Do you want to evolve from a Tinder newbie to an absolute Tinder LEGEND?
That’s what I wanted when I tried Tinder way back in 2013.
I was in America for a few months when some female friends told me about the app.
Tinder was brand new and immediately a great success. One app with a never ending supply of women. It was almost too good to be true.
Along with my American girlfriends I made a profile. But soon I noticed that my Tinder experiences were less exciting than those of other guys.
Nowadays it’s not weird anymore to:
- Meet up with a girl the same day you matched
- Get a chick to cross the border after having had a good Tinder conversation
- To drown in a sea of feels together with your Tinder match.
Today I’ll show you the top 5 mistakes made on Tinder (and tips to avoid them).
Mistakes I used to make, mistakes that most guys make on a daily basis.
On top of that you’ll get 10 tips that you can use to get that date with an absolute stunner
Is Tinder worth your time and effort?
“Hurr durr Tinder is a waste of time. Just go talk to women on the streets or in the clubb hurr durr”
—The local idiot
“Yo Tinder is for losers bro”
I do get it…
Those who approach women in real life immediately skip some steps.
On top of that, real life makes it easier to leave a lasting impression. You’ve got eye contact, body language, intonation, scent, …
I’d never recommend using Tinder as a replacement for face to face interactions.
But whoever says Tinder is a waste of time is either:
…not the sharpest tool in the shed…
Or (and this one is more likely):
… he doesn’t have a lot of success on Tinder.
If you aren’t successful on Tinder, it’s only logical you’re going to hate on the app…
Rather than blame your lack of matches on yourself, you blame the tool. That way you don’t need to feel bad about yourself.
(Some guys won’t accept it’s their own fault. Even when you shove their faces in the facts. Psychologists call that, belief perseverance.)
But, my dear bro, let me tell you:
Tinder is the shit. Blessed be the day that Tinder arrived on Earth and drowned us in pussy.
- You’ll meet LOTS of beautiful women
- It barely costs you any time or money
- You can take your time to reply (and learn which responses WORK)
- You turn boring moments into dates (toilet, public transportation, the waiting room at the doctor’s, or the funeral of some aunt)
- You’ll date girls that you’d never meet in real life (maybe your dream girl doesn’t visit the same places you do)
- It’s so EASY (once you know the tricks)
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And if you want to do it right, you better stop making the next 5 mistakes ASAP…
#1: The only correct way to swipe
Do you know someone who’s been on a dry spell for so long that he’d jump into bed with ANYONE?
Do you think being hungry for a lay helps seduce the ladies?
You can can see his desperation a mile a way.
Not very attractive.
No woman wants to be with someone whose standards are so low that he’d fuck a rock.
For some guys, this pebble is a fleshlight.
Tinder is no different.
If you swipe everyone right, you’re communicating that you’re a pebble fucker.
“Women on Tinder don’t know if you swipe everyone right or not”
—That one dude during my lecture in Amsterdam
Very true. Women don’t know.
But Tinder knows.
Tinder has a complex algorithm that knows exactly what you’re doing on Tinder and when.
If you swipe everyone right, the algorithm is onto you.
And it punishes you without mercy.
Say goodbye to the cuties in your swipe stack. Because the algorithm took them away from you.
All you’re left with is the trolls.
Treat it like you do real life.
You don’t walk down the street and try to fingerblast every fatty in crocs.
You pick your women carefully.
Tinder works the same: swipe selectively.
(If you want to learn how to Photoshop, you’ve come to the wrong site)
The upside of being selective?
Whenever you get a new match, it’s going to be high quality.
People who swipe everyone right, need to separate the cuties from the uggos. Wasting a lot of valuable time.
Are you looking for a girlfriend?
Look at more than just her photos. Focus on her bio and interests.
Isn’t she your type, but she does share your passions? Swipe right.
If your personalities click, I’ll guarantee you’ll find her much more attractive.
You never know until you try.
#2: I wasted too much time by clinging to my sucky profile
When I started using Tinder in 2013, I didn’t do that well. Back then, I wasn’t such a wizard with words.
Still, it was mostly my profile that was holding me back.
I wasted too much time clinging onto my sucky profile.
And I keep seeing this lately. Guys who refuse to just put in a little effort. Get in contact with someone who knows his way with a camera. It’s the fastest fix if you don’t get any Tinder matches.
Do you already apply the 33 tips mentioned in the article above? Still no matches?
Then it’s about time that you study my Tinder profile tips as if you were a law student with a Ritalin addiction.
Not only will you get more (and hotter) matches …
… it’s also possible to filter a lot with your photos and bio. To attract the type of woman you want.
If I’d open my Tinder right now, chances are that a few girls will have sent the first text.
A conversation dies? They’ll be the ones starting it again because my Tinder ‘about me’ helps them with that.
And finally you would want to take the correct steps to get that Tinder algorithm on your side. By (not) doing certain things Tinder will start labeling you as a popular guy instead of a basement dweller.
You can read those in the 2 articles linked above.
#3: Is there a tight rubber band around your nuts?
Or is there another reason you’re so tense?
Tinder can be very fun. Even when a conversation doesn’t go the way you had hoped.
Things like the timing of your texts, how many messages you send, how many emojis you use (if you use more than 0 you are doing it wrong), etc… Those are important things.
But not as important as HAVING FUN.
Someone who sends texts when in a bad mood won’t get to seal the deal a lot.
Someone who rolls over laughing at his own texts is the person that seals deals as if he were the best salesman in town.
This lady mentions in her bio that she’s not a “horse freak”.
You know… The kind of girl that spends every waking moment at the stables and spends her nights in bed drawing horses.
My gymbuddy Michael has clearly mastered the art of having fun on Tinder:
If you have a look at the timestamps you can see that Michael doesn’t really take the whole Tinder thing serious.
He just wants to have fun.
And if girls go along with his uhmm…. “unique” humor, great.
Which happened more often than not.
Michael didn’t have a lack of Tinder dates. At the moment of writing he’s been happily together with his girlfriend for 1 year, 2 months and 3 days…
…whom he met on Tinder.
You can’t survive Tinder for too long without having fun.
How do you think I’m doing this for over 5 years and still spend hours and hours on the app every week?
#4: You’re as predictable as a bad soap opera
“Hey bro… pull my finger…”
Oh you know that one already?
Pull my finger… and unleash the power of the dark side.
Nothing less exciting than being a predictable soap opera, a predictable story, or a predictable guy on Tinder.
Next time some girl from your social circle starts crushing on someone, ask her what makes him so intriguing.
There’s a big chance that she’ll start a monologue that could go on for hours.
But somewhere in that monologue there’ll be a part about how she just can’t get a grip on him.
She can’t figure him out… She doesn’t know where she stands. Maybe she’ll even find him a bit intimidating.
But do you know what she will NEVER say?
“he’s so predictable! I know exactly what he’s going to do and I love it!”
This is also the reason why a Tinder conversation that starts with “hey how are you?” is doomed to fail.
That’s why I quickly decided to swipe this girl left:
Next time try saying something she DOESN’T expect.
If a chick texts me the worst Tinder pickup line ever, I refuse going along with that boring vibe.
By texting her an unpredictable and slightly exaggerated answer you’ll quickly handle the situation.
Give her an exaggerated reply when she expects just a boring “I’m fine how about you?”
And what if you get her number and add her on WhatsApp (or whatever communication app you use)?
What do you text then?
A pickup line such as “congratulations for getting my number”?
Try taking her by surprise with your ridiculously sexy voice and just blast her a challenging voice message.
You’d be surprised how quickly you get her to go crazy over you.
I think it’s pretty clear by now. Keep the boring and predictable small talk for the conversations with your auntie on Christmas.
And listen to these inspiring words:
“Predictability is the death of attraction”
“Be unpredictable and watch how wet she gets”
What I learned after 100+ Tinder Dates
In the following video I will give you screenshots, profile tips, and anything you need to make your Tinder experiences a success.
Look at it as a guide for Tinder, for first timers.
It’s one of my first videos, subscribe for more.
Now let’s get started with some online conversation tips.
#5: Don’t focus on yourself, and neither on her
Do you know how to easily recognize a Tinder noob supreme?
The focus in his conversations is completely on him.
What do I mean by that?
They like to talk about themselves. And as soon as their date asks them something they share every detail there is.
A chick just has to ask a guy what he does for a living, if he ever considered going scuba diving in Ibiza, or what his greatest fantasy is.
The Tinder noob supreme answers this way:
Some guys focus so hard on themselves that they fail to pick up clear signs from their match.
After years of Tinder date experiences I started seeing obvious patterns…
… these newbies evolve into somewhat better Tinderers. In this phase they’ve read one or two things about Tinder and they’re not focused on themselves anymore.
It becomes clear to them that you can’t build a connection if there’s no balance in the input you both have in the conversation.
What do these guys do? They focus on HER.
- What would she think about me?
- What can I say that makes her like me more?
- Would she react well to this?
Here are some guys who are in this phase:
My tip for you?
Don’t be the Tinder noob supreme who’s solely focused on himself.
Don’t be the slightly better dude that focuses on her.
Be the Tinder Demigod that focuses on the VIBE.
How you do that?
Next time try creating some distance. Distance from all this factual information that everyone so richly shares.
- Start taking things less seriously
- Exaggerate extremely hard in your reply
- Throw some weird word in your sentence
This way you create a unique vibe in your conversation.
If you give her a unique atmosphere, you’ll immediately stand out from the crowd. The crowd that’s so busy sharing all kinds of factual information that no one cares about.
Not only will you be creating a better vibe, you’re also instantly a lot more mysterious.
Use these tips if you want to score a date fast:
#1: Decide what your goal is on Tinder
“Even the best captain gets lost at sea if he doesn’t have a compass”
Ever heard this quote?
That’s normal because I just made it up on the spot. But it gets my point across. If you just pointlessly swipe on Tinder without knowing what you want…
… you won’t get a lot of results.
Just as in every area in your life, you need a purpose. A destination you want to reach.
Do you want a committing relationship that lasts until death do you part?
Good. Then make a profile that reaches exactly those girls.
Do you want to have a threesome with 2 transgenders tonight? Uuuuhhh….
Yeah okay… fine. Then make a profile that reaches exactly those girls.
You’d think it’s self explanatory that you don’t upload party pictures if you’re looking for a serious relationship. Yet I see a lot of guys who do just that.
On the other side there are guys who prefer the short lived romances on Tinder. They are the ones complaining about only matching with girls who are looking for something serious.
Maybe it’s because of the picture where they are lovingly holding their little cousin? Or maybe it’s them showing off their parenting skills in the three pictures with their dog? Or maybe because there’s not a single pic that makes her princess parts tingle?
In my Tinder Profile Tips article I explain to you EXACTLY how you can filter out the girls you want at that moment.
#2: Use this kind of picture
There can only be one first photo on Tinder And that picture makes or breaks your profile.
Sounds pretty simple. But there’s so much going on. Together with a friend, who’s a professional photographer, we shot a Tinder profile picture that’s almost perfect. It was such a big upgrade from my old picture that my success on Tinder went up by 614%. That’s right. Six hundred and fourteen percent.
It’s not just about being photogenic. There are dozens of little tricks that make the cognitive workload in her brain as little as possible.
And the less her brain has to work when looking at your photo, the bigger the chance she swipes you right.
If you want to know how to do is, I have got 33 juicy tips for you. You get them all for free in my no matches Tinder article. In exchange I just hope for good karma (and a subscription to my YouTube channel <3)
#3: Turn on notifications (you’ll get rewarded for it)
Maybe you’re just like me and you get slightly aggressive by all those notifications on your phone.
That’s why I turn all of them off. Even WhatsApp.
(turning off your WhatsApp notifications has an enormous benefit when it comes to picking up women. I’ll talk about this some other time.)
Anyway, turn off all notifications.
But not those of Tinder.
There are multiple reasons for this and I’ll give you 3 good ones:
- Women like it when you instantly contact them. If your match is a couple days old, you usually don’t feel like texting her anymore. There isn’t a lot of tension left when you text later.
- People that immediately text their match get bonus points from the Tinder algorithm.(this way you get to see hotter girls)
- If you’re forgetful or busy, the notification will remind you to text her. Someone who waits too long often loses the flow of the conversation. And with that his chance for a date.
#4: Superlikes and Boost (scam or heaven sent?)
In real life you can like someone or you can REALLY LIKE someone.
This is not different on Tinder;
You can give someone a like when you find them attractive…
… but sometimes someone comes along that makes you feel just that little extra excited…
… as if you crushed 2 boxes of Viagra and snorted it up your nose with a 500 dollar banknote.
You can give this fine lady a Superlike (this way you have 3 times the chance of getting the match)
You get one for free every day and I advise you to use it.
Personally I’m more inclined to like someone that superliked me. This is no different for girls.
Will she always like you back after a Superlike?
Is the chance X times bigger, just as Tinder promised?
Then there’s the Tinder boost. This feature is a bit different.
You get one for free and that’s it…
…unless you throw some money at it.
The first one is like a dealer who gives you a few crumbs of crack. The stuff is powerful and you’ll end up wanting more.
My Tinder experiences have taught me that Tinder Boost is something powerful too.
For 30 minutes you are at the top of the stack of profiles for all girls near you. Girls that are swiping will quickly stumble onto your profile. You’d be seen 10 times more during those 30 minutes.
How many matches do you get with one boost?
It depends on the time and place of your boost. But especially on how good your profile is.
Would I recommend Tinder Boost to everyone who can spare a few euros?
#5: The opener that never fails
Everyone always wants that perfect opener.
Unfortunately those so called perfect openers often don’t work anymore. They have been used so often that they don’t turn a single head today.
I have just made a video for you where I reveal the best Tinder icebreakers. Openers you DON’T know yet.
From extremely absurd humor to psychological marketing tricks that work 10 out of 10 times.
Lean back and enjoy:
#6: How to keep a conversation going
If you want cool Tinder experiences you have to be able to keep a conversation going.
Easier said than done. Cause if you drop the ball…
Then she will drop you, immediately. And she moves on to the next Tinder guy.
The guy who does know how to keep a conversation going.
These are a few things that break your conversation without you knowing:
- Emojis (seriously bro, if you don’t know when you should use one, you better don’t)
- The length of your text
- The hidden subtext of your messages
if you’re someone whose conversations often die, you better read my article. Together we will analyse some conversations from men who make similar mistakes.
My Keep Tinder conversations going article just might get you a ton of dates.
#7: The Tinder bio that keeps her up at night
If I’m tindering and I see someone that I LOVE, I shove her right instantly.
Do I see someone that I really don’t like I immediately swipe her left.
Everything in between?
All those ladies I can’t decide on immediately?
I read their bio.
She doesn’t have one?
And this is also how she handles your profile.
You don’t have an awesome bio? Then you’re making a big mistake.
Profiles with a bio get up to 4 times more matches.
Profiles with a GOOD bio don’t only get a lot more matches…
- They also incite women to start the conversation
- They revive old conversations
- They filter out the girl YOU want
If you’re even just thinking about using this kind of bio:
It’s time to smash that backspace button 64 times.
This kind of bio blocks you more than it helps.
The reason this cockblocks you, and which kind of bio gives you more pussy than the animal shelter will all be explained in my Tinder Profile Tips article.
There I’ll be showing you good and bad bios. Including one of my very own bios.
#8: The ultimate panty dropper: going against the flow
This is what the great Merriam Webster Dictionary has to say about this:
“when you keep your nice guy urges under control and go against the flow on purpose. Resulting in her wanting to rip your pants off instead of friendzoning you.”
Take Gary for example. Our youngest bootcamp member ever.
He teases girls harder than ever before. And that’s noticeable by his laycount.
If I were to sit next to you I’d be able to go through your Tinder real quick.
And I’d instantly spot if you’re the type that gets friendzoned often.
Do you know of yourself that you’re more inclined to give compliments instead of pushing back a bit?
Are you a pleaser instead of a teaser?
Then I advise you to tease on purpose next time. Just like it was in middle school.
It’s the best way to transform from a chihuahua into an untameable wolf.
#9: WIFE material
Whenever a teenager posts a photo with his or her girlfriend, everyone goes
“keep it” and “keeper”
It’s their slang for saying “you should keep her, she’s gorgeous”.
“wife material” as we would say.
If you encounter someone worth keeping, you have to take action.
Once the conversation is flowing you want to get away from Tinder. You are better off talking on a more, personal, platform.
Don’t go on forever on Tinder when you meet that wife material.
On Tinder there’s an entire legion of dudes talking to her. And a big part of them are massive creeps.
On WhatsApp on the other hand, there’s only her friends and family. People she’s close with.
Wouldn’t it be much better if you contacted her there? In an environment where the texts she receives carry a lot more comfort?
Do you have a Facebook or Instagram account with awesome pictures? Then you can text her there instead of WhatsApp.
I have written a Nobel Price winning article about How to Get Girls on Instagram.
Have a look to see the future of pickup.
#10: Tinder date tips
Have you ever had a painful date?
Awkward silences? No idea when to go for the kiss?
Have you ever had a date you really enjoyed… but the day after you hear that she just thought it was “nice”?
This too can be a problem of the past, my darling.
I’ve written a Tinder Date Tips article where I share all kinds of dating secrets with you:
- The must-do before the date
- How confident men start their date
- Why you should never meet up at a bar or café
- The 3 golden date-rules
- And a lot more juicy stuff…
This has been a ton of information…
I assume you’re satisfied for now with all those tips from my experiences on Tinder (+ links!)
I hope it’s useful to you. And as per usual: feel free to shoot me a personal e-mail if you have questions. Or just spill your thoughts in the comments on YouTube!
See you soon, bro.
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