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- 101+ Topics to talk about over text
- How to keep your questions from feeling like an interrogation
- The key to flirting successfully (it’s NOT the subject)
- A great date idea if your crush or girlfriend is into fashion
- How to get her talking WITHOUT questions
- What texting habits are making you look like a 13-year-old
- How to see if she likes you over text
- The #1 way to get girls to text you first
- And much more…
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IMPORTANT: You can use these questions in one of two ways
Let’s start with the most straight forward.
#1: Search and pick
If all you’re looking for is to find original topics to break new ground, go ahead, find a topic you like and fire away.
This article is split into four parts:
- Daily life things to talk about (over text)
- Interests and passions to talk about (over text)
- The best topic to talk/text about with your crush
- The best topic to talk/text about with your girlfriend
Just make sure the conversation doesn’t turn into an interview.
The idea is to have a back and forth.
When your conversation turns into an interrogation, stop.
But you can also use these questions as part of a game.
#2: The Question Game
Use these questions wrong and you’ll go home alone.
Use them right and you may not need to visit Pornhub to see boobs.
So how do you use these questions?
As part of a game.
Hint: That means she’s already at a level where she likes to spend time with you.
You never want to fire question after question.
Imagine you had to answer the next questions in a row:
Do you notice how that makes you feel like you’re taking a test?
Major mood killer.
But if you turn it into a game, it’s fun.
In comes the Question Game.
The rules are simple:
- Ask any questions you like
- Every question has to be answered truthfully
- You can’t repeat questions
- One question per turn
Base your questions on the current vibe.
A good rule of thumb is to start off light and work your way to the personal or naughty.
Is she getting bored? Try a spicier question.
Did spicy not do the trick? Call it quits.
Is she getting excited? Turn up the heat:
Talk about her type, Clitar solos and her favorite position.
If she’s into it, you may want to consider taking her home.
Let’s crack into the conversation starters and icebreakers.
#1: Daily life things to talk about (over text)
The next topics and questions give you an insight about her everyday life.
Before you continue, know that the point is NOT to go through every question of a topic.
The questions serve to get the conversational ball rolling.
Hopefully, one question is enough to lead you down a never-ending conversation.
Does the convo come to a halt?
Ask one, or at most two, more questions on the same topic. Or else you run the risk of being boring.
Once you use up 1 – 3 questions of a topic, move onto another topic.
Let’s get started.
Work and career
Many people don’t particularly enjoy their jobs.
To them, their work is just a way to earn money.
So don’t keep grilling someone about work if their eyes glaze over.
In that case, make like a tree and leave. Because you’re talking to a zombie!
Cropped the image to protect his identity. #Zombiesmattertoo
The most important piece of a flirty conversation is not the subject.
What’s crucial, is the emotions you’re triggering.
And if you trigger the right emotions, even a talk on history can be exciting.
The English industrial revolution, Edgar Degas’ role in the founding of impressionism, or the view from the Saint Peter’s Church in Riga can all make her heart beat faster…
If you sexualize.
It doesn’t take her long to realize what kind of tip I was talking about.
If she’s into it, the conversation will get a whole lot flirtier.
Where she lives
Warning: when asking someone questions about where she lives, respect their privacy.
And don’t be a creep.
Don’t ask for a street name or address. Keep it general.
Stick to questions about the neighborhood or area.
No matter what you call home, it’s always connected to strong feelings.
It’s the place where you eat, store your memories and where the magic happens.
Just me and my fellow planeswalkers.
Decorating your home is like dress up for adults.
And we all play.
Here are some questions to find out if she’s winning:
Hobbies and free time
Unless the previous topics struck oil, here’s where you’ll really find out who she is.
Is she a bookworm, a gamer girl, or a witch who is looking for a virgin to sacrifice?
When all you want in life is to be sacrificed to the Dark Lord.
You’ll find out with the next questions to ask over text.
#2: Interests & passions to talk about (over text)
The next topics may be part of her everyday life. In which case, you should use them to dig even deeper.
Otherwise, these topics are not the focal point of her life, but fun side adventures.
Even though this article blesses you with a mountain of questions…
…it’s best not to overuse them.
One of the pillars of seduction, as a man, is leading.
Firing question after question, is not leading. It’s asking.
Sometimes even begging.
Luckily, you can open her up without using questions.
Instead of asking, you say, “You seem like..” or “I get the idea you’re…”
Even if you assume wrong, she’ll gladly correct you.
The conversations of team TextGod and I are loaded with statements.
And if you don’t know how to make them, here’s some inspiration.
The 10 Texts That Always Work. Grab ‘em and use ‘em.
Pretty much everyone plays or enjoys watching a sport.
If she’s sporty she may play hockey, volleyball, or Two Thumbs.
Just kidding, bro. You got this.
And even if her favorite sport is sitting on her ass, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like to watch sports.
So figure out her M.O. (fancy abbreviation for: manner of working).
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*looks over shoulder*
Most women LOVE clothes.
*PC police breaks down door*
Jokes aside, most girls legit love fashion.
Just visit any clothes shop and see how the women’s department spans two floors, while the men share a floor with the children.
Get her to open up about clothes, and you’ll have a happy first date. And perhaps an idea for a second date.
If your date likes to shop, take her to a clothes store and play a game with two rules:
– 1. You each have to pick an outfit for the other within 5 minutes.
– 2. You both have to try it on.
A lot of girls take this game very seriously and return with a surprisingly good-looking outfit.
But you won’t do that.
You’ll pick something that makes her look like she belongs in the loony bin. Now make a picture so she’ll never forget.
Music is a great topic for chatting, unless you start the convo with the worst possible question.
Ask dumb questions, get dumb answers.
For questions that don’t dry up her vegana, read on.
STOP using emojis like this.
I have a good idea of who reads my articles.
And I know you better than you think.
See, one thing I know, is that you’re not 13.
But unfortunately, some of you do text like a 13-year-old.
What turns you into a pizza faced teen?
Poor use of emojis.
One of the TextGod rules is:
Never use emojis when the meaning of your text is clear.
A study that watched 134.419 active texters from 183 different countries, has revealed the 10 most used emojis by men.
Please reread the underlined part.
These are the 10 most used emojis by MEN.
Hairy dudes like you and I.
Not ladies with irresistible curves and cute smiles.
Now, in case you weren’t aware: women are attracted to manly men.
Women don’t want a man who spams sparkling hearts, cutesie monkeys, and crying laughing emojis after every text
So grab all your girly emojis and toss them right here:
Next to the roses you were planning on giving to your date.
Movies are an easy way to figure out her personality, without going deep.
Does she like romance? She believes in happy endings.
Is she into horror? She likes to scream.
Does she like Christmas movies? Yippie ka yee, motherf#$&.
Girls never directly say they like you, so you have to read the signs.
And with what you’re about to get, you can read her like a map.
Do you know why girls never reveal their feelings for you?
Because she doesn’t want to risk getting rejected and hurt.
So she shows her interest subtly.
By sticking time, energy and effort into the conversation.
And her attention takes different forms:
– Lots of emojis
– Double texting you
– Instantly replying
– She sends you photos
– And about 15 more signs…
For all 19 signs, visit my article How To Tell If A Girls Likes You Over Text.
The more signs you see, the more she likes you.
And if she likes you, stop asking questions and take her out on a date.
Everybody shovels it down their throat, but food is more than a common interest.
If you phrase it right, food can also be erotic.
Hotdogs. Popsicles. Bananas.
Find out her favorite food and you can feed it to her.
If you want to improve your texting and get better responses on dating apps, listen up:
Chatting with a cute stranger and sparking attraction isn’t easy.
But there are steps you can follow to increase the odds of sparks flying.
Plus, you only have to complete the steps once.
I’m talking about your profile.
Create a strong profile and:
– Matches will (often) text you first
– Girls will put in more effort
– And your conversations will flow more easily, because she can talk about your photos and bio
So what’s a good profile?
Well it’s NOT an album of you looking your best. Looking hot is mainly the role of your first photo.
The rest of your photos should tell her a story.
Like you and your hobby, you and your pet, or you and a friend being goofy.
On top of that, you want to write an engaging bio.
Maybe add a question she can ask you. Here’s some funny Tinder bios examples you can steal.
If you’re on a dating app, a great set of photos and a good bio make a world of difference.
That goes double for Bumble, where women need to start the conversation.
Check out my Dating Profile Checklist to fix the holes in your profile and get more matches.
Since Youtube and Netflix, reading habits reveal a great deal about someone.
”Reading is so relaxing”
Until her favorite character unexpectedly dies.
*screams at book*
*throws book against wall*
Here are some questions to figure out if she’s a bibliophile.
TV… the one parent you could always count on.
Giving us classics like:
- “How you doin’?”
- And, “Winter is coming… and it was lame!”
Figure out if your date is a lady of culture with the next questions.
No matter how much she likes you, make the next mistake and you kill all her attraction…
A man who needs attention from a girl, is like a hobo walking into a jeweler with two garbage bags.
She wants to kick you out of her life.
The #1 way girls sniff out neediness is through compliance.
If you roll over on her command, she knows you’re a doormat.
And she’ll treat you like one.
Most men want to be with a woman so badly, they lose all their self respect.
And turn into a spineless pushover.
Stand up for yourself and keep her attracted.
Why is your date happy?
- A computer virus wiped out all student debts
- Internships now pay fair wages
- Flights are cheap
- She lives by the motto of Aragorn son of Arathorn
I’m as clueless as you are, bro.
I’m just waiting for Regis Philbin to say, “You are NOT a millionaire. Now get the hell out of my studio.”
Anyway, most people like to travel.
Here are some questions to see if she does too:
The most vexing problem of humankind:
How long do I wait before I text back?
The loneliest guys reply instantly.
Butthurt guys are vengeful.
”She took 3 hours to reply, so I’ll wait 6 hours”!
But making her wait only helps her forget about you.
Forget about evening the score.
Just text back when you can.
Bonus points if you text back right as she sends you a message.
Because she’s focusing all her attention on her phone.
So odds are you can have a conversation that mimics real life.
Doesn’t she reply back?
Chill out and read my article on When She Doesn’t Text Back.
“Aww…. That’s so cute!”
She says sarcastically when she walks into your room and sees your collection of beanie babies.
Women generally like fluffy and cuddly, just not when it’s toys… owned by a dude.
And don’t be fooled, not all women are about soft fur.
I knew several ladies who used to have snakes and lizards for pets.
Don’t make the next mistake when texting a girl.
Keeping in touch only through text messages.
It’s obvious you want to see her in person.
But the best way to meet up, isn’t by communicating via the written word.
And it doesn’t matter how you stay in touch.
Every app has tools that speak louder than words, and get her to the date faster.
Make her laugh by sharing a meme.
Send her a voice message to show what you sound like.
Unexpectedly call and show her you can be funny in real time.
Share a video that almost made you piss your pants.
Make your joke land even harder with a relatable gif or sticker.
Don’t make seduction harder than it needs to be.
Don’t just use words. Use your entire toolkit.
Because your tools will get her on the date quicker than you can say banana hammock.
There’s nothing more attractive than a girl who is funny even when she’s angry.
*girl gives me sass for no reason*
If you also want a girl with a sense of humor, be sure to find out before you make it official.
What she spends time learning says a lot about her.
Does she box?
Is she into geography?
Or is she learning how to pick up a turd by the clean end?
All valuable insights into her nature.
Just because being nice doesn’t get girls, doesn’t mean that being bad does.
The truth is relative: too much is always bad.
– Too pushy
– Too insulting
– Too sexual
So if simply being nice or bad isn’t the answer, what is?
You want to understand where your girl is at emotionally. At ALL times.
If you’re too pushy, you didn’t see she wasn’t having fun anymore.
If you’re too insulting, you didn’t understand her sense of humor.
If you’re too sexual, you didn’t sense she wasn’t ready for the next step.
Do you know what’s so cool?
If you read her emotions correctly:
– You’ll be flirty, instead of pushy
– Funny instead of insulting
– And ‘get’ women, instead of being a creep
For tips on sexualization and more, check out my article How To Get Laid On Tinder.
Geekie & Tech stuff
Are you talking to a nerd, techie or dungeon master?
Make a dexterity check.
If you doubt your date falls into the geek category, skip onto the next topic.
Because the next questions will only confuse and scare her.
But if she is a sexy trekkie, she’ll LOVE to answer these questions.
Texting a match or crush always serves only ONE goal…
To get her on the date.
Maybe you asked a girl out before and got rejected without knowing why.
Well, if she thinks you’re cute, she shot down your date for the next reasons:
– Your timing was off
– You revealed your cards and killed the sexual tension
– You used the forbidden word, ‘date’
Let’s explore timing.
There’s a best time for everything. Whether it’s getting a raise, harvesting corn, or disarming bombs (just 1 second before it goes off).
Dealing with women can be just as delicate as handling explosives.
Make a sudden move at the wrong time, and KABLOOEY.
Your chances of ever seeing her are blown to bits.
So how do you get her onto a date?
By first focusing all your energy on raising her emotions.
Once she’s excited, she’s ready to accept your date proposal.
Read how to spark her emotions in my How To Ask A Girl Out Over Text article.
The questions that every geek loves to answer:
Now we’re moving away from topics of conversation, and toward…
#3: The best topic to talk about with your crush
Time to learn the best way to talk to your crush.
You’ve got a crush? Cool.
She knows you exist? Nice.
You talk with each other? Amazeballs.
But let’s not celebrate too early.
You now reached the phase where most men fail.
What trips so many dudes up are the unwritten rules of texting.
Let me shed light on the most commonly broken rule.
Most guys are so deprived of female attention, they hang on every word she says.
So they turn into giddy little puppies.
And have you ever met a puppy that stopped playing by itself?
Unless it falls asleep, the puppy goes on forever.
So eventually, the girl has to turn the cold shoulder and ignore you.
She clicks Big Red.
And you don’t want that.
So let’s give you a technique to keep her attention PLUS set up a date.
I call it, Togetherness.
And what it is, is this…
Using texts, you paint a picture in her head of the two of you together.
For example, the two of you getting married in Vegas.
Or more practical, you and her drinking mojitos.
The best moment to lead to togetherness, is when she seems excited.
Her reaction will tell you if she’s into it.
That is a definite YES!
How about this reaction?
Do you think that’s a good or bad response?
Don’t just skip to the answer, really think about it.
Even though she doesn’t exactly bite, her reply is positive.
She just seems self-conscious and is likely hoping you’re not good at dancing, or won’t mind her being bad.
Reassure her and you can lead her to the date.
In sum: wait for her to get excited and create (silly) future plans that can turn into a date.
If all goes well, your crush may become your girlfriend.
What do you talk about then?
Read about it here…
#4: The best questions to ask your girlfriend
Take your intimacy to the next level and build a lasting relationship.
The better you know your girl, the better you know if she’s right for you.
Too many people jump into relationships without really knowing their partner.
And eventually break up.
That’s why you want to frontload your relationship.
When you test the strength of your chemistry sooner rather than later.
Putting everything on the table is scary, because it may scare your partner away.
But if you can’t be yourself around your partner, is she even right for you?
You can answer that for yourself.
John Gottman (a researcher who is shockingly good at predicting break-ups) says that ‘love maps’ are essential to a strong relationship.
Put simply, love maps are all the details (big and small) of your partner’s life.
Couples who have detailed love maps of each other overcome conflicts much more easily than those who don’t.
So knowing your girlfriend, and her knowing you, is paramount for a healthy relationship.
To help you draw a lovemap, here’s a list of questions to ask your girlfriend:
That about finishes 101 Topics to talk to a girl about over text.
Before we call it quits, I want to leave you a gift.
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- An effective icebreaker
- Lines to tease her with
- Fun answers to boring questions
- Tips to sexualize
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