12 Texts to Send a Girl You Haven’t Talked to in a While

There’s a woman you like, but you haven’t talked in a while.

And now you’re wondering how to get back in touch.


Because you’re about to get 12 texts to send to a girl you haven’t talked to in a while that motivate her to chase you.

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If you haven’t talked to her in a while and are looking for a certain response from her, you’re in trouble.

Not only are you going to feel devastated when she doesn’t send you the text you were hoping for, but you also have the wrong mindset for seducing her.


Because you’re focused on getting, not giving.

If she senses your needy vibes, she won’t be likely to get back to you.

But if your texts are brimming with carefree positivity, she most likely will text you back!

#1: She didn’t text back after the date

Not hearing anything after the first date is one of the worst feelings.

Her non-reaction makes you analyze everything that happened and you usually end up beating yourself up for every little ‘mistake’.

Now you’re in a sucky and horrible mood.

What do you do?

The first step is to get out of your funk.

Only once you’re feeling good about yourself can you be someone she wants to talk to spend time with.

Are you feeling better about yourself?

Re-initiate the convo with this:

It’s playful and non-needy.

The exact vibes you need right now.

Holy Tip:

Were you waiting for her to text you first after the date?


Social norms dictate that you (the man) should reach out first.

So if you didn’t yet, send her a text now.

Onto the next text.

#2: What to text a girl who you’ve taken out a few times

If you haven’t heard from a girl who you’ve seen on a date several times, send her this.

I just saw something that made me think of you. I hope you’re doing well

This text is good for 3 reasons.

  • It’s positive
  • It’s non-needy
  • It’s clickbaity

What do you think is going to happen after you send her this text?

She’ll check in and say how she’s doing, but more importantly…

…she’ll want to know what made you think of her.

Similar to what happened to my student from the TextGodMentoring Program.

Now you have an easy way to continue the convo.

#3: What to say if it’s been going great

If it’s been going great, all you need to send her is this:


Yup, that’s an otter.

Why does it work?

Because it’s been going great between the two of you and you just haven’t had the time to talk and catch up.

So pretty much anything you send her will get her to answer.

Not a fan of the otter?

Tell her what’s on your mind and add a dash of clickbait:

You know what felt good the other night we hung out?

Point is: don’t make it a big deal if things have been going well.

She already likes you and only a major fuck up will scare her off.

When NOT to reach out to someone you haven’t talked to in a while

Carefully thinking about how to text someone you haven’t talked to in a while means you have a good instinct.

You recognize you’ve lost emotional momentum and perhaps their interest.

So you want an irresistible text with the best odds of getting back into her good books.

But there’s a problem.

Depending on the situation, getting into her good books could be impossible if not a plain bad idea that shouldn’t be attempted.

Did you ghost her and potentially hurt her feelings?

You may not want to text her unless you’ve significantly changed as a person.

Did she say she needed space?

Don’t reach out until you’ve given her enough time. That could be a week if you only just started dating, or 30+ days if you were getting pretty serious.

Did you reject/break up with her but want her back for the wrong reasons?

Forget the text and move on.

If your ex didn’t treat you right, or give you what you wanted, there’s no reason to get back together. For a more about reaching out to an ex or old flame, check out this article:

Holy Tip:

Before you reach out to her, try to figure out why you lost touch with her.

Was it largely your fault?

If so, what made you wait so long to say hi?

Unless your life situation has greatly changed to where you have more time / a greater desire to see her more often, you may be better off not bothering her.

Onto the next text.

#4: What to send to a crush you haven’t talked to in a while

When you haven’t ever been on a date with the girl you like, things are different.

After all, you’re potentially in the friendzone or on the way there.

So you generally want to avoid certain texts that cement the idea you’re ‘just a friend’.

Because once she thinks your interests are merely platonic, she’ll start looking to date other guys.

That’s why I’m not a fan of using her as an expert:

Hey, I want to order some clothes and I could really use your opinion

Unless you know how to flirt:

What do you think is better?


The texts are both silly and sexual.

A great mix.

Going platonic is fine, as long as you make it flirty ASAP.

For more lines to text a girl you like, check out my next 3-minute video:

#5: Wish her a happy holiday

If you haven’t talked to a girl in a LONG while, the holidays are a great way to get back in touch.

Be it Christmas, Easter, Ramadan, Thanksgiving, or any celebration you know she cherishes.

Sending her heartfelt message wishing good in the celebration is a great way to get to talking terms with her without looking needy, desperate, or suspicious.

#6: Use a bad situation as your excuse

Stockmarket crashes, locust invasions, people buying toilet paper to save themselves from a global pandemic…

…the world gets crazy pretty regularly.

So use these bad situations as an excuse to reach out to people you haven’t talked to in a while:

Times have been really crazy lately and I just wanted to make sure you’re OK

#7: Keep track of her Instagram

Another chill way to reconnect is to react to her Instagram story.

If one of her recent posts or stories catches your eye, use it as your in to get a convo going.

Those cupcakes on your Insta look yum!

By the way, why don’t you keep track of my Instagram while you’re at it. Then you can see how a TextGod uses IG:

#8: Wish her a happy birthday

Everyone enjoys getting birthday wishes.

It makes us feel special.

Women probably doubly so.

Because it’s low investment and highly stimulating, it’s probably the best way to reach out to a girl you haven’t talked to in a long time.

It’s actually how I re-initiated a convo with a girl who I hadn’t spoken to in 9 months!

#9: Offer her nothing but value

The longer you haven’t talked to a girl, the more important it is to give value.

That’s because relationships work a bit like a bank.

If you see each other regularly and share good times, the bank balance will be high.

But if you stop seeing each other for a long time, your balance will be low.

Making any withdrawals impossible.

So you want to send her a text that grows the bank account.

Something similar to this:

Just saw a girl walk down the street in a bunny costume who looked oddly like you

Sure you’re not in (wherever area you live)?

She’ll likely answer with:

Haha, you’re silly

No, I’m actually having coffee with my friends. How are you?

Presto, you’re back in action.

#10: Be honest

Women People love honesty.

Especially when your honesty puts you in a vulnerable position.

So just say why you’re texting her:

Hey, I was a bit early to an appointment and you just popped into my mind

Do you think that’s enough to get a good answer from a girl you haven’t talked to in a while?

Not really.

Because what can she say?

So besides being honest, add something else that’s easy to reply to and preferably a bit flirty.

Something like this:

What’s up? Have you been behaving? 👮‍♂️

Now you’re cooking.

And if she’s been a bad girl, be sure to drop a few cop car emojis in your next text.

#11: Use your last convo or date as inspiration

Simply think back to the last time you hung out in real life or via a video call.

What did you guys talk about?

Travel plans? Exercise? Food? Netflix?

Say you were talking about her latest Netflix obsession.

An ideal text would be something like this:

Only 20 minutes into the first episode and I already hate Joffrey

If you’re talking Game of Thrones, you have a winner on your hands.

omfg! I know right!!

So make a good observation about the series she’s watching, or tie into anything else you may have talked about in your last convo.

#12: Texting a girl you haven’t talked to in YEARS

If you know each other from way back but haven’t talked to each other in years, it gets a little tricky.

Firstly, you’ve both probably changed a whole lot and are living very different lives.

Secondly, you have a long history together that I know little about.

Did you used to date? Were you platonic besties? Or was she someone you had a crush on but never had the guts to ask out?

These intricacies can make a big difference in how you want to reach out.

Anyway, here are two ideas:

  • If you were REALLY tight, send her a handwritten letter. Don’t write a book, keep it short and let the special nature of a handwritten letter do the work.
  • If it’s just been a long time, send her this:

I know it’s been forever, but I was just thinking of the good times we used to have and wanted to see how you were doing

With these 12 texts you can almost get any girl to reply.

But that’s not all you need.

Once the conversation gets going, you need to keep it going and lead it to the date.

Easier said than done, unless you have my 10 Texts That Always Work.

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