You’re considering downloading Tinder, but you have a few concerns.
Perhaps you’re not sure if you’re the right age.
Maybe you’ve heard Tinder isn’t great for relationships.
Or you may feel a bit strange about using an online dating service.
Whatever your concern, we’ll go over it here and answer the ultimate question of:
“Should I get Tinder?”
Read on and…
- Find out if Tinder is taboo or more normal than you think
- Get the truth on whether Tinder works for relationships
- Why Tinder helps you get ready for the One
- Discover if you’re too old for Tinder
- How Tinder enriched my life and will enrich yours
- And more…
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Before we get started, a quick disclaimer.
We’re not sponsored by or affiliated with Tinder in any way.
We at TextGod simply think Tinder is the most versatile dating app in 2020. It fits close to everyone’s needs.
#1: Is Tinder hot or not?
Back in the early 90s, online dating got you laughed at. But how do people feel in 2020?
A national survey from 2015 shows that 15% of all American adults have used online dating services.
And the two groups who supported online dating most were…
- Young adults, and
- People in their late 50s and early 60s
The same survey reported that 41% of Americans knew someone who actively uses online dating. And 28% knew someone who met a spouse or long-term partner via online dating.
Within two years after Tinder’s launch, the app has gone from a corny oddity to a romantic staple: seeing 1 billion swipes a day.
A 2019 study by the University of Mexico discovered that meeting online had finally overtaken meeting through friends, with 39% of American couples first getting in touch via an app. The percentage for those who identify as LGBTQ is even higher!
Online dating is definitely losing its bad image.
A poll by Axios says that more than half of Americans who used dating apps feel positive about the experience. 72% believe that relationships that start online are just as, if not more, successful than those that begin offline.
Coach Dan recently spoke to a New York photographer who said, “You have clients who feel embarrassed about using Tinder? How weird. Everyone in New York speaks openly about dating online. Sh!$, it’s more weird NOT to use dating apps.”
There’s no way around it, Tinder has become normal.
More importantly, Tinder is an opportunity to meet new people.
But when it comes to meeting new people on Tinder, you probably have the next question:
#2: Does Tinder work for finding relationships?
Drop your worries about finding a partner or spouse on Tinder, the answer is simple…
Yes, Tinder can help you find your true love.
Although the digital landscape also has its fair share of commitaphobes, finding your spouse on Tinder is increasingly normal.
A study by SimpleTexting found that 15% of couples who met online date for a year or longer. 13.6% of those couples get engaged or married.
A group of scientists looked into the 13 biggest motives to use Tinder.
Casual bow-chicka-bow-wow was close to the bottom at #11. And romantic love was in fourth place.
You don’t need all these studies to find out a Tinder date can lead to marriage.
Many lucky Tinder couples are open about how they met and often pay homage to where it all began.
Just check out the hashtag #TinderWedding on Instagram. Over 2.000 photos of smiling faces, wedding cakes and flowery brides.
Keep in mind that these happy people met on Tinder.
The numbers for marriage across all dating apps are far higher. A study by PNAS shows that 30% of all American marriages come from people who met on a dating app.
The next insight should be obvious, but I’ll say it anyway:
Just because people get hitched through Tinder doesn’t mean everyone is looking to walk down the aisle.
More than anything, most people who use Tinder simply want love.
#3: Tinder prepares you best for finding the One
Tinder doesn’t teach you the way of love like a teacher from a bad kung fu movie, but it does do something almost as important…
Tinder teaches you how to be likeable over text.
Which is invaluable to attracting a mate.
To drive home the importance of texting skill, let’s suppose you’re eye-poppingly beautiful and get lots of matches.
But at the same time, you’re an awful texter.
So whenever you get a match, you send the following kinds of texts:
Do you see the harm in the never-ending barrage of questions?
I hope so, because that interrogation will kill your attraction faster than you can say ‘banana hammock’.
Sure, your gorgeous looks will make up for your incessant questions.
But the quality matches you really want will be scared away by your boring Tinder personality.
So how does Tinder help you be more likeable?
Tinder has roughly 57 million users around the world.
Which means you’ll get plenty of matches, if you have a strong profile.
Check out my profile checklist to make your Tinder profile bulletproof. Or read one of my articles to triple your matches.
With lots of matches, you’ll have plenty of opportunity to practice your texting skills.
Do you go interview-mode?
You’ll 169% lose match after match.
If you want to keep your matches, you’ll need to fix your texting mistakes and experiment.
When your crazy text experiment goes well.
Ruin enough Tinder conversations and you’ll get better.
Eventually, you’ll be ready to seduce your Tinder dream partner.
#4: Dating apps enrich your life
Tinder can help you break out of a life-sucking daily routine and give you the joy you’ve been looking for.
That’s not a sales pitch, that’s science.
As human beings, we can only handle so much at the same time.
An interesting limit is our social capacity.
According to British anthropologist Robin Dunbar, we’re limited to about 5 close friends at a time.
Any more and our relationships become more superficial.
That’s not all, a famous study found that friendship is not so much based on commonalities, but proximity.
We tend to befriend people who share hang out in the same areas as we do.
What does any of this have to do with Tinder, you ask?
Simple, it’s highly likely your social circle is predictable.
Your friends live and/or work in similar areas and do similar activities as you.
So in real life, you always meet the same type of people.
Which turns life into a rut.
Tinder and other dating apps enrich your life by connecting you with people you’d otherwise never meet.
I’ve been on a date with an Olympic swimmer, someone who did a doctorate in empirical psycho-aesthetics of photography, an actrice, and countless people of all cultures and backgrounds that I’d never bump into via my daily routine.
Our team and clients all think the same:
Dating apps enrich your life with interesting people.
#5: Tinder your best travel-buddy
Don’t miss out on the best holiday experience by forgetting to…
20 million Tinder matches are made across 196 countries… daily!
Although the app is popular in the US, 3 out of 5 Tinder users live outside North America.
Swiping is a worldwide phenomenon.
So how does Tinder improve your vacation?
Because dating a local is the best way to experience a foreign culture.
Your new exotic friend can show you all the best places that most tourists never do.
If you want to get the most out of your time abroad, creating a Tinder account isn’t enough.
You also want a profile that beats the local competition.
My Tinder when traveling guide covers all the basics you need to match with foreign cuties.
And to find someone who can take your holiday to new heights.
Now for a supportive Tinder argument, you may not expect.
#6: Tinder isn’t just good for dates…
Tinder is also great for increasing your well-being!
Earlier, I cited a study that showed 13 different motives why people use Tinder.
Surprisingly, love was in fourth place.
Curious about what motive was in first?
Let me tell you…
The most common reason why people fire up tinder is for entertainment.
Suppose you’re waiting for the bus or train.
You already checked your email, Facebook, and Instagram.
Why not check Tinder?
That said, be careful.
Studies have already linked social media use to substance-related addictions, like gambling.
Although not exactly a social media platform, Tinder does share many similarities with Instagram.
So as with anything, Tinder in moderation.
As to not end on a downer, here are 3 examples of people who are having a blast on Tinder.
Who lives in a pineapple under the sea?
The next girl is into horoscopes.
The next guy spits wisdom.
Just because you downloaded Tinder doesn’t mean you have to date anyone.
Simply aim for fun.
NOTE: Don’t have fun at someone else’s expense. Be upfront about your intentions and shoot for win/win.
#7: The most common question I get from my older clients
“Am I too old for Tinder?”
To which I always reply…
“HELL TO THE N-O!”
Although I understand why the older guys and gals may feel that way.
It’s discouraging to use dating apps that cater to the young and embrace hookup culture.
Plus, Tinder can feel aggressive for women who just came out of a 15+-year marriage.
Men in their 50s are just as bad as young men in their 20s.
Is that a Scooby snack in your pocket?
So why aren’t you too old?
For starters, a survey of 2,000+ 50-year-olds found that a quarter feels more sexually adventurous than ever before.
In short, sexy stays forever.
And despite that 86% of the Tinder demographic is under 35-years old (which still leaves 10+ million over 35), a survey found that of 4,000 heterosexual men at least 88% said they sometimes fantasize about being with an older woman. 42% said they had these fantasies often.
Cougar fetish, anyone?
Although Tinder works for men and women in their 50s, you may want to check out dating apps specifically made for your demographic.
#8: The brutal truth for all Tinder doubters
Whether you’re old or young, gay or straight, man or woman, or a non-binary apache helicopter, the answer is the same.
Tinder works for you too.
Tinder is the most diverse dating app.
You can find anyone from any age or walk of life.
Just don’t be discouraged if it takes a while.
Tinder is crowded.
#9: The biggest regret of all
New research reveals what people regret most of all, here’s how to make sure that doesn’t happen to you.
Hint, it’s not the choices that turned out badly.
After all, you can fix most mistakes.
But what is impossible to do?
You can’t go back and do the things you dreamed of doing, but didn’t.
That research I mentioned earlier?
76% of the test subjects were sad they didn’t make the choices that would lead them to become the greatest version of themselves.
Like switching careers, eating healthily, or installing a dating app that would turn them into a more outgoing and charismatic person.
Tinder may not be the best way to become your best self. But it’s definitely a start if you desire to be more social and friendly.
Do you simply want a life filled with affection and regular whoopee?
Then downloading Tinder is definitely the right move for you.
So if you don’t already use the app, create a Tinder account now and start building your ideal life today.
#10: Tinder is probably the #1 dating app in your country
Although many of you are from countries across the globe, it’s a safe bet to think Tinder is the #1 dating app in your area.
But there’s a hitch.
Although Tinder is loved all over the world, every state or city treats (online) dating a little differently.
So what works in, say, LA, United States may not work in Paris, France.
Luckily, we’ve already written over a dozen Tinder city guides that explain the cultural differences, so that your Tinder experience will be a success.
Here’s what we have so far.
Didn’t find what you were looking for?
Let me know in the comments and my team and I may turn your city idea into a Tinder date tripling guide.
#11: You may meet the love of your life
Although you never know, a Tinder date may be the first step to marriage.
I personally know dozens of guys who met their girlfriend through Tinder.
And whenever I meet a new couple, I always make a point of asking how they met.
The most common answers I get are:
- Social circle, and
- Tinder (or other dating app)
An associate of mine, and close friend of Dan’s, not only met his girlfriend through Tinder.
The two even got married!
You may find your true love through Tinder too.
You never know until you try.
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Although today’s article is called, Should I Get Tinder?
Let’s quickly discuss 3 reasons why NOT to use Tinder.
Why not to use Tinder #1
It may be wise to avoid Tinder if you’re already addicted to your phone.
Tinder works similar to a casino slot machine.
You never know when a swipe will lead to a match.
Or when a text to a match will get you a reply.
These little minigames trigger dopamine reactions and can genuinely get you hooked.
So if you don’t trust yourself to Tinder with moderation, perhaps you don’t want to Tinder altogether.
Why not to use Tinder #2
Tinder may land you a relationship, which is great, but what isn’t great…
Is the story of how you met.
“We met on Tinder,” hardly gets anyone’s heart rate going.
That said, does it really matter how you met your partner if she’s the best thing that ever happened to you?
Of course not.
Why not to use Tinder #3
Although Tinder can legitimately improve your quality of life, it can also make it slightly more difficult.
Although the pros far outweigh the cons, you have to put in time and energy to make TInder work.
Selfies don’t cut it.
You want a profile filled with high-quality photos that give her a peek into your life.
Does the idea of ‘giving her a peek into your life’ already put you off?
That’s a shame.
Because it really isn’t that difficult.
Check how easily you can make your first Tinder experience a hit with my Tinder profile pictures guide.
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As you can tell, the Tinder gains far outweigh the losses.
Anyway, that’s all folks.
Thanks for reading.
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