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20 Tips I’ve Learned From 100+ First Tinder Dates

You go on Tinder dates.

But you too often receive the dreaded friendzone text:

“Thanks for the night out. But I think we’re better as friends.”

After reading this article, you’ll know how to have success on any first or second date.

I’m a Tinder expert and have been on over 100 dates.

Today I will share with you:

  • The #1 Tinder date guide
  • A foolproof line to ask someone out using only 8 symbols
  • 5 Tips to instantly boost your confidence
  • The easiest way to make your date feel attracted to you
  • 1 Crazy good tip on how to secure second dates
  • The ultimate way to crush your Tinder date anxiety
  • 3 Golden dating rules that will make someone like you
  • The insight that will take you from masturbator to master dater
  • Honest answer: Who pays for the first Tinder date?

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#1: How to go from texting to dating

You’re about to learn to ask her out without looking like a creep.

Say you’ve met a cute girl.

And you’ve been texting on Tinder for over a week without asking her out.

Partly because you enjoy talking with her.

But also because you’re afraid of going for the first Tinder date.

Now you’re worried that she might become bored with you and stops replying.

If only you knew how to ask her out on a date

Well, you’re in the right place!

Read on and you’ll get two ways to ask her out that you can use in almost any conversation.

#2: The harmless way to ask her out

The following technique to ask her out is so simple and effective, you’re not going to believe it.

Imagine you’re texting your Tinder match.

You’re telling jokes, talking about your hobbies and interests.

Suddenly, she reacts positively.

I used to play football too! Professionally even! But there was no money in it, so I quit…


Haha. I was a dumb kid too. When I was young and couldn’t sleep, I used to think I was the only one awake on the planet.

What’s my point?

She’s super excited in your texts.

And she’s investing extra time and energy into the conversation.

These are the moments you want to look for.

Because now the proverbial iron is hot and it’s the time to strike.

Let me show you what I mean with another example.

And before I knew what was going on, I’d won. I couldn’t believe it. I was the new Arizona junior chess champion!

Aww… you were such a nerd. I love it!

You know. One of these days I’ll show you how I’m so good at pinning down a queen. I doubt you’ve ever seen anything like it B4.

Hahah deal

Do you see how subtly I hinted at our future date?

This is a very low risk way of asking a girl out.

Technically I haven’t yet.

All I did was plant a seed of our Tinder date.

But now that I painted a picture in her head of our future plans, she’s much more likely to say yes when I do pop the question.

Which can now be as simple as:

Let’s meet up for our chess lesson soon. I’m available on Wednesday and Thursday evening.

Doesn’t that feel harmless to write?

More on that later.

Let’s first go over another example.

In the previous scenarios, you interested her.

But it’s also possible she interests you!

Your face when she piques your interest.

I’m not great. But I like to write a poem every day. Usually before I go to bed.

Not to come on too strong. But poetry gives me a broner. I’d love to buy you a coffee and read one of your pieces. One you feel comfortable showing me.

Haha ok we’ll see

(And now you know why I became a Tinder coach and not a screenwriter.)

Tinder Date Tip:

Notice how I never use the word date when sketching a scenario of meeting up?

It’s a very loaded word.

Date brings up thoughts of romance, relationships and wedding bells. But phrases like “Let’s get a coffee”, and “I’ll show you how to…” fly under the radar.

Because it feels so casual, these harmless words don’t set off any alarms.

She’s much more likely to “hang out” with you than she is to “go on a date” with you.

So keep it chill.

Next up…

The shortest way to ask her out on a first Tinder Date.

#3: The simplest way of asking her out on Tinder

You’re about to learn how to ask her out using only 8 symbols!

You have trouble asking girls out.

And you’re also a no frills type of guy.

So if you are going to learn a technique to get your match on a date, it has to be easy.


Then this is just for you.

Though the method you’re about to get is as simple as can be, knowing when to apply it is slightly harder.


Because you want to ask her out on a high note.

Like when she’s rapid-fire texting, responding quickly and using a lot of emojis.

Once you recognize she’s having a good time, all you want to send is the following:

You + me = ☕

If she replies positively, you propose not one but TWO dates.

Haha sure

Take your pick. Saturday 8 PM or Sunday 1:30 PM

Giving her more options dramatically increases the chances of locking in the date.

If you only propose the one date, it’s very likely she isn’t available.

Which means she has to turn down the date and that kills the good vibes of the conversation.

That’s why you always want to propose at least TWO dates.

Tinder Date Tip:

It’s possible your match shoots down both your options. If she’s super nice, she’ll come up with her own proposal. But more often than not, the lady wants to be led. And so she waits for you to make a move

Here is the move that will secure the date:

Here’s where you say:

But I AM available on the next dates… Which one is good for you?

Next up is a tip on what keeps most men from finding their perfect partner.

Pretty important if you ask me.

#4: What is holding you back from the ultimate sex life

Your mindset is keeping you from being a master dater and turning you into a masturbator.

Many of my students are scoring a lot of dates.

And I don’t say that to brag.

Because many of them are suffering from one glaring issue.

An issue that is keeping my pupils from reaching their true dating potential.

Namely, they’re too happy with their results.

And so their hunger for growth shrinks.

But the guys I know who date the most beautiful women are always looking to improve.

Please don’t misunderstand me.

The main goal of dating women is obviously to have fun. And if you’re like most guys, meeting your lifelong partner.

But aren’t you much more likely to find your perfect girlfriend, if you’re better at flirting,  more confident and better at understanding women?

Of course!

That’s why I’m a huge supporter of self improvement.

Now, ask yourself the next questions:

  • Are you achieving your dating goals?
  • If not, why?
  • If so, why are you reading my article on dating? Go stick your peñor inside your lady friend

More importantly, don’t lie to yourself.

Many guys that come to my workshops understand they’re not great at making the first move.

And so their main goal is the following:

“Consistently kiss on a date.”

I give them a few pointers and tell them to execute Operation: Tongue Piercer within two hours of the first Tinder date.

Being so calculated about dating may sound crude and impersonal.

But if you don’t push yourself to the limit of your abilities, you stagnate.

Without challenging yourself, you may go on another 666 dates and never pluck up the courage to kiss her.

If you want to have a better love life and find the woman of your dreams, you have to work on it.

So set yourself a dating goal and work your way to completing your mission.

Anyway, there’s a couple things you want to do before you step out of the door.

Get these right and you’ll start your date with a staggering 69% increase in both confidence and style.

#5: The checklist to being more attractive

Wouldn’t you like to be the type of guy that makes ladies secretly check you out as you walk past?


Because that’s exactly who you’re going to learn to be.

My guess is you’re a busy guy.

You’re sweating to get your degree or you’re already climbing up the career ladder.

So you don’t have time to think about how you look.

No time to think about what makes a pair of jeans fit. Or how to color match your clothes.

But women love men who dress well and hate guys who look like they live in a box on central station.

Rocking a good suit can really set a woman’s lady parts on fire.

What’s more, wearing a chic outfit increases confidence and improves your pimp walk.

Research shows that the clothes you wear change how you behave and how other people perceive you.

So if you care about attracting the ladies, you better care about fashion.

Here’s a simple checklist that will increase your attraction and thus your confidence:

  • Wear fresh smelling clothes. Do the armpit sniff test
  • Wear fitted clothes. Not too small, not too big, just right
  • No flashy colours. Stick to neutrals and earthy tones
  • No prints. Keep your t-shirts and sweaters plain and free of distractions
  • Also stay away from big logos like “CALIFORNIA EST. 1999”
  • No buttoned shirts with short sleeves.

Nice shirt, Danny. Just 3 more years of lifting weights and it might fit.

You can’t go wrong with fitted (not skinny) dark denims and a white t-shirt or a black long sleeve shirt.

#6: Your beauty mistake that is making her sick

If you’re doing this, you’re killing all chances of being with your crush.

You see, how most men think about hair is a mistake.

“As long as it doesn’t get in my eyes, I’m good,” says the average guy.

Fair enough, right?

But that opinion doesn’t fly when you want to date the ladies.

There’s little a woman finds uglier than a man who doesn’t groom himself.

Shaggy beard. Long nose hairs. A haircut like a mop.

To women, that’s revolting.

But you can also rock a haircut that attracts women.

And it really doesn’t take much effort.

Just a regular visit to your hairdresser or barber.

Here’s are the basic foundations of grooming for men:

  • No bangs. Unless you’re a professional gamer who racks in stacks
  • Just a smidge of gel or wax. Chicks love running their fingers through your hair. And they don’t like sticky fingers
  • No hair hanging over your ears, and no rat tail hanging from your neck

The guy on the right is called Kolento. He’s earns a living winning videogame tournaments. He also won an award for shittiest haircut.


A nasty classic. Ick.

#7: The easiest way to get her to be attracted to you

You’re about to learn the easiest way to instantly boost your attraction.

It’s so simple, you’ll wish you did it before.

One word:


You only get one first impression.

She sees what you’re wearing, hears what you sound like and smells your scent.

You may not think it, but scent is amazingly powerful for seducing women.

That’s because smell is closely linked with memory.

After one whiff, she’ll forever link you to your most prominent odor.

So if she smells your scent somewhere else, that aroma will instantly make her think of you.

When you stink of armpits and political ambiguity.

Scent is also highly emotive

Meaning that fragrances can trigger specific feelings.

Wouldn’t you like to trigger her feelings of desire?

Of course you do!

Now, I happen to be a perfume-nerd.

I know so much about eau de toilette, I could write a small book about it.

Perhaps for another time.

But what I will now, is give you a rundown on perfumes that will fetch many compliments.

Your Tinder date when you follow my instructions.

First up, the fragrance for the working professional who likes to be a bit fancy.

Chanel Bleu.

One of the most well received perfumes in the business.

If you’re meeting in the evening and you want to smell seductive, wear Dolce & Gabbana The One.

Are you in your late teens?

Go for Abercrombie & Fitch First Instinct.

Tinder Date Tip:

Apply your perfume below your ears, on your neck and the inside of your wrists and elbows. Why? Because those places are especially warm. And heat makes your scent travel further.

And when you have a date, throw your arms around her or give her a kiss.

Now she’ll instantly catch a whiff.

And trust me. She’ll definitely want to get that close to you again.

#8: Nervous meeting your first Tinder date?

You’re about to learn THE most useful tip for crushing your Tinder date anxiety.

Let me paint you a familiar picture.

After more than a week of texting, the date is set.

And the date is in a couple of days.

You already feel the nerves bubbling in your stomach.

And you think to yourself, “Is the date venue going to be nice?”

“What are we going to talk about?”

“Will she like me?”

All legit questions, my friend.

I’m going to give you the best advice to overcome your nervousness.

The biggest mistake most bachelors make is not having a strategy.

At least, no strategy outside of diving into the unknown and hoping for the best.

While you don’t need to design your first Tinder dates to have them succeed.

You do want to lay out your dates if you want to feel relaxed.

The reason is simple.

The less you feel at home, the more you feel anxious.

In other words, familiarity grows comfort.

What does that mean for you?

Become intimately familiar with your first Tinder date routine.

Know the place where you’ll meet your Tinder date.

Are you easy to spot? Is there a place to hide from the rain? Is there a bench to sit?

Know the route to your Tinder date location.

Is she going to enjoy the walk? Will you pass interesting sights? Is the path well lit?

Know the Tinder date venue.

Where’s the best place to sit close to her? Do you know where the bathroom is? Do you know each staff member’s social security number?

Know where you’re going to embrace and/or kiss her.

Aim for somewhere romantic. A panoramic view of the city. A quiet bench next to a monument.

Know how you want to take her home.

Will you cycle to your place? Go by bus? Walk? And what route will you take that is the least likely to creep her out?

By answering all these questions, you feel a sense of calm washing over you.


Because you’ve taken almost all the random out of your first date.

The only big unpredictable factor of your date equation, is her.

Which is exactly how you want it to be.

Instead of wasting your thinking on what to do, you can focus all your attention on getting to know her.


With your nervousness and stress out of the picture, there remains only fun.

#9: Boost your confidence without leaving the house

If the stress of a date is so severe it gives you pit stains, this is for you.

Because after reading this tip, you’ll never have to worry about hiding your sweaty armpits again.

Imagine you have a date tonight.

And you’re meeting in half an hour.

You’ve showered, got dressed and trimmed your nose hair.

You’re ready.

But you can feel your stomach tighten, your heart racing, and your armpits sweat bullets.

Who ever said dating was easy!

But I have a wonderful tip that will calm your anxiety to a quiet hum.

My tip might even turn your worries into excitement.

My method to cure you from excessive dating stress?

Listening to your favorite tunes while preparing for your date.

Music is super powerful.

It almost works like a drug.

Music makes you feel more energized, enhances physical performance, and lifts you out of a bad mood.

And it’s 100.69% true.

Just check out Dr Costas Karageorghis’ study.

If you’re unfamiliar with the doc, he’s a wizard when it comes to the magical effects of music on performance.

The takeaway?

Start up Spotify and listen to your your favorite songs and anthems.

As a bonus, I’m going to give you my personal fave mood-booster.

It works wonders when you’re too lazy to go to the gym.

Yes, I tried doing kamehamehas in the living room when I was a kid.

Sue me.

#10 How to become a boss the moment you step out of bed

Do you want to be the type of guy who gets out of bed in the morning and makes the devil say, “Aw shit! He’s up…”?

Then this is for you.

First, let’s dig into the power of habits.

We go about our days thinking we’re in charge of our every action.

But a study by Duke University claims that 45% of what we do is habitual.

Pure routine. No choice involved.

So if we practically are our habits for half the day, we better build the right ones.


Charles Duhigg, author of the best selling The Power Of Habit, says that one of the keystone habits is to make your bed.

He calls it a keystone, because it will increase your success in all areas of your life.

Making your bed every morning is correlated with better productivity, a greater sense of well-being, and stronger skills at sticking with a budget.,
—Charles Duhigg.

What’s more, if you take your date back to your house, you don’t want your bedroom looking like a favela.

If you don’t want to take Charles’ word on the importance of making your bed.

Listen to a decorated Admiral and war hero say the same.

Anyway, enough of me playing your mom.

Back to Tinder dates.

#11: Tinder Date Etiquette (7 DOs and DON’Ts)

If you’re not familiar with Tinder date etiquette, you could be killing your chances of seeing her again without knowing it.


Let’s get you sorted with the 7 DOs and DON’Ts of Tinder dating.

Going from start to end.

1. Take care of your hygiene

A woman is attracted to a man who grooms himself.

Wash and style your hair. Groom your beard. Clean yourself of any unwanted bodily odors.

And put on some deodorant and perfume.

2. Dress to impress

If she likes you, your date is going to go all out. She’ll shave her legs, put on makeup, style her hair, pick out special underwear, wear heels. The works.

You don’t have to go that far. But do enough that she sees you put in some effort into your appearance.

That doesn’t mean putting on a suit and fancy dress shoes. But the least you can do is slap on some clothes that fit and don’t look worn.

3. Propose where you meet up

Taking charge is masculine. And if she’s into guys, she likes that sort of thing.

What’s more, women like the idea that you have the whole first date planned out.

That makes her feel special and desired.

4. Meeting up

Get there early.

Making her wait makes you look bad and makes her feel uncomfortable.

Plus you might arrive stressed out and sweaty when you need to hurry a lot last minute.

5. Don’t just talk about yourself

Sure, you’re carrying the burden of the conversation.

But you’re also showing zero interest in her life.

Big turnoff.

6. Don’t talk about your ex

Talking about your ex communicates two things:

One, you’re a bit butthurt. Two, you’re still not over her.

Instead of talking about your ex, share what you like in women.

7. Kissing and hook ups

In America and Western Europe, kissing on a first date is pretty normal. But it’s not going to happen unless she likes you.

If you want to kiss her, begin small and work your way up.

Casually touch her arm. Sit hip to hip. Put your arm around her. Hold her hand.

But don’t do the above in rapid succession.

Spread it out throughout your date and after two hours of light touching, the kiss will feel completely natural for both of you.

One night stands are far from uncommon either.

And the same principle applies, work your way up.

But rather than getting physical, build trust.

Openly share what you like in a woman. And figure out her thoughts on men and her favorite end of a good first Tinder date.

If she sounds adventurous, lead her to your house and take the final step.

  • Groom yourself and smell clean
  • Put enough effort into your outfit so she doesn’t feel insulted
  • Tell her where you’d like to meet
  • Come early
  • Show interest in her life
  • Share what you like in a woman
  • Slowly build up physical contact
  • Show up with spider legs growing out of your nose and a body odor that can wake up the dead
  • Appear in your older brother’s hand me downs
  • Ask her where and when to meet
  • Come late
  • Only talk about yourself
  • Discuss why your ex dumped you
  • Sit away from her for the whole evening and then try to kiss her

#12: The perfect start, how to greet your Tinder date

You only get one first impression, and if you’re not 666% sure how to make a good one, chances are you’re making a bad one.

You see, looking and smelling good only gets you halfway to the perfect start.

But if the idea of meeting up with a hot chick still gives you the heebie jeebies.

You may be about to make an awkward start.

Telltale signs are a mind filled with the following thoughts:

“Is she going to like me?”

“What should I do when I see her? A handshake? A hug? A kiss?!”

“And what do we talk about after the introductions are finished?”

These are healthy concerns, mah dude.

I’m not trying to shame you.

Better yet, I want to help you make these worries a thing of the past.

And I can guarantee they will be.

How can I be so sure?

Because after a 100+ Tinder dates, I freakin’ LOVE the first seconds of a date.

A healthy dose of excitement coursing through my veins. You’re about to get to know this gorgeous girl and probably have an awesome time together.


So how can you turn your dates into a slice of paradise?


Just follow the next three steps.

Step 1:

As soon as you see your date, walk up to her with a big smile on your face.

Having trouble smiling? Imagine she has a bunch of dicks drawn on her face.

Even though he eats boogers, he’s already master of the smile.

Step two:

Once she’s a few feet away, spread open your arms and get ready for a hug.

Step three:

Hold her in your arms while giving her a little squeeze and finish with a peck on her cheek.

You can reverse the hug and the kiss on her cheek. Just do your best to do both before the greeting is over.

(If a kiss on the cheek isn’t appropriate where you live, then obviously don’t do this part.)

Isn’t this a super warm start to your Tinder date?

It’s like you’ve known her for years.

That’s exactly the vibe you want to give off.

After you let her out of your arms, ask her how she’s doing and lead her to your first date location.

What you talk to her about now isn’t very important.

The only goal is to break the ice and make her feel comfortable.

I usually talk about what I did or saw that day.

#13: Best Tinder date advice, the ultimate date location

You’re about to get the single most important tip on dating that will make her want to see you again.

And it’s also the most ignored.

Chances are your ideas of a good date are boring.

Let me put you through a simple test.

Do your dates usually involve going to a bar, bistro or cinema?



You’re giving your dates an amazingly mediocre time!

Which means that after reading this tip, girls will be ringing you up to go on another epic date.

Do you want to know the secret to the perfect date?

Where you meet is nowhere close as important as where you’ll go.


I get it.

When most dudes go on a date, they pick out a bar, walk in with their date and sit inside for the rest of the evening.

Major bummer.

Dates that take place in one venue just lack so much excitement.

And you want your date to be more like an adventure.

Think about it.

Do you feel more alive when playing board games or when you’re traveling through a city you’ve never been before?


And if your date is boring, she naturally links her feelings of boredom to you.

But if your date is fun, she automatically thinks you’re fun.

What does this all mean for you?

You want to take her to multiple venues in one evening.

Here is what I might do on a date:

Meet up in front of a monument, take her to a bar for cocktails, walk to another joint for ice cream cones and end in a secluded playground where you rock on the swings.

And of course have a little smoochie shmoo somewhere in between.

To summarize.

Step one: meet 5 to 10 minutes away from your first date location.

That way you can walk off any anxiety and create comfort

Two: take her to a bar or café with a relaxed atmosphere.

Bonus points if there are couches or beanbags where you can snuggle up to each other.

Three: after finishing your first drink, take her to venue with a different vibe. It could be a cocktail bar, a bowling alley, or even a bench with a gorgeous view over the city.

Visiting multiple locations creates a sense of excitement.

Going on an adventure also makes her feel like she’s known you for a long time. After all, you’ve already experienced so much together.

#14: Best Tinder date ideas

When you really want to make a good impression, take your date here.

But first an insight to what makes a venue good.

Do you think people from NY ever visit the Statue of Liberty or the Metropolitan Museum of Art?

No, probably not since high school.


Because an unwritten rule says:

Locals shouldn’t act like tourists.”
— Professor Buzzkill

Put simply, an easy way to be original and unforgettable to her, is to…

1. Be a tourist

If you live in London, visit the London Eye, the British Museum or the Tower of London.

Are you from LA? Go to Griffith Park, Hollywood or the Getty Center.

Open up Google, type in your hometown plus the phrase ‘tourist attractions’ and pick your favorite.

Another date idea most guys overlook is…

2. The petting zoo

A location that reminds her of a simpler time? Check.

Heart-warming, fluffy, friendly and adorable animals? Check.

Somewhere she’s probably never been on a date? Check.

The petting zoo is, in my experience, a female favorite.

Feed hungry critters and take photos with your furry farm animal of choice.

For you New Yorkers, try out the Bronx Children’s Zoo, Queen’s County Farm Museum or Prospect Park Zoo Barn & Garden.

And for my London audience, check out the Horniman Museum & Gardens, Hackney City Farm or Stepney City Farm.

The above date ideas are great at building a deep connection.

But maybe you don’t want to go down that route.

Perhaps you prefer to go downtown. If you catch my drift.

And there’s no better place for “eating out” than in the bedroom.

So if you want to take her home, make plans for…

3. Homemade cooking and cocktails

I forgot to get tails, so all I have for you is co—

*record scratch*

I know it’s tempting, but please don’t ask her out like that.

Just like fishing for a booty call with “Hey, after we pay the bill, want to go to my place for a nightcap?”

She’s likely going to reject your generous offer.

But if you invite her to come over for a home cooked meal plus mimosas, she won’t feel pressured for sex.

Though, one important bit of advice:

Don’t ask her to meet you at your doorstep.

Instead, meet up on neutral territory…

The grocery store.

Next shop for ingredients together and get rid of any nerves before you head home.

Which could also be her home.

I recommend using the kitchen of whoever is doing the cooking.

Anyway, after you’ve slammed back your cocktails and filled your tummies, a home doesn’t offer lots more activity than…

Bedroom acrobatics.

So as romantic as cooking sounds, it’s actually your best bet for a hookup.

But if you want to hook up, you can’t make the next mistake.

#15: The mega mood killer for Tinder dates

If there is one thing you DON’T want to forget on your date, it’s this.

Imagine you’re on a date.

It’s going well.

She’s laughing.

She lightly brushes your arm.

But then you did something that sucks all the attraction out of the room.

You ignored the big taboo:

Climate change is man-made.

Meeting through Tinder.

Most guys tippy toe around the subject of meeting through dating apps.

Maybe because it seems lame.

But Tinder is actually a super powerful connector.

  1. You’re both looking for romance online
  2. You both probably had bad dates (or else you wouldn’t be dating)

So talk about that elephant in the room!

Some possible questions:

  • “Why are you on Tinder? Did every cute guy from your social group already turn you down?”
  • “What was your worst Tinder date? And why are you still stalking him?”

It should be obvious, but both of these questions are said with a wink.

To make sure you bond and create attraction, guess what made her date so bad.

After reading my articles, you should know exactly why some Tinder dates still give her nightmares:

Average Abe.

  • Super nice
  • Non-stop questions
  • Zero excitement

Showing you know about Abe, shows you understand her and women in general.

Earning you lots of cool points.

Tinder Date Tip:

Act as if you’ve known each other for years. Like you’re long lost friends who are finally back together.

Plus, by bringing up her worst date, she can see your date is 500x better.

So stop missing out on attraction and bring up Tinder!

#16: How to be a good conversationalist

You’re about to learn the secret of a good storyteller.

Joe Schmo may also tell stories, but most of his conversations go like this:

Did you know I have the week off?

Huh, why is that?

Well, I have my own company. We make sustainable sports clothing made out of plastic. And you?

I just came back from London. Because I’m a manager working for a fashion brand. And…


*conversation dies down until it’s revived by a new question*

This conversation is missing a vital story-telling element.

And until its introduced, the date is doomed to be boring.

What am I talking about?


That may sound a bit vague.

To put it more concretely, you want to speak in terms of:

  • We (We’re going to kidnap penguins)
  • Our (Our child would never be broke. He’ll be too handsome)
  • Together (Let’s drink a pint of coffee and bounce around in a museum together like hyperactive bunnies)
  • Us (That would never happen to us.)


Because it keeps you away from the alluring but deadly interview mode.

No longer are you two separate individuals, you’re a unit.

A good start.

Because every romantic goal you want to reach, whether it’s a relationship or belly bumping, depends on her input too.

So you want to be a team.

Let’s put this theory into practice, using the above example.

I’m a manager working for a fashion brand.

What a coincidence. I was thinking of setting up my own bra line called T.I.T.S. Two In The Shirt. It’s for men, so I’m going to be the model. We’re currently looking for a manager. Interested?

If it’s tough for you to come up with material on the spot

Don’t worry.

Pretending to be husband and wife works wonders too.

This next girl said something I didn’t like (she said Jurassic Park sucked), so I said we were getting a divorce.

Here’s how she answered:

Not only did she send a 5-text reply (yes, there’s more than I’m showing), but she’s using ‘we’ too!

She’s totally going along with the idea we’re married.

(She also changed her photo to her holding a stuffed unicorn after a joke I made.)

Another benefit of Togetherness?

It works in person and through text. As you can see from the screenshot.

So all the advice I give on texting, improves your real life convos too!

Even when out for drinks can you show her memes and clips and be this guy.

And if you apply what you learned here, you can go next level and (playfully) show her this:

“You know, if you play your cards right, this could be us.”

After you’re done sharing memes and downing your mojitos, one of you has to pay the bill.


#17: Who pays on a Tinder date?

The way you pay the bill might be ruining your chances of getting intimate with her.

Let’s say you just had drinks with a girl who you didn’t really like.

You ask for the bill and the waiter runs off to grab his card machine.

Meanwhile you’re thinking to yourself:

“Should I be paying for this? I don’t even want to see her again.”

“But I also don’t want to look like a douche.”

I feel you, bro!

The politically correct climate doesn’t make your issue any easier.

If women and men are equal, the ladies should pick up their half of the bill.


Equal rights. Equal duties.

Sucks to be you ladies.

But letting her pay for the drinks feels wrong.

Think about it.

The purpose of a date is not to make a stand on gender equality.

It’s about giving each other a great time. Which includes a passionate sesh of bedroom acrobatics.

And by refusing to pay for her mimosa, you’re seriously killing the mood and drying her vajayjay.

After all, you’re communicating that you value a couple of bucks more than you do her feelings.

What’s more, women subconsciously want a man who can provide for her.

That’s simple biology.

Don’t you also want your date to act feminine?

To put on heels and a sexy dress for you?

Or would you rather date a tomboy?

So it’s an equal trade.

You act like a man, and she acts like a woman.

Plus, losing your shit over one or two drinks isn’t worth it.

So here’s my motto:

Screw being a social justice warrior.

Just do whatever feels right to you.

I almost always pay for the first round and let her get the second.

Divvying up the bill and handing her a fist full of coins just feels cheap.

#16: A psychological hack that will make her fall head over heels

Wouldn’t it be cool if you could make your date feel excited or horny with a press of a button?

Just go from being ignored to her throwing herself at you with one click.

I’d buy that remote in a heartbeat!

But seeing as I don’t have a gizmo that can do it for me, I have to rely on another method to get her aroused.

A method to get her panties wet without even getting close to her.

Want to know how?


Take her to some place dangerous.

Like a haunted house or theme park.

You see, being scared is very close to feeling sexually excited.

And thanks to the power of the human mind, when she feels frightened, she’ll think you’re the reason for that tingling sensation in her stomach.

So if you want to give yourself a leg up in the seduction game, take her someplace safe but scary.

Tinder Date Tip:

Another insight about the human brain: people we’re attracted to become even more attractive after working up a sweat.

Perhaps it’s a good idea to bring your date to a fairground and jump up and down on a bouncy castle.

Now she’s all hot and heavy, you want to close to deal.

You want to lock lips.

#17: The number one reason why she won’t kiss you

You’d think you’ve thought of everything. But you’re leaving out the most vital element of your date.

You know where you’re going to meet.

Where you’re going to take her.

Even the romantic spot where you’re going to try to kiss her.

But she’s not going to plant her lips on yours, because you overlooked one essential thing:

The sitting arrangement.

What does seating have to do with kissing you ask?


Humor me and imagine where you would sit with your date.

On chairs, a bench, a couch?

Don’t just skip to the next sentence.

Decide where you’d sit with your Tinder match.

Next, choose if you will sit in front of her or next to her.

Have you made up your mind?

Really think about it now…


If you’re like most men, you pick the wrong option.

You sit in front of her.

There’s several reasons why sitting across from her is bad.

Firstly, it mimics the job interview. Making the date feel tense and formal.

Not sexy.

Secondly, sitting in front of her literally creates the idea of distance between you.

And isn’t the goal of a date to feel close to each other?

And what are you going to do when there’s a moment of silence?

Stare at each other with an awkward smile?

No thanks.

Lastly, and most importantly, you can’t touch her!

And if you can’t touch her throughout the date, chances of kissing her fly out the window.


Because she hasn’t grown comfortable being near you. Let alone being touched by you.

So if you go from zero contact to sucking face, she’s going to freak the F out.

Just imagine her perspective.

For hours you sit more than an arm’s length away.

And then, without warning, you shove your big head in her face.

How is she supposed to react?

The punchline?

Sit next to her and shamelessly stare at the people in front of you.

And occasionally nudge your shoulder into her when you want to show her something silly.

Maybe give her a high five when she says something cool.

Bonus: Funny comebacks to what she said

Do you ever replay conversations you’ve had in your mind?

Hours after meeting a woman on a date, you lay in bed and think about all that has been said.

Something annoys you…

At one point she was playfully bashing you and you didn’t know what to say.

There was definitely a chance to be witty, but how?

At 4AM it hits you.


THAT is what I should’ve said!

This video I made for you gives you some great comeback inspiration:


#18: How to be the lover instead of the friend

You might be on the fast track to the friendzone without realizing it.

How do you think a girl falls in love with you?

By being friendly?

By agreeing with everything she says and build on shared interests?

“I have a beet allergy too! OMG!”

Hopefully you knew being nice sends you nowhere but the friendzone.

If not, it’s all good.

Because you’re about to learn how you can swipe her off her feet.

The road to a woman’s heart, is being masculine.

Duh! Right?

While the word masculinity is tossed around easier than rice at a wedding, not many people know what it means.

That’s why I’m here.

To be masculine means to be comfortable staying in your lane. Comfortable being yourself and speaking your mind.

In short, you want to be able to hit the brakes on the conversation.

Does all of this sound super abstract?

I’ll make it more concrete.

(By the way, I literally had this conversation yesterday)

Do you have lenses?

No. But I know what you mean. My eyes look unique, right?

No. I saw a pair of glasses sticking out of your purse and wondered if you could even see me.


I slammed the breaks on the conversation. I went AGAINST the flow.

Do you think what I said helped me look less or more attractive?

If you guessed more, you guessed right!

I dared to disagree with her. I even teased her a little.

And she loved it.

But be careful. Too much teasing and pushing her away can come across as insulting.

And real men don’t bully.

A masculine man also knows what he likes and is lavish in his praise.

Whenever she says or does something he likes, the manly man isn’t afraid to compliment her.

Even if that means interrupting her to say she has the most kissable lips he’s ever seen.

The summary?

Be a man by daring to tease and compliment her.

#19: How to make her your girlfriend

I have gone over almost all the ingredients of flirting. But I left out the most important one for getting a girlfriend through Tinder.

If you crave a long-lasting relationship with a woman falling into your arms every night, you’re in the right place.

We’ve already gone over:

Taking charge.



And radical honesty.

But there’s one key element that decides whether she wants to get laid through Tinder, or become your girlfriend.

And that’s vulnerability.

To be vulnerable doesn’t mean to be a whiny wimp who gets offended when someone farts in his general direction.

The vulnerability that I’m talking about creates a deep and meaningful connection.

You see, a guy who only teases women wears a mask.

He’s hiding his true self.

But a guy who can both tease and share personal embarrassing stories and experiences, is the total package.

He is the guy she wants to be with romantically.

And if you were to be her Romeo, you want to be the bad boy with a heart.

How do you know if you’re being vulnerable?

When you feel hesitant to share a personal story or experience. You may even feel a little uncomfortable.

And women are great at recognizing troubling stories.

As soon she recognizes you’re sharing a personal story, she’ll think you’re brave for doing so.

Plus she’ll grow attracted to your confidence.

Reveal some personal experiences between teases, touches, jokes and leading…

…and she’ll be crushing on you before the date ends. Texting you before you go to bed, and again when she wakes up.

Every day.


Your date, feeling the deepest connection ever.

Before you take her on an epic date, she has to show up first.

What do you do if she cancels or worse…

#20: Tinder date cancels or stands you up

Her canceling the date doesn’t spell the end of your relationship, but your reaction might.

Imagine you get the next text a couple hours before the date.

Hey, change of plans. I can’t make it tonight. Sorry

What do you reply?

If it’s not along the lines of:

Cool. Thx for letting me know. Talk soon x

You may be killing your chances of seeing her.

Because if you’re not cool as a cucumber, you’re probably butthurt or an eager beaver.

Pretty lame that you cancel so late. I was getting ready to see you.

Okay. So when do you have time?

Which shows her one of two things that suck the moisture out of her panties:

  1. You’re an immature goofball who isn’t worth dating
  2. You’re a pushover who doesn’t have much going on

But by following my text, she thinks:

  1. You’re an unbothered chill guy who probably has his life together
  2. You’re confident, because you expect to talk to her again

After she sees you’re emotionally stable, she may even plan a new date.

If not, hold out for a minimum of three days (if not a week) before you send her a text.

If you want to know exactly what to do when She Doesn’t Text Back, click the link for a step by step guide from yours truly.

What to do when the date is set but she stands you up

  1. You wait 10 minutes before you send her a non-needy text, like, “Are you okay?”
  2. Then you wait another 5 minutes for her to reply or show up. If you get nothing and see no one, you leave.

Emergencies do happen from time to time.

But if she doesn’t get back to you with an apology within a day, you just dodged a bullet.

And you ought to be thankful for it.

Also keep in mind they don’t know you.

Although she could have stood you up for a dozen reasons, your mind instantly jumps to:

“t She didn’t like me.”

But that’s not true. At most she didn’t enjoy the texts you sent her.

So don’t beat yourself up about being stood up, she only rejected how your texts made her feel.

#21: The happiest ending to the perfect date

The upcoming tip will make you so irresistible she will be begging to go out with you again.

Maybe you’re on a date with a girl you hate.

Perhaps you’re on a date you only find attractive.

Hopefully you’re on a date with someone you feel connected to.

Let me tell you how to handle each of these scenarios.

1: The girl you want to ditch

The first is the most simple, but also the most difficult.

You have to either tell her you’re not interested, or find an excuse to get away.

My go-to?

The truth.

“It’s probably me, but whatever I felt during our texts, I’m not feeling now. Sorry.”

If the truth is too difficult to say, say that you only have time for one drink.

2: The girl you only want to bang

If you find her attractive, you may as well smash, right?

In that case, make sure your final date location is your home.

Show her around, put on some chill music, pour her a drink and lead her to your bed.

But if you’re lucky, you’re on a date with a girl you want to see again.

3: The girl of your dreams

Before I tell you what to do, let me ask you a question.

Have you ever been on a date, where you had so much fun that you wish it could go on forever?

But at a certain point she said, “Hey, I’ve got to go soon. I have class/work in the morning…”

If you’re anything like my younger me, your heart sank into your shoes. And you went home wishing she’d text you ASAP to ask you out to do it all over again.

Now for the next question, my dear friend.

What if you could make her feel that deep sense of longing by cutting off the date at its peak?

You’d have an epic memory of the date. And you’ll have the perfect excuse to set up another rendez-vous.

Now she’s replaying the date in her mind, wishing you would text her and ask her out.

That about wraps up the article, amigo.

Now go on a dating adventure and apply what you’ve learned.

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