Whether it’s a new match, your crush, or your girlfriend, if you don’t know how to tease her then she’ll get bored of you sooner rather than later.
That’s why this article will give you examples of how to tease a girl over text so you get her addicted to your messages.
If you don’t tease her you’ll get friendzoned. If you tease her the wrong way she’ll think you’re an asshole. Harsh, but true. Scientific research shows us WHY we have to tease and HOW we have to tease. In this extensive guide you’ll learn the psychology behind teases and get practical examples.In this article:More...
Important: I know you're sometimes unsure what to text. So I've put together 10 Texts That Always Work. Copy-paste lines that instantly attract her and make her crave your attention. They work and they are free. Just a small gift to get you started. Enjoy! Click here to get them.
1. Be playful, not harsh
Here’s the one thing you NEVER want to do when you tease her:
Hurt her feelings.
Almost every guy I’ve coached struggled to effectively tease the girls they were talking to. Often, they’d say something mean. But that’s not teasing!
Every good tease has these 3 elements in common:
- It’s lighthearted. The goal is never to insult her.
- It’s challenging. You want to motivate her to defend herself.
- It evokes emotion. If she doesn’t feel anything, you’ll just seem like a clown rather than an attractive dude.
So what does a good tease look like?
Let’s say a girl texts you this:
A very clear bad tease example would be:
There’s nothing playful about it. A better reaction would be:
This IS lighthearted and challenging. But it doesn’t quite trigger enough emotions.
That’s why the best tease would look something like this:
Triggering emotions? ✅
Boom! You now have the best version of the tease.
2. Tease her with something in her pics
Here’s how I helped a hopeless client of mine learn how to tease in just 3 weeks!
This is one of his recent convos we went over during the calls:
First of all, this lady had no original opener and just said ‘hi’. Quite annoying but it happens all the time. After a few weeks of guidance, my student knew exactly what to do.
He didn’t get frustrated that he had to put in work. Instead, he replied using the method I give all my mentees: look for something in her profile that you like or dislike.
Which led him to this awesome text:
everyone knows Orange Sassy
Swirl is the best!! Smh
This girl was drinking a specific drink in one of her photos. My guy noticed, ignored her ‘hi’ and involved the drink in his icebreaker.
An icebreaker where he makes fun of her taste in beverages.
Is his tease lighthearted? Hell yes, he isn’t attacking her personally. It’s about something as little as her taste in beverages.
Is it challenging her? Hell yes. He’s mocking her choice of drink. So she’ll likely stand up for herself.
Is it triggering emotions? Most challenges are, and so is this one. Especially with his ‘smh’ at the end. (‘Shaking My Head’.)
Let’s look at her response:
Unff, lovely start of the conversation. She accepts the challenge and returns fire.
3. Give her a nickname
Wait, why are you even reading a guide on teasing online? Let me guess. Because you’re a…
Big… Thirsty… Viiiiiiiirgin!
Just kidding, bro, I’m just teasing you in the name of science. Didn’t mean to offend, I pwomise <33333.
Anyway, if my tease experiment worked, you felt a brief spike in your emotions.
Maybe you had to laugh a little. Maybe you felt the need to defend yourself, thinking “I’m not a virgin!” Or perhaps you just felt bad for a second.
See how a simple nickname can affect emotions?
Well, girls feel even MORE emotions than us guys. That’s why nicknames are like a superpower when it comes to getting girls.
That’s why I recommend you try to give her one when it’s appropriate.
Let’s use the previous conversation from my mentee.
Here’s what he replied to her after she defended herself about her favorite drink.
Because she prefers another flavor than him, he calls her a dork. A lovely innocent but teasing nickname.
Plus, he keeps the challenges up by saying Wild Berries and Bahama Mama are also better than the flavor she chose.
But, to prevent looking like an a-hole, he also shows interest and asks her what other flavors she has tried.
The best nicknames are an inside joke.
If she told you she tried to throw a basketball into a hoop and yeeted the ball against someone’s head, call her Michael.
If she uses an uncommon word you find funny, call her that word.
If she sounds like a piglet when she laughs, then call her babe.
4. Laugh about yourself
An important note about teasing:
As much as teasing is a MUST. If you’re teasing, you also need to be able to take a tease on the chin.
Put simply, don’t take yourself too seriously. Just like my student did:
If she sees that you can take it as well as you can dish it, she’s far more likely to like you.
5. Tease her right after building a connection
If you want to get good at something, it helps to learn from people who are better at it than you.
So let’s take a look at a convo from one of my students. And watch how I help him come up with a good tease.
Here’s the convo.
His situation looks pretty solid, doesn’t it? She’s texting a bunch and her texts are fun too! But danger lurks around the corner.
People, especially hot women, get bored quickly when she feels that he’s agreeing with everything she says.
That’s why one of the best times to tease is RIGHT after you’ve expressed your shared views.
How could we tease that girl?
Here’s a quick recap of the convo:
She’s an accountant who often visits a pasta place where she likes to order extra veggies. But now they’re charging more, she skips the veggies.
What’s one way we can tease her?
I highly recommend coming up with something yourself before scrolling down to what I suggested to my student. Here’s a babe to keep my text suggestions off your screen until you come up with one yourself.
Came up with anything?
Is it lighthearted? Teasing? Does it make her feel anything?
If so, good job!
Here’s what we came up with:
extra $2 so you can afford your extra broccoli
Now that he’s actually teasing her the convo turned flirty.
With boredom out of sight, she still sees him as a fun potential date.
Want some more lines? On to the next tip!
6. Use these 3 teasing text examples
No deep thoughts or psychological knowledge in this tip. Just some lines to inspire you.
That you’ll most likely just copy and paste right into your conversations, you lazy mothatruckah.
Here’s the first one:
Whenever she says something you don’t fully agree with, copy it back to her with random capitalized letters:
When she texts you first, just hit her up with this reaction pic:
Completely over the top, just how I like it.
Want more copy-pastable texts that are good in all sorts of situations?
I’m handing out my 10 Texts That Always Work for free. Click the link and get them. Or just keep reading and don’t get them. Whatever floats your boat.
7. Call her out on her BS
This next tip is going to be a tough one for you nice guys out there. But if you can stomach the confrontation… you’ll command respect from everyone you talk to.
Let’s get started.
When someone is bullshitting, they’re being insincere, untruthful, false, misleading, or plain ol’ ignorant.
Sometimes, people will try bullshitting you. Just the same way that us men try bullshitting people.
Rather than owning up to our mistakes, we’ll sometimes make up excuses. Other times we’ll throw out a thought without thinking. And before you know it, you’ve hurt someone’s feelings.
That’s just part of being human. #deep
Now, next time someone you’re talking to starts bullshitting… call them out!
Don’t be rude about it, of course. Just politely let your crush know she crossed a line. If you do, she’ll get extra attracted to you.
Here are 3 reasons why:
- You have a spine. No one respects someone who lets people repeatedly walk over themselves. You stay true to yourself
- You’re more trustworthy. If you call someone out on their BS, then that person won’t have to try to read your mind. You’re not the type of guy who says everything is fine when it really isn’t.
- You’re an inspiration. You deflect negativity and make room for happiness.
If you’re like most people, then you could say:
If you feel like cranking stuff up a notch, then feel free to steal this reaction pic:
Whichever floats your boat.
Next up are 2 vital questions: WHEN and HOW MUCH should you tease?
8. Mix up your teases with chill conversation
Earlier we agreed that guys who don’t tease get friendzoned. But the opposite is also true…
Tease too much and you’ll come across as an insincere and rude asshole.
You need balance!
Just teased her on her last text? Follow it up with some real talk.
Just bonded over childhood memories? Then throw a playful tease her way.
The guy who throws tease after tease becomes predictable. The guy who only teases when an opportunity presents itself will be a joy to talk to.
Building a great connection while giving her those flirty vibes she craves so much.
9. Embrace risk teasing brings
Teasing is something kids tend to be naturally good at. I’d be surprised if you’ve never thrown a piece of crumpled paper at a girl, stuck out your tongue, or tapped someone on the shoulder and then ran away.
But as you got older and got more aware of your behavior and how people look at you… you started playing it safe. You didn’t want to risk upsetting anyone.
So you stopped teasing.
Until one day, you forgot how to do it. Or perhaps you started believing that teasing is something only immature people do.
So let me remind you: teasing is the most ESSANTIAL part of seduction, even if you’re a grown-ass man.
Now, I don’t want you to go overboard. When you’re not used to teasing, even the smallest tease can feel like a huge step. That’s why I want you to take 5% more risk than normal.
That way you’ll be pushing yourself to grow without ever scaring anyone off by saying something too over the top.
10. Try my texts
You’ve made it to the end of this article.
You’ve just seen a bunch of examples of how to tease a girl over text… but more is always better, amirite?
So here’s a link to my 10 texts that always work. Just click it and I’ll send you an email that brings my magical 10 Texts right to you.
Interested in more tools to get more dates and higher quality women?
Great! My best copy-paste opener and my profile checklist are also included in that same email.
Enjoy my online dating gifts, try them out on that special someone you like, and have a grrrrrrrrrrrrrrreat day!
And don't forget your download below ;)