10 Tinder Tips For Guys That Get You Dates TONIGHT

You’re a man and you have Tinder? Great.

In this article you’ll find some of the best Tinder Tips that make you irresistible to talk to.

Sit back, read this article, and get ready for women to get addicted to your Tinder game.

In this article you get: 

  • 20+ Screenshots of Tinder texting (so you know EXACTLY what to say)
  • The first message that gets more reactions than Kim Kardashian’s nudes
  • Text in a way that avoids the friendzone
  • How to make a conversation sexual without getting unmatched
  • How to use the asshole’s secret weapon (without becoming one yourself)
  • Text examples on how to tease
  • Bonus video with a guide to Tinder for beginners
  • And much more…

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#1: The opener that gets more reactions than Kim Kardashians nudes

Let’s start with something you can use right away.

If you find the first message the most difficult one, then you’re not alone. The secrets of a good opener remain a mystery to most men.

And seeing you’re reading this, you probably know the frustrating feeling you get every time you want to start a conversation, but don’t know how…

Or you end up just texting something, but after days you’re still staring at your screen without getting a response from her.

Today I’m teaching you how to start a convo in a way where she can’t help herself and just has to text back. If you’re doing it right…

Before I’m showing you how to do this, it’s important we agree on how NOT to do it.

And coincidentally, that’s how 99% of all men do it.

Let it be known once and for all that you will NEVER, but really NEVER EVER initiate a conversation with:

  • A greeting (no hi, hey, or hello’s)
  • A compliment (not on her photo’s, not on her clothes, and definitely not on her looks)
  • Logistical questions (where are you from? Yada yada)
  • Some sort of pickup line you found on the internet (my genius lines excluded)
  • And no, you’re not even allowed to ask her how she’s doing.

As one of my Tinder matches beautifully explains:

Some find it intriguing, to most it’s just boring as shit

Starting a conversation may well be a man’s job, women don’t have a clue either:


Another example:

The secret to a solid first message is simple: you have to be unique.

Less of the same. Different than the rest.

And there’s multiple ways to achieve this, but not all of them are equally effective.

These are the three most effective:

  • The Emoji opener
  • The Absurd opener
  • The Personalized opener

Let’s start with a very over the top way to begin the conversation:

#2: The Emoji Opener

Emojis are dangerous.

If you’re not sure whether you’re using them correctly, then remember:

Better too little than too many.

One way you are allowed to use emojis, is in the emoji opener.

You don’t know what to text and have absolutely no time to lose?

  • Emoji Opener.

It’s simple, it’s fast, and it’s funny AF.

  • You write her name
  • Replace some letters by silly glyphs
  • Add some emoji’s (preferably the gayest or random ones)

Ta-dah! Done.

So… why does this work better than a regular opener?

It’s something else. Something a little different from the usual. And it’s definitely more fun than the everyday megaboring hey-how-are-you-sh!t.

“Hey, how are you? ;)”

Combine this with her name and you’ll already increase you chances at getting a response.

“Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language”
—Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

Another little Tinder trick you can use is a personalized version of the Emoji Opener.

You choose the emoji that resembles you most, and you have it wave at her.

The emoji kinda looks like me, and it waves at her. It got the job done.

If you’re feeling creative, then you can add some more detail to your story.

The emoji looks like me again, the female version looks like her. We’re taking a plane. There’s sun, champagne, rainbows and music, we come back, we’re fOrEveR iN lOvE <3

#3: The Absurd Opener

If you’re somewhat like me (a dreading thought, I know), you’ll quickly get bored of playing with emoji’s and you’ll feel like something just a tad more… extreme.

Something a little more absurd.

For example, I’ve had a period of enjoying silly openers like this one:

Wow, calm your tits Sarah, no need to write me poems now. Your number will do.

Well? How DO you explain the sunset if there is no God?

(the rotation of the earth, indeed. But the average person on Tinder doesn’t bother thinking that much)

I’ve gotten a whole variety of responses to this opener, but the screenshot shown above tops them all.

Look, I’ll give it to you straight:

Is this the best opener ever?

No, it isn’t.

It’s far from the best opener.

Does it get better reactions than the everyday pleb openers?

Yes, it surely does.

Look… you can have a good laugh with this kind of stuff.

And if you’re getting a bit more experienced with Tinder and you have a whole list of chicks you have yet to text, then sure, go ahead… send some absurd openers.

Would you increase the odds of getting a response by a solid 69% rather than having a good laugh?

You do?

Then I’ve got exactly what you need.

#4: The Personalized Opener

The icing on the cake, the crème de la crème, the very best.

Whatever you wish to call it, if you’d ask for my humble (and always correct) opinion…

…I’d tell you that this opener is still the best opener.

And it works on Tinder just like it does on any of the best dating apps.

Coincidentally, this opener also requires slightly more effort than the others.

(which is a good thing, because it makes another 50% of all guys drop out. Leaving only the dedicated m0therf#uckers)

And still… it’s easy as pie.

Here’s what you do in three simple steps:

  • You look at her profile
  • You choose one thing that catches your eye
  • You start a conversation with that thing

Let’s make this nice and clear and add an example.

Imagine running into this Tinder profile:

Profile text: “Looking for a red haired Adonis to rancidly multiply with”

Step 1: You look at her profile.

There’s always something you can babble about. Do this more often, and it’ll get a lot easier.

Step 2: You choose one thing that catches your eye.

Her profile text is easy to talk about. Or the fact that you can’t see her eyes in her first picture. Her necklace, her pink sweater, her cap, her hair color (you know you want to mock her red hair)

Or maybe the trash bag in the background.

Step 3: You start your conversation with the chosen thing.

Now you could say:

“Hey, I see a trash bag in your photo”

You then have correctly executed all three steps indeed. And your message is already better than the trash messages your competition is sending.

But it’s not “WOW” yet.

It’s not yet a free pass to her princess parts.

So, last but not least we want to sprinkle our opener with some humor and some challenge.

Why does this work wonders?

You’re different than the plebs.

You’re funny.

But mostly…


This line doesn’t work on any other profile. Only on this little angel’s profile. You took the effort to look at her photos + bio AND you are creative enough to send a personalized message. On top of that you made her laugh or challenged her.

Well done, bro.

Now if I were you, I’d like to see another example of this.

Plenty more of those in my phone, brother. Let’s go.

Step 1: You look at her profile.

Step 2: You choose one thing that catches your eye.

Vegan, NGO worker, 177cm, remarkable smile, headband, pink striped sweater. Or what about the gigantic dog that looks a hell of a lot like that ‘doge’ from the meme?

Step 3: You start your conversation with the chosen thing.

As you can see in this example, I make a personalized remark about her meme-dog.

And later I’ll talk about the ‘NGO’ aswell.

Now, if your social calibration is over 9000 then you also noticed that I have to be careful here not to become the entertaining joker. Worry not, 5 well-chosen messages later this conversation was also turned into a first Tinder date.

Talking about dates…

A good way to steer convos towards a date, is by sexualizing them.


#5: The kinky technique that makes sure your conversations are never boring again.

Making things sexual. It’s something every man wants to be able to do.

Unfortunately, most guys won’t even come close because they are so unbelievably boring.

They pose question after question like they are practicing for the world championships interviewing.

They believe they have to chat for at least one week before they can ask her out… but by then the horse has bolted.

Other boys will resort to sending a premature dickpic out of desperation. Or they’ll tell how hard they can fuck and how enormous their 🍆 is.

I wouldn’t be surprised if these are also the guys who spend hours on Chatroulette with their donger in their hand, looking for that one woman that doesn’t instantly skip them.

Sadly for them, both of these strategies aren’t very effective.

(And I’m telling you right now, the correct approach isn’t what you think it is.)

But for most men it’ll go something like this:

Sick game, sir.

There. No better example of how NOT to do it.

Now pay close attention, because even if you’re a man looking for a relationship, applying my next tip will make sure your conversations are instantly less boring.

In general, you don’t want it to be too obvious that you’re trying to make the conversation sexual.

You don’t want to be that guy that instantly talks about sexual things, because this guy is desperate. He wants to talk about the bed stuff so badly that he can’t wait any longer. He approaches it very directly.

He comes across very needy. 

If there’s one thing that makes attraction vanish at the speed of light, it’s neediness.

You want to behave like someone who doesn’t need kinky chat over text. Because you already have it in real life at the snap of a finger.

But you’re also not dodging it. It’s more like it accidentally made its way into your conversation.

Not entirely clear what I’m jabbering about?

Let’s look at an example.

But first… you need to understand why it’s so important.

#6: How to use ambiguity to heat up conversations

There’s a fair chance that your conversations are too boring, this Tinder tip for men will change all of that.

Many guys play it safe on Tinder, and never show their true intentions.

You’ll kill both birds with one stone if you heat up the conversation a bit.

Another example:

We’re in Riga here during a Summer Bootcamp, where stunning chicks are the rule rather than the exception.

This lady was kind enough to say that you can see the whole city if you climb the Saint Peter’s church.

At this moment this is a very normal conversation.

First you see me responding with:

The whole village!

By calling her city a village, you’re teasing her.

This is one of the fastest ways to steer clear from friendzone-land, but more on that later.

Let me share some more witty Tinder lines with you in this bonus tip:

Holy Tip:

Sometimes you get stuck in a conversation. You just don’t know what to text her anymore.

Especially when she’s very attractive, you might be mindfucked.

“What do I send her?!”

This is why I created a cheatsheet full of Tinder tips for guys. It contains 10 copy pastable Tinder lines that I use myself.

You can steal the 10 texts here for free.

Let’s get back to this lovely lady from Riga.

Cool, thanks for the tip.

Is this a tip for tip exchange?

In case you’re not familiar with the “just the tip” meme, click the play button on the video below.

This show has a very unique and genius humor. A recommendation if you’re trying to work on your own wittiness.

Miss Riga didn’t instantly get the message, but “very accidentally” this conversation wasn’t so innocent anymore.

Aaaaand we’re taking it one step further.

And then a little more.

And then you just pretend like nothing happened.

But I want you to find your own style in doing this. It’s important you remain authentic.

In any case, she just imagined an exciting scene where you gave her “just the tip”. And anything she imagines, she kind of experiences for a moment.

Just like when you read a good book and you completely live the scene.

#7: The 10 tips I wish I knew when I was new to Tinder

You read that correctly.

This tip contains ten tips.

I once wrote an article with Tinder tips that I didn’t really want to publish.

Not because I didn’t like the content…

…but because the content was too valuable.

And now I turned the article into a video.

It contains beginner tips for men, with some advanced Tinder tips later in the video:

Here’s what you get:

  • How we got my friend Yens laid with one tinder photo trick
  • The best time to ask a girl out over text
  • The 3 steps to make any opener personal and irresistible
  • Screenshot examples of these 3 steps
  • Why I don’t smile in my photos (even though smiling is POWERFUL)
  • More…
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#8: The more primitive approach to sexuality

How do you sexualize when you don’t feel inspired or original?

Can you still make a girl enjoy a spicy conversation with you?

The approach I showed you in the last tip, is the ideal way. But in times where you find yourself less inventive, there’s another way to go about it.

And also of this other method I have some examples for you.

Take a look at this slightly less subtle (but still effective) method:

Just a tiny bit less subtle than previous example

 Now I can hear you thinking:

“Ho ho ho, Louis. This is pretty damn direct. Aren’t you like those Chatroulette guys with their donger in hand?”

Good question, padawan.

And the answer is: No.

The big difference is one of calibration.

The dickpick guy is desperate and his attempt at $exuali$ation comes out of nowhere.

But those who paid close attention noticed that this woman just asked me two questions. She’s already interested.

This is the perfect climate to test the waters and see how she reacts to a message that’s a bit on the naughty side.

I’m 1m60 and 55kg. Guys say that I have a juicy butt.

Looks like this girl is in full adventure outfit, ready to climb Mt. Naughty.

When she’s ready for more

So yeah… a more direct approach often works. When she already kinda likes you.

Please note:

I’m not just asking her “are you curvy?” out of the blue.

It’s a bit more weaved into the conversation because she just asked me a question.

However you spin it though… the first method (from previous example) is more solid.

It’s nice and spontaneous. It shows you’re creative. And clever. Chicks dig clever.

And because I’m feeling generous, I’ll throw in another example.

There’s never really too many examples.


We’re talking to an ex-model who now runs her own business. The conversation is on English grammar.

Now I have no clue if you have any fetishes…

But you most likely don’t get rock hard when talking about grammar.

Holy sh!t is there anything less exciting?

English grammar, French spelling, Dutch spelling, and… dirty talk.

Scoring points.

If you manage to find a clever and funny way to bring sexuality into the conversation, it’ll usually be warmly welcomed. How could it be different?

Imagine she DIDN’T roll with the joke. Then she’d be the party pooper and ruin the fun.

Nobody wants to ruin the fun.

I’m pretty sure you get the hang of my system by now. But to be sure, I’ll summon another two examples on your screen.

Here, have a look at these:

Here’s some context:

In this convo we were talking about games.

I mentioned WoW (Horde for lyfe) and she asks me if “Freddy Fish” rings a bell.

Freddy Fish is a game usually played in primary school where you are on an underwater adventure searching for all kinds of things. I tell her I know the game and it’s a good one at that.

The Sims is sweet too

Definitely. Pushing your head into a pillow is a good game too

Definitely. Throwing a pie in your face is a good game too

That’s another way to go about it.

Now my question to you is:

Did I fuck up here? After all she’s saying she wants to throw pie at my face after hearing my comment. Or should I be happy she’s saying this?

Let’s look at another example.

Here’s some context:

We were having a discussion on her rasta hair.

I sent her a GIF of a man pulling out his own hair and then violently throwing it away.

I added the text “Us”. She replies with a more peaceful solution. A man softly combing the braids out of another man’s hair while the other guy is enjoying a beer.

Give me a sip

*a gif of a woman clumsily using her tongue to get her straw in her mouth.

Exactly how I eat pussy. Perfect technique.

Haha oops, that’s how you do it?”

This way the situation was made sexual in a playful way. Another extra powerful tool I’m using is self-mockery.

If you’d actually go down on a woman like that, it could take a while before you discover what a female orgasm is. About 5 billion years or so.

By saying that’s how I go down, I mock myself while making stuff sexual.

An unconfident guy won’t be quick to ridicule his own lovemaking skills. But someone who knows what he’s capable of won’t have a problem laughing at himself.


Back to the first example. She didn’t react very enthusiastically to my last text. Should I panic?

No need to panic when you know what you’re doing.

Now you know how to make a conversation a bit more spicy in a fun way.

But be careful: if you’re trying to spice up a boring conversation, she’ll soon stop reacting.

But there’s a solution to this problem as well. Who’s the king of conversations that are anything but boring?



#9: The asshole’s secret weapon

Raise your hand if you’ve ever been friendzoned.

How did she end up friendzoning someone with such a beautiful hand?

Yup… I feel you bro.

Ask a woman what she’s looking for in a man and she’ll tell you something like:

“I want a man that’s sensitive and intimate. A man who’s kind and friendly and actually listens to me.”

And still… if you’d run into her that night in a club, she’ll be talking to the biggest badboy. A narcissistic dude that avoids any kind of emotional intimacy and only cares about himself.

What women want is a paradox.

Now I could steal hours of your attention and tell you all about the origins of this paradox.

A pretty interesting topic to be honest.

But I won’t bother you with that stuff right now. What I want is that next time you’re opening Tinder, you’re fixing dates. And stay safe from that filthy friendzone.

Remember this chick from a couple minutes ago?

Reason I’m showing you this, is because it playfully introduces sexuality to the conversation.

But if you paid close attention, you noticed there’s some other elements in there as well.

It’s a first class example of douchebag behavior. Teasing, teasing, and some more teasing.

We were discussing English grammar. I gladly end that discussion with a douchey:

Not sure who wins here but let’s give the point to the older one. Congratulations!

Fun fact: she’s just a couple months older than me.

But if there’s anything women sensitive for (besides too much pressure on their clitoris), it’s their age.

A 19-year-old girl will easily feel like she’s too young. While a 30-year-old woman will feel like she’s ancient already.

An easy subject for teasing. But beware: diss her age too hard or the wrong way and you’ll be unmatched sooner rather than later.

Now, usually at this point there’s someone in the audience that asks what to do when her age is neither high or low but just… pretty damn normal.

And that’s a good question.

I’m going to give you a list of everything you can tease with so you never have to wonder again.

I suggest you memorize this list so you always know what to tease with.

Everything will be very clear after looking at this example:

Time to summarize all of today’s Tinder tips in one convo.

We’re starting with the best opener in the world (69x Olympic gold winner)

Step 1: You look at her profile.

This beautiful woman had more than one picture, which will usually be the case. I went ahead and picked one picture for you.

Step 2: You choose one thing that catches your eye.

She’s laying in a bed of stuffed piggies. I’m sure you can think of something here. Hell, the options are almost limitless here.

Step 3: You start the conversation with the chosen thing.

Bam! We’re off to a good start.

Fun picture with my family, that last one. Gorgeous.

This opener is personal. It doesn’t work on other profiles. It only works on this specific profile and this specific picture.

Next we add the oh so powerful magic of self-mockery.

If you’ve been to one of my bootcamps, lectures, or programs… then you know just how powerful this is (when used just right).

The personalized opener was 169% successful on Tinder yet again.

haha uhm my family you mean?

She’s saying it’s HER family. Now you don’t necessarily need to continue this thread but I see a goal waiting to be scored here.

My family is her family? Hmm…

Not only have we just teased her, the convo turned sexual at the same time. In a very wrong way. But it’s still sexual.

She finds it funny and thanks to our personal opener and the successful teasing, she’s eagerly texting back.

People who attended my “Over The Top Textgame” know what’s coming next.

You’re teasing her and she takes it well? Then we’re stepping it up a notch.

It’s ok, name. Each their own fetish.

From now on, she’s into incest.

After claiming she’s into incest, I just keep the conversation going.

The teasing did its thing and we can just continue the conversation now.

She can laugh about it again. In other words: we’re scoring points.

The conversation is in a perfect flow now. She keeps texting stuff we can easily work with.

Besides, not all of your messages need to be witty and calculated, bro.

You can now just talk about the beach she’s at, the ocean, something you ever experienced while at the beach, something you like about beaches, …

You can talk about what you’re writing, or just make something up for fun.

You could say that the beach she’s at is the worst beach in the world.

Zeebrugge? That’s the only beach in the world I hate.

Just like that.


Now you know precisely:

  • How to start a Tinder conversation.
  • How to use the asshole’s secret weapon.
  • How to make a conversation sexual. The smooth way.

And some other hidden gems I snuck in there.

But I won’t let you go without blessing you with one more tip…

#10: Get an unfair advantage over your competition

Want to be better at this than the men who want the same girls as you?

Good. I like your competitive spirit.

Show them no mercy and get the girl before they do.

To help you do so, I have a TextGod Toolkit and I’m not even asking money for it (although I easily could).

It contains 3 of my own weapons to aid you in combat:

A Profile Checklist that asks you questions about your current profile. And based on your answer it will automatically calculate a score. You can then see exactly what to change to get hotter women.

10 Copy Paste Texts that my coaches and I use. You can just steal them and have them work for you like they work for us.

And of course my Clickbait Opener that could have won me a Nobel prize (but for some reason hasn’t yet?). This opener has the highest chances of getting her to text back of all openers we tested. Go ahead and try it out.

So what are you waiting for?

Grab your phone with your left hand and another with your right, and get those dates set up. Apply these Tinder tips and your results have no other option but to skyrocket.

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See you soon!

Louis Farfields

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