Tinder equals swiping.
But should you swipe left or right?
The consequences of this repetitive, tiny decision can be more grave than you might think.
- When to swipe left and when to swipe right
- How your current swiping pattern is cockblocking you (RIP ELO)
- 4 Tinder trap profiles you should never swipe right
- What to text after you swiped right and it’s a match (steal my opener)
- How to undo a like on Tinder
- 2 Tinder icebreakers for you to steal
- One rule to live by before swiping ANYONE right.
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On dating apps, a swipe left means you’re not interested in the person. A swipe right means you ARE interested. However, these swipes left or right have a way bigger impact on your dating success than you know. In this article you’ll find out why, and how to optimize your swiping.
#1: What does swiping right mean? How does it work?
Swiping right means TWO things.
- When you put your finger on your screen and swipe it to the right, you have swiped right. In the same sense that you swipe left when you slide your finger leftwards.
That’s the literal meaning.
- Whenever you swipe left or right, you’re sending data to the dating app you are using. This data will partly decide whether or not your dating profile becomes successful. More on that further down the article.
And NO. The other person does NOT know whether you swipe left or right on Tinder or on any other dating app. General exception being that if they already swipe YOU right, then they obviously will know, since you now have a match.
Swiping is the core action on dating apps. Few men realize how much impact every swipe has on their dating success. And that’s exactly why many men never truly find the love they are looking for.
More on that in a bit. First let’s see when you should swipe right on Tinder.
#2: How to decide if someone is worth swiping?
This question might seem too obvious to ask.
But it isn’t.
Because as I just said in the last tip:
Each and every one of your swipes, decides what your dating app adventure will look like.
See, a swipe right tells the app: I like this girl. I am open to the opportunity of meeting her.
This means we can instantly break an old myth:
Should you swipe right on everyone on Tinder?
NO, no you shouldn’t.
Doing so will tell the app:
I am willing to meet and date literally A N Y O N E. I have ZERO standards. In fact, if there’s a pile of cow dung on the app, than I’d still date it.
So, how do you decide if someone is worth swiping?
The obvious answer: If you’d ACTUALLY want to meet them.
The more complex answer:
If you’d ACTUALLY date them if you knew what they are truly like.
Obviously, it’s hard to know them. You can guess what their personality is like, based on their profile text and photos. But both can be misleading in many ways.
The maker of this meme doesn’t seem to care about offending people.
But his meme holds truth.
More on these pitfalls in Tip #4.
But first, tip numéro 3.
#3: Can you undo a swipe right on Tinder ?
But you can only undo your last swipe on Tinder.
For example, if you just realized that three swipes ago you shouldn’t have swiped your coworker to the right… then you’re too late.
Not only that, you also need to subscribe to one of Tinder’s premium services to use this function.
On dating app Badoo, the rewind button will disappear once you swipe right.
On Bumble you’ll get this error message:
If you want to know if it is worth to get the Rewind on Tinder + a little rewind trick to use it best, then read on. I’ll cover those shortly.
#4: Should you swipe right on everyone on Tinder?
If you’re the goodest of boys and didn’t skip anything, then you already know this.
The answer is: no, you shouldn’t.
But what’s more important, is understanding WHY you shouldn’t. This way you’ll get a better understanding of Tinder’s algorithm and know how to get the most out of your Tinder experience.
Every swipe you make, left or right, influences your popularity on the dating app.
So next time you’re not sure whether you swipe right or left on Tinder, know this:
A swipe left tells the app: I’m not interested in this person.
A swipe right tells the app: I am interested in this person.
Based on all swipes you make, the app gets a really good idea about your standards, and the type of girl you like.
Features like Tinder Top Picks are based completely on your swiping behavior.
One thing is for sure: swiping right on everyone is DETRIMENTAL for your profile’s hidden attractiveness score.
Just how punishable it is to swipe LEFT too often, I am still unsure of.
My general advice to you, is to swipe genuinely.
See a girl you’d like to know more about? Swipe right.
See a girl that’s not your type? Swipe left.
To save yourself time and frustration, do mind some of these really common Tinder traps.
Looks are so easily manipulated in photos, here are some things to be weary of:
- Profiles where every photo is almost identical (angle, zoom, …) Rest assured this woman is not remotely as attractive as you think she is.
- Women that only use filters. Whether it’s the super over used and by now ancient dog filter or any other face-hiding or face-deforming filter: be careful. This woman is either hiding something or she’s just very insecure.
- Another classic: the overexposed photo where your face is so bright that your nose becomes invisible. And should you not be aware: for some reason we’re all so much hotter without a nose.
The good ol’ overexposure no nose trick.
- Or the reverse of the “I only show zooms of my face”: The “I focus mainly on my body and my hella seductive curves so you forget about my face.” But let’s be honest, you probably couldn’t care and still swipe right, you dirty dog.
Another obvious indicator whether you should swipe left or right, is her bio. But then again, there’s only so much a cliché summing-up of common hobbies tells you.
Oh really? You like things that every human on the planet likes?
This is part of the reason why I keep telling men to Show Don’t Tell in their Tinder profile pictures.
Show her through your photos the kind of fun things you do in life. Show her the vibe she can expect from you. And make her laugh with your bio, instead of listing factual blabla.
Anyway, I digress. Forgive me.
Back to the point: swiping left or right.
Time for another question that seems obvious, but really isn’t.
#5: How long can you keep swiping right on Tinder?
Wrong question to ask, my friend.
(Also I don’t consider you a friend until you subscribe to my YouTube channel and stroke my ego by liking my videos.)
The right question to ask is this one:
How long should you swipe right on Tinder?
And my answer would be that it depends.
It depends on where you are.
It depends on what time it is.
It depends on where you’ll go.
Also, do you have Tinder Plus or Tinder Gold? Or good ol vanilla Tinder?
If you have vanilla (free) Tinder, then you can like a maximum of +- 100 people per day.
Whatever version of Tinder you have, you can always reject as many people as you want.
You when you feel power surge through your veins after rejection 1 billion people.
Anyway, what matters is this:
Don’t use your 100 right swipes.
Think of what the algorithm will think of you when you approve of 100 women every day.
Here’s what you’ll do:
You’ll use Tinder a couple times a day, and swipe until you’ve found just a couple girls that you like.
Do this several times per day.
When you match someone, text them.
Don’t treat Tinder like Pokémon where you’re trying to collect as many as possible and just let most of them rot inside their pokébal without ever interacting with them.
Text them. Take initiative. Tinder will reward you for it.
#6: How to tell if someone swiped you right on Tinder
Wouldn’t it be nice if you knew who liked you so you could adjust your swiping strategy?
Unless if you want to pay for Tinder Gold, which has the See Who Likes You feature.
(A most useless feature for anyone that isn’t already killing it on Tinder.)
For anyone else, the only way to find out it by swiping them right and seeing if it’s a match.
With one exception: the Superlike.
Anyone who superliked you will appear with a shiny blue border around their profile.
If you’re about to Superlike someone while you have Tinder Plus or Gold…
Instead give them a normal like.
If it’s not a match, then press Rewind and follow it up with a Superlike.
This way you’ll make sure not to waste any Superlikes on women that had already liked you anyway.
Btw, we’ve talked quite a bit about swiping left or right on Tinder. But I haven’t given you any tools to use once you DID swipe right, and have a Tinder match.
Let’s do that in the next tip.
#7: What to text after a match
I’ve got two great icebreakers for you.
One to make her giggle. And one to make her respond, completely overflowing with curiosity.
They’re openers that she hasn’t seen before. And they actually work.
Unlike all the recycled trash you see floating around the interwebs.
Don’t take my word for it, instead take it from random fellas from all over the world:
My pleasure, bro.
The opener he is talking about is a bit of funky one.
It goes like this:
And then, if you’ve matched a woman who understands how humor works, she’ll text something back like:
My second opener is less funny.
In fact it’s about as funny as the feeling I had when I woke up hungover as hell on some cold winter day in 2011 next to a lady who weighed more than my bench, squat, and deadlift PR’s combined.
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Time for another Tinder tip for more success:
#8: Swipe tip from Tinder expert
In this tip you’ll find out WHEN and WHERE to swipe.
I know, it’s a tough pill to swallow when you find out you can’t just swipe whenever you take a dump.
Hate Tinder for it, not me.
Well actually, some people CAN get away with swiping only when they have to poop.
See, most people know that to be successful on Tinder, you need the app’s secret behind-the -scenes algorithm to like you.
What most people don’t know, is HOW to do this.
Because that HOW constantly changes.
In fact, Tinder has stopped using ELO ages ago and has moved on to more complex methods.
What I can tell you is that at the time of writing this, it’s more important than ever that you swipe right or left at the right time and in the right place.
You’ll be blessed with more matches if you swipe at peak hours, in busy places.
Because of very specific Tinder dynamics, there’s whole queues of men liking the same women.
The more recent likes will be higher up the stack. Which means she will see them sooner than the guys who liked her a few hours ago.
So to all you farmer boys: save your swiping for when you’re in the city center in the evening.
To all you city folk: you can keep swiping while pooping, as long as you poop between 6 and 10pm.
So yes, you should hold up your number two when you feel it wriggle around 4pm.
#9: Watch out for swiping too much
Time to tell you something you may not want to hear.
But it’s crucial to know if you’re really looking to meet a lovely lady.
Many men fall in a validation trap after they’ve been on the app for a while.
They get discouraged that most Tinder conversations don’t go as they wish…
…but they keep swiping left and right.
Because getting a match feels damn good.
That little trickle of dopamine never ceases to feel good.
But, these men are still discouraged. So they won’t text their new matches.
Instead, they let them sit on the bench for a while.
While our demoralized men keep swiping and swiping.
I completely understand this.
And I’ve been there many times.
But I won’t be quick to do it again.
Because here’s the problem:
Once you leave a match unattended for a while…
…she’ll lose interest at the speed of light. Times 69.
I recently purposely ignored 10 matches. After one month I texted all of them. I sent them decent Tinder openers, no shabby peasant openers. Guess how many got back to me?
One out of ten got back to me. And I was running the same quality profile as usual.
One out of ten. While usually about 8 out of ten would respond when opened right after matching.
That difference is HUGE.
And the lesson here is pretty clear. No need to spell it out once more.
But I’ll do it anyway because I have autism and want everything crystal clear:
Don’t swipe her right if you’re not planning on instantly texting her if it’s a match.
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