How To Tell If Someone Doesn’t Want To Talk To You Over Text – 12 Ways

You like someone. But you’re not sure if they like you back.

In fact, you have the feeling they’re not that interested.

That’s why I’m giving you 12 ways to tell if someone doesn’t want to talk to you over text.

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1. They don’t match your excitement

Here’s the EASIEST way to tell if someone isn’t super interested.

When we like someone, we like to make them feel good.

Although we can do this in many ways, we often gravitate towards mirroring.

Whatever effort the other person puts out, we return.

Is the person on the other end not returning your serve? (You know, like in tennis.) That’s a sign they may not want to talk to you over text.

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2. They rarely initiate

Read on, and I’ll teach you how to get someone to initiate more in your convo.

This is important. If they never send you spontaneous texts or rarely start the convo… they’re likely not that into you.

Or you’re bombarding them with texts and not giving them enough room to invest.

Do you feel like you’re really trying to get them to like you? Pull back a little and give them some room.

If they like you, they’ll use that space to reach out to you. And if they don’t, that’s a good sign to move on.

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3. They don’t ask questions

This is a way you can be sure they’re not that into you.

She never asks you questions.

It’s a ridiculously simple way of figuring out if she’s interested. After all, why would you bother getting to know someone if you don’t care about who they are?

If they don’t ask you if that animal in one of your pics is yours, or respond inquisitively to one of your Hinge prompts…

Their interest likely isn’t there.

4. They write less than you

Don’t make this common mistake.

When they write less than you, it’s generally not a good sign.

It shows a lack of interest and enthusiasm.

Now, a great sign is if she has moments where she sends you a lot of messages.

That shows she’s excited about getting to know you and receiving your texts.

Does she never have these excitable moments? Not the best sign.

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5. They don’t ever use ‘we’ or ‘us’

This is how you make yourself special to her: create a unique bond between the two of you.

Use phrases like ‘us,’ ‘we,’ or ‘our’.

For example:

I cannot WAIT for our honeymoon in Bora Bora where we’ll force feed each other chocolate strawberries

If she doesn’t reciprocate, it means she isn’t connected to you. Yet.

I’m not saying if she doesn’t want to be force fed strawberries she’s not into you.

But someone who likes you wants to be involved with you.

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6. They say goodbye

This is pretty self-explanatory.

Someone who isn’t interested in texting will end their texts with a goodbye.

The weather is perfect today isn’t it?

Haha yeah I agree

Have a nice day

Or worse…

7. They don’t flirt

I’m going to tell you about the holy grail of dating: Flirting!

Without flirting, whoever you’re talking to won’t think of you as a potential date. And that gets you a one-way ticket to the friendzone.

The thing is, if they don’t flirt back, it means they might not be into you.

How to solve this scenario? Perhaps the flirting from your end could be more refined. This will come with time and practice.

Perhaps they’re just not that into you. It happens.

If she’s on the fence about you, flirting can make all the difference.

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8. They don’t appreciate your input

This may come as a surprise to you, but a conversation is not a one-person endeavor. It takes two to tango. Or in this case, text.

And when someone’s texts and attention make you feel good, you likely want to get to know them.

So if you’re sharing cool stuff about yourself, like photos, someone who likes you will enjoy it.

Are you sharing cool stuff with her without any positive responses? That’s a big sign the other person doesn’t really want to talk to you.

9. They are slow to respond

Learn what a slow response might mean in this tip.

They could be waiting to reply because they want to give you their full attention. They could’ve had the busiest week at work. They may be slow texters in general.

That’s why you always want to figure out their modus operandi. How they roll. How they generally communicate.

Don’t base your expectations on relationships you have with other people.

That said, if they ALWAYS take more than a day to reply. That’s weird.

More on slow or short replies here:

10. They go hot and cold

This is one thing a lot of guys miss.

You’re texting someone. And one day they’re very interested. Shooting back loads of texts. Warm. 🙂

And then they drop off the face of the earth. Cold. 🙁

Unfortunately, loads of people on dating apps aren’t that reliable.

But you can attempt to remedy this. Make sure to AVOID DRY TEXTING!

11. They send short texts

Now for a stupidly simple way to tell if she’s into you.

Does this message sound familiar?


Did I just awaken some trauma?

If they are constantly only sending short texts, it shows they’re not putting in effort.

12. They tell you

This can be a painful experience. Read on to figure out how you can avoid this scenario.

Sometimes, for one reason or another, they’re just not that into you.

And sometimes, they’ll plainly tell you.

Now, this happens to everyone. Sometimes you could be sent to the dreaded friendzone.

But with the right steps, this will happen much less.

Make sure you are killing it right from the start of the convo.

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