How to Ask a Girl Out on Hinge – Do This To Get The Date

For most men, asking someone out on Hinge isn’t easy. But there are certain things you can do that will up your chances DRASTICALLY!

In this article, you’ll get some of my best texting tips on how to ask a girl out on Hinge, so you end up getting that date.

In this article:

• 1. Spike her emotions
• 2. View yourself as valuable
• 3. Keep the date simple
• 4. Add an element of fun to your dates
• 5. Be more flexible when planning
• 6. Don’t use the word ‘date’
• 7. Ask her out in a fun way
• 8. Check in after asking her out
• Ask any girl out in 4 steps
• What do you do when you ask her out and she says no?
• How to ask a girl out online – Conclusion

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1. Spike her emotions

At the end of the day, seduction boils down to one thing:

Making the other person feel strong emotions.

Many guys have conversations that drag on and on which go nowhere.

Filled with nonsense like “How was your day?” and “Goodmorning beautiful! :)” While those types of texts have a place later in conversations , it’s important to evoke emotions in the other person first. That means sending jokes, interesting things about your day, fun questions, and anything else that is outside the ‘norm’.

Once your Hinge match is enjoying themselves, then it’s time to ask them out.

Now, how do you recognize when she’s feeling good emotions? Check out this list.

• She compliments you.
• She’s using lots of lols or hahahas.
• Emojis.
• She double texts you.
• She texts back quickly.
• She asks questions back.
• She flirts back.

Once you start seeing more of these, it’s a good sign to ask her out. For more signs, check my YouTube video and smash that like button.

Hidden Signs a Girl Likes You Over Text

2. View yourself as valuable

When you adopt this trait, more women will want to say yes when you ask them out.

Act like the prize.

Most guys are afraid of rejection and that keeps them from asking out their Hinge match. But this insecurity is working against them as it gives the impression that they lack self-confidence.

And if they’re unsure of their worth, why should she think differently?

Once she feels you lack a healthy sense of self-worth, she’ll expect you to be guilty of all kinds of unattractive behavior. Neediness, jealousy, inability to express your true needs, and fear of rejection. Ew.

So how do you come across as someone who she’d want to spend time with? Act like a prize that she’d love to win.

Be confident when you ask her out. Assume she likes you and is already telling her friends about the cute guy on Hinge who she can’t wait to ask her out. Hell, maybe she’s even told her Mom about you being “the one”.

Here’s how to ask her out properly:

Yuck: “Do you want to maybe get coffee sometime?”
Good: “Let’s grab cocktails this week. Does Saturday or Monday evening work for you?”

Ew: “Would you want to go out with me?”
Good: “I’d love to meet up, when are you free to grab a slice of pizza and pet dogs in the park?”

Be mindful of this though: Acting like the prize or high value doesn’t mean you’re going to be arrogant or douchey. Girls hate that. It just means you’re going to feel confident when asking her out. You deserve her. Just like peanut butter deserves jam.

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3. Keep the date simple

Here’s a simple change you can make to your dates that will make more people say yes.

Keep the date simple.

Too many guys want to take her out for dinner, to the movies, or do something fancy like taking a surfing class. All to impress her.

Not a great idea, because that is a big investment for someone you don’t even know. And trying to impress someone you don’t know REEKS of neediness, which is unattractive.

These types of dates are also much more pressure than doing something simple, like grabbing coffee. And high pressure will lead more people to say no to them.

So what’s the solution? Keep the first date as low stakes as possible to prevent pressure.

Suggest a chill activity.

This means something that can potentially be over in 20-30 minutes, such as:

• Coffee
• Walking your dog
• Stroll through the park
• Quick cocktail somewhere
• Grabbing ice cream

You get the idea.

Now, yes of COURSE you CAN still do special dates. Just know that it’s more risky when you’re not sure how well the two of you get along. And, if you still need a hand asking her out, watch this.

How to Ask a Girl Out Over Text 💬

4. Add an element of fun to your dates

Do you want to make your normal dates sound fun? Then give your traditional date idea a fun element!

Let me explain.

A simple date, like grabbing a tea or going for a walk, is totally fine. The only issue is it could come across as a bit dull. Especially if it’s a date she’s done 69x before already. To make your proposed date more exciting, it’s smart to add a little extra oompf. Give it a little bit of wow factor.

Like this.

• “Ever heard of cat cafe? It’s coffee and kittens, and I’m taking you.”
• “Let’s grab donuts. At least 2 each, and then we’ll lay in the grass, soaking in the sunshine.”
• “Are you free Thursday to see how many margaritas we can each drink?”

Normal, low-pressure date ideas, with just a hint of something interesting, are much more fun to say yes to.

5. Be more flexible when planning

This is a common mistake when I see guys asking a girl out on Hinge.

They only suggest ONE flipping day to hang out!

The guy suggests only one day and she can’t make it, so she turns it down. Even though she still likes him, the soft rejection does hurt the vibe of the conversation.

But ok, no big deal, our guy can try again. So he suggests a different day. But she’s busy again and has to turn him down…again (cries in corner). Now our man doesn’t really know what to do and the conversation dies out. RIP miss lolita from Hinge.

Preventing this from happening though, is really easy. Just suggest two calendar dates for her to choose from.

This gives her more options to say yes when you ask her out. Now, if she can’t make either, then you can send her a nudging text, like this:

• “Now you’re supposed to tell me when you ARE free, you big dink ;).”
• “Totally fine! What are some days that would work instead?”

Now, the worst case is that she doesn’t reply at all when you ask her out. But there’s solutions for that too, check out my next article.

• She Stopped Texting You – 10 Tips to Get Her to Reply!

6. Don’t use the word ‘date’

If there is ONE word that scares women off from meeting up with you, it’s this.

Date.

You read that right. A whole article about asking a girl out on a date, and “date” is the worst word. We love being hypocritical. 😉

But I’ll elaborate. Date is a loaded word that’s associated with serious intentions. Even if you’re open to something long-term, it can still feel a little heavy and cause unnecessary pressure.

Now, it might not be a dealbreaker, but it’s not ideal either. So stay away from the word date (or worse, romantic date *cringe*) when asking her out.

Instead, ask girls out on Hinge by inviting them to do something fun.

• “Want to grab coffee and see how many cups we can drink before the anxiety kicks in?”
• “Sushi this week? I need to critique your chopstick skills.”
• “Ice cream, walk my dog, and yap this weekend?”

7. Ask her out in a fun way

When you make your Hinge date proposal fun, your Hinge crush is more likely to say yes.

People. Are. Busy. Sometimes they can’t meet on the days you offer. There are also all sorts of questions about time, where to meet, what day to meet, is your best friend who I actually have a crush on coming? These are all elements that you need to take into consideration.

So sometimes, when you’re planning your Hinge date, the conversation becomes very business-like. And that can kill the vibes the two of you have built up already.

So never let planning get in the way of a good vibe.

• “How’s Friday or Saturday to hit up the zoo? And bring tissue, sometimes I cry when I see the animals locked up.”
• “Let’s meet at Jacob’s Wine Bar for 7. Worst case, we hate it, leave a SCATHING review on Google, and go next door instead for dessert.”
• “[Her Name], pencil me in for Tuesday or Thursday. We’re getting Vegan pizza. Fake cheese babbyyyyyyyy.”

Keep it fun when you ask out your Hinge crush and the fun vibes will continue into the date.

8. Check in after asking her out

Don’t make this mistake or it may ruin your Hinge date: forgetting to check in.

It’s a crime how often I see this go wrong: boy and girl plan the date a week from now, and then the guy doesn’t send her anything until a few hours before the meet up.

That is terrible!

If you don’t send her anything for days on end, she’ll start questioning if you’re still interested and if the date is on. That’s a poopy feeling, and kills her excitement, leading to her making other plans or just canceling outright.

The solution?

Try to stick to the same texting pattern as before. You don’t have to exchange more than one text per day. It could even be less, as long as there’s still good vibes between the two of you. And definitely check in on the day of the date.

This lets her know the date is still on and that you’re still excited to see her.

• “Hey hey [Her Name], see you later. If I beat you there, I’ll see you out front.”
• “Morning! Can’t wait to try those dumplings you were talking about when I see you later.”

Easy, right? For more details, check my next article.

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Ask any girl out in 4 steps

This isn’t a hard rule, but most interactions in your Hinge convo will roughly follow this order.

Step 1: Get her interested

Before she’s interested in seeing you in real life, she wants to know if you’re any fun to be with. She doesn’t need to know your life’s story, but she does need to know that you’re fun and enjoyable to talk with (and not a psycho stalker).

What does that mean for you?

• Show her that you’re not afraid to flirt and playfully tease her a little.
• Show excitement. Show that you’re having a great time with her.
• Be confident. Show her that you value yourself and you’re not needy.

Step 2: Make her feel safe with you

It doesn’t really matter how hot and fun you are… your Hinge crush won’t meet you unless she feels safe enough. And that comes from trust.

Here are a few ways to build trust on Hinge.

• Ask questions. A mix of fun and personal ones are great.
• Share personal, everyday things. This creates more familiarity. (Not how long the dirt snake in your toilet was this morning though, keep it classy).
• Speak in terms of ‘we’ and ‘us.’ This creates togetherness, making you feel closer, even though you aren’t (yet).

Step 3: Get her excited about meeting you

Fun Hinge conversation may be enough for her to want to meet you. But subtly hinting you desire her sexually is what really creates sparks.

Remember, subtly. That means no talking about your engorged eggplant or saying anything vulgar (you still keep it classy). But little hints of sexualizing your conversation go a long way to make things more exciting.

Here are a few ways to sexualize your convo before asking her out on Hinge.

• Using words with both a sexual and non sexual meaning. E.g. box, hard, rough.
• You can misinterpret things she says into something sexual. Like saying she’s hitting on you if she gives you a compliment.
• Use more sexual language. Nothing raunchy, but words like “that’s hot” or “damn, I’m turned on now knowing you only shower once a week.”

Step 4: Ask her out via text

When you ask her out, that’s the moment she’ll grant you all your wildest fantasies. Or crush your spirit like opening up a Christmas gift and finding socks.

Once you’ve reached the point where the vibe is good, ask her out using one of the texts we’ve covered in this article.

And if she says no…you can always eat your feelings with a tub or two of chocolate ice cream. Diabutus be damned.

But here’s what to do if she says no.

What do you do when you ask her out and she says no?

If she says no to your Hinge date,  it’s not the end. You probably still have a shot. After all, most girls won’t talk to a guy unless she’s somewhat interested in meeting him.

So be cool if she isn’t ready to go out with you YET.

Don’t take it personally and voice your frustration or act butthurt. Instead, be understanding. It’s not too crazy an idea if she has a busy schedule, is in a bit of a funk, or isn’t quite sold on you just yet.

Instead, send her one of these playful texts to keep that fun connection strong.

• “No worries. 🙂 I’ll check in with you next week and we can plan something then.”
• “Uhmmm hellooo this is where you tell me when you’re free dingus xoxo.”
• “You rejecting my date proposal is only turning me on more. You’re welcome.“

How to ask a girl out online – Conclusion

There are scarier things out there than asking a girl out on Hinge. Death by Snu Snu, for example.

But just remember to create positive emotions, keep your dates simple, and make planning the date details fun.

Yes, before asking her out, you have to make her interested, lightly sexualize your conversation, and make her feel safe. All Hinge convos will have these elements.

Nobody wants to go on a date with someone they aren’t excited about.

And if she isn’t excited, she’s not going to meet you. Tuff luv.

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Enjoy.

Blessings,
Louis Farfields

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