When She Doesn’t Text Back: What It Means & What To Say Now

You’re probably feeling pretty bummed out right now.

After all, you were hitting it off with this cute girl and then out of nowhere, she stopped texting you back.

Relax, I got just what you need.

In this article, I’m going to tell you exactly what it means when she doesn’t text back and how to get her hooked on your texts once again.

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What does it mean if she doesn’t text you back?

There are many reasons why women don’t text back. Sometimes she stops replying out of disinterest, but other times she’s simply distracted or going through some things of her own.

Here’s a quick rundown of what might be going on:

  • She’s lost interest because of something you said.
  • She read your text and forgot to reply.
  • She hasn’t read your text and it’s now lost in her busy inbox.
  • She’s currently more interested in someone else.

You can’t salvage every situation. But this article will give you all the tools you need to grab her interest and make her excited to meet you again, if she’s still open to it.

What to do if she doesn’t text you back (10 texts)

Although I really advise against sending texts before you have a better understanding of the situation…

…if you need to send something RIGHT NOW, you want to copy the message that best fits your situation.

  • It’s cute how hard you’re trying to come up with the perfect reply to my text. 😉
  • You still haven’t thought of a text to wow me? Thought you were better than that, Sarah👵.
  • Hnnng. I love it when you barely talk to me. Send me more invisible texts, babe.
  • Let me know if you’re in trouble. Then I’ll put on my cape and fly to your rescue after I’m done saving a puppy from a tree.
  • You knew I was busy so you waited to text me back until I was available again. You’re so considerate. <3
  • Wow. Our marriage counselor is so going to hear how you left me on read for a week.
  • You’re really making me work for your attention. You better be worth it. 😉
  • Hey, just checking in. You OK?
  • [If your last text was bad] That sounded better in my head lol. Anyway, I just had a dynamite chicken and veggie stir fry. What’s the last time you cooked for yourself?
  • [If you think she’s pulling back] Hi, I might be wrong. But I get the sense you’re no longer interested. Totally fine. Just want to wish you well, holla ✨✨.

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The 6 steps that will get a response from your crush

Step 1. Chill out

What do most guys do when a girl stops texting back?

They feel bad and experience a minor stroke every time their phone buzzes to announce a new text.

“Is it her???”

And after too many false alarms, they’ll eventually do the worst thing imaginable…

…they send her another text.

Is sending her more messages always a bad idea? Of course not.

But if your emotions are at DEFCON 1, your text will probably be incredibly needy and desperate.

And scare her off permanently.

So what do you want to do?

Chill the fugg out.

Let your panic pass and give her a chance to get back to you.

Go to the gym, play a video game, or pull  your pants down and watch Hairy Twatter and the Search of Bush.

The only exception to this rule is when you had a date planned today and she’s not texting back. More on that later.

But for now, know: the right mentality is half the battle in winning back her attention.

Step 2. Figure out if you did something wrong

Women can stop replying for all kinds of reasons.

She’s incredibly busy, she’s having a bad day and isn’t feeling sexy, or she’s just no longer interested in you.

If you did nothing wrong, it’s almost always best to give her space.

But did you mess up?

Then it’s best to figure out what you did wrong and fix the situation before she gives her attention to someone else.

If she’s attractive, she probably has a lot of male callers.

In the last 24 hours, my girlfriend received, JUST on Instagram, 29 messages. Twentynine.

(Her ‘berichtverzoeken’ are ‘message requests’. Her phone is in Dutch, as she’s from Belgium.)

So how do you recognize if you did something wrong?


You just check your conversations for unattractive behavior:

  • Were you being a kiss-ass?
  • Were you sending her long-winded tomes of text?
  • Were you being a friendly and polite conversationalist?
  • Were you being a bit butthurt because she’s not giving you the type of attention you want?
  • Or, the classic, were you just being boring?

Do you think any of these could be the reason for her ignoring you?

Then you’ve got some fixing to do, buddy.

But rest assured, if she finds you even a little bit attractive, it is fixable.

Step 3. Choose the right moment to text again

Timing is everything.

And it all depends on how you know her.

Did you just match on Tinder? Did you meet in real life and exchange numbers? Or do you know her through a shared social circle?

The less you know her, the more space you want to give her.


Because she barely knows you. You’re just a teensy blip on the radar to her.

So it’d be weird to be crazy attached to her already.

But if you already know her through school or a party where you hung out for a while, you already play a biggish role in her life.

Now it’s normal to invest a bit more in her.

So here’s how you know when to text her again:

  • Do you barely know her? Wait at least 3 days before texting her back after being ignored.
  • Are you already acquaintances or friends? Then it might be a good idea to casually check in after 24 hours.
  • Are you supposed to meet up today? Send her a text in the morning saying that you’re working out and feeling extra sexy for your date. Does she cancel? Be chill and show understanding. You can always meet up another time.

Step 4. Send a good text

There’s one type of text you should avoid at all costs.

The needy text.

That includes all messages that make you seem butthurt, but also the messages where you ask for her attention.

If a girl doesn’t text you back, it’s obviously not a good idea to ask anything of her.

She might already be upset with you.

Demanding attention from her now is almost like standing at an ATM and requesting $100 even though you’re $300 in the red.

It’s not going to work.

To get anything from her in the future, you need to restore the balance by giving her some value first.

So what do you do?

  • You send her something funny. Like a meme or dog GIF.
  • You send her a song that you think she’d like.
  • You send her a photo or video of something cool you’re up to.

And another screenshot for good measure:

Whatever it is you do, try to put a smile on her face.

And keep it simple.

If you just met her, you don’t want to look like you’re trying mega hard to get her attention after she ignored you.

That’s a big turn-off.

Step 5. Get her hooked on your texts

Getting her addicted to your texts will be different for every girl.

So you need to pay attention to what she really responds to.

But what if you don’t know what she’s into?

Then you stick to the types of texts that make you an attractive guy.

What are those?

You can fill entire books with this stuff, but I’m going to make it really simple for you.

The texts that make you more attractive to women all involve:

  • Having the courage to speak your mind. If you agree with her on everything, she’ll know you’re not being true to yourself. That’s ugly.
  • Building on commonalities. Sharing a passion makes for easy conversation and makes you more relatable.
  • Matching her level of investment. It’s normal for guys to invest a little more in the beginning. Consistently showing more interest, however, gives her the feeling that you’re not used to talking with girls of her caliber.
  • Creating inside jokes. Once you have an inside joke, she has a special connection with you that she doesn’t have with anyone else.
  • Asking why. We all enjoy it when people show interest in the things we love.
  • Figuring out if you like her. Most women want to be liked for who they are on the inside.
  • Being a little mysterious.  Yes, she wants to get to know you. But she’ll value you much more if she had to put in some effort by asking questions and showing interest.
  • Texting like an adult. She wants to date a man, not a child who ends every sentence with emojis and internet lingo LOL. 😀
  • Being yourself. Almost every woman prefers to date a bit of a weirdo than some dude who’s exactly the same as the rest. Probably because so many of them are weirdos themselves.

Yup, that’s a lot of stuff.

And, nope, that’s not everything you need to know to be attractive to women.

But it’s a good start.

Step 6. Use my texts when you don’t know what to say

Even if you’re great with women in person, it doesn’t always translate to being great with women over text.

I’ll be honest, seducing women over text is something that takes a while to learn.

That’s why it can be so nice to have reliable lines that always work.

And since I have so many lines that get amazing replies, I don’t mind giving some of them away for free right now.

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  • Victor says:

    Wow really helpful

  • Eschy says:

    I’ve recently kissed the girl I been talking to for 4 weeks, and now she’s acting weird, when it was her that said if I kissed her she would accept, and the only thing she thinks when she’s around me, is in me kissing her, but now she’s acting funny, and not texting me for a day, I don’t want to seem creepy, but when I kissed her she didn’t stop kissing me, she just kept going, and she hugged me tight, so I guess she felt good about it but now she acts this way…? I’m super confused…
    I hope I didn’t scare her away
    Any suggestions, anything would help, honestly

  • Danny says:

    @cassie- Hey Cassie, how you doing now? Hope you got a solution for your situation.

  • Marcius Chester says:

    If she doesn’t me back after 24 hrs I delete her number because there to many other women in the world 🌎. Eventually I will fine one that has her feet planted on solid ground and is not fake. I don’t judge anyone I let them do it for me which shows their true colors/character.

  • gear says:

    I maybe have been overtexting, because I really like this girl. She’s my neighbor. We just met a few weeks ago.

    I would understand all the rules and such described above and I don’t think I’m that bad or needy. At most slightly in violation of them. That said, what makes this different is two things-

    We are both in our thirties, ostensibly too old for games, and
    We slept together twice and had oral twice and she’s a freak and seems to like me dominating her. We also cooked dinner together, watched movies together, etc. Keep in mind I’ve only known her less than a few weeks– but she is the spitting image of what I want. Like I said I think at most I’ve only been in slight violation, and I’m the first guy for her in over a year (since her ex) I’m pretty sure. So I’m very surprised we’d be so petty. I try to reserve all conversation for in person, but I just text to make plans and I do try call first.

    Text is a tool of the devil. I have bigger shit to worry about then being a goddamn text entertainer. I’m like Freddie Mercury. All in don’t play hard to get sh-t.

    Man I don’t know. Maybe it’s nothing. I really like this girl and we had great sex twice and more. We had walks and quality time together. It might be nothing but I feel a familiar slowing down. Damn the internet. It floods women’s inboxes and forces flat conversations over text. Without these two things life would be simpler. That said, it is what it is.

  • Worries says:

    I ve started seeing a girl for the last few weeks and I really like her. Things have been going well so far. Her friend even told me recently that she likes me and that whatever I m doing is working. I texted her last week to ask if she wanted to do something one night this week. She said yes so I told her to let me know what night works best for her. I haven t heard from her yet it s been 6 days. My friend offered me two tickets to a basketball game so I texted her today to see if she wanted to go, but I ve gotten no answer. I was thinking of using Strategy 1 sometime tomorrow and saying something like guess your not a knicks fan lol . Do you think that s a good idea? If not what would be the best route? Thanks so much

  • APKun says:

    I can’t tell if she is into me or not. I feel like she is but there are few things that hindering me back from taking it to the next step. I feel she compliments a lot. I can share with you the screen shots of our conversation. Long story and I can’t wait to know if she wants me or not. What should I do?

  • Carol says:

    Haha …nope!

    Got this guy who flirted in and out. I got irritated with the inconsistency and stopped texting completely, and now he sends me 30 texts a day!

    If a girl likes you don’t play games, that’s all I can say

  • John says:

    Thank you for your knowledge

  • Fotodor says:

    A lot of women decide it s easier to handle the can I have your number? situation by just being polite, giving you her number, and then ignoring your calls and texts.

  • Svet Tour.Com says:

    A lot of women decide it s easier to handle the can I have your number? situation by just being polite, giving you her number, and then ignoring your calls and texts.

  • Cassie says:

    Great article. Some very good advice, but I can’t see to find a way through my dilemma. I have a long distance relationship via email and the odd phone call and hook up. I am a touch typist so I can type lots of news in my emails and I keep a sense of humour and pretty much say everything that is going on in my life. Months ago, he reeled me in and now I’m hooked, he only emails once every 24 hours, but not on the hour, so you never know when the message is coming. It was twice a day, but it was meaningless one liners like “it is so hot, I’m over it. Have a good day.” What? I explained I wanted more meaningful messaging, so now I get more news, but it is very select. I don’t get detail on what is going on at his end. The waiting now is doing my head in and I have expressed I can’t handle it and I really need to hear from you more. Some days it is ok, some days not. He knows exactly how it is bothering me and it is not from a sense of neediness. I just think it is controlling and manipulative. He only has to email once a day and then when we meet up he gets all the goodies. Then he goes back to once a day and then meets for more goodies. On Valentine’s day, he emailed mid morning – wouldn’t you email or even call as soon as you wake up? I did. Then I heard nothing from him all day or night and nothing the next day. I stood my ground not responding, but I was so upset and heartbroken. I mailed him a card and the hottest love letter that would turn anyone one. Truly, it was a masterpiece to anyone. The card would have cracked him up too. It has surely arrived by now and I am positive it has, but no response. I have mailed him a few small gifts and cards over the last few months and he hasn’t acknowledged them. I asked him when we met recently “did you get the stuff I sent you?” He replied “oh yeah I did….” and I stopped him. I said “that’s ok, just want to know/make sure that’s all.” So he didn’t have to be forced to thank me or talk about one of the very personal bereavement ones. But for frig sakes, why not thank you?!!!! We are lovers, not the gal at the gas station. I am really hurt by one email a day and this lack of regard for my feelings, but I can’t let go. I even promised not to ever let go again. As we have in the past. We are soulmates and it’s hard to explain the whole history. He has hooked me in so bad and I am accepting this crap. We have known eachother for decades. We have a connection, but it is all driven the way he wants it to be. But you say that and oh my, does he put me in my place and says he is super busy and he is not going to keep repeating that to me. Who is that busy, you can’t find time in the day to have a back and forth cyber chat? We all get breaks, watch tv, sit down at night. What about good morning and good night every day before you get in or out of bed – no matter how tired? There is no excuse surely!!!! I worry very much he is narcissistic as in the true personality disorder. Hence finding it hard to let go even more. Today I am crying, but sitting tight and will respond hours later in a cheery tone, but I hate forcing myself to play his game or pretend it isn’t bothering me. Speaking up has done nothing to change his communication to me. He will do it his way and that is that. He will know I am doing that and he can play with me more. He is in control, do not forget it. Any advice? We have known eachother so long, I don’t want to let go. So if I do not want to let go, what do I need to do to keep sane and stop this horrible anxiety/heart palpitations.

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  • Getinet says:

    Thank you Louis for your vivid advice. I’m experiencing the same issue which you explained above. I started dating for the first time in the midst of July,2019. When we started, everything was fine and I used to chat(text) her more than 30-50texts a day, she replies very soon. But, after 2 months, things started to decline. She started to reply after 30min, after an hour, after days now. Specially, what made me heartbroken is, when she kept silent after looking Love pictures on telegram for 5days(I send the pic 1/day). So painful. I thought she is no more with me and I was thinking to STOP my relationship until I google this site. Thank God I got relief now. Blessed!!

  • Eelco says:

    Asking serious questions and replying everything with a yes or uhuh or really? Is the only thing I know….

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