You like someone and want to get to know them better.
Only that person doesn’t know your intentions.
And while you know you should speak up, you don’t know what to say.
Because you’re about to get 14 ways to tell someone you like them through text.
- 7 Signs that she likes you
- The #1 mistake guys make when texting with their crush
- 5 Signs that you shouldn’t tell your crush you like her
- 3 Texts to get her to chase you
- How to make her think that you’ve been friends forever
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Before we dive into the article, let me give you a heads up on what’s to come.
First off, we’re going to go over how NOT to tell someone you like them. Which is something most of us do and only leads to scaring off our crush.
Next we’ll see 5 signs that reveal if she doesn’t like you very much yet. If you can recognize those signs in your conversation, it’s best if you keep your feelings to yourself and work on raising your attraction.
How do you raise your attraction? By following the easy steps from tip 3.
After you work on raising your attraction, you should notice a change in her behavior. That’s why tip 4 is all about recognizing the signs that she likes you. Can you recognize all 7 signs? The time is right to tell her how you feel.
That said, it’s probably best if you don’t tell her your intentions right away. Women also like to chase a little during the game of seduction. Which is why you’ll get the scoop on how to make her chase you in tip 5.
With her chasing you like a rabid greyhound on a racetrack, it’s time to tell her you like her. That’s why the final tip gives you a few subtle and attractive ways on how to tell someone you like them.
Let’s get to it.
#1: Your best shot at love and romance
Telling you like someone for the first time can be nerve-wracking.
It can feel like a mini-proposal.
Even if you think she likes you, there’s always a chance you’ll get rejected.
So how do you go about telling someone you like them?
In one of many ways.
What’s NOT one of those ways?
By making a big deal out of it.
We’ve all seen marriage proposals gone wrong:
A guy in the middle of a crowded shopping mall walking with his girl, suddenly drops to one knee.
A stranger hands him a mic and the guy starts to talk:
“This is where we first met and I fell in love with you.”
“You’re my everything.”
“And I want everyone to know, you make me the happiest man o—…”
He stops mid-sentence because his future wife has already sprinted halfway down the parking lot.
These public declarations of love may seem like #goals, but are super stressful for the person being proposed to.
The only right time for romance is when you’ve been actively dating for a few months.
Until then, keep it light and forget all clichés about romance.
You likely just have a crush and want to know them in a more intimate context.
If you follow the tips in this article, I can give you the best possible shot at love.
#2: Five signs that you shouldn’t text her that you like her
I know what you’re thinking, “Signs that I SHOULDN’T text her??”
“I thought you were going to help me find love!”
Yes. But also no.
As much as I want you to get the girl you like, I also need to be honest and tell you the uncomfortable truth:
She may not be into you.
Harsh but potentially true.
Luckily, there are a few clear signs that she’s not interested.
Let’s jump into the first.
We’ve all been there.
We’re texting someone. We’re excited to reply. And they take forever to text back.
That should be a problem.
Look, she may be a busy person. Or an “in the moment”-type person who isn’t glued to her phone.
And that’s fine.
What isn’t fine, is if she never texts back in the moment.
If a girl likes you, she should at least occasionally have a moment where she’s so excited to see your texts, she can’t help but answer right away.
So that you have a fun and spur of the moment mini convo.
If you reach out and have to wait hours or even days for a reply, she probably isn’t that interested.
The colors are wrong
You may think you’re talking with her all the time.
But are you really?
Check the colors.
Are you in the blue?
Meaning, are most of the texts yours?
If so, that’s not a good sign.
Confirmation bias (psychology jargon for: interpreting information in a way that supports your expectations) may have you thinking that a reply shows she’s interested.
But interest is far more than whether she got back to you or not.
Interest is about the ratio of investment between the two of you.
Is the level of investment not equal?
She’s probably not that interested.
She’s an opportunist
Opportunists wait for the right moment to strike.
Does she always text you after during her commute home from work?
She may not be as interested as you think.
“Wait, what? I don’t follow.”
Well, if she only texts you when she’s sitting on the bus or train when she has nothing else to do…
…she may not like you that much. If she was really interested in you, she’d probably be texting you throughout the day. Even at times when she should be actually working or studying.
Let me give you another example of an opportunist: someone who only texts you in the evening or night.
Because what do people tend to do when the sun is down?
Take the edge off with a nightcap.
At which point we’re friendly with everyone.
Speaking of being friendly.
Are you tired of platonic conversations that go on, and on, and on…
And go nowhere?
You’re probably being too friendly and killing your attraction.
If you want to raise your attraction and eventually meet up with her, you need to…
Be more unpredictable, exciting, and playful.
Or simply steal my 10 Texts That Always Work.
And get instant success.
So if she only texts you when she’s riding the bus home, slamming down giggle juice, or smoking the devil’s lettuce, that’s a sign she might not be that into you.
She’s cool as a cucumber
As we said earlier, just because she’s replying does not mean she likes you.
If she’s not:
- Occasionally spamming emojis
- Asking questions
She’s being too cool for school, and probably isn’t that interested.
That said, all the above signs are sort of acceptable if she was great company when you last spoke in person.
And if she…
Drops hints that she wants to meet up
One of the biggest tell-tale signs a girl likes you is…
She drops signs she wants to meetup.
Like in these examples:
And the super obvious:
What does all the above mean?
If you can spot these mistakes in your convo and she NEVER drops hints of meeting up with you…
…She’s probably not into you. Move on.
You can work on raising your attraction. Which you can read about in the next tip.
#3: The #1 flirting mistake men make with women
For years, I’ve been helping men overcome online dating challenges.
And one of the greatest challenges my clients across the world face is:
“I can get attention from girls I like, but I suck at getting attention from girls I REALLY like.”
The answer to that problem is the same for 9/10 guys.
Let me first explain the issue.
When you really like a girl, you’re afraid to lose her and get nervous.
Those nerves shut down the most attractive parts of yourself:
- Your charm
- Your wit
- Your creative thinking
So what happens?
You stop flirting and become the most boring version of yourself.
Instead of creating sexual tension that leads to attraction, you play it safe.
Because you don’t want to risk pushing her away.
So you become friendly and shower her with compliments.
Problem is, constantly reminding someone how much you like them actually makes you LESS attractive because you’re TOO AVAILABLE.
And we don’t like things that are too available.
Just consider the air you’re breathing. It’s all over the place. What’s the last time you even thought about air?
Now think back to the last time you saw an expensive car drive by. Even if you don’t like cars, you probably thought to yourself, “Damn. I wouldn’t mind having one of those.”
Why that thought?
Because we like things that are rare and difficult to get.
Difficult to get… now that’s attractive. In fact, that’s a huge part of flirting.
So how do you do it?
With my 10 Texts That Always Work.
A series of copy-pastable lines that work in all sorts of scenarios.
– A flirty line
– A fun answer to a boring question
– Asking her out in a smooth way
You can find it inside my 10 Texts That Always Work.
Like shown in this example:
Why is that such a good text?
Because it pushes her away and pulls her right back in with a compliment.
#4: Seven signs that she likes you
If she shows you a mix of these signs, she’ll be happy to hear that you like her.
Let’s check them out.
She’s impressed BY you
You could argue that girls who try to impress you are also into you.
She may just have a huge ego and is looking for praise.
But if she’s impressed BY you, she’s clearly interested.
Coach Dan, for example, isn’t exactly Mister Macho. Which he often communicates with the girls he dates.
He’ll sometimes tell girls:
- His sense of direction is equal to that of a chimp with down syndrome
- He’s terrible at DIY. He once hired a handyman to hang up a light in his apartment
- He couldn’t be less interested in watching sports. He fell asleep when the soccer team of the Netherlands (his motherland) were playing in the finals of the 2010 World Cup
And you know what’s so fascinating?
Because most guys are so afraid of being vulnerable, girls are often impressed by Dan’s transparency.
And when they tell him this, Dan is 169% positive that she likes him.
She replies quickly
Instead of making you wait for hours or even days, she texts you back in minutes.
She sends you photos
Girls like to dress up and look their best for occasions.
If she likes you, she’ll find an excuse to send you a photo of herself.
Which could be a selfie.
Why does she send you the photo?
Because she wants you to see how hot she looks.
If she’s subtle, she’ll send you a photo of herself looking purdy when she’s with her friends or family event.
That way she’s not exactly the star of the show. And her attempt to show off her beauty is less obvious.
That said, she could also be sending you photos because she wants to keep you updated on her life.
Which is another clear sign that she likes you.
She talks in volumes
She doesn’t just send you texts, she sometimes sends you entire stories.
She talks to you about her day
Not much to say about this one, except that it shows she’s interested in you if…
She hasn’t already tossed you in the friendzone.
So if you’ve already known each other for a long time, don’t overvalue this particular sign.
She thinks you’re hilarious
Get a lot of those?
Yeah, she’s not just saying that to be nice.
She’s laughing so you’ll grow a pair and ask her out.
She asks you questions
Quality girls almost always have several guys in her inbox fighting for her attention.
She can’t give all these dudes her attention, because it’s too time-consuming.
So she usually devotes most of her time to one guy.
How can you tell if you’re that guy?
If she’s asking you questions.
Because that shows she’s willing to get to know you.
Does your crush give you several of the above signs?
She’s probably into you, dude.
Better send her a Whatsapp, iMessage, or DM to show that you like her.
Can’t you tell if she likes you yet?
#5: Get her to chase you with these 3 texts
A few days ago, I coached two guys on how to talk to women in real life.
And surprisingly enough I noticed something that’ll help you get your crush to chase you over text.
We were in a bar and I told my clients to approach a group of 3 cute women, who were standing in a u-shape.
So when my boys introduced themselves, they filled in the ‘u’ to make a circle.
The boys said hi and the girls responded really well.
But over time, the responses of the girls took a turn.
Although my 2 bros didn’t really do anything wrong, I could eventually see the girls starting to lose interest.
Not long after, the girls broke away from my boys with some excuse.
What went wrong?
My bros didn’t suggest they were ever going to leave.
Think about it. Why would a girl stay interested, if she knows she can’t get rid of you?
The mystery of whether you’re into her is now gone.
Said differently, she believes the odds that she can have you are…
*shakes magic eight ball*
“Without a doubt.”
The worst part is, you handed yourself to her on a silver platter.
So you feel cheap.
And what feels cheap is disposable.
But if you made her chase you a little… you’d seem valuable and attractive.
Plus, by letting her chase you, she’ll feel that talking to you was also her idea, not just yours.
So how do you make her chase you?
By giving her good emotions and then playfully threatening to leave.
A bit abstract.
So let me give you 3 texts that do both.
Starting with the first example:
Or for when she hasn’t put much effort into the conversation:
What’s in between the parentheses can be any relevant compliment.
By showing her that your kindness isn’t a given and that you’re evaluating her, she’ll put in a little more effort to get your affection.
#6: How to show you’re interested
The moment you’ve all been waiting for…
How to show tell your crush you like her over text.
If there’s one thing you should know by now, it’s not:
Even if she likes you, you’ve put her into a tough spot.
She either has to yes to the date or reject you entirely.
There’s little wiggle room for if she’s not quite ready yet.
So how do you tell a girl you like her over text instead?
In a bunch of ways.
And all of them involve creating some level of sexual tension.
Because you probably have a little history with your crush, I’ll give you a subtle but awesome technique to show you like her.
A technique that’ll have her fantasizing about you.
I call it…
You probably tend to talk in your conversations about “you” and “me”. Which emphasizes you’re not together.
You’re just two individuals talking.
But if you talk about “us” and “we”, you’re creating the idea of togetherness.
About being friends who go on adventures.
Or a married couple who are about to break up.
Just like what happened to coach Jay:
*holds back tear*
Seriously though, creating fun scenarios together is a super powerful way to show interest.
Heck, even pretend texts like this:
If she runs with it, you know she’s interested too.
That’s most of what you need to know about how to tell someone you like them over text.
Whether it’s via iMessage, DM, Whatsapp or Snapchat.
It all works the same.
Which means that you can use my highest response rate line to get her to reply across all platforms.
So you never have to be left on read again.
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