Online dating is easy and effective…
…once you know how it’s done.
That’s where your Tinder and online dating expert comes in.
Today you’ll learn more about what I do as a dating app expert, and how I can help you.
- Why men need me (and why YOU need me, if you’re a man)
- A sneak peek into my inbox (screenshots)
- How my sold out workshop is coming to you!
- Scientific proof that Tinder leads you to love
- Conversation examples of good and bad texts
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Why men need a Tinder expert.
I know this sounds like an arrogant title, but allow me to explain myself in just a few sentences.
I get this question and many other varieties quite often. And from all different types of people ranging from my own father, to girls I’ve dated, to journalists.
Let’s first start with the definition of confidence.
In this case, I’d say that confidence is the self-belief that you can perform.
Now for all the people I quoted just 10 seconds ago…
If all a man needs is confidence…
…Then what about all those guys who are confident enough to ACT, but don’t know HOW to act.
Confidence rarely gets you results if not backed by competence.
Confidence will get a guy to DO a backflip to impress girls. Competence will decide if he succeeds or break his bones.
You can be confident that you can ride a skateboard without needing practice. If you’re not competent at skateboarding, you are still going to fall.
Confidence is the belief that you can perform. But competence is your real capacity of performing.
And for some reason people think our love life is different from other areas of our life. They’re wrong.
If you have been doing your job for 10 years, you’ll be way more competent than the day you started. And you’ll also be more confident at your job as a result of your competence.
Now the funny thing is that this confidence is specific to that area.
A guy named Tim, doing 10 years of programming will be very confident when duty calls to fix a bug in the system.
Yet this same Tim guy can be scared to death when he has to text his crush to set up a date.
And another guy named Brad can be super confident in his ability to chat with women, and yet says all the wrong things.
You need confidence AND competence. Not just one one of them.
Let me end this mini speech with a question:
Which is more arrogant? The title above this block of text, or the person who says you don’t need to learn all these techniques. That all you need to learn it confidence…
#2: I’ll give you a look in my personal inbox
Although I share a lot of my texts with thousands of TextGod followers, I am not talking about my Tinder inbox.
My professional email account where both my followers and you can reach me.
In the last tip I talked about the need for competence.
And how competence will help you meet the person you are looking for via online dating.
Now let me give you three examples of guys who became more competent thanks to TextGod.
Each of them have their own desires and goals, and that’s alright with me.
There are guys like this:
A guy mailing to share he is having more success online in less than a week. That’s all an online dating expert needs to be smiling behind his laptop.
Not everyone has the same maturity in their emails, but at least this guy is now able to meet girls.
My favorite type of email is this:
A guy around my age who just got through a breakup. Of course that resonates. And it reminds me why I want to be an online dating expert every day.
Another reason is that I disagree with a lot of info out there. The Tinder experts lack social intuition, have clearly been out of the dating game (or never really been in it), and so on…
On top of that, most advice is shallow. Cheap tricks for temporary fixes, often without much respect for other people, men and women alike.
So when I get emails like this one where the guy says “Your approach is different from those common Tinder experts out there.” then I feel deeply satisfied.
It’s a problem of this time, men often find themselves being stuck. They don’t know what to say, what to text, or what to do. And it’s my mission to help as many of them as possible.
#3: Most people don’t realize the importance of texting
Most people don’t realize how impactful texting can be.
Sure, there’s the obvious things like more dates or finding a girlfriend more quickly. But there’s so much more.
So let’s look past the fact that you can score 2-3 dates per week with the help of a dating app expert.
Have you ever considered that a big part of all communication in your relationship will be over text?
“But Louis, those silly texts don’t matter much, right?”
Many men think that seducing a girl stops once they found a girlfriend.
And if that is what they believe, then I can only pray for their relationship.
You have to keep putting in effort. You have to keep teasing, leading, making her smile. Not only in real life, but also over text.
Or think of more luxurious options…
…like knowing exactly how to get your date, girlfriend, or wife super excited over text. It can be the perfect foreplay.
And of course, most things you learn about effectively texting, can be transferred to face to face conversations because you become so much more aware of the words you’re using.
I’m very certain I wouldn’t be able to happily write these lengthy articles, if it wasn’t for all those tiny text messages.
#4: Live workshops by a Tinder expert
One of the best ways to master online dating, is by attending a workshop.
Sit in the same room as 200 like-minded guys, watch, and learn.
Like we did here in Amsterdam in 2019:
Unfortunately, organizing these real life events is on hold, because the TextGod team is running over-hours on new projects.
So instead, we filmed the whole event and made a digital version. It’s pretty much the same thing but with bonuses added. And you can pee whenever you want, without missing part of the event.
For more information about the event, just simply click here.
Anyway, I won’t keep yapping about our events and why they’re amazing and all that.
Instead, let’s look at what the Average Joe sends to the women he likes…
…and why it doesn’t work.
#5: Let me save you from those boring convos
Most men make the same mistakes when it comes to (online) dating.
On Tinder for example, 69% of men screw up before the conversation begins.
They use what I coined the ‘peasant opener’.
A peasant opener is any very common, boring greeting.
Your classic Heys, His, Hellos, and so on…
Or they ask about your day. Or give you a compliment you’ve already heard three times that same day.
You might wonder: “what’s so wrong with them? Works pretty damn fine in real life!”
And you have a point.
The main difference between real life and online dating, is that one if almost completely non-verbal, while the other is 100% verbal.
On top of that, it’s the amount of people greeting you.
Imagine people approaching you during your day all the time, and 90% of them starting the conversation with a peasant opener.
How long would it take you to start ignoring these people?
Even if they were dressed stylishly and groomed nicely, you would get disappointed really quickly when the first thing they said was “Hey, how is your day going?”
That’s one of the reasons I became a full time Tinder expert.
To provide these men with better options. Give them the tools they need to have texting conversations that excite instead of bore.
#6: The Tinder expert solution to bad dating profiles
What would you do if you got mail every day from guys asking to review their profile?
In my case, I want to help as many of them as possible, but my time is very scarce.
Plus, this is my full time job. I have to make a living.
Every article on the TextGod website is free, and every video on YouTube is free.
If I add free profile reviews on top of that… well let’s just say I’d be working 24/7 and eating air.
That’s why I made a list of all the most commonly made mistakes.
I turned them into a checklist with 30+ questions that guys can access FOR FREE.
The checklist will point out the weaknesses in your dating profile, but it will also tell you where you’re doing fine.
And if anyone is confused about some lingo or the psychology behind one of my questions, then you can look them up in an article linked to the checklist that explains everything.
*swings in hammock*
Ahhh, now I can get rid of hundreds of easily fixable mistakes every day, without having to personally review all profiles.
Some guys don’t care much about the perfect profile picture or finding their dream girl.
They just use dating apps to have some laughs, and maybe pick up an adventure in the meanwhile.
For those guys, I have articles with more entertaining content.
Let’s look at an example of that, in the next tip.
#7: Everyone loves icebreakers. I’m guessing you do too.
People just LOVE discovering funny pickup lines.
That’s why I have compiled whole lists of them, for every dating app you can imagine.
Allow me to give you a random example.
Aaaahhh, what a classic.
Don’t tell me you’ve never played two truths in a lie.
I remember I once HAD to play it at a new job during a little team building exercise.
Unfortunately, the guy in the screenshot is doing it wrong.
He’s asking his match to write up two truths and a lie about herself.
Which could be fun… if she’s down to invest that energy straight from the start.
If I were him, I’d give her the list and have her guess, and THEN ask her to take a turn.
This curiosity inducing icebreaker works so well that dating app Bumble integrated it into its app.
Anyway, care to play a round?
I’ve made one for you.
Two truths and a lie:
- I have dated the daughter of a billionaire
- I have dated the daughter of a mafia boss who is now in prison
- I have dated an actress that plays in TV shows that you watch
Think you know which one is a lie, dear journalist?
Feel free to call me out in the email where you ask me for an interview.
And feel free to add your own two truths and a lie, because I love this game.
Anyway, not everyone loves games.
Some people use dating apps for nothing but quest to everlasting love.
Check it out in the next tip.
#8: Tinder might lead you to a girlfriend or marriage
Let there be no confusion: Tinder is great for hookups.
That’s how it all started.
But the app’s reputation is changing.
Right now Tinder is great for both getting laid AND serious relationships.
There’s a reason bakeries create masterpieces like this:
Online dating has become a fixed value in our lives.
The amount of closed-minded people screaming that dating app are for desperate people, is steadily declining.
People are starting to see that online dating is a fine way to meet new people.
Personally, I find it sad that people are becoming more and more anti social, but that’s a global trend I can not personally fix. I’m glad I can still make things better by being an online dating expert.
When I worked for an Amsterdam based dating company, we didn’t toss marriage cards that clients sent us. They’re all kept, as a celebration of love, and a trophy for us doing our job well.
Talking about wicked Amsterdam… dating scenes can be quite different depending on the city you are in.
We’re well aware of that, and try to provide our readers with location specific guides.
More on that in the next tip!
#9: Wherever team TextGod travels, we leave a mark.
Dating scenes can be vastly different depending on your location.
If you apply New York City dating rituals in Medellin, you’re going to get some weird reactions.
That’s why we’re making local guide whenever a TextGod Tinder professional stays in a foreign place.
It’s an ongoing project, but so far we’ve covered these places:
#10: I have a goodbye gift for you
If you’ve stuck around long enough to reach the end of this page…
…then I have a special gift for you.
(If you just skimmed the page and are still taking the gift… well fair enough. I won’t stop you, you lil’ bastard.)
Online conversations always start with an opener.
You or your match has to text at one point, if you want a chance to meet up.
My dating app expert opinion: YOU should send the first message.
Take some initiative, it’s attractive.
After testing about a gazillion openers and icebreakers, my coaches and I found the one line to rule them all.
And that’s exactly what you are getting for free right now RIGHT HERE.
If you click that link, you’ll get sent a secret video.
In that video, you see me using my Clickbait Opener.
You’ll see how it works for me, in 7 text examples.
And you’ll exactly how YOU can use it to gain more responses than ever before.
Either way, that was all I had for you today.
Now you know what a Tinder expert does to help people with their online dating adventures.
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