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And you have no idea why.
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What’s the best way to keep a Tinder conversation going?
By remembering what Tinder is all about: making someone excited to meet you. And the best way to do that is by showing off your personality in a fun way.
How does this insight keep the Tinder conversation going?
Because your conversations now have a clear sense of direction. Instead of having empty, meaningless chit-chat, you now steer conversations toward fun.
What does fun look like?
That’s what the rest of this article is all about.
Five easy ways to keep the conversation going
Not many people enjoy reading nowadays.
That’s why I made a video where I share my 5 most effective ways to keep the conversation going.
After the video, you’ll always know what to say to your Tinder match.
Check it out here:
1. Figure out if you like her
One of the biggest reasons why guys don’t know what to say on Tinder is this.
They’re obsessed with getting a reply.
All they can think of is, “What should I say? What should I say? What should I say?”
And that leads them to saying and asking stuff that they don’t care about:
A friend of mine let me look at her Tinder and I found one of these poor guys in her inbox.
That’s why the first step to keeping a conversation should always start with…
…knowing if she’s a person that you’d actually like a reply from!
Just because she looks pretty in a tank top doesn’t mean you need her attention.
If you’re following my guides and tips, you should have plenty of cute girls in tank tops to chat with anyway!
So from now on, ask yourself this:
- Would I like to hang out with her if I could never touch her delicates?
- If not, what would I need to know about her to change my mind?
By being curious about her, you won’t feel the need to ask and say dull things that put the conversation to rest.
2. Use open-ended questions
A lot of conversations die out quickly because you’re not giving her room to invest.
She might want to tell you more. But if you don’t give her the opportunity, many women won’t.
So if you ask your Tinder match:
You shouldn’t be surprised if she doesn’t put in lots of effort into her answer.
So what do you do?
You make it easy for her to put effort into the conversation.
And an easy way to do that is by asking…
Preferably of the fun variety.
- What would you do if you didn’t have to work tomorrow?
- Out of all the people on earth (living or dead), who would you like to hang out with?
- What’s something that you’d like to do more of if you had the time?
Sure, these aren’t hilarious questions.
But they’re pretty fun to answer because they let her imagine a brighter future.
3. Show some social intelligence
Sometimes a conversation on Tinder starts off so strong that everything seems to flow so effortlessly toward the date.
Wouldn’t it be nice if that could happen with every conversation?
Sadly, I can’t guarantee you smooth convos every time. But this tip will make them MUCH more frequent.
Understand her point of view.
Let me explain with an example.
A friend of mine is called ‘Yane’. And she’s on Tinder.
You’ll be amazed at how many of her matches come up with the same icebreaker.
If you’re as big of a nitpicker as I am, ‘Jane’ and ‘Yane’ are clearly not the same. But this seems to pose no problem for hundreds of men.
She gets these terrible Tarzan texts. All. The. Time.
How can you use this to your advantage?
By understanding what she’s going through!
A good first text might be:
But if I’m honest with you, many guys have already adapted to this level of thinking.
So a much better first impression would be:
The teasy and cocky elements make this icebreaker 169x better.
When you have a brilliant idea for a text, think for a second if you are not acting like the rest of the world.
4. Limit the nice guy vibes
Firstly, there’s nothing wrong with being nice.
So please don’t start acting like an asshole because you think it’ll help you get into a girl’s pants.
What you want to avoid is being TOO NICE.
This will make you feel more like a cutesey teddy than someone she wants to get jiggy with.
What’s the big problem here?
Once she sees you as a sexless cuddly toy, she’ll probably lose interest in texting you.
After all, she’s on Tinder to date a man.
So if you want to keep the Tinder conversation going, stop adding emojis and hahas to your every text.
It makes you seem too childish haha. 🙂
There are much better ways to keep a Tinder conversation going.
Just take a look at this conversation of mine:
Notice how ‘girly’ her way of texting is?
That’s because she’s constantly laughing and using emojis.
Read the conversation again and look at the contrast between the blue and grey text bubbles. Seriously, do it right now if you haven’t done it.
Spamming laughter and emojis isn’t attractive for guys.
Stop it already.
5. Go against the flow
I’m about to get a little graphic here.
But I have a question for you:
“What do you think the average guy does when a girl that he really likes says something that he doesn’t agree with?”
The dude takes off his and gets on his hands and knees. Then he presents his butt to his crush and asks her to insert the strap-on. (Just to be clear: nothing ghey about butt stuff huehue.)
In nicer words: the average dude swallows his words and nods like a smiley bobblehead.
What’s wrong with this behavior?
You’re being untrustworthy!
If you never have a contrasting thought, she’ll know you’re not speaking your mind.
And women find that incredibly offputting.
That’s why I want you to PLAYFULLY show that you don’t always agree with her.
This girl is posing with the American flag in her first picture on Tinder.
Immediately after she apologizes for it in her Tinder bio.
Which I find a little sad.
Both the opener and the texts show a manly attitude that goes against the flow.
6. Ask her out when the time’s right
A biiiiig mistake most guys make is the following.
They once had a good thing going on, but are now feeling her pull away and growing distant.
So in a last-ditch effort to keep her from slipping away entirely, they…
…ask her out.
They’re asking her out on an emotional low.
She’s not excited about talking to you right now. Otherwise, the conversation wouldn’t be dying out, right?
So although you definitely want to do something to save the conversation, asking her out isn’t going to bring the convo back to life!
If anything, it’s the death blow.
Next time you sense the Tinder conversation is dying, do this intead:
Use the personality slice.
If this doesn’t make sense to you now, no worries.
I explain EVERYTHING about the ‘personality slice’ in my seminar recording.
You can watch it by clicking the gold button at the end of the article.
7. Keep your texts short and snappy
Here’s something you need to carve into your brain.
Strangers don’t have time to respond to walls of text.
Firstly, you’re putting her on the spot.
If you send her a long-ass text, it almost becomes rude for her to send you something short.
Secondly, most guys send walls of text to impress her.
Just look at this screenshot from one of my clients. Things were going well until he realized they had a shared interest.
Then he chose (perhaps unconsciously) to convince her how special and good they are for each other.
These are the kind of texts that birthed the term tl;dr.
Too long; didn’t read
Although text from my client is about diving and stuff…
He’s actually saying: “OMG. I’m so glad this girl also dives. I’ll go ahead and tell her half of my life story. I hope we get married soon. <3″
So here’s the rule of thumb I want you to keep in mind from now on:
Whenever you have something in common, take a breath, and have fun with it.
Here’s a playful reaction to her last text, where she writes:
8. Switch up your response time
Question for you: “Should you ‘punish’ a girl who’s a slow texter by being slow to reply yourself?”
If you answered anything other than…
…HEEEEEEELL NO!… you’re doing it wrong.
And that’s great! Because now you can finally start doing it right.
Because what happens if you also choose to reply slowly?
You suck all the flow out of the Tinder conversation so that she’ll lose interest, and then you end up lonely in your bed watching ‘Backdoor Sluts 9’.
Forget all formulas and revenge plans.
Text back when you can. This means that if you get a text and can answer right away, you actually do that.
WARNING: Are you always available because you have nothing going on? Then this will obviously make you seem unattractive. You’re just too available.
So create a fun life for yourself so that you’re not always glued to your phone!
Once you’re doing cool stuff with your life, you’ll automatically be a little unpredictable with your response time.
Plus, it’ll give you cool stuff to talk about.
Don’t be like this girl.
9. Keep your balls in check
Yep, I know.
You’ve got balls.
Healthy, functional testicles.
You love women and enjoy the attention they give you.
Your balls love positive responses from women on Tinder.
And that can your texts a little too enthusiastic.
Nothing wrong with being enthusiastic. Enthusiastic people are a nice change.
But if you keep acting like an excited puppy, the subtext of your messages say:
“ I rarely get such good responses, I’m completely baffled by this!”
Do you catch yourself getting too energized by her texts?
Chill out and do something else. Maybe put on ‘Backdoor Sluts 9’ and take 30min for yourself.
10. Ask her fun questions
I know exactly what you want.
Quite a statement, I know.
Besides all the examples and principles you are getting here, you would love to get some copy-paste questions that she loves to answer. Right?
Okay, so here’s the secret to being fun.
Let me explain it with a story.
The other day, I was on a Tinder date, and the girl was complaining about all the guys on the dating app. How every guy was asking her “If she’s done something fun lately or is planning to”.
She described this as generic and vague. Or in her own words:
“What do you MEAN? Do you think I don’t do fun stuff? AND how bored are you to ask me such a senseless question?”
As she left my place the next day, I texted her:
She thought it was hilarious.
Anyway, this all means that the best questions to ask her are…
…original and relevant to her and the conversation!
If you’re talking about food, it’s kinda weird to suddenly ask her about how many siblings she has.
If you actually are talking about food, it’d be better to ask:
See how playful this is?
Anyway, here are a bunch more creative and playful questions that you can use at the right time:
- What’s your next holiday destination and when are we going?
- I see you’re a [profession]. Would you still pick that if you could be anything?
- Would you rather date Chandler or Ross?
- You seem very outgoing. Were you already like that in high school?
- What would you do if you could be a man for a day?
- What’s your most played Spotify song of this year?
- It seems like you have a lot of hobbies. What’s something that you’d like to do more of if you had the time?
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11. Fix your mistakes
Look, it’s awesome to match a girl and meet up with her hours later.
But it’s also not the most realistic.
Sometimes meeting up with women will go fast, but much more often than not it’ll go slow.
And there’s nothing wrong with that.
As long as you’re being chill and playful, she’ll HIGHLY likely get excited to meet you!
Go too fast, however, and you’ll fugg everything up.
Here’s an example of someone who I’ll call, Mr. Robot.
You can see how he tries to keep the text conversation going in the example below:
And what he’s consistently doing, is…
…not understanding where she’s at.
He keeps pushing for a meet-up even though she’s CLEARLY not into it yet.
- Even after she says she’s a ‘good girl’, he’s fishing for a get-together in the early hours of the morning.
- He then promises to drive her home like a gentleman after ‘hanging out’.
- Finally, he hits the last nail in the conversational coffin with his marriage comment. He has so many of them lined up he doesn’t know when he can plan their marriage.
But despite all his mistakes, he could have probably recovered if…
…he followed my techniques from the Over The Top Textgame workshop.
Just like my client does in this Tinder screenshot:
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