149 Best Tinder Questions (For Fun & Flirty Conversations)

You have a match. But you’re struggling to keep the conversation going.

What are the best Tinder questions that you can ask that will make her like you?

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What makes a good Tinder question to ask your match?

To pick the right question to ask, you first need to know what makes a good question. So what are you actually trying to achieve when you’re texting on a dating app?

A big mistake a lot of people make is this: They think that if you just talk long enough and find some commonalities, your match will like you.

This is not how it works however. If you’re a TextGod fan, you know we teach the TextGod Formula to get succes with online dating.

These are the 4 ingredients of the formula:

  • Attraction: Does she feel attracted to you? Are you communicating as a real man to a woman? Are you flirty and fun?
  • Trust: Can she trust you’re normal and not some weird guy?
  • Investment-balance: Are you coming off needy because you invest too much? And does she invest enough?
  • Date-Threshold: How well you need to do for her to want to go on a date with you.

Often times, the problem with questions is:

  • They don’t make your match feel anything.
  • They’re a cheap way to ask the other to invest, in the hope the other person will make the conversation interesting.
  • They’re focused on gathering information instead of creating emotions and vibing.

However, there are questions that DO work. Questions that are funny, flirty, and that evoke emotions.

So, whenever you don’t know what to say, I want you to change your mind from ‘What can I ask’ to ‘How can I flirt and have fun.’

You will notice with the 100+ Tinder questions below, they are NOT about gathering information. But about actually having FUN together. Of course pick the lines that fit your sense of humor.

The best questions to ask in a Tinder conversation are statements

One easy way to make questions more interesting, and to tease and flirt with your match right away is this:

Change a question into a statement. A statement is basically an observation about her that you can tease her with.

Instead of asking what she does for work, say ‘You seem like a typical [profession] to me, with your [characteristic from a pic].’

Instead of asking if she is vegan, say ‘I am sure you never touched a drop of milk in your life, it’s all oatmilk for you ;).’

Of course this requires a bit of skill and experience in finding the right balance between a tease and offending someone.

In this video I’ll tell you more on what are great Tinder questions and WHY.

If you want more general information on what to say on Tinder, check out this article:

10 Best Tinder Questions

Me and my coaches have field-tested hundreds of questions on our Tinder matches. And these are the 10 best ones:

  1. What would you do with your day if you didn’t have to work tomorrow?
  2. What’s something you recently did that you’re proud of?
  3. What’s the last time you cried?
  4. What book do you think everybody should read?
  5. How would your closest friends describe you?
  6. What was the last time that you did something new?
  7. If you could have superpowers for one day, what would you pick?
  8. What’s something you’d never do if you were filthy rich?
  9. What movie can you watch over and over and over again?
  10. What’s something that you must have in your fridge or kitchen cupboard?
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15 Funny Tinder questions

  • What meal or snack will you never refuse?
  • Zombies are overrunning the world. How do you defend yourself?
  • What’s the weirdest thing you carry in your purse?
  • Do you think that men can be gynecologists? (Second question) What if he sniffs his finger?
  • What was the last time you went skinny dipping?
  • Would you date someone who’s cute but mega dumb?
  • What’s the last time you did something scary?
  • Who would you rather have as a roommate: a goat or a pig?
  • You have to assassinate someone who really deserves it. How do you do it?
  • If your friends and family hear that you were arrested, what would they think you did?
  • You and all your friends have to enter a mixed martial arts tournament. Do you win?
  • You’re on a first date with a dude you like and you let out an audible fart. What do you do?
  • You find out your best friend is a lesbian and she’s in love with you. How do you react?
  • Do you prefer the smell of freshly cut grass or freshly baked bread?
  • You’re at a party and really need to drop a deuce. But their toilet doesn’t flush. Do you use the toilet anyway, or do your business in the yard?

12 Flirty Tinder questions

  • What’s your favorite way to be seduced by a man?
  • What do you miss most about being single? (She has to pick something.)
  • What’s the best romantic surprise you’ve ever had?
  • What do you find the most attractive in a man?
  • What does good sex mean to you?
  • What are your biggest turn-offs?
  • What do you think is the most important thing a woman can give to a man?
  • What makes you feel sexy?
  • What’s the hottest thing a guy can do for you?
  • Can you surrender to love or is it something that scares you?
  • Do you prefer cuddling or kissing?
  • What do you wear when you go to sleep?

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10 Edgy Tinder questions

Please keep in mind that some of these questions are pretty out there. So they’re not for everyone!

Only ask them if you know she’s a good sport and she won’t report you.

  • Would you rather have a cat with a human face or a dog with human hands?
  • Would you rather have a boyfriend who’s stinking rich and ugly? Or a friend who’s dirt poor and handsome?
  • Would you rather have hiccups for the rest of your life or constantly feel like you have to sneeze?
  • Would you rather fight young Mike Tyson once or talk like Mike Tyson for the rest of your life?
  • Would you rather be surrounded by people who brag all the time or by people who constantly complain?
  • Would you rather speak every language fluently or play every instrument perfectly?
  • Would you rather Win $50,000 or let your best friend win $500,000?
  • Would you rather be stung by a thousand bees or stomp a kitten?
  • Would you rather be with the person you love forever, but also wear a shirt made out of their pubes, or be alone for the rest of your life but wear whatever you want?
  • Your dad and boyfriend switch bodies (Freaky Friday style). The only way to switch them back is to have sex with them, lights on and sober. Who do you pick?

31 Connection-building Tinder questions

  • Name three things that you can do to get out of a funk.
  • What’s a recent book you read or movie you saw that taught you something?
  • Would you rather travel to the past or the future?
  • If you could travel the universe on the condition that you were never allowed to set foot on earth again, would you go?
  • If you could make one decision to change the world, what would you do?
  • What’s the first thing you do when you get back home from work?
  • If you could ask your pet 3 questions, what would they be?
  • What’s something you’d like to be remembered for?
  • Is there a way you could fall head over heels for a man? What would that look like?
  • What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done for someone?
  • If you were the mayor of your city, what rule would you instantly enforce?
  • What’s your favorite and least favorite household chore?
  • What’s one responsibility of yours that you’d prefer to delegate to a professional?
  • What’s something you’ve always wanted to do, but haven’t?
  • Would you continue working if you were rich and didn’t need to?
  • What does your ideal night look like? Do you go out or are you at home with friends?
  • If you could change one thing about the way you were raised, what would that be?
  • What’s something that gives your life meaning?
  • What dating advice would you give your younger self?
  • What song would you want to play on your wedding day?
  • What would you like to get for your birthday?
  • If you could only put on one piece of makeup, what would it be?
  • What’s the one compliment you get the most?
  • Where do you feel the most at home?
  • What do you wish you cared less about?
  • What do your friends and family call you?
  • Where do you go if you want to escape?
  • What’s something you swear by?
  • What’s the most important thing your life is missing?
  • What do you wish more people knew about you?
  • How long ago did you tell someone you loved them?

10 Dilemma Tinder questions

These are great for when she’s not really bought into the conversation yet. But she’s still replying back.

  • Flight or invisibility?
  • Inside the house: slippers or socks?
  • Peanut butter or Nutella?
  • Quit coffee or never have snacks during films and series?
  • Toilet paper: over or under?
  • Bath or shower?
  • Love or money?
  • Burger or pizza?
  • Cups in the cupboard: top side up or upside down?
  • Dine-in or delivery?

17 Sexual Tinder questions

Only ask the next questions when she feels comfortable with you.

If she doesn’t trust you, these questions will most likely turn her off or freak her out.

So don’t ask them if it feels risky!

  • What physical act gives you the most pleasure?
  • Do you prefer firm or light touches?
  • Do guy-on-guy videos turn you on more than guy-on-girl?
  • Do you think it’s okay if a guy wants to be submissive in the bedroom?
  • Would you rather receive or give oral?
  • Do you prefer to make out with the lights on or off?
  • Would you rather end a good first date with a passionate kiss or sex?
  • Are you more dominant or submissive in bed?
  • What do you fantasize about when you touch yourself?
  • Do you like to roleplay?
  • Have you ever had sex with someone you just met?
  • What’s the dirtiest thought you’ve ever had about a stranger?
  • What does your ideal one-night stand look like?
  • If a cute couple asked you to do a threesome, would you say yes?
  • What are your thoughts on toys?
  • What’s the dirtiest thing someone said to you during sex?
  • Where do you like to be touched most?

8 Best Tinder opening questions to use as conversation starters

  • Pain reliever personality: Advil, tequila, or complaining?
  • Alright, so what movie title describes your love life best?
  • My dog started humping my phone after I opened your Tinder profile. Do you mind coming over? He won’t stop.
  • Serious question…potentially dealbreaking…what are your top 2 favorite snacks?
  • Sunday priorities: exercise, sleep, or aggressive mimosas?
  • You’re having your portrait painted, what’s your backdrop?
  • How’s your Friday night going on a scale from single mug of tea to cocaine orgy?
  • Lame pickup line. Boring questions. Some funny shit. Laugh, flirt, tease. Are you in love with me yet?

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36 Tinder questions that make her fall in love with you

According to the University of California Berkeley, the 36 questions invented by Arthur Aron can create feelings of intimacy.

How does it work? The questions help the participants reveal more about themselves, identify how they’re similar to each other, and say what they like about the other person.

That cocktail speeds up the creation of feelings of closeness. So if she doesn’t fall in love with you, she’ll likely be interested in seeing you.

Here they come.

  • Given the choice of anyone in the world, who would you want as a dinner guest?
  • Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  • Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?
  • What would constitute a perfect day for you?
  • When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
  • If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?
  • Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
  • Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
  • For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
  • If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  • Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
  • If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
  • If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
  • Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
  • What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
  • What do you value most in a friendship?
  • What is your most treasured memory?
  • What is your most terrible memory?
  • If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
  • What does friendship mean to you?
  • What roles do love and affection play in your life?
  • Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
  • How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
  • How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
  • Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “we are both in this room feeling…”
  • Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
  • If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
  • Tell your partner what you like about them. Be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
  • Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
  • When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
  • Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
  • What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
  • If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
  • Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
  • Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
  • Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

To top it off, stare 4 minutes into each other’s eyes without talking. Congratulations, you’re now in love. Or at the very least attracted enough to each other to go on another date.

Arthur Aron’s questions have just one drawback. Time. Your date may not be interested in doing the whole conversation.

And to be frank, doing the whole questionnaire feels a bit forced. So simplify. Remember a few questions from each group and ramp up the intimacy.

And instead of doing a 4-minute staredown, play a staring contest. Whoever blinks first loses. Over too quickly? Do a best out of three.

Become their favorite person to talk to

Here’s the secret that the best conversationalists use to create chemistry:

It’s all about making the other person excited to keep talking.

If you can let someone talk about what they love, they’ll think you’re the best conversationalist ever. And they’ll want to keep you around.

But that introduces another problem.

Once they like you, they want to know more about you.

So now you have to do some talking yourself.

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Just click the big gold button below and watch my ‘Personality Slice’ seminar.

There I’ll reveal how you can talk about yourself so that she’ll get completely addicted to you.


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