You’re on Tinder.
And you have a burning question:
“What is the deal with selfies on Tinder?”
Good or bad?
Read on and you’ll get:
- 5 Great and 5 terrible selfie examples
- The unexpected reasons why selfies (usually) suck
- How to find out if your selfies are scaring off your dreamgirl
- The secret to GOOD selfies on Tinder
- Examples of awesome Tinder selfies that get results
- A method to get more matches
- 5 Tinder tips to get 5+ matches a week
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Do selfies work on Tinder?
The short answer?
Selfies are decent at showing off your looks. But they do little else.
And unless you’re Joe Sixpack, your swiping criteria are probably more than, “She needs to be a 7+.”
For sparks to fly, most of us need someone with personality too.
In short, we want a good hot:personality ratio.
And if your selfies only show you won the genetic lottery, your selfie is doing more harm than good.
Should I put my mirror selfie on Tinder?
The short answer:
The slightly longer answer:
The logic of the selfie-shooting Tinder user is, “I need to show what I look like and I better look good.”
*continues to do my best duck face*
But here is what’s important:
Appearances are only one part of the attraction equation.
If you don’t know it, here’s the simplified version:
Sexy bod + confidence of a rockstar = HOT
And your typical selfie only communicates the sexy part.
Let me step away from the theory and toward the real.
Imagine you’re looking at a Tinder profile full of selfies.
Better yet, look at this selfie.
Now give me your best guess on what she’s like.
Do you think she’s kind?
Or is she the type to stalk you?
Not to scare you away, buddy.
But it doesn’t matter what you think she’s like.
Because it’s likely wrong.
Selfies do a piss poor job of conveying personality.
And they suck for a multitude of other reasons we’re getting into later.
If you want to know what the perfect profile picture looks like, and how to make them, check out my Tinder photo guide.
But don’t throw away your selfie stick just yet.
Before we reach the end of the article, I will show you dozens of selfies on Tinder that work.
If you can manage to copy them.
5 Reasons why selfies suck
Here’s 5 common selfie mistakes that cost you matches.
Most people make at least 3 of them.
1. Selfies look like doodoo (compared to DSLR)
Though it’s only a picture, looking like a blur isn’t attractive.
Even if you own a cutting edge smartphone that rivals the latest Canon, your selfie will probably be from an unflattering angle.
I made some bad selfie examples for this article, and briefly uploaded them on my Tinder for you:
Poor quality photos make you seem immature, lazy and unsuccessful.
But consider it tough love, my friend.
My feedback will make your Tinder profile sexier than it’s ever been.
What makes selfies even worse is that they’re mostly shot indoors.
Underneath your flickering fluorescent office light.
Making your every imperfection stand out.
And turning you into someone you’re not.
2. Selfies raise unwanted questions (for guys)
“Doesn’t he have any friends?”
“I don’t want to date an outcast?”
“Why are all his photos at home? Doesn’t he have a cool passion to share?”
To be fair, these thoughts won’t likely cross her mind when you only have one selfie.
Or a good one. I’ll give 5 examples on that later.
But if she sees one selfie, then checks out your next photo and sees another selfie…
There’s already a 69% chance she will swipe left.
Because selfies don’t convey personality!
Other unattractive thoughts your selfies plant in her brain are:
- He’s in his car taking photos of himself? Okay, cool… (not)
- Does he never go to clubs? (Clubs often have paid photographers shooting pics for promotion)
- Does he look bad on every other photo so that he has to make them himself?
All red flags you don’t want to raise.
Because what every woman is after, is a man who has his life together.
Men don’t tend to care as much about selfies on Tinder as women.
And that’s largely due to three reasons:
1. Men get attracted more by looks than woman doe according to research.
2. You probably don’t have as many admirers as the average girl on Tinder.
3. A woman probably can’t beat you up. (This sounds weird, but just hear me out)
Because you don’t have to worry about your safety, and you probably crave the attention of any attractive female, it may sound crazy how selfies can be so unattractive.
But imagine it was the opposite:
1. You don’t care about her looks so much.
2. Your Instagram DMs are blowing up with messages of dudes trying to get in your panties.
3. You can’t beat a woman in a game of armwrestling even if your life depended on it.
You would be WAY more selective about who you go on a date with.
And if you see a woman who is so in love with herself that she only has selfies on her Tinder profile, and no evidence of friends, you will highly likely swipe left to protect yourself.
If you would swipe her right, you’re probably still thinking with your donger.
3. Bad selfies make you look vain
Sure, your washboard abs are sexy.
But they also make you look like a meathead.
And that’s a major turnoff.
Studies show that women get turned on by kindness, empathy and ambition. To name a few.
And the only ambition you’re showing in your selfie is an obsession with making your muscles pop.
4. Selfies look unnatural
Imagine you’re in nature. You feel completely relaxed. You breath in the fresh air and…
…suddenly a friend snaps a picture of you!
This photo will probably look amazing, it really captured you in the moment.
Selfies can never look that natural.
They feel forced, since you have to be self-aware when making them.
Even more so than your home-made Christmas card.
And it’s not your fault.
Unless you’re a model or actor, putting on an authentic and warm smile is difficult on command.
Ignoring authenticity, selfies on Tinder also tend to be shot from poor angles.
Magnifying your imperfections. Or magically turning you into Mister Potatohead.
A study shows that taking selfies from too close distorts your face.
Shooting your selfie from 12 inches (30 centimeters) away is like standing in front of a funhouse mirror.
It changes all your proportions and gives you a giant nose.
5. Selfies don’t tell stories
Yeah, you’re crouched down in front of a BMW.
But what is that supposed to tell me?
That you’re proud of your German heritage?
And that’s the problem.
Every photo is a window into your life.
And when she peeks inside, she sees you surrounded by a whole lot of emptiness.
Which leads her to boredom and disappointment.
Not a very attractive combo.
But like I said earlier, not all selfies are created equal.
Let me show you what good Tinder selfies look like.
Hint: they tell good stories, just like a good Tinder bio.
Best Tinder Selfies ever made
Not all selfies on Tinder are bad.
In fact, if selfies are high quality, don’t unnecessarily show off your body and tell a story…
They can get her to swipe you right.
Let me give you some examples.
1. The interactive selfie
Before I set you on the wrong foot, the selfie I’m about to show you is not exactly interactive.
It’s just a still image.
But what I mean is that the photographer and the background are working together.
Here’s the selfie.
See what I mean?
This dude is holding a cherry between his fingers so that it looks like it’s resting on the spoon in the background.
What makes this selfie work, is that the model and the background play an equal role.
Whereas most selfies revolve only about the model.
But as soon as you shop the background out of this image, the selfie doesn’t make any sense.
In short, background-model teamwork is epic.
When you go to the tower of Piza it seems like it’s been invaded by ninjas.
What’s going on??
Honestly, pushing over the tower of Piza and touching the tip of the Louvre are more overdone than my Thanksgiving Turkey.
We’ve all seen it.
Please be creative.
Enough beating a dead horse.
Let’s move onto number two.
2. The sporty selfie
I’m not talking about the gym selfie.
Put that self-loving work of art away.
I mean a real display of skill.
Like this surfer bro riding a gnarly wave.
Do you see how this is much cooler than someone casually flexing his pythons in the gym?
It’s a world of difference.
3. The I-can’t-believe-it-selfie
I don’t even know how to write a fitting intro for the next selfie.
And it’s going to blow you away.
Luckily for our photographer, he stayed put.
If you’re as smart as my average reader, you already know it’s fake.
Which is good news.
Because that means you don’t need to be a pilot with a 6-figure salary.
All you need is a 3-figure photoshop subscription.
Or a couple bucks and some tech savvy schmo on Fiverr.
It doesn’t matter how you shop yourself into a crazy scenario.
All you need to know is that this photo went viral and people loved it.
4. The I-have-no-fear-selfie
Do you know anyone without a fear of heights?
They all live in Russia.
I’m just kidding.
But if you don’t know what I’m referencing, check out Oleg Cricket.
One of his balls are bigger than my three testicles put together.
Anyway, we’re supposed to be discussing selfies.
Now even if you don’t find her attractive, I’m willing to bet my third nut that you’d swipe right.
Because she’s got you by the balls. And now your heart and mind will follow.
Put simply, this death defying lady is clearly living an epic life.
And you just want to be part of it.
Crazy how a selfie do dat.
The best part?
With a little magic from Photoshop, you can do it too.
5. The celebrity selfie
I’m going to be 1337% honest with you.
The celebrity selfie has mixed results.
And that’s because it ventures into bragging territory.
All the other selfies we discussed raised our moods by being (somewhat) impressive.
The interactive selfie showed wit.
The sporty selfie showed skill.
The skyscraper selfie showed courage.
But posing with a celebrity can come across as try hard.
And that’s because the selfie-maker is coasting on someone else’s achievements.
Just chilling with one of the most famous people in the world, y’all.
A good middle ground is photoshopping yourself into existing celebrity photos.
(Man… I should really think about getting Adobe to sponsor me.)
If you know Average Rob, you know exactly what I mean.
If you don’t, check him out on Insta. Rob is a hilarious dude.
And don’t worry if you don’t have the same shopping skills as him.
If anything, your bad photoshop-skills will make your selfie all the more funny.
That about wraps up the good selfie chapter.
Now onto getting more Tinder likes.
Do you ever feel like you’re not getting enough?
You’re probably right.
Read on to find out why.
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5 Tinder tips to get you 5+ dates a week
If you’re serious about improving your love life, you want to know what’s next.
Because easily 90% of dudes get this wrong.
Let me help you become part of the 10% that get all the matches.
And to get you there, we’re going to get into your most important tool for success on Tinder.
Your first profile photo.
Most people treat their first photo the same as their other pictures.
But that’s a mistake. It’s MUCH more important.
Just like the front of a restaurant, it should be designed to lure people inside.
Or in your case, make her check out your second Tinder photo.
How do you do that?
By making your first photo as attractive as possible.
That was only tip 1 of 5. But I figured you’d like a break from all the reading.
So I made a 5 Tinder tips video for you.
What will you get?
- How other dating coaches are leading you away from success
- The right way of writing your bio
- My own best opener
- And a chance to see my pretty face in action
Sit back and enjoy the show.
Before we end the article, I have one more question.
Do you ever worry about what to write your Tinder match, or perhaps even your real life crush?
If so, I’ve got just what you need.
I know what you’re thinking, I’ve already given you so much today.
But I’m feeling more generous than Father Christmas.
So here are 10 unique texts of my own that always work. Whether it’s asking her out, keeping the conversation going, or sending a killer first line, you can find it in my TextGod Toolkit.
Have fun on Tinder, brochacho.
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