What Is A Tinder Date: 20 Tips For A Great Time

You want to set up dates with Tinder.

Maybe you even have one planned already.

But you’re panicking a little about how to make it work.

I’m about to tell you exactly what a Tinder date is, PLUS I’ll give you 20 tips to guarantee a great time.

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After you reach the end of this article, you’ll never have a bad Tinder date again.

What is a Tinder date?

A Tinder date is very similar to a blind date.

The big difference is that it’s you, not your friend or a third party, who arranges the date.

Tinder gives you the option to connect with someone you like. And if the other person likes you back, it’s a match. Now you can chat and make each other excited to meet in person.

#1: Use commonalities to get a Tinder date

Now for a stupidly simple and effective way to get a Tinder date.

Use commonalities.

No, just sharing an allergy for beets won’t do you much good.

What I mean is this:

Use a shared interest as an excuse to meet up.

If I’m not working, you can probably find me on my board in the ocean

Duuuuuude! I. LOVE. surfing!

We should totally catch some waves someday!

Haha let’s do it

Even though surfing is what’s bringing you together. She knows you don’t just want to surf.

After all, you can do that by yourself.

It’s just a chill and low pressure way to set up a date.

Here’s how you use commonalities as a way to set up a Tinder date.

  • She likes one of your hobbies. “If you’re lucky I’ll take you rollerblading some time ;)”
  • You discover you both like the same thing. “We should totally have a jam session!”
  • She’s interested and/or excited about what you just shared. “Let’s discuss movies in real life. How about drinks next week”

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#2: Avoid clichés

Please don’t make the next Tinder date mistake.

It’s not an instant dealbreaker. But it does make it 169% more difficult to get a second date.

That’s why you want to…

Avoid date clichés!

  • Don’t go to the movies. Sitting next to each other in silence is a horrible way to build attraction.
  • Don’t go to dinner. Staring at each other for a few hours ramps up the stress, feels like an interview and makes it almost impossible to leave if the vibe is off.

What should you do instead?

More on that later.

#3: Reread your conversation

Do this properly and you’ll make her feel fireworks.

How dare I make a statement so bold?

Because most men are awful at making girls feel special.

That means sweeping her off her feet will be easy if you use my tip.

Reread your conversation and show her that you pay attention.

Sounds almost stupid, right?

But it works!

Repeating the stuff you talked about on Tinder will make her feel that you know her.

Now she feels a little connected to you.

And she can trust you.


Plus, knowing what she’s about will also make real life conversation easier!

Everybody wins.

#4: Prepare a couple fun stories

This common dating mistake makes me want to pull my hair out.

Nobody steps out the door naked.

Yet so many people go out on dates without a clue about what to say.

It honestly blows my mind.

Because unless you’re gifted with a million dollar mouthpiece, you’re setting yourself up for mediocrity.

Fugg that.

Give her an epic date!

Rehearse a couple of fun and true stories that she’ll love to hear!

#5: Put on a nice outfit

If you’ve ever wondered what women find attractive in a man, this is for you.

Women want men who look good.

That doesn’t mean you have to be handsome.

It literally means she wants you to look good:

  • Wear clean clothes and shoes
  • Have a well thought out style that works
  • Keep it neutral unless you know what you’re doing

#6: Wear a fragrance

This is the easiest way to gain a few sexy points.

Wear a fragrance. Women will notice.

Your body wash. Your fragrance. Your freshly washed clothes. Your natural, stinky musk.

This all mixes together into a unique perfume that she wants to wrap around herself like a blanket.

So go get yourself a good fragrance!

#7: Listen to your favorite music as you get ready

Music is an essential ingredient for success on your Tinder date.

The benefits music gives you are kinda crazy.

Scientific studies show that listening to music:

  • Makes you less tired
  • Enhances athletic performance
  • Positively alters your mood

A good playlist basically makes you feel like a million bucks.

And you’ll take that energy into your date.

#8: Know what you’re looking for

If you take ANYTHING away from this article, make sure it’s this:

Know yourself.

There’s nothing more attractive to a woman than a man who really knows himself. And has the guts to be himself.

She wants someone who has dreams and passions.

Who can make his own decisions.

Who lives in alignment with his own principles and values.

A man who can be himself in any situation without being a burden to others, is a man she can trust and fall madly in love with.

#9: Meet a few minutes away from the first date location

It’s time for me to give you a TextGod® secret.

A stress free way to begin your date is to not meet at the location right away.

Meet 5 to 10 minutes away, and walk to the date together.

There’ll be plenty of stuff going on to take the spotlight away from the conversation.

So little moments of silence won’t get awkward.

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#10: Decide how you want to greet her

This tip will make it much easier to kiss her on the date.

Ever wondered why it feels so difficult to smooch on a first date?

Let me tell you.

It’s because you’re unsure if she wants to kiss you back.

But you can easily figure out how she feels about locking lips.


By being physical.

Which starts with a good and intimate greeting.

I recommend going for a warm and tight hug. Like you would give an old friend.

#11: Smile

Holy tip from Louis:


Smiling makes everyone look more attractive.

It also makes you more friendly.

Which will make her relax and more likely to open up to you.

#12: Sit next to each other

Apply this tip to ensure maximum vibes.

When on a date, sit next to her rather than across from her.

Do your research and pick a spot where this is possible.

Not only will this not feel like an interview.

You both have the same view. Producing more topics of conversation.

It’s also easier to touch each other and flirt.

#13: Sprinkle in some tension

Avoid this common mistake which KILLS attraction.

Most guys think they can just smile their way into a woman’s panties.

Commonly known as “nice guys.”

But that doesn’t work.

There needs to be a little playful friction.

Which you can create through teasing and challenging her.

Just don’t go overboard. Because it can go from exciting to annoying real fast.

Here, I’ll give you some teasing examples.

#14: Touch her

One of the most simplest ways to flirt:

Touch her.

It doesn’t have to be excessive.

But she needs to feel that you can be a man.

You can start by putting a hand on her knee when she says something sweet.

Then gradually work your way up.

Just don’t move too fast.

If she visibly flinches or pulls back a little, back off and try again later.

#15: Own your sexuality

This is a mistake many men make.

Not being a sexual man.

Many men are afraid to show interest out of fear of being rejected.

Look, I get it. Nobody wants to get rejected.

But communicating that you find her attractive won’t get you rejected, my friend.

In fact, it’ll make her feel desired.

And women like to feel that way.

So if you find her attractive, communicate that.

It’s probably the easiest with the greeting, “You look amazing.”

#16: Be vulnerable

Here’s how to get a woman hooked on you:

Be vulnerable.

Share personal stories. Fond memories. Aspirations. Flaws. Regrets.

This will make her feel connected to you.

In case you didn’t know, almost every woman wants a bad boy with a heart.

Jokes aside, women want both of these

Just be careful. Being vulnerable can get her falling in love with you real fast.

#17: Aim to listen, not to talk

This tip will give her the feeling that she’s known you from a time long ago.

Get her to talk about herself.

Everyone’s favorite subject in the world is ‘I’.

People LOVE to talk about themselves.

Especially when they can share about what gives them joy.

Like what makes them proud or what they hope to achieve.

So be sure to tap into these topics and give her a good time.

(Without having to do much yourself).

Prepare a handful of questions you want to ask her.

You may not even use them all…

…But just having them ready gives you more peace of mind.

Still, I’ve prepared 10 Things To Say if you’re drawing a blank on your date.

#18: Don’t drink too much

This is pretty self-explanatory.

You want to make a good impression.

And not mess things up.

You’re not there to drink. You’re there to connect with her.

#19: Give her a warm goodbye

Do this to ensure you see her again.

End the date more affectionately than it began.

Could be a kiss. Could be a long hug with a kiss on the cheek.

Just make sure it’s more affectionate than when the date started.

Otherwise you’re on a one-way ticket to the friend zone.

#20: Forget the rules and just have fun

Now, here’s the thing about what I’ve said:

Don’t let the tips get in the way of a good time.

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