Are you sometimes unsure what to text?
You’re doubtful about every message and you keep praying she’ll react.
You don’t know how to start a Tinder conversation.
And then you came here.
Read what I have to say, integrate my tips, buy a couple heavy golden chains and a cane with a diamond skull on top of it. Because after reading this article you’ll bet he biggest pimp she ever ran into on Tinder.
In this article you’re getting:
- 17 Screenshots and examples so you’ll always know what to text
- How to start a conversation when she ONLY has selfies…
- The 3 biggest mistakes Tinder Losers make
- What a woman thinks when she swipes you right
- What you never want to say if you want a text back
- 3 Types of Tinder girls (and how to seduce them)
- The biggest mistake in your pickup lines
- A screenshot example on how I open a curvy beauty
- What to text women with animals in their profile
- Much more…
By the way, did you know there is one opener SO good, that I don't want every peasant to get a hold of it. It uses the psychological principle of clickbait, making it irresistible to ignore. I included it in a free video with 7 real life text examples + 2 bonus follow-up lines to use after the opener. Download it for free here.
You can start by watching the video I made with 5 ways to start the convo!
Or if you prefer to read, then just head on!
How most guys instantly ruin their matches
Imagine the following situation:
Your alarm goes off in the morning and you calmly wake up.
You grab your phone to check your messages. Then the world’s greatest dating app pops up… Tinder.
You swipe a couple times and you see a gorgeous female specimen.
You get slightly aroused.
*ding ding ding ding*
“It’s a Match!”
Her name is Sarah. She’s super hot and apparently, she likes you back…
You browse her photos, her body is just how you like it.
Now you’re really getting aroused.
You imagine how it would be to meet up with her and kiss her soft lips.
You imagine touching her body with its luscious curves while she whispers in your ear.
Her naked body pressed firmly against yours.
Just the thought of it drives you nuts and you can’t wait to get her in your bed.
Before she even thinks about crawling in bed with you, there’s something you need to do…
You have to seduce her.
You need to press the right emotional buttons and make her attracted with just words. Because that’s all you get on Tinder.
Say one wrong word and she’s gone.
Talk too much and she’s gone.
And worst of all, even when you say nothing at all… she’s gone.
You have to talk to her, but you have to say exactly the right thing if you want to stand a chance.
So you shoot her a text and you start the Tinder conversation:
You sent the first message and now you wait.
A minute goes by… nothing happens.
You look again every 5 minutes – still nothing.
You feel ashamed.
A couple hours later your lonely message is still there… all by itself.
When you wake up the next morning you once again stumble upon a blank screen…
…no word from her at all.
You had one chance to meet up with this gorgeous woman and you blew it.
And it hurts…
You become nauseous because you know you missed a woman you could have easily met up with…
…but you just keep getting rejected again and again.
3 Ways to instantly screw up the conversation
If you say the wrong thing you’ll instantly get judged. She won’t like it and she won’t respond.
But that doesn’t mean it’s game over for you.
To help you out, bro, we’re going to look at some texts my holiday girlfriend gets.
Thanks to the chanceless guys in her inbox, we can see what to do…
…and especially what not to do. So can avoid painful situations.
So let’s see what kind of texts my girlfriend from overseas get in her Tinder inbox.
Make sure to wear your favorite hater-glasses, because we’re not going to go easy on these guys.
Mistake #1 — Being ordinary
Here’s the first way you DON’T start a conversation on Tinder:
You’ve definitely sent this yourself sometimes.
The good old “hey” or some other greeting.
And I know, you’ve also received a response to this sometimes, but more often than not, you got blatantly ignored.
And unless you’re the submissive type that enjoys getting dominated hardcore, or enjoys being ignored, it’s best you stop using this greeting.
Because if you do… well then “you not get a reply :(“
It’s the text that gets sent by people who can’t think of anything.
Mistake #2 — Being a kiss ass.
The following is something my female friends often complain about.
Let me paraphrase this opener for you:
“I’m so sorry,
I’m trying to be funny
But I don’t realize
That I have the self-image
of a piece of used
You NEVER start a conversation by complimenting her looks.
You swiped her right on Tinder, which already confirms you like the way she looks.
By repeating it you’re saying nothing more than “I usually don’t talk to someone as good-looking as you. I’m so fūcking excited!”
Humor is welcomed in your opener. I advise you to. But if you do, then do it well. More on that later.
To conclude this tip, I have an equally terrible text example for:
No, Jacques, you can’t. Now GTFO.
Mistake #3 — Showing her you have no sense of self worth
Alright, my dearest reader, if there’s one thing that really upsets my stomach, it’s guys with no self-respect.
That, and my ex’s cooking.
Lo and behold:
First of all I’d like to apologize for my fellow Tinder coaches on the internet.
I’m afraid this line was copy-pasted from a blog where guys who haven’t been on a date since 2009 give advice.
Let’s break it down and learn from this mistake:
“I’m joking *emoji*… How are you?”
Unfortunately, he wasn’t joking.
The spontaneous row of heart-eye-emojis followed by the “funny” question about being her first mistake this year, say enough.
He doesn’t get why he’s matching with such a goddess and gets overwhelmed by his excitement.
But not willing to be that flirty, he paddles back to boring land.
By stating he’s joking and asking how she’s doing. One of the most frequently used openers on the dating app.
Now this Tinder conversation officially opens with the worst of three worlds:
- Being overexcited from the get go
- Cliché way of flirting
- Boring questions
But it could be worse…
My dearest reader, lower the brightness of your screen because the cringe that’s about to appear on your screen, is not something you want radiating on your precious face too much.
AW AW AW AW AW AW AW AW AW AW AW AW
I don’t even want to talk about this or I’ll break my keyboard.
At the same time I hope as many guys as possible read my Tinder tips, so I can help them out.
Bonus mistake — Being The Creeper
So, here’s a nice summary on the biggest mistakes with starting a Tinder conversation:
- Standard greetings
- Compliments (on her appearance)
- A lack of self-worth
Now, since you’re reading this and you’re a man of action, I’ll assume you’ve already done some research.
Or that you already know a couple of things about seduction and dating.
If my assumption is correct, then you already know that, as a man, you should be clear in your intent. ASAP.
When I taught bootcamps I always told my students that if they’re talking to a woman and after 5 minutes she has no clue why they’re talking to her…
…they’ll get a spanking.
You need to be clear in your intent right from the start.
But you need to do this the right way…
…otherwise you’ll soon be The Creeper.
Asking some for sex and fried chicken in the first message, never works. Unless if you’re talking to me. I never say no to fried chicken.
And I admit, I giggled a little at this guy’s choice of words and the juicy combo of fried chicken and coitus, but learn your lesson:
No sexual messages in the beginning of the Tinder conversation.
Tinder can work perfectly fine for YOU.
Every once in a while, there’s a follower that approaches me with something like:
“Yo Louis, Tinder just doesn’t work for me. I can keep a conversation in real life but on Tinder I’m 100% chanceless.”
Which is funny to me, because he has all 3 requirements to be successful on Tinder:
- He looks better than a 1/10
- He understands and speaks English
- He has fingers to type with
So remember this:
Everyone with a normal appearance can be successful on Tinder.
And even people with REAL difficulties in life make it happen for them:
I keep getting students that didn’t get further than a big stack of rejections and a couple weak matches.
And every time, they are amazed at the dates they get under my guidance.
The same goes for you there, behind your screen.
With a finely tuned Tinder profile and armed with the correct text-knowledge, you’re rejections go down by 69% and your matches will increase by 6969%. Approximately.
But every Tinderer soon learns that there’s a huge difference between a match and a date.
There’s always going to be girls whose messages consist of 99% “haha”.
And girls who reply once every 500 matches.
But all other girls are just waiting for you to send the right kind of texts.
Let me tell you some secrets.
What does it really mean to have a Tinder Match?
You’ve got a match.
Let’s dive into the psychological process behind this.
Having a match means that she:
- Saw your profile
- Saw all your photos and approved of them
- Read your profile text and approved of it
- Is attracted to you
- Most likely wants you to bang the shiiet out of her
The only thing it ACTUALLY means is that she:
Finds your profile just barely good enough to let you speak.
She finds your profile super interesting and wants to know more.
One of both and everything in between. But in most cases it’ll be something close to option #1.
So she hasn’t been dreaming of your head between her soft thighs yet. And she also hasn’t been discussing potential date plans in the girl-chat on Facebook.
She saw your profile and she thought:
“Meh, who knows”
So she swiped your face right.
That’s pretty much the true meaning of “It’s a Match!”
Is that bad? Is it problematic that she might not be screaming super enthusiastically when she sees your profile?
That, my dearest reader, is totally p-e-r-f-e-c-t.
You now have the match and you can talk.
And being able to talk to her, that’s the ONLY thing you need to do right now.
Because exactly that talking, is what I am going to be teaching you step by step on this site.
Just like my homeboy Leo and his students:
It all starts with “barely good enough to speak” and a couple sentence exchanges later, Leo has another 10k in the pocket.
That’s exactly the process you need to go through. And this gives you a clear goal of any Tinder conversation… from start to finish.
Your Tinder matches have to change their opinion of you from
- Just good enough to talk to me
- Yes, I’d love to go for a drink with you. Here’s my number:
So let’s have a look at how exactly we initiate such a Tinder conversation.
I have a nice and clear example for you that’ll often help you out.
How you instantly score these three types of girls
There’s a lot of different sorts of women on Tinder.
But once you pay close attention, you’ll notice there’s a certain type of girl that you see more often.
Two quite innocent types… and one more seductive and naughty type.
For each of them, there is a best way to start the conversation in Tinder that instantly separates you from the plebs. The plebs who seem to be in an endless game of “who can get ignored most?”
Let’s have a look at the different types of girls and how to effortlessly begin the convo with them.
#1 — Women with doggos (or other animals)
The first type we’ll discuss are ladies with their loyal dog companions.
This Swedish blonde threw in a duckface next to her dog sticking out its tongue.
And you’ll notice there’s quite a number of girls posing with mister Doggelson.
Which is good news for you, my dearest Tinderfriend, because you will be super-efficient in starting chats with them. And save yourself some good ol’ time.
What you’re going to do when you see the combination of woman+dog on your screen, is this:
“Wow you look super cute…”
When she reads this, her interest will dwindle for a couple milliseconds. She’ll classify you as Jacques the Cringelord from earlier in this article. Remember him?
Damned, there he is again. Get the hell out of here, Jacques!
The good part about this opener is that it soon becomes clear that we were talking about her dog, not her. Although she’s gorgeous too!
“And your human is pretty ok too ;)”
Remember that women treat their pets as their children. A compliment on their child is 37 times more powerful than a compliment about herself.
On top of that, a woman never wants someone they can instantly get. She wants someone she’s put effort in. That challenges her. This witty way to initiate the conversation on Tinder is exactly that.
Anyway, girls with pets are easy to open with this line.
#2 The woman that only shows one side
If you start looking attentively at girls’ profiles, you’ll start to see patterns.
And I look at every little detail with the focus of a mufukkin’ LASER.
One thing you’ll notice is that women tend to take their selfies from the same side over and over again.
Moreover, instead of just shooting it from the same side, they’ll snap their selfie from the exact same angle. Camera just above eye level, chin slightly upward so their jawline is popping, lips slightly pouting for extra volume, and so on…
They each have their own tricks to look as stunning as possible in a photo.
Nothing wrong with that, who doesn’t like looking good in a pic?
This is a good thing.
Because it’s your ticket out of TinderLoserLand where all boys live that get ignored match after match.
What you’ll text her is something like this:
“I see you have a ‘best side’ for selfies. I was wondering what’s on the other side of your face though. Got any cool face tattoos there?’
With this conversation starter you’re hitting a couple of boxes at the same time:
- You show that you’ve had a good look at her profile, unlike most men.
- You have humor.
- You make it easy for her to respond.
#3 The girl with just sexy selfies
Some women have a beautiful body and face.
Some women have a slightly less beautiful body.
And some women have the type of body that makes you unable to think of anything else than tearing off her clothes and burning a couple of thousand calories with her.
Every now and then you’ll run into a girl that knows the power of her curves. And she also knows how many matches she can score with them.
So you come across her bland profile… and it’s just a selfie or photo of themselves…
Nice… But how can you start a Tinder conversation with her?
Like these 3 ladies I matched in Sweden:
I’m not sure how your testosterone levels are, bro. But my brain doesn’t feel like thinking about much when it sees such photos.
It just thinking about different ways to burn thousands of calories again.
And these ladies know that.
So what do you text her to begin the conversation on Tinder?
Well, let’s first start to understand their situation…
They’re already getting matches by the ton with these photos.
And what do you think most men are texting them?
Will it be something about travel, movies, and Sunday’s breakfast?
Curves, boobs, ass, booty, melons, breasticles, and all of that stuff.
That’s what those guys will talk about.
Because their brains too, can’t think of much else anymore.
And if you’ve paid close attention then you already know what happens next.
One by one they turn into…
As a reminder: no sexual messages at the start of the conversation.
And women don’t like The Creeper. The lady in the screenshot below is no exception:
She took out her bodypic because men kept obsessing over her (next level) curves.
Which might be even more annoying than repeatedly getting “hey” as first text.
And again, this is good news.
Because this is how you will score, my dearest friend.
You are that one guy that has enough self control to talk about something other than her heavenly appearance.
Now I can already hear you thinking:
“But Louis, what do I tell her then?”
Take this girl for example:
You are NOT allowed to talk about her curves.
Here’s what you ARE allowed to talk about:
- Her handbag
- The wall
- The mirror
- The lamp
- The other lamp
Or any other detail you see in the photo.
Here’s how I did it:
“Did you know round mirrors are found to make you look wider compared to rectangle mirrors?”
- It’s not about her body
A relief to her, and a good start to a Tinder conversation to you.
Want some more examples of what you could say?
If you look back at the other Swedish ladies from the screenshots, you could say:
- The name of the flower, and that you always used to buy that specific flower for your grandma.
- She still has to clean up yesterday’s wine glasses
- That her gel nails are done very well
- She’s not holding her cava glass according to the rules of the etiquette
- The tiling is done very nicely. True craftsmanship.
- That she’s someone that probably always goes for full black outfits
By not falling for the “bait” that is her stunning body, you show her that you are in control of your manly brain.
And on a deeper level it shows that you’re not blown away by such features. You’ve been there a couple times before.
Once you’re talking to her on Tinder, the next challenge is how to keep the conversation going on Tinder.
Luckily for you a wrote a seperate article about that.
Praise the TextGod later.
Why your pickup lines aren’t working
One of the best ways to start a conversation, is with humor.
As the legendary heartbreaker once said:
Now I know you can’t come up with something funny every single time.
And you’ve got other stuff to do than think of witty Tinder openers.
So what does the average Joe do?
He googles pickup lines.
“hilarious” pickup lines “that always work”.
And maybe once upon a time they did work.
But by now all these lines have been floating around the net for a while.
And Joe wasn’t the only guy googling them.
If today you still start a conversation with “did it hurt when you fell from heaven?” …
…then you can just as well hit the three dots and then press unmatch. The result will be the same.
The only think you’re communicating with these rehashed lines, is that you’re copy pasting.
And she sees that as well. Contrary to popular belief, women aren’t stupid.
So what happens when you show up with your copy pasted openers from the 60’s?
You get a sloppy reply, or no reply at all.
Tinder pickup lines that AREN’T known yet…
I’m very proud of the lines I put out there.
They are copy pastable for anyone to use.
The best ones I keep locked away for my subscribers, so they aren’t used by any clown.
Here you can find the free 10 Texts That Always Work.
Download them now so you always have something witty to text her.
Best way to start a conversation on Tinder: Use this
Alrighty, you now know how a Tinder conversation starts…
…but there’s something better.
What if could make HER start the conversation with you?
While YOU are the one to lean back in his chair?
Having girls superliking you, and then shooting the first text? It sounds like a myth to most men.
This is the best way to go about this…
And I’m honest with you bro, it doesn’t happen often.
But you can greatly increase your odds. And it will make Tinder texting much easier.
By optimizing your photos for example.
The photo with the teddies she’s talking about, is a bit of a whack picture.
Exactly why it’s on my profile.
It’s one of those hate it or love it things.
But it’s definitely a photo that makes her feel something. And that’s always what you strive for.
You can also have her begin the conversation by writing a clever Tinder ‘about me’ text.
If you write your bio in such way that it provokes interest while being easy to react to…
…then you’ll see that many women will bite.
My current profile text baits out so many reactions that I pretty much have to do nothing myself anymore.
If you’re not aware yet of HOW to write such a funny Tinder bio, then read the article about it.
That’s where I explain in great detail which photos work and which ones don’t. And WHY.
I’ll also show you which bios provoke most reactions. With fresh examples.
One thing you need to know when girls open YOU…
…is that you are on a different game plan now.
No need to act all whacky anymore.
She’s already shown good interest.
All you need to be doing is not fucking it up.
Safely cruise to the finish.
AKA the date.
Best way to start a conversation on Tinder
I’m now going to give you the best way to start a conversation on Tinder.
The icing on the cake, the cherry on top, the crème de la crème.
It’s not for everyone though.
If you’re extremely lazy, then this might not be your jam.
This way of starting a Tinder conversation takes a little more effort.
It’s my Personalized Opener.
Here’s how you do it in three simple steps:
- You thoroughly look at her profile.
- You choose one thing that stands out to you
- You start a Tinder conversation about this thing
Let’s make this as clear as possible with an example.
Imagine swiping when you stumble upon this profile:
Damn, she’s cute.
Let’s not fuck this one up.
Step 1: Take a good look at her profile.
There’s always something you can talk about.
And the more you do this, the easier it gets.
Step 2: Choose one thing that stands out to you.
You could talk about the gorgeous city she’s in, the building in the background, her all black outfit, the type of plant hanging from the wall, or anything on her other 4 photos.
Or you could say something about her uhm… ‘special’ profile text.
Which really stands out to me, instantly making me think back to this legendary video:
And because she talks about neckbeard, I had to think about those “Brony” guys that are into My Little Pony.:
Step 3: Start a Tinder conversation using this thing.
Now you could say:
“Hey, I like the joke in your profile text”
You would have executed all three steps.
And your opener would be better still than the crap most guys bombard her with.
But you’re not really blowing her mind with that quick observation.
Let’s say her princess parts won’t be tingling just yet.
So we’re going to add one or two extra ingredients: Humor and/or Teasing.
Her reaction is pretty sweet.
So I shoot her a text back with some more of the same humor.
Inspired by this classic meme:
Alright. Enough niche memes for now.
Let’s make sure you know how to start a tinder conversation with the Personalized Opener.
You’re Tindering again and BANG, you match this sporty spice:
She chose to connect her Instagram to her Tinder.
As you can see, this photo isn’t one of the pictures she selected for her Tinder profile. It’s one of her Instagram uploads.
Are you ready? Let’s go!
Step 1: Take a good look at her profile.
This one would be a bit tricky to most men.
But not to you.
Remember what we talked about earlier in this article?
Don’t fall for her bait and comment on her curves.
Step 2: Choose one thing that stands out to you.
Not the booty, as appealing as it may be.
I spot something we can work with.
And it’s something that instantly allows us to work in some humor and teasing.
Step 3: Start a Tinder conversation using this thing
That wasn’t all that hard, was it?
We just started two conversations with beautiful women on Tinder.
This type of conversation starter works for my students, and it will work for you too.
And in the next tip, I have something for you to help you out even more.
Make Alexander Bell proud
The guy that invented the first practical telephone.
I want you to continue his work.
Not by inventing all sorts of next-level technology, but with Tinder stuff.
Trial and error.
Find out what works for YOU and what doesn’t.
To help you out I’m giving you my Tinder Toolkit just below. Yes, for free.
Inside are you find 10 good Tinder lines, my Profile Checklist, and the #1 Tinder opener.
You’ll never need to wonder how to start a Tinder conversation anymore.
Good luck, brother.
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