If you’re here you’re probably in one of two camps:
You want advice on how to get a one night stand over text.
Or, you had a one night stand and want to know what to say to get another adult playdate.
Because you’ll get both.
- Step 1: Pick the right dating app for a one night stand
- Step 2: Building an irresistible profile that’s friendzone proof
- Step 3: Six ways to start the convo right
- Step 4: Creating a convo that leads to a one night stand
- Step 5: Ask her out without being desperate
- Step 6: Have an epic first date
- Step 7: How to make the one night stand a flying success
Step 1: Pick the right dating app for a one night stand
Although every dating app can lead to a hookup, not all dating apps are created equal.
The two that will most likely get you what you need are:
They both have a casual nature and are incredibly popular.
But finding the right app is only half the job.
The other half is being in the right place.
While swiping from home is perfectly fine, it’ll definitely get you in touch with the type of women you’re after, dating on your home turf is not ideal.
Your area has thousands of people like you.
So you’re one of many. Ordinary. Basic.
Drive to a different city, another state, or fly halfway across the globe and you’ll be much more unique.
And that’s sexy.
So if you want to make finding a one night stand easy, go someplace where there’s nobody like you.
Let me give you some inspiration:
- The ultimate guide to Tinder in Ukraine
- The ultimate guide to Tinder in Thailand
- The ultimate guide to Tinder in LA
Step 2: Building an irresistible profile that’s friendzone proof
Most dudes know how to build an okay-ish Tinder profile that can get some matches.
But hardly any dude knows how to build a profile that leads to one night stands.
You see, the two aren’t the same.
Matches ≠ girls open to adult playtime
Many new members of my TextGod Mentoring Program come to me with this exact problem:
They get matches. Even dates. But these girls always seem to want a relationship.
Where is it going wrong?
It’s communicating the wrong things.
If your profile shows you being mature, responsible and caring, girls will want to date-date you. Not just swing by for some late night bedroom calisthenics.
To get girls who are open to one night stands, you need to show you’re adventurous and a bit rough around the edges.
But be careful.
Look too rough in your dating profile and you’ll seem untrustworthy. Perhaps even a bit scary.
For more tips on how to build a profile for one night stands, download my free dating profile checklist HERE.
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Step 3: Six ways to start the convo right
I know guys with incredible dating profiles that barely get any dates.
They ruin almost every match instantly by sending something dumb.
Mainly things like:
Which is just AWFUL.
More awful than the finale of Game of Thrones.
Stuff like ‘Hey’ and ‘How are you?’ are insanely uncreative and boring.
They don’t stimulate her emotions at all.
And that’s what your first line must do if you want her to reply.
That’s why I’m giving you an opener which almost no woman can ignore, the clickbait opener.
For 5 more lines that get ladies into bed, check out my next video:
Step 4: Creating a convo that leads to a one night stand
You can’t just talk about anything and hope it’ll get you laid.
That’ll probably just get you ghosted or unmatched.
(By the way, being ghosted doesn’t mean it’s game over. With these 11 tips you have a good chance of breathing new life into the conversation.)
So what DO you say if you want to make her excited about seeing you?
Well, many roads lead to the sweet town of Vageen.
Which is why I’m not going to say one is better than the other.
Instead, I’m going to give you a bunch that I’ve already talked about extensively in this article:
As you’re using one of these 5 ways to keep the conversation ball rolling, you want to remember a crucial thing:
Don’t forget to flirt and tease!
That’s the fuel that keeps all convos going.
For the best way to tease a girl I recommend checking out this article of mine:
Step 5: Ask her out without being desperate
Please, for the love of TextGod, don’t wait forever to ask her out.
While keeping her waiting a little longer than usual builds suspense, waiting too long will make her grow bored of you.
So ask her out when the time is right!
How can you tell?
When you see all the signals:
- She’s using a lot of emojis
- She’s asking a lot of questions
- She’s doom scrolling your Instagram feed and just liked a 3-year-old photo
These are just a few of the signs that a girl likes you. For more check out my next article:
If the signs are there, asking her out will be easy. Although it’s still possible to turn her off by asking her out like a chode.
My next youtube video will tell you how to ask a girl out over text the cool way:
Step 6: Have an epic first date
Just because you got her out on the date doesn’t mean you’ll get the one night stand.
She has to feel some sparks.
Or at the very least feel relaxed and attracted to you.
How do you make that happen?
By sticking to the next principle:
Keep the date dynamic.
If you’re going to meet and stay in one place, you may as well stay home with your laptop browsing Pornhub.
- Sitting still is boring
- Sitting still increases nerves. You’re looking at each other for entertainment and if one of you fumbles then it feels awkward
- Sitting still is forgettable. Even if you had a good time, her memories have nothing significant to latch onto so it’ll feel lackluster when she gets home (maybe not so big of a deal if you don’t care about seeing her again)
So keep the date dynamic!
- Meet a 5-minute walk away from the cocktail bar you’re taking her to
- Do one drink at the bar and leave
- On your way to the ice cream shop, walk through the park
- Buy ice cream and walk along the promenade as the sun sets
- Say you want to show her an awesome show on Netflix and take her home
IMPORTANT: you don’t always have to have such a busy date.
If she’s super into you and all you want is a one night stand, take her home right after you finish your cocktails!
But here’s the rub.
She has to like you first.
That’s why I want to give you a video where I explain the 10 signs that your date likes you:
Do you recognize the signs?
Invite her over to your place, stud.
Step 7: How to make the one night stand a flying success
Just because she’s coming over to your place doesn’t mean it’s time to celebrate.
Yes, you’re close.
But one wrong move and she’ll be out of your home and out of your life forever.
So how do you guarantee the one night stand once she’s coming over?
- Make sure your house smells good. You can’t have your place smelling like a dead armadillo that’s been baking in the scorching summer heat. So empty your trash can, vacuum your carpets and rugs, and burn a few scented candles before the date (don’t leave them on when you leave the house)
- Clean up the place. A dirty home is a huge turn off for most women. In fact, a filthy bathroom is a special kind of nightmare fuel. Do you want to do the absolute minimum? Hide all your bedroom’s mess under the bed and throw on some fresh sheets
- Have good lighting. Lights are a great mood setter. Anything bright and harsh is too reminiscent of an office, instead opt for romantic soft lights. Anything with a dim light is usually good
- Put on some chill music. Visiting the home of a stranger is always a little stressful. To help put her at ease, put on some tunes
- Show her around. When I bring a stranger home, I always give them a little house tour. Not only does it make conversation easy (I already know what I’m going to talk about), it also makes her more comfortable with the situation because she has a better understanding of me and the house
Lastly, use protection.
I know that many dudes find ‘raw dogging’ something to be proud of, but it’s also dumb if you don’t know where she’s been.
Anyway, these were the 7 steps to get a one night stand over text.
Enjoy, my friend.
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