Online Dating Coach
Louis Farfields
Apr 29, 2024
You swiped a cute guy on Tinder and got a match. And now you want to be untraditional: you want to send him the first text.
But what if you don’t get a reply?
Don’t worry! You’re about to get 13 Tinder openers for women he can’t resist.
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Understanding Men on Tinder
If you’re like most women, you probably think the following:
“Yes! It’s a match… He already likes me, hehe.”
However, often times this is not the case. Let me explain.
At the beginning of a romantic interaction, women are usually the ones in power.
Women decide who they want to date, while men decide who they want a relationship with.
Women are more critical of which guy they give a chance, while men are more critical of who they want a relationship with.
This is because (and I am generalizing a lot here) guys are willing to at least sleep with any women they find physically attractive.
So knowing this, a lot of guys aren’t too critical about who they swipe right. Some even swipe everyone right.
Because they know that the woman is the one who chooses who to give attention to in the beginning. They know women are way more critical of who they swipe right.
So they better be less critical to at least get some matches. And only then decide who they want to talk to.
So, every man who matches you on Tinder falls into one of the next categories:
- He doesn’t like you.
- He’s interested in you (no more than that).
- He likes you.
So it could mean you matched with a guy who never gave your profile a serious look-over.
In that case, you could send the best opener in the galaxy, and STILL not get a response, just because he isn’t into you.
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When your opener makes a difference
The first time your opener has the power to make a difference is when you’re dealing with a guy who is at least interested in you.
Which is more than fine. Remember, he only has your photos and profile text to give him an idea of who you are.
And your Tinder opener is your first way to prove your worth.
Depending on what text you send, you may instantly earn a promotion into the ‘I like her’-category.
More on that later.
First, some more about the third group of men you’ll match on Tinder: The men who already like you.
It doesn’t matter what opener you send these guys because they’re already sold on chatting with you.
And since it doesn’t happen too often that a woman texts first on Tinder, he won’t be too critical.
Ladies, I want you to realize this:
Men feel hugely flattered when a woman takes the initiative.
That said, I want you to have the best results imaginable. Which is why I’m about to give you Tinder openers that are so good, that he’ll go from simply liking you, to crushing on you.
All because you’re so much more fun than all the other girls in his inbox.
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Without a doubt, the most used icebreaker by women is…
‘Hey.’
And all its variations. Which is better than nothing.
Especially if it’s been three days since you got the match and the conversation hasn’t started.
But, check my Tinder inbox…
Hey is the most standard and dull text you can send.
Which makes it all the more crazy that it’s the most used opener on Tinder!
Some women have the sense to spruce it up a little with an emoji.
Which already adds a bit more flavor. Plus, it’s more feminine.
But again, it’s nothing special.
It’s the most used line on Tinder… EVER.
Which is terrible, since texting is about showing off your personality as best you can!
Being the same as the rest isn’t you. Right?
Its psychologically irresistible to ignore. I call it the Clickbait-Opener. And I made a free video with screen-shot examples on how to use it.
Get it for free!How to get him excited with your Tinder opener
The easiest way to set yourself up for success with your Tinder match is to…
Trigger positive emotions.
Which is easier than you think.
Most women send texts that are more mellow than a crate of Valium.
So with a little imagination, you’ll already have a text that’ll get guys hooked on you.
And when I say ‘a little’ I mean A LITTLE.
Let’s have a look at some great Tinder openers for women.
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1. The compliment
Most men aren’t used to receiving compliments from women.
So when they do, they’ll feel flattered.
And it doesn’t have to be a fancy compliment, just something as simple as:
Could work wonders. It’s ever so slightly different than what most women send. And that’s all you need… usually.
What if the man you matched is a stud who has his pick of the litter?
They receive boatloads of texts like these:
So as you can see, even compliments are an over-used strategy. Hearing it for the 100th time is a lot less special than the first.
And if you want to trigger positive emotions, you must make him feel special. Otherwise, you’ll be Tinder match #102,300.
Which brings us to the question:
How do you make him feel special?
Find out in the next tip.
2. The name opener
A wise man once said:
Everyone loves to hear their name.
Which is why it’s smart to…
Use their name in your first text!
Which gives you something like this:
Whenever I open my Tinder inbox and go through my messages, my eyes always lock in on texts with my name. Just be sure to spell his name right.
I never thought my name was difficult to spell until I got on Tinder. The ways people can butcher ‘Louis’ are astounding.
So get it right, unless you’re fine looking silly.
The above openers are more than enough to make a man feel special who only gets a couple of matches a week.
But what if he gets a lot of attention from women? Then you’d better stay away from these lazy texts. And step up your game with…
3. The emoji opener
What do you think stands out more?
‘Hey’.
Or:
🙋♀️
Right, the waving lady emoji. Which is your next Tinder opener.
Pick the emoji that most looks like you and wave at your Tinder match.
“Really, Louis? That’s better than ‘Hey’?”
Well, it is if you get a little creative with it.
Like so:
And if you really want to stand out, tell a story:
Now, I wouldn’t be Louis if I was content with this opener.
We can dial it up even more. Which brings me to…
4. The GIF opener
As you probably know, GIFs are moving images that you can send by hitting the blue button next to your chat window.
Which should show you something like this:
You can enter any word you like and find a related GIF.
Which is wonderful if you remember that texting is all about…
Showing off your personality.
What’s the first thing you’d want him to know about you? Your love for Harry Potter? That you’re a science geek? Or that you’re just happy to match him?
Not only can you find a GIF for almost every occasion, but GIFs are actually very rare to get as a guy.
Me and my clients rarely get them, unless we start sending them first. Which is why I love it when a girl sends me a GIF. Especially if it strikes the right mix between flattery and funny.
If you have little experience with sending GIFS, I recommend you stick to:
- Emotions (like ‘happy,’ ‘excited’).
- Adjectives (like ‘flirty,’ ‘hot’).
- Familiar phrases (‘it’s a match’).
I’d show you a couple, but GIFS eat up bandwidth and I want to keep my smartphone fans happy.
Anyway, by using ‘real world’ visuals, you’re much more likely to trigger emotions. Especially if you send him a GIF that ties into his interests.
5. Keep it relevant
Keep what relevant? Your GIFs!
Does your Tinder match’s bio say he loves The Office or some other show or film?
Type it into Tinder’s GIF archive and pick the most flirty clip of the bunch.
If a girl would open me with a GIF of Archer or Eastbound & Down, she’d instantly gain 5 sexy points.
And you don’t want to miss out on those. So pay attention to any clues about his interests.
Which includes looking at the posters or book covers in the background of his photos.
Remember: His interests are the way to his heart.
6. The do-you-remember opener
Being a woman, I’m sure you’ve at least once heard this line in real life or online:
“Hey, don’t I know you from somewhere?”
Which 9/10 times is an obvious lie. So why is that line a favorite among men? Because it dances around a woman’s guard.
‘Don’t I know you from somewhere’ implies you already have a history. And we’re more friendly to people we know.
So that line isn’t a bad idea. Which is why you’re going to steal it.
Men aren’t used to women doing the ‘don’t I know you’-spiel, so the curiosity will drive him insane. His mind: “We met before???”
Here’s how you set it up:
It doesn’t matter what he replies. Because you’ll say the same thing regardless of his answer.
A super dry historical fact. Like so:
By now he gets it’s a joke.
And he can’t believe he matched a girl with a good sense of humor.
7. The opener he can’t resist
It’s sad but true…
Most men have a boring Tinder profile.
Student, music, football
Or:
Love coffee, music and meeting new people
Which really doesn’t help you come up with an emotionally stimulating opener.
No worries. Because I’ve got just the thing. Clickbait.
You know, just like the stuff you see on YouTube:
- Girl Didn’t Know She Was Being Filmed, So She Did This
- (Insert famous person) Struggle With Acne And Self Confidence
- 5 Steps To Make Him Fall In Love With you
If you’re like most people, at least one of these titles made you curious. Curious enough to make you want to see the video.
We can apply the same technique to Tinder openers. Which may sound like a lot of work if you’re not a copywriter.
“Hmmm… What kind of clickbait would work on CuteGuy69???”
But here’s the thing… I’ve already done all the work for you. The irresistible clickbait opener is finished and ready for action.
Here’s a list of great Hinge openers.
If you check it out now, you also get a video of me showing how I use the Clickbait Opener. Plus, how I reel in my matches and continue the conversation.
Just hit the link and get the Tinder reply you’re waiting for.
8. Show that you care
As said earlier, most men have a pretty lame bio. But more often than not, it does give you some information.
Information that you can turn into a fun Tinder text he’d love to receive.
Suppose he has the classic Tinder grocery list bio:
Pilot. Yoga. Coffee.
Those three words honestly give you enough to come up with a good Tinder opener.
Simply imagine a pilot doing yoga in a cockpit while drinking coffee. Pretty funny image, right?
Let’s turn it into an opener.
It may not seem impressive. But I can bet you anything he’d LOVE to get that text.
Why?
- It’s original (no girl has probably said anything remotely close to that).
- It’s relevant.
- You texted him first.
9. The dilemma opener
Another Tinder opener I’d wish more women would use: The dilemma opener.
The premise is simple: You give your Tinder match two options, of which he HAS to choose one.
For instance:
Because of their silly nature, dilemmas always set off the conversation to a good start.
Instead of a logical exchange of information, you dive right into the good stuff.
Here are a few more dilemmas:
- You’re always followed by 5 mariachis OR you have to high five EVERY person you see?
- You’re immortal (but your family and friends are not) OR the army chases you for the rest of your life because they want to do experiments on you?
- You always have a swarm of flies circling your head OR you always have to pull around a trash bin?
- You only need 3 hours of sleep a night OR you get a free visit to the Moon?
Invent more yourself, or simply use your friend Google to find more.
10. The onion opener
Do you know The Onion?
It’s a media company that writes hilarious fake news.
With articles as:
- Black guy asks nation for change (about Obama)
- Study Reveals: Babies Are Stupid
- Winner Didn’t Even Know It Was A Pie-Eating Contest
And hilarious videos like brain-dead teen:
Maybe it’s not quite up your alley. But the beautiful thing is this type of humor hits us harder than a freight train. (That’s a good thing.)
So if you’re ever lost for openers, fire up The Onion website, or check out their YouTube channel. And pick your favorite news item.
Then send him a text like:
To which he’ll obviously respond:
At which point you’ll hit him with:
And a link to the YouTube video. Or any other article that stands out to you. Knee-slaps guaranteed.
11. And we’re off
Perhaps you find some of the previous openers too try-hard.
Which is understandable. You don’t want to show too much interest and give away your power.
So how do you take the initiative and send a low-investment, but flattering first text?
Like so:
Or:
Which tells him all he needs to know:
“We matched, let’s see where this leads us.”
More importantly, he’ll be flattered that you took the initiative.
And will more likely put in some extra effort to sweep you off your feet.
12. The calculating opener
Here comes a favorite of one of my coaches. Which works wonders for him. And will most likely work wonders for you.
The beauty of this opener? It’s super easy.
First, you open up Tinder’s GIF archive and enter ‘math.’ Where you’ll be looking for this image:
Once you’ve found it, you hit send and instantly follow up with:
Annnnnnnnnnnnnd… DONE!
The line ties into every Tinder user’s greatest worry:
“What the fuark should I open with?”
(Which is exactly why you’re reading this article, lol.)
So you’re calling out the elephant in the room, which he’ll be sure to appreciate.
Now onto the final and BEST opener of them all.
13. The original opener
I know what you’re thinking:
“Dude, if I was original, I wouldn’t be here looking for Tinder openers!”
Well, I honestly think you’re more original than you give yourself credit for. And I’m going to prove it to you.
The most powerful opener of all checks three boxes:
- It’s original (he’s not seen it before)
- It’s relevant (it’s about the subject he cares about most in life… HIM)
- It’s emotionally stimulating (it triggers a whirlwind of emotions)
And I’m going to teach you how to do all three, using the next steps:
- You look at his bio and photos
- You observe what stands out most
- You wrap that observation into an icebreaker
IMPORTANT: Since a guy doesn’t expect to be opened by a woman in the first place, you don’t need to overthink what you say. He’ll be blown away that you opened him with something that ties into his profile.
Let me give you some ideas of what I mean. Suppose the guy is hulking out of every outfit. Which is easy to spot.
You could text him:
Which he’ll obviously recognize as a joke because he’s probably working on his guns every day.
Note: Do not use the above Tinder opener unless he’s a meathead, or else he’ll think you’re insulting him.
Maybe he has a photo with a guitar in the background. Challenge him a little:
Maybe 4/5 photos are of him traveling the world. To which you could say:
Get the idea? Sending an original opener is really not as difficult as you think.
And men appreciate a little tease.
Anyway, that’s pretty much all you need to know on Tinder Openers.
Enjoy your new conversations.
And don’t forget to grab the Clickbait Opener. Simply scroll down and click the gold button.
Blessings,
Louis Farfields
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