You just met a nice girl and got her phone number. Nice!
But you have no clue what to text a girl you just met after getting her number.
So that’s exactly what you’re going to learn today. Including a ton of examples of first texts to send to a girl.In this article:More...
Important: Quickly letting you know I found the best opener EVER. Its psychologically irresistible to ignore. I made a video explaining how to use it and it's 'clickbait-principle' with screenshot examples. Check it out here.
When to text a girl after getting her number
When it comes to text timing, this is the first thing I want you to do:
Forget all about the three-day rule. You may think waiting makes you more chill and relaxed. But really, making her wait for days only makes you seem uninterested.
On rare occasions, she may chase you and reach out first. But that’s not a reliable strategy.
What is a good strategy to get her attention?
Text her within 24 hours. That way she’s still excited to hear back from you. Delay your message any longer and the odds of her moving on increase by 69%.
Whether your text comes across as needy or not has little to do with how quick you text. It’s largely about what you text. Read the next tips for more.
What to text a girl you just met (5 Best ways)
I’m about to give you my best tips on how to text a girl after getting her number. Not in the mood to read? No problemo.
Just watch my video which includes my best tips + 4 screenshot examples.
1. Keep it personal
This is the best way to start a conversation with girls you met in real life:
It doesn’t make sense to anyone but her.
If strangers can understand your first text at a glance, it’s probably bad. That’s when you get texts like this.
It’s pretty dull and doesn’t stimulate her emotions.
Compare that to this text.
That’s perfect. Sure, you may not understand what’s going on. But she will because the message is related to your interaction.
The more your text is tailored to your conversation…
- The more it makes you stand out.
- The more it makes her feel connected to you. After all, it’s a secret language she only speaks with you.
- The more likely she’ll reply.
Honestly, I’ve never been ignored after I sent a girl a super personalized first text.
Here’s an example of a text that only two people in the world can understand, me and her:
Inside jokes galore.
So if you really want to create a great first text message, create some inside jokes.
2. Remind her of your connection
Every woman’s favorite first text follows the next formula. It honestly works so well it should be kept hidden inside a vault in Area 51.
Anyway, the first text that she wants to receive, reminds her of the connection.
She wants to be reminded that you’re just as cool as her memory of you.
The perfect text reminds her of your smile. Your jokes. And your in-depth analysis of My Little Pony.
So how do you remind her of the connection? By retelling jokes, insights and topics of conversation.
Here’s an example by Coach Jay. To add some context, she was super into fashion and loved unicorns:
You can see my bro clearly reminded her of the connection. And the message was only simple. Well, there’s a little hidden sophistication.
If you look well, you can see the top of a message on the photo. It reads, “Do you like my outfit, senor Jay?”
Slightly cocky, but more importantly, her reading your name again is like you force-feeding the connection down her throat.
As you exchange numbers in person, why not text right away?
Even better, why not let her text you first?
Ask for her phone and add yourself as a contact.
(Stand right next to her, so she can see exactly what you’re doing.)
Next, ask her to open up WhatsApp so you can send yourself a message.
It really doesn’t matter what you send. Even one emoji is good.
Because even though you sent her the first text, it’s from HER phone.
So it’s almost like she opened you.
3. Send a funny picture or video that’s actually relevant
Write a first text that (almost) guarantees a reply using the next SIMPLE formula.
First, a student example of the formula at work. A heads up, the purple blocks out her name.
Nothing special, right?
- My student mentions her name.
- Mentions a storm.
- And finishes with a video of a lightning thundering down from the sky, filmed from his apartment window.
Did it work?
So what is the underlying formula that my student used to write this successful series of texts?
Here it comes:
- He called her by name, just like a friend of hers would. To trigger even more emotions, give her a nickname. For example, “Car” instead of the more serious “Carla”.
- Highlight a shared memory to revive the connection. In my student’s case, Zeus just turned on the rain machine and started chucking lightning bolts.
- Bonus: Add a photo, meme, video or voice message to trigger even more of the feels.
If done well, you will almost ALWAYS get a reply.
And then you lead the conversation into any direction you like.
Using a technique from my workshop, my student went straight to naughty town.
While I can’t offer you tickets to a finished workshop, I can give you 9 more examples of texts that get a reply.
Find the examples in my article, How To Text A Girl For The First Time.
4. Use clickbait to get a reply after texting her for the first time
With the right first text, she will practically beg you to continue the conversation.
Read on and learn to make her crave your texts more than neckbeards crave Mountain Dew.
Warning: the simplicity of the technique will make you want to pull your hair out.
So hide your hair inside your fedora, because here it comes…
And it works wonders.
Did you feel yourself racing down the page to get the secret texting technique?
That’s thanks to clickbait. The first three lines of this tip are bursting with it. You might even say that clickbait is more dangerous than dynamite.
But instead of blowing your outsides to bits, clickbait blasts your emotional insides to pieces.
So when you are calm, clickbait turns you excited. And you don’t regain peace of mind until you get the answer.
So how do you get her to feel that way? With the next embarrassingly simple text:
Imagine you were on the receiving end of that text.
Wouldn’t you want to know what someone found ‘funny’ about meeting you? I sure as heck would.
You already got the first line. But I also have two follow-up lines to reel her in.
You can find those lines (including screenshot examples) by clicking this link.
5. Send personalized memes
What to text her to get her so thrilled to meet you, she tells you to ask her out.
As I said earlier, most guys send her texts that get them nowhere.
Texts that are logical but very BORING.
She doesn’t want to ride a children’s carousel. She wants to ride the Twilight Tower Of Terror Drop Of Doom 6000.
Put simply, she wants to be stimulated emotionally.
Humor is the easiest way to do that.
Because the joke that gets the biggest laugh is personal, I can’t spoon feed you one-liners.
But I can give you the formula behind a knee-slapping meme:
- Get an idea of her personal interests in person (or Tinder if that’s where you got her number).
- Pick one topic.
- Now find an over the top photo to go with it.
If your crush is a photographer, send her something like this:
The butterfly drew first blood, not me.
Imagine you’re texting a perfume lady who tried to sell you Versace when you first met. That’s what happened to Coach Jay who got a girl’s number at a perfume shop.
What would you send?
Coach Jay sent this.
The beauty of this meme is that it’s also a slight tease.
And as surprising as it may sound, women like men who dare to tease.
As you can see by her reaction:
And by the way, that text of hers is only one of many.
When Coach Jay met another girl, she told him she didn’t have many girlfriends. She preferred to hang out with guys.
Coach Jay knew exactly what to send her.
IMPORTANT: He had already hung out with this girl for a bit over an hour. She even fed him some chocolate cake. So she was pretty interested in seeing him again.
So Coach Jay sent her this:
Want to know how she reacted?
When your meme game is so good, she asks you out.
Also notice how he predicted a negative response. After all, he pretty much called her out for sucking the D.
He said, “Feel free to slap me when we go out for mead”
To which she replied “i will slap u for that”
And shortly after, “wanna go for lunch tomoz?”
Memes get you dates.
Especially when you tailor them to the girl you’re texting.
What to send her after your first text (15 examples)
How do you have a fun conversation with a girl after you get her number?
Avoid the predictable questions she’s already answered a bajillion times.
- What do you do for a living?
- Where are you from?
- Do you have any siblings?
This tip is all about getting to know her better, while standing out from the interview-dudes.
And rather than giving you a formula to create your questions, you’ll get a series of questions my coaches use all the time.
Here they comes:
- Folding my laundry. Tell me you’re doing something better.
- Cuddling my friend’s doggo. His name is Hotwings. Wanna join?
- About to start flirting with this girl called [her name].
- Sipping on a glass of vino. You more into red or white?
- What’s the dankest meme you have on your phone?
- Doing some underwear shopping. Should I go for the neon yellow thong or the red lace one piece?
- How many 4th graders do you think you can take on at once?
- Playing some Hearthstone behbehhhhhhh. You ever play video games?
- If I was going to come over for dinner, what would you cook for me?
- If you could be a man for a day, what’s the first thing you’d do?
- Sparkling water. Yay or nay?
- What’s your favorite way to be seduced?
- If I say top 5 movies of all time, what is the first one that comes to mind?
- What’s the weirdest thing about a guy that turns you on?
That’s 15 questions.
If you want even more, check out my article with over a 100 questions!
You got her number but she doesn’t reply
This tip reveals the reason why she’s ignoring you and how to get a reply.
But before we get to the answer, let’s go over what NOT to do.
The #1 conversation killer is your desire to get a reply. And if you let that desire steer the conversation, you’re done.
Neediness usually leads to one of three attraction-zapping mistakes:
- You get angry and lash out. “Fine. I didn’t like you anyway!”
- You feel butthurt and want a pity reply. “Sorry for being interested in you. I guess that was rude of me.”
- You go serious mode and demand a response. “I don’t get it. Why give me your number if you don’t want to chat?”
None of these knee-jerk reactions will make her want to text you.
So why didn’t she reply to you in the first place? There are lots of reasons. But they largely fall into three groups:
- She’s busy. Studying, work, and other real life commitments.
- She doesn’t like you enough. She may be crushing on someone else.
- Your first text sucked and scared her off.
Unless you can read her mind, you don’t know why she’s ignoring you.
Luckily, you don’t need to know. You simply need the best conversation revival kit in the business.
And I got it. If you read up until here, you should have a decent idea what the answer is.
In case you don’t, let me tell you:
A text that reminds her why she gave you her number when you met.
Does that sound like too much trouble?
Keep it light and easy with this meme:
Want to know more about what to say when she ignores you? Read my next article.
5 Common mistakes when texting a girl you just met
Instead of charming her, most guys send a first text that scares women away.
But not you.
Because you’re about to see the five most commonly made texting mistakes.
1. Reminding her who you are
Seems fine, right?
But it absolutely is NOT.
If you read between the lines, that opener says:
Put simply, it oozes low self-esteem. And you want to radiate confidence.
2. Handing out compliments like candy
Again, these couple texts seem innocent. But they put you in a bad light.
Firstly, calling her ‘gorgeous’ right out the gate makes her think you call all girls ‘gorgeous’. Now she doesn’t feel special.
Secondly, ‘had a GREAT time’ is a little strong. You barely know her.
So if it takes so little to impress you, you probably aren’t used to much female attention.
What she sees when you compliment her too easily: 🚩🚩🚩
3. Being plain boring
Super casual first text.
And also super dull.
Even if she thought the world of you when you met, if you don’t match the initial vibe, you kill her attraction for you.
Plus, if she’s hot, she definitely has an inbox full of texts from guys just like you.
So you need to stand out.
4. Being too quick on the draw
Quick date tip: you can’t plan a date if she isn’t already excited to see you.
If you don’t pump up the emotion, she’ll very likely turn you down.
5. Being inappropriate
This subheader is without text bubbles because it involves naughty photos.
Here’s an ascii representation to remove all confusion:
Any kind of revealing photos are a definite no-no for a first text.
Showing skin reveals you get little validation from women and have little self-worth.
Plus, what do you expect?
What else to text a girl you just met?
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Happy texting, amigo.
That wraps up what to text after you get her number.
May your texts be funny and your dates plentiful.
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