You like someone.
But you’re not sure if they like you back.
In fact, you have the feeling they’re not that interested.
That’s why I’m giving you 12 ways to tell if someone doesn’t want to talk to you over text.
- #1: They don’t match your excitement
- #2: They rarely initiate
- #3: They don’t ask questions
- #4: They write less than you
- #5: They don’t ever use ‘we’ or ‘us’
- #6: They say goodbye
- #7: They don’t flirt
- #8: They don’t appreciate your input
- #9: They are slow to respond
- #10: They go hot and cold
- #11: They send short texts
- #12: They tell you
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#1: They don’t match your excitement
Here’s the EASIEST way to tell if someone isn’t super interested.
When we like someone, we like to make them feel good.
Although we can do this in many ways, we often gravitate towards mirroring.
Whatever effort the other person puts out, we return.
Is the person on the other end not returning your serve? (You know, like in tennis.) That’s a sign they may not want to talk to you over text.
#2: They rarely initiate
Read on, and I’ll teach you how to get someone to initiate in your convo.
This is important.
If they never send you spontaneous texts, or rarely start the convo… they’re likely not that into you.
Or… you’re bombarding her with texts and not giving her enough room to invest.
Do you feel like you’re really trying to get her to like you? Pull back a little and give her some room.
If she likes you, she’ll use that space to reach out to you. And if she doesn’t, that’s a good sign to move on.
Watch the next video to see if you’re overtexting:
#3: They don’t ask questions
This is a way you can be sure they’re not that into you.
She asks you questions.
It’s a ridiculously simple way of figuring out if she’s interested. After all, why would you bother getting to know someone if you don’t care about who they are?
If they don’t ask you if that animal in one of your pics is yours, or respond inquisitively to one of your Hinge prompts…
Their interest likely isn’t there.
#4: They write less than you
Don’t make this common mistake.
When they write less than you, it’s generally not a good sign.
It shows a lack of interest and enthusiasm.
Now, a great sign is if she has moments where she sends you a lot of messages.
That shows she’s excited about getting to know you and receiving your texts.
Does she never have these excitable moments?
Not the best sign.
Not having much success with responses?
#5: They don’t ever use ‘we’ or ‘us’
This is how you make yourself special for her: create a unique bond between the two of you.
Use phrases like ‘us’, ‘we’ or ‘our’.
If she doesn’t reciprocate, it means she isn’t connected to you. Yet.
I’m not saying if she doesn’t want to be force fed strawberries she’s not into you.
But someone who likes you wants to be involved with you.
Read 14 Ways To Make Her Fall In Love With You Over Text to make it happen!
#6: They say goodbye
This is pretty self-explanatory.
Someone who isn’t interested in texting will end their texts with a goodbye.
#7: They don’t flirt
I’m going to tell you about the holy grail of dating:
Without flirting, whomever you’re talking to won’t think of you as a potential date. And that gets you a one-way ticket to the friendzone.
Ew, disgusting place..
The thing is, if they don’t flirt back, it means they might not be into you.
How to solve this scenario?
Perhaps the flirting from your end could be more refined. This will come with time and practice.
Perhaps they’re just not that into you. It happens.
If she’s on the fence about you, flirting can make all the difference. Download my 10 texts that always work to improve your flirting!
#8: They don’t appreciate your input
This may come as a surprise to you, but…
A conversation is not a one-person endeavor. It takes two to tango. Or in this case, text.
And when someone’s texts and attention make you feel good, you likely want to get to know them.
So if you’re sharing cool stuff about yourself, like photos, someone who likes you will enjoy it.
Are you sharing cool stuff with her without any positive response? That’s a big sign the other person doesn’t really want to talk to you.
#9: They are slow to respond
Learn what a slow response might mean in this tip.
They could be waiting to reply because they want to give you their full attention. They could’ve had the bUsiEsT week at work. They may be slow texters in general.
That’s why you always want to figure out their modus operandi. How they roll. How they generally communicate.
Don’t base your expectations on relationships you have with other people.
That said, if they ALWAYS take more than a day to reply. That’s weird.
#10: They go hot and cold
This is one thing a lot of guys miss.
You’re texting someone. And one day they’re very interested. Shooting back loads of texts. Warm 🙂
And then they drop off the face of the earth. Cold 🙁
Unfortunately, loads of people on dating apps aren’t that reliable.
But you can attempt to remedy this. Make sure to AVOID DRY TEXTING!
#11: They send short texts
Now for a stupidly simple way to tell if she’s into you.
Does this message sound familiar?
Did I just awaken some trauma?
If they are constantly only sending short texts, it shows they’re not putting in effort.
#12: They tell you
This can be a painful experience. Read on to figure out how you can avoid this scenario.
Sometimes, for one reason or another, they’re just not that into you.
And sometimes, they’ll tell you so plainly.
Now, this happens to everyone. Sometimes you could be sent to the dreaded friendzone.
But with the right steps, this will happen much less.
Make sure you are killing it right from the start of the convo.
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