5 Steps to Get Laid on Tinder Tonight (+9 Text Examples)

You want to know how to get laid on Tinder. But you’re not sure how to do it.

So many conversations die down before you even get to meet her.

That’s why I’m about to tell you how to get the girls you matched on Tinder into your bed in 9 easy steps. Without being a creep.

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By the end of the article, you’ll be able to get laid through Tinder every week.

Step 1: Filter out the wrong women

1. Create an attractive Tinder profile

Your profile is telling women a story. And if you want to get laid on Tinder, it needs to communicate that you’re a high-value guy who’s looking for something casual.

Otherwise, you’ll attract hordes of women looking for something long-term. And that’s wasting both their and your time.

Your profile needs to strike a balance between being a pal and a perv.

Put more clearly, you want a profile that says you’re a trustworthy dude who has a wild side.

What does that look like?

First, you’ll need two clear portrait-style photos that clearly show off your looks.

Next, you want 3 to 5 photos that show you live an adventurous lifestyle, have friends, and are a little silly.

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2. Use your bio for screening assistance

If your photos don’t fully explain your intentions, then your bio will fill in the gaps.

Obviously, you don’t want to be too direct. Or else you’ll be seen as a creep.

If you want to use your Tinder bio to get laid, it pays to be subtle. Usually, a few keywords are enough to get your vibe across. But having a playful, suggestive about me can also work.

I recommend erring on the side of caution and vaguely suggesting anything sexual, rather than being direct.

Let me give you some Tinder bio ideas.

  • “We’ll get along if the little spoon is your favorite position.”
  • “No bigger turn on than a girl who reads.”
  • “Pineapple goes on pizza like tongues go in assholes. It’s not for everyone, but those who enjoy it are a little more sophisticated.”

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3. Connect your Instagram and Spotify

Your socials are another great tool to improve your credibility. By seeing that you have a life outside of Tinder, you’re making yourself a real, relatable person.

Plus, if your Instagram is good, it’s a sneaky way to make her like you even more. Bragging about your life is yucky. But for some reason, posting about your achievements on Instagram is awesome.

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Step 2: Create desire

1. Start strong

Most guys who want to get laid through Tinder make a horrible mistake.

Just take a gander at the screenshot below.

There are too many mistakes here to count, but the one I want you to remember is this:

Never kill the attraction she feels for you by being just like everyone else.

Stay away from the hello’s and how are you’s. Instead, break the ice with something fun and playful.

One of my favorites is to create a caption for one of her facial expressions.

Your last pic is the exact same look when I see the pizza guy through my window

2. Always move the conversation forward

If you want to get laid on Tinder, you should never think about how to start a dirty conversation.

Even if you pull it off, it probably won’t get you closer to meeting up with her. And that’s exactly what you want, right?

That’s why you should always be thinking: “Is this getting me closer to my goal?”

If not, then don’t bother.

Earlier, I had a conversation where I had to switch gears and take another conversational route. But she never replied.

She wanted me to make up for my anti-seductive monologue on ‘avatars’. So I used some humor to get our conversation started again.

Even though she suggested a date, that’s not what I want you to focus on. I want you to recognize that she replied because I made it easy for her.

3. Engage in playful banter

The worst emotion you can make a woman feel is…


It’s the kind of chat elderly people have with the guy or girl behind the supermarket register. You don’t want to be associated with that.

If you want to spark desire, you need to separate yourself from the average guy by being a source of cheeky fun.

So tease her a little!

On what topics, I hear you ask? Anything that merits a good ribbing. But preferably nothing too personal. Like her taste in snacks, movies, and music.

  • [When she says something you disagree with] “Oooooooh. Bad answer. But nobody is perfect ;).”
  • [When she sends you a wall of text] Awwwww it’s cute when you try so hard ;).”
  • [When she compliments you] You’re so falling in love with me ;).”

IMPORTANT: Teasing is not the same as bullying. It’s always done to make her smile, not to put her down.

Step 3: Display your intent

1. Don’t be aggressive

We recently did a Tinder experiment, where we invited our matches for a happy humping session. Right from the get-go.

The next screenshot shows a girl who was totally into me and sent me the first text.

Look what I replied.

What do you think happened next?

If you thought I’d get laid, you are horribly wrong.

Do you understand why she replied like this even though she liked me?

Because you’re robbing her of the excitement of the whole game of seduction. The build-up of ‘will we/won’t we’ is such a thrill!

Never get crazy sexual from the start. Slowly ramp up the flirty vibes instead.

2. Make your intentions known

This is how you start a naughty conversation on Tinder.

If you want to get laid on a dating app, it’s crucial to show intent. How else can she know you’re down for bedroom acrobatics if you don’t tell her?

But never be too direct.

Always hint at your horny desires in a spontaneous and fitting way.

Don’t crowbar them in there for no reason. That’s incredibly risky. It shows that the only thing on your mind is sex.

Not exactly flattering.

I’m always looking for opportunities to casually mention anything sexual.

  • [She mentions the word ‘size’] “I KNEW IT! Size does matter!!”
  • [She asks you what you do for a living] “I have a pretty successful Only Fans.”
  • [She’s sharing a boring work story] “Hnggg. I love it when you talk marketing to me.”

The beauty of these texts? It doesn’t say anything about the two of you having sex.

So it feels very innocent.

Step 4: Earn her trust

1. Give her the full range

If you want to get laid, you can’t just have sexual conversations on Tinder. It’ll make you seem like a perv.

The way to hook up with a girl on a dating app is by making her like you a little more with every text.

Obvious, I know. But I actually know how to pull it off.

You want to vary the vibe of your texts so that your conversation stays fresh and exciting.

Most people will stick to one or two flavors. Such as being funny, or clinging to one subject like travel or food.

That can ruin everything if you don’t watch out.

Just the other day, I got caught in a discussion about avatars that dragged on for far too long.

It almost ended everything.


Luckily, I realized the conversation was sinking faster than a brick in water and I saved the conversation by starting a new topic.

So here’s what I want you to take away:

Make sure every few text of yours has a different flavor.

2. Don’t take the bait

If you want to know how to get laid on Tinder consistently, this next lesson is crucial.

Women will often test if you’re a high-value guy by throwing you a bone. Like when they invite you to meet up when you haven’t really earned it.

What is she looking to test? If you’re desperate or chill.

Do realize that she’s not being mean. She’s just curious if flirting with you will be fun and challenging, or dull and easy.

Obviously, you want to be fun.

That’s why I turned down this girl’s proposal to meet up. I knew it was a premature suggestion.

Now let’s see how she reacts.

Knowing that I just earned many points, I turn up the dial a little.

3. Understand where she’s at

It doesn’t matter how hot you are. If she doesn’t trust you, she won’t hook up with you.

And one of the best ways to build trust is to make her feel understood.

The opposite is also true. If you can’t read what’s going on inside her mind, you’ll instantly turn her off.

That’s what happened to one of my buddies in the next conversation. He tried to invite her over but she wasn’t on the same wavelength as him.

First, she turns away his advances and explains that she’s a good girl. Next, she says she deserves a gentleman. Finally, she just replies ‘Tsss’.


These are signals that you need to stop everything you’re doing. Because it’s not working.

If you want to get laid on Tinder, you need to ease her reservations first.

And that starts by understanding a fundamental difference between men and women.

When a man gets turned on, he just wants to sleep with her. But when a woman gets turned on, she’s thinking about if sleeping with him will lead to regret.

Is she not jumping at the opportunity to take it a step further with you?

Then she probably needs to feel 3 things:

  • That you won’t just say anything to get laid.
  • That you think she’s special (she doesn’t want to be ‘just another girl’ to you).
  • That you’re okay with her moving at a slower pace.

Holy Tip:

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Step 5: Make your move

1. Evaluate her interest levels

You don’t want to talk to her forever and become her pen pal. You want to chat until she’s excited enough to meet you.

Makes perfect sense. But how do you recognize she’s down for a Tinder date?

When she’s replying quickly, asking you questions, laughing, and spamming emojis.

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2. Exchange numbers

Once she’s giving you clear signs of interest, it’s time to make your move and show you like her.

In other words, time to get her number.

Now, you don’t want to be hesitant in your invitation to exchange numbers. It’ll make you seem unsure of yourself. And insecurity is a turn-off.

So assume she likes you.

I often like to go for the number when she’s been putting in effort. Like so.

3. Plan the date

Planning the date and exchanging numbers go hand in hand. She’ll rarely turn down a date when she’s willing to give you her digits.

So suggest a date and be clear on what she can expect. Inviting her to a vague plan will trigger her ‘Spidey senses’ and get her to pull back.

Here’s an idea of what I mean:

  • “You available Thursday or Friday at 8 PM? I know this really cool bar in the meat packing district.”

Since you want to get laid, it’s important that the bar is near your home. Or better yet, that you meet up at your place.

  • “Can you meet up Wednesday or Friday eve? I live near Riverton Square. We can meet up there and then walk over to my place to cocktails.”

How to get laid on Tinder – Summary

The first step to getting laid on Tinder is to attract the right women. There’s no point in trying to set up something casual with someone who’s looking for something serious.

Once you’ve got the right Tinder matches, it’s time to separate yourself from the herd. She undoubtedly has tons of other guys to chat with. So she needs to see what makes you so special.

When you’ve hooked her with your banter, she has to feel like she can trust you. And only after she feels safe with you can you ask her out and plan the date.

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