181 Fun Topics to Talk to a Girl About Over Text + Questions

You’re talking to a girl (or your girlfriend) over text and suddenly… you draw a blank. Nothing fun comes up.

Let me help you. I’ve got 181 things to talk to a girl about over text. And I’ll explain exactly how to have great conversations without being boring.

In this article:

• How to chat with a girl without being boring
• 20 Great topics to talk about with a girl over text (+101 example lines)
• 20 Questions to ask to get to know someone over text
• 20 Fun questions to ask to a girl over text
• 20 Flirty questions to ask a girl over text
• 20 Stories to tell a girl over text
• Summary

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How to chat with a girl without being boring

How do you keep your conversation from becoming boring? What makes a topic a great topic to talk about with a girl?

Let’s look at why you’re texting her. No matter whether it’s a girl on Tinder, some girl you met in a bar, or it’s your girlfriend, you’re NOT texting just for the sake of texting.

You’re texting because you want to have fun together. You want to create and keep attraction, and build a connection. You text because you want the other to like you more (or keep liking you).

So the real question is: What are FUN topics to talk about?

Though there are topics known for being extremely boring, it’s not about what you talk about, but whether you make it playful and fun. Even the most boring topics can be turned into fun conversations. Just as fun topics can be changed into boring topics if you’ve got the wrong mindset:

Talking to a girl over text is NOT about exchanging information. It’s about having fun and creating emotions.

That said, the right topic has one or more of the following elements:

• It’s unique. It’s not a common topic to discuss.
• It’s playful. This can mean funny, teasy, or flirty.
• It’s relevant. Something the other person is invested in or perhaps even passionate about.
• It’s uplifting. Good conversation always raises our spirits.

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20 Great topics to talk about with a girl over text (+101 example lines)

Here are 20 great topics to talk about with a girl over text with examples.

1. A brighter future

These questions all invite her to imagine fun things. Almost everyone enjoys answering these.

• What’s the first thing you’d do if you won the lottery?
• What would you with your day if you didn’t have to work tomorrow?
• If you could have lunch with anyone in the world (including fictional or dead), who would you pick?
• If you could master any skill right now, what would you pick and why?
• What’s the last great book you read / movie you watched?
• If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
• If you could say one thing to all the men on earth, what would that be?
• What are you looking forward to doing most this month?
• What’s your favorite type of vacation?
• What will you be asking Santa for this year?
• What do you daydream about most?
• If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?

How do you know if she’s enjoying the conversation? By recognizing the signals.

• 19 Signs that tell if a girl likes you over text

2. Food

Everybody shovels it down their throats, but food is more than a common interest. If you phrase it right, food can also be erotic. Find out her favorite food and you can feed it to her.

• What’s the last time you cooked a meal you were proud of?
• Cilantro, good or soap?
• Cinnamon rolls or donuts?
• Pizza or poke bowl?
• Candy corn, yes or no?

3. Her home and neighborhood

No matter what you call home, it’s always connected to strong feelings. It’s the place where you eat, store your memories, and where the magic happens.

Warning: when asking someone questions about where she lives, don’t try to find out her exact whereabouts. That’s creepy. Just stick to the area for now.

• Do you and your roommates get along?
• If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you go?
• What object makes your place feel most like home?
• What’s your favorite thing about your neighborhood?
• What’s the first thing you do after you get home from work?
• If your house was burning down, and your family and pets were safe, what would you rescue from the fire?

4. Her work

Not everyone enjoys their job. For these people, their work is just a way to earn money. So don’t keep grilling someone about work if it’s not something that excites them.

• What do you like most about what you do?
• Do you like your job or would you prefer doing something else?
• If you had to leave your job and start a business, what would you do?
• You’re going to be on Shark Tank in 10 minutes. What do you pitch?
• What’s the coolest thing you learned on your job?

5. Hobbies and free time

Here’s where you’ll really find out who she is. Is she a bookworm, a gamer girl, or a witch who is looking for a virgin to sacrifice? You’ll find out with the next questions to ask over text.

• If you had an extra hour a day, what would you do with it?
• What’s your favorite way to unwind?
• Would your hobbies be any different if you were rich?
• Do you prefer doing exciting or relaxing hobbies?
• Do you gravitate towards social hobbies or ones you can do alone?

6. Sports

Pretty much everyone plays or enjoys watching a sport. If she’s sporty she may play hockey, volleyball, or Two Thumbs. And even if her favorite sport is sitting on her ass, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like to watch other people get their sweat on. So figure out what her deal is.

• What do you do to keep in shape?
• Do you prefer taking the elevator or stairs?
• Did you ever get picked last in high school dodgeball?
• More of a gym gal or a hiking-in-nature gal?
• If you could make a living as an athlete, what sport would you pick?

7. Travel

An incredibly easy topic to talk about because pretty much everyone loves to go and explore new places. Here are some questions you can consider asking.

• What travel destination could you never grow tired of?
• What’s the coolest thing travel has taught you?
• If you could go on an all-expenses paid trip for the weekend, where would you go?
• If you could wake up in any place tomorrow, where would you want to be?
• What place do you NEVER want to go?

8. Fashion

Most girls legit love fashion. Just visit any clothes shop and see how the women’s department spans two floors, while the men share a floor with the children. Get her to open up about clothes, and you’ll have a happy first date. And perhaps an idea for a second date.

• Do you prefer to shop online or in person?
• If you could describe your style, what would it be?
• What color do you like to wear most?
• What outfit do you wear if you want to look sexy?
• What’s your go-to outfit if you want to feel comfortable?
• What do you wear at home when you have no company?
• What’s your favorite clothing item?

9. Music

Music is a great topic for chatting, unless you start the convo with the worst possible question.

Ask dumb questions, get dumb answers.

Here are some better things to ask her about.

• What song do you currently have on repeat?
• Who’s the best singer ever, dead or alive?
• What’s your latest music discovery?
• What’s the last concert you’ve been to?
• What are some songs you were crazy about when you were younger?
• What’s more important to you when listening to music, the words or the melody?

10. Movies

Movies are an easy way to figure out her personality, without going deep. Does she like romance? She believes in happy endings. Is she into horror? She likes to scream. Does she like Christmas movies? Yippie ka yee, motherf#$&.

• Do you prefer films or series?
• What’s your favorite movie genre?
• If movie sets were real, what location or universe would you want to visit most?
• What actor would you instantly sleep with if he asked you?
• What film sequel has disappointed you the most?
• What’s a popular movie that you’ve never seen and why not?

11. Books

Here are some questions to figure out if she’s a bibliophile.

• What book or series do you hope and pray will be turned into a movie or TV show one day?
• When was the last time you read a book?
• Do you ever read fiction or are you more into self-help?
• What book are you currently reading?
• If you had to recommend me one book, which one would it be?

12. TV

TV… the one parent you could always count on. Figure out if your date is a lady of culture with the next questions.

• Joey, Ross, and Chandler. Who do you marry, fuck and kill?
• What’s your favorite show of all time?
• If we were going to watch a series together, what would you put on?
• Are there any series that are considered awful, but you secretly love?
• What’s your last TV character crush?
• If you could completely forget one show and rewatch it, which one would you pick?
• What TV character do you wish you were more like?

13. Pets

“Aww…. That’s so cute!” She says sarcastically when she walks into your room and sees your collection of beanie babies. Anyway, on with the questions.

• What pets did you have when growing up?
• How many nicknames do you have for your pet and what’s your favorite?
• Would you have a dog if you lived in an apartment?
• What’s your favorite animal?
• What’s the hardest thing about being a pet owner?

14. Humor

There’s nothing more attractive than a girl who’s funny even when she’s angry. *girl gives me sass for no reason*

If you also want a girl with a sense of humor, be sure to find out before you make it official.

• What’s the darkest joke you like?
• What are your top three comedy films?
• What’s the last time you laughed so hard that you cried?
• What’s the most inappropriate joke you ever made?
• What’s the dankest meme you have on your phone?
• Who’s your favorite stand-up comic?

15. Learning

What she spends time learning says a lot about her.

• What are you currently studying?
• Do you ever watch youtube videos and make notes?
• If you had to give a TED talk, what would be your subject?
• What subject do you know more about than most people?
• If you had the time and money to start learning anything tomorrow, what would it be?

16. Geekie & Tech stuff

Are you talking to a nerd, techie, or dungeon master? Make a dexterity check. If you doubt that your date falls into the geek category, skip to the next topic. Because the next questions will only confuse and scare her. But if she is a sexy trekkie, she’ll LOVE to answer these questions. The questions that every geek loves to answer:

• Star Wars or Star Trek?
• Who shot first?
• Elvish or Klingon?
• Who is your go-to character to play in Mario Kart?
• DC or Marvel?
• Time travel, possible or not?
• What’s your zombie apocalypse survival plan?
• If you went to Hogwarts, what house would you be sorted into?
• Have you ever played Dungeons and Dragons?

17. Her goals

There are few things more exciting to us than someone who’s genuinely curious about us. The one big exception is when you barely know each other. Then digging too deep is a little weird. So it’s usually better to ask about her goals and passions when you know each other a bit better.

• What’s something you’re proud of that not enough people ask you about?
• How would you live your life differently if you weren’t afraid?
• What would your life look like if you achieved all your goals?
• Would you still work even if you were rich?
• What makes you get up in the morning?
• What one thing can you do to improve your life that you aren’t already doing? What’s stopping you?

18. Her inner world

Before we get into the questions, I want you to drill these two things in your head:

1. Never ask questions that you’re not prepared to answer yourself.
2. Make sure she’s comfortable talking to you about sensitive topics before going so personal.

With that out of the way, let’s dive into the questions.

• What’s something you’ve dealt with that you never want to go through again?
• Have you changed in the last 3 years? If so, how?
• If you could send your younger self a 3-word note, what would it say?
• Have you ever experienced something shitty that turned out to be a blessing in disguise?
• Do you make your decisions based on your head or heart?
• What’s the best end to a tough day?
• What’s the last time you cried?
• Does socializing give you more energy than it takes?
• If you had six months left to live, what would you do?
• What does your perfect day look like?
• What are three things in your life you can’t do without?

19. Dating and attraction

One of my favorite topics. Asking dating and attraction-related questions has taught me so much about women. I highly recommend you do the same.

• What’s your worst date experience?
• What do you do if you want to seduce a guy you’re into?
• What do you find the most attractive male feature?
• Do you think a guy should ask to kiss you or just read the signs and go for it?
• What’s your biggest turn-off?
• Have you ever really liked a guy until he did something so bad that you didn’t find him attractive anymore?
• What’s the best way for a guy to sweep you off your feet?
• Could you fall in love with a guy who’s out of your league?

20. Her ideas on love and relationships

If your intentions are romantic, it’s a smart idea to figure out what her stance is on romantic topics.

• Do you think monogamous relationships work?
• What does monogamy mean for you? Can your boyfriend still flirt with other women or is that already crossing a line?
• What behavior in a partner is a dealbreaker for you?
• What do you look for in a partner?
• What’s the thing you love most about being in a relationship?
• Do you think it’s okay to lie to your partner? If so, when?

20 Questions to ask to get to know someone over text

Here’s 20 topics to talk about to get to know someone over text. Remember: keep your texting conversations fun and lighthearted. Keep the serious talk for when you meet.

• What’s something you’re really passionate about?
• What’s the best trip or vacation you’ve ever been on?
• Do you have a dream job or something you’ve always wanted to do?
• What’s your favorite way to spend your free time?
• Are you more of a morning person or a night owl?
• What’s a movie or TV show you could watch over and over again?
• If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
• Do you like trying new things, or are you more of a creature of habit?
• What’s your favorite kind of food or go-to meal?
• Do you have any siblings or family traditions that are important to you?
• What’s a memory from your childhood that always makes you smile?
• What’s a skill or hobby you’ve always wanted to learn?
• Are you more into city life or nature and the outdoors?
• Do you like pets, and do you have any now or wish you did?
• What’s the most interesting or unusual job you’ve ever had?
• If you could have dinner with any historical figure or celebrity, who would it be?
• What’s something you’ve accomplished recently that you’re really proud of?
• What kind of music do you listen to the most, and do you have a favorite artist?
• What’s your idea of a perfect weekend?
• Do you prefer deep conversations, fun and lighthearted chats, or a mix of both?

20 Fun questions to ask to a girl over text

Here’s 20 great topics and lines that will help you bring a fun vibe into the conversation:

• If animals could talk, which one would be the rudest?
• What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten, and why?
• If you had to marry a fictional character, who would it be and why?
• What’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever Googled?
• If you were a superhero, what would your completely useless superpower be?
• What’s your go-to dance move at a party, even if it’s terrible?
• If your life was a sitcom, what would the title be?
• What’s the most awkward thing that’s happened to you in public?
• If you were a ghost, how would you haunt people for fun?
• What’s the dumbest argument you’ve ever had with someone?
• If you could swap lives with any celebrity for a day, who would it be and why?
• What’s the most absurd lie you believed as a kid?
• If your pet could give you one piece of advice, what would it be?
• What’s the funniest excuse you’ve ever used to get out of something?
• If you were an ice cream flavor, what would you be and why?
• What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you in school or work?
• If you had to create a new holiday, what would it be about?
• What’s the weirdest thing you’ve done when you were alone?
• If you could only communicate using memes or GIFs, how would you say hello?
• What’s the worst haircut or fashion choice you’ve ever made?

20 Flirty questions to ask a girl over text

Ready to flirt a bit more? You can make any any topic flirty by adding a playful vibe or making it a challenge. Here’s 10 examples of flirty things to say:

• If we were on a date right now, what do you think we’d be doing?
• What’s the first thing you noticed about me?
• What’s one thing about you that you think I’d find irresistible?
• If I dared you to kiss me, would you do it?
• What’s the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?
• If we were stuck on a deserted island, how do you think we’d keep ourselves entertained?
• What’s the most surprising thing you find attractive in someone?
• Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?
• If you could steal one thing from me, what would it be?
• What’s your go-to move to impress someone you like?
• If I showed up at your door right now, how would you react?
• What do you think would happen if we got snowed in together for a weekend?
• If we were dancing, would you be the one to lead, or should I?
• What’s one thing you wish I knew about you (but that you’re too shy to tell me)?
• What would you say is your most kissable feature?
• If we could teleport anywhere together, where would we go, and why?
• What’s your favorite way to spend a lazy Sunday with me?
• If you had three wishes, would you use one to keep me around forever?
• What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
• If you could read my mind right now, what do you think I’d be thinking about?

20 Stories to tell a girl over text

Sometimes you want to tell a girl something over text. Or she asks you to tell her something. But you draw a blank. What story to tell her?

Again, remember what you’re trying to achieve. You want to create a fun vibe or build some connection in a fun and vulnerable way.

A story isn’t meant to brag of be all serious. It’s rather a great way of sharing something fun and showing her you’re human and not afraid of sharing something.

Here are 20 great examples of stories you could tell a girl over text:

• The most embarrassing thing that happened to you in school.
• The time you got lost in a hilarious way.
• A wild travel adventure or mishap.
• Your most awkward or funny first date experience.
• A prank you pulled or got caught up in.
• Your most ridiculous childhood belief.
• A strange or funny coincidence you’ve experienced.
• A funny memory with a pet.
• The worst haircut or fashion choice you’ve ever made.
• A time you accidentally texted the wrong person.
• Your most spontaneous decision and what happened.
• A time you completely misunderstood a situation.
• The weirdest or funniest dream you’ve ever had.
• A childhood adventure that still makes you laugh.
• The time you met someone famous (or thought you did).
• Your most embarrassing moment in public.
• A funny moment from work or school.
• A time when technology failed you.
• A dare or challenge you accepted and what happened.
• A personal victory you’re proud of.

Summary

What things to talk about with a girl shouldn’t be something you care too much about. It’s usually a side effect of deeply wanting to win someone over. And it’s this desire that typically gets in the way of fun conversation.

Rather than getting obsessed with impressing someone, focus on having fun. That’s a far better guide than your desire to be liked. Even better still, treat her like you would a good buddy.

Because with your friends, you speak your mind, make jokes, and give them a hard time. And it’s these behaviors that will make you more attractive to her. So what topics you talk about are actually secondary to how freely you express yourself.

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