How To Talk To Girls On Tinder: Discover My Formula

Talking to girls on Tinder can be difficult if you don’t know what you’re doing. Conversations go south, girls aren’t eager to meet, and some don’t even respond to your first text.

In this article, you’ll discover the best Tinder texting tips to become great at messaging girls.

And the key to texting girls on Tinder is the TextGod Formula: Attraction + Trust + Investment > Date Threshold

You want to get her Attracted to you. She’ll have some initial attraction based on your Tinder bio. But how to talk to her is even more important. Are you creating a playful vibe? Are you demonstrating you’re a desirable man?

But just attraction is not enough. She also has to Trust you. She wants to feel it’s safe to meet up with you. She wants to feel some sort of connection.

Next, you want her to invest as much into the conversation as you. This has two sides: you want to see that she’s engaged in the conversation, but also you don’t want to invest way more than her. Why? Because your level of investment shows how much you’re into her. And if you’re way more into her than she is into you, she’ll lose interest.

These three together have to surpas her Date threshold. Her personal threshold for when she wants to go on a date. Some girls are very eager to meet up with basically anyone, so their date threshold is low. However, girls that have their shit together and know their worth tend to have a higher date threshold.

Below we’ll dive into how to execute the TextGod formula.

In this article:

• 1. Start your conversations by being unpredictable
• 2. Give her space to invest
• 3. Flirt with her
• 4. Tease with love
• 5. Sprinkle in some sex
• 6. Lead, then mirror
• 7. Keep the conversation going
• 8. Create future plans

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1. Start your conversations by being unpredictable

Here’s a simple way to make yourself interesting to your Tinder matches.

Stay away from the predictable.

Most guys turn girls off by asking the same questions she’s received a million times before. “How are you?” “Do you like to travel?” “Did you have a good weekend?”

While none of these questions are instant attraction killers, they’re not particularly seductive either. After all, these are questions she might also get from her grandma. But if you want to be seen as her lover, so you better sound like one.

How I hear you ask? By keeping your texts personal and emotionally stimulating.

Let me give you some examples of good texts that break the ice.

• “Hey [her name]. Wanna know what I like about your profile?”
• “Your photo where [describe it] is my exact look when I see the pizza delivery guy outside my door”
• “[If she has an adventurous profile] Dang, [her name]. You’re like the female James Bond. Can’t wait to live out my dream of being a Bond Girl.”

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2. Give her space to invest

Here’s how you can get girls to chase you.

Give her the opportunity to show interest.

It sounds so simple, and it is! But most men make the mistake of doing the opposite. Out of a desire to seduce her, they constantly try to prove what a catch they are. But for most women, that’s a bit of a turn-off. When she sees you’re prepared to do anything to win her over, she won’t value what you have to offer. Your attention is coming too cheaply.

That’s why it’s crucial to occasionally let your foot off the gas pedal and let her charm you. This does two things:

1. She’ll signal how much she likes you. The harder she tries, the more she’s into you.
2. She’ll start to like you even more. The more effort people put into something, the more they’ll value it.

How do you give her space to invest? A personal favorite is sharing something about my day without teeing her up for an easy reply.

Let me give you some examples:

• “Just came back from a day at the beach. I went surfing and even flew a kite lol”.
• “Had a mega long day at the office. Going to unwind with a nice book and a nice glass of vino #vibes”.
• “About to watch a spooky Korean movie with my friends. If I don’t reply anymore, I’ve probably been eaten by a long-haired Asian girl”.

3. Flirt with her

You undoubtedly know flirting is key when talking to a girl on Tinder. But you probably don’t know where to start.

Let me give you an incredibly effective method of flirting over text: Give and take away imaginary points.

A huge part of seduction is being a challenge. So if you voice to your Tinder match when she does something you dislike, she’ll come to understand that she hasn’t seduced you yet.

That’s exciting! Because this means that the game of seduction is still going on and it’s unsure if you’ll meet up or not. This is a good thing. After all, most dudes on Tinder are completely sold by her after seeing her profile.

Let me show you how this imaginary points thing works.

• [Her profile says she’s vegetarian but she occasionally eats pork] “Wow, lying to me already??? -5 points”.
• [She loves hip hop but doesn’t know an artist you like] “+10 for your taste in music, but -50 points for not knowing MF DOOM”.
• “I can’t believe you’re a Tolkien fan and love the Hobbit movies more than the Ring movies, -1 trillion points ;(((“.

4. Tease with love

Here’s my favorite way to build a strong connection with my Tinder matches. And if you want to be good at seduction, it should be yours too.

Tease them.

Most of us think that highlighting what we have in common is the best way to make someone like us. And while there’s truth to this, agreeing on too many things can quickly feel a little fake. That’s why playfully breaking the connection with a tease is so important. It shows girls on Tinder that you’re confident enough to jokingly push them away.

Not only does this make you more attractive, it also makes you more trustworthy. After all, you’re not afraid to speak your mind. So be sure to tease! But remember: teasing is about exchanging jokes to create a light-hearted atmosphere. It’s never done to hurt someone’s feelings.

Let me give you some examples:

• “It’s spelled THEY’RE. I think it’s adorable that you finally slipped up a little though”.
• “I appreciate your honesty about rap music. But just know that you’re wrong and I hate you!! 😡😡😡”
• “You’re not a fan of tattoos? I’m so sorry, I didn’t know you were visually impaired”.

5. Sprinkle in some sex

This is how you get girls crazy about you over text: Subtly bring up the subject of sex.

You don’t want to do this at the start of your conversation. It’s too risky and makes it look like your brain has been replaced with your schlong. But once you’ve established you’re a cool dude, it’s time to make your Tinder conversations a little more steamy. Because otherwise, you might as well be her girlfriend. To make her think of you as a man she’s attracted to, she has to associate you with naughty thoughts.

Let me show you some examples texts on how to do that.

• [When she sends you a lot of texts] “You’re so flirting with me right now. That’s cute.”
• [If she asks you about work] “I actually make most of my money with my Only Fans.”
• “You seem like an adventurous girl. Have you ever gone skinny dipping?”

6. Lead, then mirror

Do you find yourself struggling to know how much and how often to text? Let me solve that problem for you once and for all: Set the tone, then test the waters.

When meeting someone new on Tinder, it’s best to try and have the type of conversation you want. If you want her to be playful, quick to reply, and interested it’s important to lead by example. Otherwise, she’ll probably be hesitant and a little distant.

But after you’ve taken the initiative for a while, it’s important to dial down the fun vibes. If you don’t, she’ll get the feeling you’re needy for her attention. So once you feel like you’ve invested enough, slow it down a little to show her your attention is conditional. Only if she gives you enough in return will you stay interested.

This isn’t playing hard-to-get, this is just healthy social dynamics.

In short, mirror her texts after you’ve shown you’re a cool and fun guy.

Do you notice she isn’t giving you much back anymore? That’s a sign that she’s probably not that interested. At this stage, it’s fine to keep texting her as long as you lower the priority of this Tinder conversation.

7. Keep the conversation going

This is going to keep your Tinder conversations going forever: Mix up asking questions and making statements.

Most guys get stuck in interview mode. They keep firing question after question to keep the conversation going. While it can work, it’s not very fun for her. Typically, it’ll make her feel a little bored and turn her off from the conversation entirely. To make your conversations seem effortless, it’s important to add statements too.

Let me give you some examples:

• “When I saw your profile I didn’t expect you to be so cheeky! Would your friends describe you like that too?”
• “You’ve got such a healthy lifestyle. Do you ever snack or is it just broccoli and lettuce all day?”
• Boy, you use so many big words. I bet you like to read the dictionary in your spare time.”

8. Create future plans

If your end goal is to meet her, here’s what you do: Playfully suggest fun activities to do one day.

Of course, you don’t want to suggest random things to do together. Pay attention to what your shared interests are.

Not only is it flirty, if she’s interested you can probably plan the date right away.

• [If she’s super healthy] “I know this amazing smoothie place that I’ll know you love. If you’re lucky I might take you there one day ;)”.
• [If she’s into art] “Perhaps we can go to an exhibition and you can be my tour guide. Do you accept hugs and bad dad jokes as payment?”

Of course, these guidelines don’t tell you what to say. And that’s typically what keeps us from successfully planning a date. To make your Tinder conversations run more smoothly, I want to give you some gifts.

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