text, or do the right thing and not offend anyone, that their texts become very plain and boring.
What if you were 100% yourself and didn’t care for her approval? I’m sure you would text completely differently.
You would be way more direct and honest. You would sometimes disagree and other times play with her, like you do with good friends.
And that behavior is far from dry and boring.
Someone you’re dating starts to dry text, what now?
Getting dry texts in the dating phase can be really confusing.
Suppose you’ve been seeing a girl for a few weeks. Every time you hang out in person things feel fantastic. There’s a lot of physical attraction and the chemistry is good.
But there’s just one problem. Your text conversation has died and you feel like they’re slipping away.
This feels incredibly strange because when you first started dating you texted back and forth all day. And now you barely get more than a couple of texts a day. What’s going on?
I get asked about similar experiences from clients and people in the TextGod Mentoring Program on the regular and the answer is simple.
If you feel fireworks every time you’re with her, there is no problem. Maybe she’s just not the type that enjoys texting. Especially if she already sees you once every few days.
So it could be that she just has nothing to say, o that she prefers to say it in real life.
Here’s what I recommend you do: stop trying to nurture your relationship via text. That’s what dates are for.
Mainly use texting to set up dates or to check in on her during special occasions. Like if she has a job interview or presentation at work.
Can’t shake the feeling that she’s losing interest in you because of the dry texts? Ask her (in person) how she feels about texting and remove all your doubts.
How to deal with dry texts in a relationship
We’ve all been there and got this dreaded text.
This lonely uncapitalized letter says more than an entire paragraph. Which is code for: I’m. Mad. At. You.
At least, that’s what we think when we read it. Of course, it’s incredibly difficult to know what a text exactly means without seeing the person’s face before they send it.
A text has no tone of voice, so a lot of important signals get lost.
Where do you go from here? Firstly, you don’t assume ANYTHING. You have NO idea what’s going on.
Sure, you may have done something wrong. But maybe your girlfriend is going through some difficult stuff right now and isn’t in the mood to text.
The best indicator of whether she’s mad at you is her real-life behavior.
Is everything in real life hunky-dory? Then there’s probably nothing to worry about. She probably sent you a few dry texts because she’s busy but still wanted to be polite and answer you back quickly.
Can’t shake the feeling something is wrong? Talk to her about it in person.
If you’re getting along great whenever you’re together, then she’ll likely have no problem telling you why she sent you a few dry texts.
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Enjoy.
Blessings,
Louis Farfields
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