5+ Best Responses to a “Let’s Just Be Friends” Text

You just went on a date with someone. Or perhaps you finally voiced your feelings to your crush.

And she told you she “just wants to be friends”.

Major ouch.

To help you out, you’ll get the best responses to the ‘Let’s just be friends’ text. Plus, I’m going to give you some advice on how to best escape the friend zone.

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What it means when someone just wants to be friends

Firstly, it means you’ve found yourself in the dreaded friend zone.

That’s a place you REALLY don’t want to be if you’re attracted to the person that put you there.

The thing to remember is this:

Just because you’re in the friend zone doesn’t mean it’s game over.

But it does mean something has to change. When someone sees you as a friend, it most likely means you’re behaving in a platonic way.

  • You’ve taken on the role of her counselor.
  • You’re acting like you’re one of the girls.

The point is, you’re probably not acting as a flirty and sexual being around her. And if you want to be with her romantically, that’s precisely what you have to do.

So as you see her in the next few days or weeks, be sure to show that flirty sexy side of yourself.

If you do it right, she’ll start seeing you as a sexual option and slowly match your flirty behavior.

Then all that’s left is to ask her out.

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How to respond to a friend zone text

Step 1. Take a deep breath

If the first date went really well, it can be really confusing to get the friend zone text.

Hey, I had a fun time with you last night. But I think it’s better if we stop seeing each other romantically and instead stay friends

That message can feel especially devastating if you’ve been crushing on her for a while.

If you’re in a whirlwind of emotions, you shouldn’t be sending her any texts.

Instead, take a breath and put your phone away. Take your time to digest the experience and calm down a little.

Sending a text from a place of emotional turmoil is likely going to do more harm than good.

Step 2. Understand that it’s okay

Rejection is tough, but it’s part of the game.

It’s important to remember that you’d also want the option to turn someone down if you didn’t feel a click. Others deserve the same freedom.

Plus, it’s pretty awesome when someone openly expresses their feelings rather than ghosting you. Their honesty might sting, but it’s ultimately a kind gesture. It gives you closure and lets you move on instead of squirming in doubt.

Finally, getting the ‘Let’s just be friend’ text doesn’t mean you’re not attractive or worthy of romantic love. It’s a matter of compatibility.

Now that you know you’re not a fit, it should actually be easier to move on. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want you back?

Step 3. Consider what you want

If you got dunked into the friend zone by someone you like, you’ve got some thinking to do.

Your expectations were set on being a romantic item. But her ‘Let’s just be friends’ text has smashed those hopes to bits.

Are you willing to be friends with her?

It’s not as easy a question to answer as you think. So let me give you more questions to guide you to the right decision.

  • Can you sincerely be friends without holding onto romantic feelings and expectations?
  • Are you open to friendship because you like who they are, or are you hoping to change their mind in the future?
  • What if she never sees you as more than a friend, can you deal with that?
  • How would you feel if she started talking about a guy she’s dating?

Think carefully about whether being pals is going to give you more happiness than pain.

Step 4. Communicate your decision

Now that you’ve taken the time to carefully think over your choice, it’s time to reach out.

No matter what you’re feeling, it’s always best to respond in the most mature way.

What would your best version of yourself reply? That’s the bar you want to set for yourself.

These are the most important elements to include in your reply to her friend zone text:

  • Appreciation. It takes the heart of a lion to be so honest. So thank them for their candor.
  • Understanding. You’ve undoubtedly rejected some people too. So you know just how difficult it can be.
  • Vulnerability. If you feel hurt, it’s easy to say something nasty or ignore them. But that’s ego. Instead, show your strength by expressing that you feel a little bruised.
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Best responses to a “Let’s just be friends” text

Replies for when you don’t want to remain friends

If someone you barely know throws you into the friend zone, it’s unlikely they want to be buddies. Instead, they don’t see it going anywhere romantic and want to turn you down lightly.

In these cases, you don’t really need to address whether or not you want to remain pals right away.

  • “Thanks for your honesty. That’s a classy move. Even though it stings a little, I completely get it. Ciao.”
  • “I appreciate your directness. And I totally get it. I’m a little bruised, but I wish you well.”
  • “That came as a surprise to me but I’ll manage. 😉 Anyway, thanks for laying it on the line. Have a good one!”
  • “Reading that shook me a little, but I really appreciate you for being straight with me. Take care.”
  • “Rejection doesn’t feel good, but I prefer this a 1,000 times to being ghosted. Thanks for the honesty. Take it easy.”
  • “I was looking forward to seeing you again, but you can’t win ‘em all. Thanks for being so direct though, it makes it much easier to deal with. Be well.”

Choose whichever most closely matches your feelings. Or use them as inspiration for your own text if you feel like your situation demands it.

Replies for when you do want to remain friends

If you want to stay buds, send one of the next messages. You’ll notice that they’re similar to the ones from above, just with a different ending.

  • “That came as a surprise to me but I’ll manage. And yes, I’d rather be friends with you than not have you around at all. I may need some time to collect myself though. But I’ll let you know once I bounce back. ;)”
  • “Reading that shook me a little, but I really appreciate you for being straight with me. Although I expected things to go differently, my friendship for you hasn’t changed. I may need some space to process things though. I’ll let you know when I’m ready to hang out again. :)”

Maintaining a friendship after dating can feel a little awkward. And it’s more than okay to set some boundaries or even distance yourself from them for a while.

Although your new friend might prefer to see you right away, it’s important to take care of yourself first.

Best reply if you’re into personal growth

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When you receive a “let’s just be friends” text, it might feel like you can fix it with a witty reply.

But this is part of the TextGod gospel:

Don’t look for an online solution to an offline problem. If she rejected you, it’s almost certainly because of the impression you made in real life.

That’s why this might be a great opportunity to learn! So if you got the cojones, then use this format:

Hey that’s fine and I respect you for telling me the truth. Since I’m big on always developing myself, could you tell me what I did that turned you off? I’d appreciate that! Thanks and have a great day. 🙂

I’ve got to be honest. Not everyone will give you a reaction. Sometimes it’s just that she didn’t feel a connection.

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Best way to get out of the friend zone

Being in the friend zone with someone you’re romantically interested in isn’t game over.

You can get out. And I’m about to tell you real soon. But first I want to address a more important question.

Should you want someone back who friend-zoned you?

My coaches and I are of the opinion that you shouldn’t chase someone who turned you down.


You should never settle for less than “HELL YEAH!” There are tens of thousands of beautiful women who would jump at the opportunity to be with you.

Why go after a girl who’s only so-so about you? Or worse, chase a girl who’s not even interested in you right now?

You should never have to convince a girl you’re right for each other.

She should realize it on her own. And if she doesn’t, that honestly means that she’s not good for you.

But if you feel differently, that’s on you. In case you still want to make her yours, you want to follow the next two steps.

Step 1. Stop being her helper

Helping her out with chores, listening to her dating woes, and braiding her hair.

What do all of these activities have in common? You’re getting closer to her in the wrong ways.

These roads lead to friendship, not the bedroom.

So if you want to become her romantic interest, she has to associate you with sexual arousal.

The best way to do that is to change your friendly conversation to flirty conversation.

  • Friendly language: “You look nice tonight.”
  • Flirty language: “You look hot tonight.”

Once you stop helping her out and she starts feeling your flirty masculine energy, she’ll understand that you like her differently and slowly change her perception of you.

“I don’t really know why, but he somehow seems more attractive than when we used to hang out”.

Step 2. Make yourself less available

Once you see her again and have had a slightly flirty conversation, use this winning line:

“You know, I’m glad we’re friends. Because we would be trouble for each other.”

Why do you want to say that? Because people always want what they can’t have.

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How do you bust out of the friendzone if you don’t want to risk losing her?

I’m a big supporter of baby steps. Make small changes in your behavior, not large ones.

  • Be a little more tactile with her than you’d be normally.
  • Tease her a little more.
  • Make slightly more flattering and flirty remarks.

If you value the friendship, you don’t have to risk losing it all in one event. It’s possible to inch forward and see how she responds.

If she inches forward too, great. If not, you want to drop your hopes of one day getting together as a romantic couple.

Anyway, these were the best responses to the ‘Let’s just be friends’ text and the most important steps to escape the friendzone.

One word of advice, however:

Start meeting other people.

Being fixated on a girl who just wants to be friends is a guaranteed way to unhappiness.

So make sure to meet people through online dating apps.

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