Let’s face it, some people are pretty bad texters.
And if you don’t make up for their dull replies, your conversation will die out fast.
That’s why I’m going to give you lots of simple and fun ways to respond to dry texts to keep them interested.In this article:More...
What Is Dry Texting?
We say someone is a dry texter when they seem uninterested in the conversation. You can recognise their disinterest by signs in the form of: one-word replies, uninteresting answers, lack of questions, and untimely responses. Dry texts can also lack humor or fail to recognize it, leaving you bored and discouraged.
What Do Dry Texts Look Like?
It is pretty easy to be bummed out by a dry text. But you might not even know you’re talking to a dry texter until you can identify a few telltale signs. Dry texts are the opposite of exciting and often involve the next elements:
- Overly polite language. When we’re with friends or people we like, we tend to use more informal language.
- Dry messages are often short. “My weekend was fine. Thanks.”
- No follow-through. It doesn’t nudge the conversation forward, leaving the other person to do the heavy lifting.
- Slow response time. A lagging response adds to the dryness.
How To Respond To And Avoid Dry Texts
Sometimes the person you’re chatting with is just a dry texter. They don’t know any better. But more often than not, you’re contributing to the dry texts too.
So here come a series of tips to make your conversations more fun and engaging.
1. Choose Fun Topics
Not all topics are equal. And just because you enjoy talking about the perfect viewing order of the Star Wars movies doesn’t mean they do. Plus, if you stay on a fun topic long enough, it also becomes boring. Yes, even when it’s about assembling the perfect burrito.
So what are some fun topics that avoid dry texts?
- Fun experiences. “How long has it been since your last rollercoaster ride?”
- Movies and television. “Can we be honest about 2 Broke Girls? How terrible was that documentary?!”
- Exciting hypotheticals. “What would you do for fun if you had half a billion dollars to spend in one week?”
Also don’t stick to a topic if you sense that her interest is waning. Better to keep things fresh.
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2. Keep It Emotional
Ever considered what makes a woman fall for a guy? Let me tell you the secret.
Feelings! If she’s remotely attracted to you, she just wants to feel stuff when she’s chatting with you. It’s really that simple.
That’s why the worst thing for you to do is to have polite, everyday conversation. Unless you want to put her to sleep.
Your job is to keep things emotional.
And one of the easiest ways to do that is to give ordinary chit-chat an emotional twist.
Suppose I want to say, “How are you?” Then I’m not going to say it like that because I’m not a peasant. Instead, I might say something like:
- A general share and ask: “I just spent the last half hour doing laundry. Tell me you’ve been doing something more interesting.”
- If she has a pet: “What have you and your cute doggo been up to today?”
- If you want to make it a little flirty: “Waddup, senorita? Thought I’d give you an excuse to text me back. ;)”
3. Ask Open-Ended Questions
Preventing dry texts doesn’t get any easier than this.
Sometimes, getting dry texts is your fault. If you’re asking closed yes/no questions and setting yourself up for failure. Be sure to ask fun and easy questions that invite her to write more than 3 words.
- “What’s the weirdest thing that happened to you this week? For me it was seeing a dude take his thing out in front of my office window.”
- “If you met a time traveler from the future, what questions would you ask them?”
- “You can quit one habit with a finger snap. What is it?”
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4. Psychoanalyze Her Texts
I’m about to give you one of the simplest and most powerful ways to spike her emotions. With emotions at an all-time high, she couldn’t even write a dry text if she wanted to.
First some context.
Even if her texts are brief, it’s still saying something. Don’t just take it at face value. Consider what her answer says about her.
Suppose you asked her what she was up to and she answers this.
There are many wants to interpret that. But let’s try to find the most emotionally stimulating way.
Here’s what I came up with.
As you can see, I playfully implied she was teasing me. A phrase you typically use in a romantic context. So what I’m saying really is that she’s flirting with me.
If your goal is to fix a dry text conversation, you obviously don’t always want to say she’s being a tease. It may not fit the conversation. Instead, I want you to look for the text that’ll evoke emotions.
After all, if she’s feeling something intensely, it’s 69x more likely that she’ll repy with something fun rather than dry.
5. Share Your Views
Another great way to keep the conversation from getting dry.
Give your opinion.
No matter how short her text, it’s always in relation to some random topic. Such as movies, the weather, family life, hobbies, whatever.
Suppose she just texted you:
What are YOUR opinions on peanutbutter? Do you like it or dislike it? Hate it or love it? The stronger the opinion, the better.
Here’s something that I might say, depending on my mood:
Don’t have a strong opinion? Then you can playfully fake one.
Imagine she just sent you this:
6. Give Her Something She Likes
If you’re dealing with a dry texter, you need to put in a little more work than usual. So I’m going to give you a close to effortless solution.
Discover what she’s into and give her more of it.
Let me explain.
One of the best things of getting to know someone is figuring out what they like. And then giving them what they like!
You probably have specific types of jokes and memes that you send to certain friends. The girl that you’re into? You want to treat her just like that.
Give her things that will brighten her day.
Whether that’s dog memes, the name of a new TV show, a cool song, a piece of burnt toast that looks like her. If you do your job right, she’ll love your gesture. Even if it isn’t exactly her cup of tea.
She’ll appreciate the effort. So much in fact, that she’ll most likely give you a fun and emotional response.
If you can figure out and give her what she likes, I guarantee you’ll get close to zero dry texts from her.
IMPORTANT: I’m not suggesting you should interview her about her likes and dislikes. This is something that happens over time. I’m simply pointing out that you want to pay extra attention to her interests.
7. Turn Up The Heat
Probably the most common reason why people send dry texts is because they’re bored. Or in a bad mood.
Solution? Raise the vibe.
Flirt. Tease. Challenge. Joke.
Whatever you feel like is missing from your conversation, do that.
Imagination time: you’re having a boring conversation and she just sent you this text.
What’s something playful you can reply?
Here’s a playful response I just came up with:
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8. Talk About The Important Things
This is probably one of the most overlooked ways to make her smile and prevent dry texts.
Checking in on the important things.
Everyone has ambitions and life goals. Things that matter to them. Some small (a trip to the beach with her friends), some big (finding a new home in another part of town). It helps to know what she’s up to and then ask about her experience.
It shows that you pay attention. Plus, because it matters to her, she’ll want to talk about it.
So no need to make your text particularly creative or emotional.
- “So how was your beach trip? Catch any waves?”
- “Did you go check that new apartment already? How was it?”
9. Make An Inside Joke
Nothing is more powerful than reminding someone of the unique bond that the two of you share. And one of the best ways to do that is to bring up an inside joke.
You may think that you don’t have any.
But if you’ve known someone for a few weeks, I guarantee that you’ll already have some good material. Heck, one day is good enough if you know what to look for.
One of my favorite ways to create an inside joke is by using callbacks. Here’s a simple one you can probably use right away.
Find out what TV show she’s into.
From then on, you can just send her playful reaction GIFs from characters from the show whenever appropriate.
Suppose she brings up a boring topic and she’s really into the sitcom Seinfeld. Then our convo might look something like this.
Inside jokes are a mega easy fix to a dry text conversation.
10. Drop A Voice Note
One of the best ways to help a dry texter is to keep things emotionally stimulating. And there are few things more emotionally stimulating and attractive to a woman than hearing a man’s voice.
Well, if she already likes that man.
And since you’re consuming my articles and content, she probably thinks you’re a baller.
So send her a voice note already!
“Well, I’m not really sure what to talk about, Louis.”
Don’t overthink it. Just briefly reply to her last text if it merits a response, then share a highlight about your day or week.
Perhaps about how you saw a cat chase a fox (true story), a cool book that you just started reading, or a holiday trip you just booked.
As long as you talk about something you enjoy, then you’ll do just fine.
And in doubt, you can always pick up the phone and call her. Just because I’m a TextGod doesn’t mean that I’m allergic to telephoning.
How To Respond To Dry Texts – Summary
No one really likes dry texts. Even the person who sends them usually wants to do better if they could.
That’s why it’s hugely important to be able to steer your text conversation towards fun. If you do it right, you’ll never have a dry conversation again.
So where do you start?
By learning how to send engaging and emotionally stimulating texts. The more opportunities for fun you create, the more lubed up your conversation will be.
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