7 Signs You’re A Simp Over Text Message

Maybe you’re afraid that you’re simping for a girl.

Maybe you’re curious what the heck a ‘simp’ is.

If so, then you’re in the right place.

Because you’re about to discover the 7 signs you’re a simp over text message.

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What is a Simp?

Let’s start with a basic question. What does it actually mean to be a simp?

According to one of the highest upvoted definitions on Urban Dictionary:

A square with no game other than ‘Rolling out the Red-Carpet’ for every female.

So similar to the phrase ‘nice guy,’ simp is a term given to men who do nice things for women in hopes of getting love or sexual favors in return.

Today, almost everyone has adopted the word simp. And it’s becoming a YouTube classic.

Anyway, being the type of guy who is prepared to do anything for her (a simp) is a huge turn-off for women.

So if you care about being attractive to women, you need to know if you act like a simp.

Let’s dive into the 7 signs you’re a simp over text right now.

Why do some men simp?

So why do some men actually simp?

There are two important factors in play here:

First, they are too needy. They likely have little experience with women, have low self-esteem, or fall head over heels in love very easily.

It means they look up to a woman instead of seeing her as an equal who also has to prove herself to them.

They are the ones who need to put in the work.

Second, they think you attract a woman by being extremely kind to her. The classical idea of a prince charming.

They do everything in their power to make her comfortable, never disagree with anything, and pamper her.

Unfortunately attraction doesn’t work this way.

In some cases, this behavior becomes very toxic, and ‘simps’ can become angry and disappointed with women in general.

It’s because of a hidden contract:

‘If I am very sweet to her and do everything for her, then in turn she should give me love (or sex).’

Since they’re not getting what they want, they become angry and resentful.

They feel they’ve been betrayed by women and have not been treated fairly.

1. You’re afraid to show your real intentions

Most guys find it incredibly difficult to tell a girl what they’re actually after. Even if they just want sex or are secretly crazy about her.

So they lie by not showing any intentions towards her.

They’re basically just very friendly in the hope that the woman will fall for them at some point because they’re being so kind to her.

Why are they hiding their true intentions?

Because they’re afraid to say something she may not like because it may push her away.

And they’re afraid of rejection.

2. You do everything she says

One of the biggest signs of being a simp is when you’ll do anything she says.

Can you help me with my homework?

I’m going to go to a party tonight, can you pick me up when I want to go home?

My boyfriend is coming over tonight and I have to work late. Can you go to my place and tidy up? The keys are under the doormat.

These examples are pretty extreme.

But make no mistake, if you EVER catch yourself doing favors for her in hopes that she’ll like you… You’re being a classic simp.

3. You overcompensate by being extra chivalrous

A more subtle way of simping is being overly chivalrous.

Which usually translates itself into opening doors for her, pulling out her chair, or buying her flowers.

But chivalry over text looks very different. Usually it looks like long sweet messages with overly flowery prose.

Similar to this:

Do you recognize this? It means you’re seriously simping.

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4. You have a way too available bio

Let’s keep this one brief.

Does your online dating bio hint at (genuine) romantic things you want to do with your Tinder dates?

You’re simping. Especially if it’s anything close to this guy’s bio:

On the other hand, if simping makes you genuinely happy then is it really simping? We’ll save that philosophical discussion for Jordan Peterson and Deepak Chopra to figure out.

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5. You react like a puppy every time she sends you a text

This sign doesn’t need much explanation.

If getting a text notification from a random Tinder match makes your chest flutter, you’re a simp.

It means you’re seriously desperate for attention from women and is a sign you’re living in scarcity.

6. You never disagree with her over text

Some guys I know will act tough in front of the boys, but when they’re home alone texting a cute girl from Tinder… they turn into simps.

What happens? They never go against the flow.

Afraid to rock the boat, they keep the conversation safe and try very hard to avoid anything she may not like.

That’s a major turnoff. After all, you’re saying anything that you think will get her to like you.

That’s a big sign you’re a simp. So disagree sometimes! (In a playful way.)

Holy Tip:

If you use the word ‘simp’ a little too much, this is for you.

Women do not like a-holes.

But they likely have a tendency to be more attracted to men who have traits of prestige and dominance.

So it’s not so much about being aggressive or an a-hole.

Women simply like men who are in a position of power.

Which is no different than a dude being more attracted to Beyonce than the cute girl next door.

So don’t think you need to be a d-bag to be sexy to women.

Instead, focus on climbing the competence hierarchy and gain prestige.

And don’t take this whole simp thing too seriously.

7. You’re too emotional over text

Make no mistake, I’m not against guys having emotions. There’s nothing wrong with having an emotional side.

But there IS something wrong with being too emotional over text.

When it comes to texting, you want to be more chill with your emojis and haha’s, so that she can play the more feminine role.

Anyway, that was the last sign that shows you’re a simp over text.

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