You got her digits.
But you don’t know what to text first after meeting and getting her number.
So that’s exactly what you’re going to learn.
Read on and get:
- 5 Texts that scare her away (don’t send these!)
- A first text so powerful it should be hidden in Area 51
- Text message example to send a girl you just met
- Why she sometimes doesn’t reply
- How to keep the conversation going (using material from team TextGod)
- The most effective way to get her to text you first (HIGH success rate)
- Texts so good that she asks you out (+screenshot examples)
- And much more…
By the way, did you know there is one opener SO good, that I don't want every peasant to get a hold of it. It uses the psychological principle of clickbait, making it irresistible to ignore. I included it in a free video with 7 real life text examples + 2 bonus follow-up lines to use after the opener. Download it for free here.
#1: What most men do
Instead of charm her, most guys send a first text that scares women away.
But not you.
Because you’re about to see the five most commonly made texting mistakes.
1. Reminding her who you are
Seems fine, right?
But it absolutely is NOT.
If you read between the lines, that opener says:
Put simply, it oozes low self-esteem.
And you want to shine confidence.
2. Handing out compliments like candy
Again, these couple texts seem innocent.
But they put you in a bad light.
Firstly, calling her ‘gorgeous’ right out the gate makes her think you call all girls ‘gorgeous’. Now she doesn’t feel special.
Secondly, ‘had a GREAT time’ is a little strong. You barely know her.
So if it takes so little to impress you, you probably aren’t used to much female attention.
What she sees when you compliment her too easily: 🚩🚩🚩
3. Being plain boring
Super casual first text.
And also super dull.
Even if she thought the world of you when you met, if you don’t match the initial vibe, you kill her attraction for you.
Plus, if she’s hot, she definitely has an inbox full of texts from guys just like you.
So you need to stand out.
4. Being too quick on the draw
Quick date tip: you can’t plan a date if she isn’t already excited to see you.
If you don’t pump up the emotion, she’ll very likely turn you down.
5. Being inappropriate
This subheader is without text bubbles, because it involves naughty photos.
Here’s an ascii representation to remove all confusion:
Any kind of revealing photos are a definite no-no for a first text.
Showing skin reveals you get little validation from women and have little self-worth.
Plus, what do you expect?
What else to text a girl you just met?
#2: Best example of what to text her first
Let me tell you the #1 principle that makes or breaks your fist message to a woman you just met.
The secret to a great first text after getting her number, is this:
It looks like gibberish to outsiders.
Let me phrase that differently:
If strangers can understand your first text at a glance, it’s bad.
But if they need a decoder ring, it’s good.
Bad. Anyone can understand that text.
Good. Nobody but her can understand that text.
Let me explain the logic behind this first text principle.
The more personalized your first text:
- The more it makes you stand out
- The more it makes her feel connected to you. After all, it’s a secret language she only speaks with you
- The more like she’ll reply
Honestly, I’ve never been ignored after I sent a girl a super personalized first text.
Here’s an example of a text that only two people in the world can understand, me and her:
Inside jokes galore.
So if you really want to create a great first text message, create some inside jokes.
#3: When to text after getting her number
When it comes to text timing, there’s three things you want to do:
- Ignore Men’s Health advice on dating
- Read TextGod
- And forget all about the three-day rule.
The three-day rule started off as a sitcom joke, but soon became mainstream gospel.
In case you don’t know it, here’s the rundown:
“After you get her number, wait three days before texting.”
The idea is that you don’t want to seem needy.
But really, all it does it hurt your chances of seeing her.
The longer you wait, the more likely she’ll forget about you.
So you want to strike while her feelings for you are still strong.
Preferably within 24 hours.
You can also text while she’s standing next to you.
More on that in the next tip.
#4: What to send directly after meeting a girl
Every woman’s favorite first text follows the next formula.
It works so well it should be kept hidden inside a vault in Area 51.
The first message every girl wants to get centers around…
The quality of your fedora collection.
*Laughs in Neckbeardian*
The first text that she wants to receive, reminds her of the connection.
She wants to relive what it was like to be with you.
Send her a good text and she remembers your smile.
And your in depth analysis of My Little Pony.
So how do you remind her of the connection?
By retelling jokes, insights and topics of conversation.
Here’s an example by a coach from team TextGod.
To add some context, she was super into fashion and loved unicorns:
You can see my bro clearly reminded her of the connection.
And the message was only simple.
Well, there’s a little hidden sophistication.
If you look well, you can see the top of a message on the photo.
It reads, “Do you like my outfit, [name of coach]?”
Slightly cocky, but more importantly, her reading your name again is like you force feeding the connection down her throat.
Pretty soon he was forcing something else down her throat.
A home cooked meal.
As you exchange numbers in person, why not text right away?
Even better, why not let her text you first?
Ask for her phone and add yourself as a contact.
(Stand right next to her, so she can see exactly what you’re doing.)
Next, ask her to open up WhatsApp so you can send yourself a message.
It really doesn’t matter what you send. Even one emoji is good.
Because even though you sent her the first text, it’s from HER phone.
So it’s almost like she opened you.
Now that the ice is broken, you want to get her excited to meet you.
Humor is an excellent tool to get her ready for the date.
What else can you text first after you get her number?
#5: Funny texts to send her
What to text her to get her so thrilled to meet you, she tells you to ask her out.
As I said earlier, most guys send her texts that get them nowhere.
Texts that are logical and extremely BORING.
Because us guys rarely get seduced by women, most dudes don’t care whether she’s boring or exciting.
Most men are so happy with attention from a woman, she can do little wrong.
Women are much more demanding when it comes to flirting.
She doesn’t want to ride a children’s carousel. She wants to ride the Twilight Tower Of Terror Drop Of Doom 6000.
Put simply, she wants to be stimulated emotionally.
Humor is the easiest way to do that.
Because the joke that gets the biggest laugh is personal, I can’t spoon feed you one-liners.
But I can give you the formula behind a knee-slapping meme:
- Get an idea of her personal interests in person (or Tinder if that’s where you got her number)
- Pick one topic
- Now find an over the top photo to go with it
If your crush is a photographer, send her something like this:
The butterfly drew first blood, not me.
Imagine you’re texting a perfume lady who tried to sell you Versace when you first met.
What would you send?
I sent this:
The beauty of this meme is that it’s also a slight tease.
And as surprising as it may sound, women like men who dare to tease.
As you can see by her reaction:
And by the way, that text of hers is only one of many.
When I just met another girl, she told me she didn’t have many girlfriends.
She preferred to hang out with guys.
I knew exactly what to send her.
IMPORTANT: I had already hung out with this girl for an hour or more. She even fed me some chocolate cake. So she was already pretty interested in seeing me again.
I sent her this:
Want to know how she reacted?
Take a guess.
When your meme game is so good, she asks you out.
Also notice how I predicted a negative response. After all, I pretty much called her out for sucking the D.
I said, “Feel free to slap me when we go out for mead”
To which she replied “i will slap u for that”
And shortly after, “wanna go for lunch tomoz?”
Memes get you dates.
Especially when you tailor them to the girl you’re texting.
#6: How to write a first text that gets a reply
Write a first text that (almost) guarantees a reply using the next SIMPLE formula.
First, a student example of the formula at work.
A heads up, the purple blocks out her name.
Nothing special, right?
- My student mentions her name.
- Mentions a storm.
- And finishes with a video of a lightning thundering down from the sky, filmed from his apartment window.
Did it work?
So what is the underlying formula that my student used to write this successful series of texts?
Here it comes:
- He called her by name, just like a friend of hers would. To trigger even more emotions, give her a nickname. For example, “Car” instead of the more serious “Carla”.
- Highlight a shared memory to revive the connection. In my student’s case, Zeus just turned on the rain machine and started chucking lightning bolts.
- Bonus: Add a photo, meme, video or voice message to trigger even more of the feels.
If done well, you will almost ALWAYS get a reply.
And then you lead the conversation into any direction you like.
Using a technique from my workshop, my student went straight to naughty town.
While I can’t offer you tickets to a finished workshop, I can give you 9 more examples of texts that get a reply.
Find the examples in my article, How To Text A Girl For The First Time.
Let me share a special technique for texting a girl you just met.
#7: A texting technique for real life number closes
With the right first text, she will practically beg you to continue the conversation.
Read on and learn to make her crave your texts more than neckbeards crave Mountain Dew.
Warning: the simplicity of the technique will make you want to pull your hair out.
So hide your hair inside your fedora, because here it comes…
And it works wonders.
Did you feel yourself racing down the page to get the secret texting technique?
That’s thanks to clickbait. The first three lines of this tip are bursting with it.
You might even say that clickbait is more dangerous than dynamite.
But instead of blowing your outsides to bits, clickbait blasts your emotional insides to pieces.
So when you are calm, clickbait turns you excited.
And you don’t regain peace of mind until you get the answer.
So how do you get her to feel that way?
With the next embarrassingly simple text:
The reaction I get from my students.
Imagine you were on the receiving end of that text.
Wouldn’t you want to know what someone found ‘funny’ about meeting you?
I sure as heck would.
You already got the first line.
But I also have two follow-up lines to reel her in.
You can find those lines (including screenshot examples) by clicking this link.
#8: What to send her after ‘hello’
Learn how to keep the conversation going while making her excited for the date.
Women are tired of the same old small talk questions.
The last question is obviously a joke. (And is probably not a bad question to ask if she’s a bit of a nerd.)
So how do you have a fun conversation with a girl after you get her number?
Note: we already went over first texts and humor, scroll up in case you skipped class.
This tip is all about getting to know her better, while standing out from the interview-dudes.
And rather than giving you a formula to create your questions, you’ll get a series of questions my coaches and I use on dates.
Which work just as well via text.
Here it comes:
That’s 15 questions.
If you want even more, check out my article with over a 100 questions!
It’s called Best Tinder Questions.
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, she doesn’t respond.
So what do you do when you…
#9: Got her number but she doesn’t reply
This tip reveals the reason why she’s ignoring you and how to get a reply.
But before we get to the answer, let’s go over what NOT to do.
The #1 conversation killer is your desire to get a reply.
And if you let that desire steer the conversation, you’re done.
Neediness usually leads to one of three attraction zapping mistakes:
- You get angry and lash out. “Fine. I didn’t like you anyway!”
- You feel butthurt and want a pity reply. “Sorry for being interested in you. I guess that was rude of me.”
- You go serious mode and demand a response. “I don’t get it. Why give me your number if you don’t want to chat?”
None of these knee-jerk reactions will make her want to text you.
So why didn’t she reply to you in the first place?
There’s lots of reasons. But they largely fall into three groups:
- She’s busy. Studying, work, and other real life commitments.
- She doesn’t like you enough. She may be crushing on someone else.
- Your first text sucked and scared her off.
Unless you can read her mind, you don’t know why she’s ignoring you.
Luckily, you don’t need to know.
You simply need the best conversation revival kit in the business.
And I got it.
If you read up until here, you should have a decent idea what the answer is.
In case you don’t, let me tell you:
A text that reminds her why she gave you her number when you met.
Does that sound like too much trouble?
Keep it light and easy with this meme:
Want to know more about what to say when she ignores you?
Read my article called When She Doesn’t Text Back.
Now for the final tip…
#10: Become a texting legend
You won’t believe how easy it is to text women with the right tools.
Carpenters use nails and hammers.
Architects use rulers and pencils.
Epic texters use the TextGod Toolkit.
So what is it?
A collection of three goodies packed into one kit.
Goodie #1: The Dating Profile Checklist
The Checklist helps you find the weaknesses of your profile and the solution to fix them. Leading to more matches.
Goodie #2: The Clickbait Opener
The Clickbait Opener is my best one-size-fits-all opener. It has a higher response rate than any other opener I’ve made.
Plus you get two follow-up lines to st
Goodie #3: The 10 Texts That Always Work
The 10 Texts That Always Work are perfect for when you don’t know what to say.
These lines inject fun into conversation. And give you ways to ask her out on the date and copy pasta lines to tease her.
The best part?
It’s 100% free.
Happy texting, amigo.
That wraps up what to text after you get her number.
May your texts be funny and your dates plentiful.
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