*Klinggggg*
You’ve got yourself a Tinder match.
Congrats!
Read on and discover how to go from matching to getting her number and setting up the date.
- Step 1: Make yourself stand out
- Step 2: Be better than Netflix
- Step 3: Use the words ‘us’ and ‘we’
- Step 4: Make it easy for her to talk to you
- Step 5: Use emotional language
- Step 6: Make her chase you
- Step 7: Exchange numbers when emotions are high
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After today’s article, you’ll know exactly how to move your conversations toward a date.
Step 1: Make yourself stand out
If she doesn’t send you the first text, it’s your job to break the ice and grab her attention.
What’s the best way to do that?
The personalized opener.
That’s a fancy term I invented that basically means, “Send her anything that will switch on all the right emotions.”
How do you know if your message will do the trick?
Trial and error.
Holy Tip:
If you’re inexperienced and not in the mood for experimenting, your best bet is to use my Clickbait Opener.
Click here to get it in your inbox together with a video of me explaining exactly how to use it.
Yup, you have to leave your email so I can send you the Opener. That way I know that all the lazy muthafuckaz won’t do it.
Perfect, because I don’t want to reward them.
Here’s a pretty horrible personalized opener that I sent to my Tinder match when I was drunk. Or maybe I was sober. Who knows.
IMPORTANT: Don’t want to get banned on Tinder? Then don’t use this line. It was a seriously bad idea.
But luckily for me, my gamble paid off.
To be fair, I took a good look at her profile and I was pretty sure she’d appreciate this kind of humor.
Although my line was risky, it does do two things exceptionally well:
- It makes me stand out from the rest.
- It sets the expectation that I’m a playful and slightly perverted guy. Which is precisely what I am, skrrrrt.
What’s the biggest mistake I can make right now?
To fall back on the traditional boring Tinder questions:
If you set the tone for an emotionally tingling conversation, you want to follow through with it. Don’t turn into a chode.
Step 2: Be better than Netflix
Once the conversation is moving, it’s crucial that you understand what has to happen next.
Otherwise, the conversation will likely die out.
How do you keep her engaged?
By keeping it playful.
Just try to put a smile on her face in whatever way you can, without making it look like you’re trying.
HINT: Talking in a continuous string of jokes, teases, and compliments makes you look like you’ll do anything to get all up in her lovelies.
So don’t go overboard and stay chill.
Here’s what I sent my Tinder match next after she ironically thanked me for my lewd opener.
I obviously know that my line offered her little enlightenment. That’s why I act super sweet and generously, and put spaces between all the characters of “anytime”.
Then, I ask if she wants to learn anything else.
Why?
Because I’m following my own advice and keeping it playful.
And asking if she wants to learn anything from me is funny because I haven’t taught her jack shit.
Holy Tip:
A great way to build a strong connection with your Tinder match is by creating an inside joke.
- Telling a joke once is funny.
- Repeating a joke twice is mega funny.
- Repeat a joke thrice and it’s a special inside joke that only you will have with her.
Step 3: Use the words ‘us’ and ‘we’
Pay attention now. This step is incredibly powerful in making her think of you as more than a Tinder match.
Create the idea of togetherness.
Instead of sending texts about ‘you’ and ‘me’, talk about the two of you as ‘us’ and ‘we’.
Powerful stuff.
Especially when you consider that the average guy will start firing the same interview questions she’s seen 100 times before.
That poor match of yours will throw up in her mouth when she sees them again.
That’s why you will be using the following three phrases:
- We (We’re going to bully penguins together.)
- Together (We’re going to drink a liter of coffee together and hyper-excitedly visit a museum.)
- Our (Our child would never do that. It would be too beautiful for that.)
CALL TO ACTION: Step out of reader mode and participate in my Tinder match conversation.
We last asked her if she wanted to learn anything else from me.
And she replied:
How would you answer that message knowing that you want to create a sense of togetherness?
Really think about it now!
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Now compare it to what I said.
Bam! Headstand on a unicycle? Easy-peasy.
I told her: Give US two hours TOGETHER and this skill is yours.
It’s 69 times easier setting up a date if she’s already imagined the two of you doing things together.
Step 4: Make it easy for her to talk to you
This may surprise you, but it’s true.
Your bio is more important than donating to charity.
Okay, perhaps not. But it really does matter more than most people think.
Yes, the countless poopy bios you see on Tinder make you feel as if it doesn’t make one lick of difference.
“Family, fashion, animals and traveling”
And yes, if your bio even slightly resembles the bio above, you may as well not have one at all.
But the right bio can:
- Put a smile on her face.
- Motivate her to send you the first text.
- Make her like you so much that she already wants to meet up with you.
Here’s one of my most successful bios that gave me a lot of success with my Tinder matches.
In this old Tinder bio of mine, I’m boasting that I won gold on the SWC (Spooning World Championships) three times. In 2015, 2016, as well as 2017. (I wrote it in 2016).
Does this bio make everyone laugh?
Nope nope.
Does it make a large amount of women chuckle?
Yes yes.
Does this bio make it easier for your Tinder match to talk to you?
Yes yes.
Tinder match: Saw that you won the spooning world championship. Small spoon?
Make sure your Tinder profile does some of the hard work for you now and then. It makes life on Tinder just a bit easier.
Step 5: Use emotional language
The next technique will make you more fun to talk to than all the other guys you’re competing with. And it’s so easy that you can use it right now!
Exaggerate!
If you’ve read everything so far, you’ve seen me use this technique FOUR times on your screen already.
Coincidentally, I also have more than four times as much Tinderlays as any other online dating coach.
Anyway, look at the next screenshot so you can see me in action again.
- A n y t i m e
- Mastered it when I was three
- I am ALWAYS the big spoon
- At least 97% of the time
All four are exaggerations. Serious exaggerations.
They’re exaggerated in terms of:
- Writing style (“a n y t i m e” and “ALWAYS”).
- Quantity (“when I was 3” and “97% of the time”).
- Content of the message.
If I didn’t exaggerate, it would have looked something like this:
- A n y t i m e → No problem.
- Mastered it when I was 3 → I can do that.
- I am ALWAYS the big spoon → I’m not the small spoon.
- At least 97% of the time → Most of the time.
Do you notice how the conversation would be at least 69% more boring without these exaggerations?
Perfect. Now you’re able to sneak this technique in your conversations as well.
You smooth operator.
It’s crazy huh, how we can extract that many tips from only one (1!) screen with my Tinder match?
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Step 6: Make her chase you
Let me show you how I make my Tinder match chase me.
My profile mentions that I’m the Spooning Champion. Teasingly, she asked if I was the small spoon.
Now I’m assuming you know how spooning works, but to be completely sure:
90% of the time, the male rests his front against his partner’s behind. Like a warm blanket, he makes his girlfriend feel safe. Him being the big spoon and her being the small spoon.
My Tinder match is asking if I’m the small spoon.
Thereby implying that I’m the b!tch in the relationship.
I already told her that I’m ALWAYS the big spoon.
To which she responded:
There are obviously 101 ways to respond to this, my dear reader.
But we’re going to send her a text that makes her want to keep my attention and chase me.
So to be extra clear: She’s teasing and challenging us by saying that she’s always the big spoon.
Some men find such small disagreements uncomfortable.
But really, it’s your best opportunity to make her like you even more.
Holy Tip:
If a girl is teasing you, you’re probably on the right track.
“Teasing the misses, is asking for kisses” is the closest I can get to an actually insightful Dutch saying.
And the opposite is also true, “Teasing boys is asking to play with their toys”.
OK. Time to text back.
We can largely do one of two things:
- Be a huge pussboi and respond, ”Ah okay, sorry. Of course, you can be the big spoon. I’ll lay in front like a little bish.”
- You tell her like it is and say that it’s a shame, but the two of you clearly aren’t a fit. In other words, you tell her you’re not afraid to lose her.
Here’s my reply:
Our Tinder match caves and shows that she has no intentions to let us go:
Being big spoon only 3% of the time is fine for her, she says.
She concedes. Sweet.
By showing that you have standards and won’t allow yourself to be treated a certain way (even if it’s in fun) shows that you’re not a spineless mop.
That’s hawt.
Step 7: Exchange numbers when emotions are high
Most guys look to exchange numbers at the worst possible time.
Like when she’s starting to lose interest. That’s just awful. Because she’s not even in the mood to talk to you, let alone give you something as valuable as her number.
The best time to get her number is after she’s shown you multiple signs of interest.
Like in my case, she said that she’s fine being the little spoon 3% of the time.
That shows me that she’s willing to spoon with me.
BOOM. First clear sign of interest.
But I like to have a bit more reassurance before I pop the big question, so I wait for another strong signal and suggest a spooning session, which may or may not include some kissing.
She seems down.
PERFECT.
At this point, I’m positive that she wants to see me.
I know you’re eager to see screenshots of that text exchange, but honestly? I’ve already given you a tremendous amount of value by breaking down the conversation with my Tinder match for FREE.
That said, I’m not leaving you without giving you a look at the end of my Tinder conversation.
How do you smoothly get her phone number, before switching to iMessage or Whatsapp?
If you do your job right, girls will OFTEN suggest meeting up.
That’s what happened to me.
“Sounds absolutely lOVely”, I respond, when she proposes to grab a coffee tomorrow.
That’s also the moment when I seal the deal and go for the number.
This is where details make a world of difference.
Because actually, I’m not asking for her phone number at all with my text. It feels more like an announcement than a question.
Compare these two for a second:
- Can I have your phone number?
- What’s your phone number?
It doesn’t look like a big difference. But the difference is immense.
Asking for her number makes you seem like you’re unsure if she wants to meet up. It feels a little insecure.
But by asking what her number IS, you’re assuming she’ll give you her number ANNNND that she wants to see you on a date. That’s a man of confidence, right there.
“Ok, but what about all those cases where she doesn’t propose a date, Louis?”
Great question!
If you go back to above convo where she shares that she mentions she’s a marketing assistant, , you say:
Bam. It’s that simple.
And that’s how your life’s been enriched with 7 tips, or 7 steps, or a combination of tips and steps… ah it doesn’t matter. You’ve become a wiser man.
Want to become even wiser and get more success on Tinder than 90% of guys?
Be sure to click the big gold button below and use my 10 Texts That Always Work. And be sure to check out my ‘personality slice’ technique to get her hooked to your texts.
Enjoy.
Blessings,
Louis Farfields
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