You just finished your second date with a girl you like.
You had a good time and want to send the perfect text to lock in that third date. So now you’re wondering what to text her.
Rest easy. Because I’m about to give you the 25 best ways to text after a second date.
- What’s the best time to text after a second date?
- 1. Keep your composure
- 2. Find out if she likes you
- 3. Show her she’s on your mind
- 4. Mention something you genuinely liked about her
- 5. Be funny
- 6. Bring up something you talked about
- 7. Let her in on your schedule
- 8. Make the inside joke official
- 9. Follow up on her recommendation
- 10. Send her this if things got naughty
- 11. Address any awkward moments
- 12. Use an event she would enjoy
- 13. Raise her curiosity
- 14. Drop a voice note
- 15. Let her into your life a little more
- 16. Call her
- 17. A challenge to do better
- 18. Remind her of your lack of sleep
- 19. Sexualize just a little bit
- 20. Tease her
- 21. Rate the date
- 22. Clickbait her
- 23. Use self-depreciation
- 24. Keep it simple
- 25. Go over-the-top
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What’s the best time to text after a second date?
The best time to text someone after the date is – usually within the next few hours after saying goodbye.
And no later than 24 hours.
Why? It’s polite, warm, and exciting for the other person.
There are no downsides unless you send a bad text.
Keep in mind that some people may be turned off by your quick reply. These are typically emotionally immature people who can’t see the difference between kindness and desperation.
That’s their loss, not yours.
1. Keep your composure
If you often fall for girls only after a few dates, then this tip is for YOU.
Look, it makes no sense to treat her like she’s amazing and farts rainbows if you barely know her.
She may or may not be a fit for you. You can’t tell yet.
So if you want to keep yourself from falling for the wrong person, you want to…
…Adopt the wait and see attitude. “She was fun. We’ll see how it goes next time.”
This wait-and-see attitude is ideal for sending her the perfect second-date text. Because it’ll be a warm, but also relatively low investment.
Which is precisely where you want to be right now.
Here’s your first text:
2. Find out if she likes you
Unsure if she’s into you? Here’s the text for you.
Now she’ll likely tell you if she’s interested in seeing you again or not. That way you don’t have to spend the next three days wondering if she’s into you.
3. Show her she’s on your mind
Here’s how to text after your second date to show her she’s on your mind.
First, find something that reminds you of her.
Perhaps pancakes were her favorite breakfast food and you’re cooking some right now.
Maybe she mentioned her favorite book and you just found it in a bookshop.
Maybe she said she likes a certain anime and you just binge-watched 16 hours of tentacle po… Ermmm octopi documentaries.
Share that thing with her.
Also, if you don’t know how to text girls leading up to a second date, then check out my 10 texts that every girl loves.
4. Mention something you genuinely liked about her
Send this text to make her feel special after a first date.
First, think back to the date and what you really liked about her.
Perhaps she went on a long passionate rant about vegan ice cream. Perhaps she’s been into touch football for years and years. Maybe you can be your weird natural self with her.
Mention what you like about her. In a non-needy way.
5. Be funny
You’ve probably heard this before.
But girls looovveeeee funny guys.
So send her a text that makes her giggle.
6. Bring up something you talked about
Send this text to make her smile AND set up the next date.
Remember back to your date, when you were both engaged in some really cool conversation?
Use that thing and send it in a text.
Maybe you talked about a new movie that you both wanted to see. A museum. A cool café. A band she mentioned she liked. Whatever it was, use that thing (and then she might just touch your ding-a-ling).
This shows her that you pay attention. And that’s hot.
7. Let her in on your schedule
Did you guys hint at meeting up in the future before you said goodbye?
“We should totally do (bla bla bla) some time!”
Then don’t beat around the bush!
Just let her know when you’re available (while being warm and saying you had a good time first).
8. Make the inside joke official
This 2nd date text is very situational. But it’s incredibly powerful if you can come up with one of your own.
I’m talking about an inside joke.
Why is that so powerful?
Because you’re highlighting a special moment that she only experienced with you.
So if you have an inside joke, you instantly have a special bond that she has with no one else.
Did something funny and memorable happen? Then you have an inside joke with her.
Now build a text around it.
Holy Tip: Finding a relevant meme is often easier than coming up with a funny line.
9. Follow up on her recommendation
An incredibly useful text. Not only after the second date but something that you went to send her on the regular.
Your experiences of her thing.
That sounds a little weird, so let me explain.
People almost always recommend stuff to you on first dates. Usually, things they enjoy. Songs. Movies. Books. Drinks. Dealers. Whatever..
Do the thing she talked about. And then share your experiences.
Remember, you don’t have to like the thing she recommended.
Just be honest.
She doesn’t need you to like it. She likes the fact that you tried.
10. Send her this if things got naughty
If things got a bit hot and heavy then send this type of text.
Maybe you two had an intense make-out sesh.
Maybe she chained you up, had her way with you, and continually whispered wicked things in your ear. Stuff like, “Good boy Louis, good boy.”
(No comment on if the above was an actual true event, gentleman don’t kiss and tell).
Regardless if it was mild or wild, you can send the following and she’ll love it.
11. Address any awkward moments
If there was an awkward moment on the date, use something like this to address it.
IMPORTANT: Make sure you show off some confidence though, so it doesn’t come across as a huge apology.
12. Use an event she would enjoy
People mention what they like all the fuggin’ time.
Did you find out about a special event that’s totally made for her?
Let her know you want to take her.
13. Raise her curiosity
This text easily spikes curiosity in your girl.
But didn’t curiosity kill the cat?
Nah ma bro.
Curiosity MURDERED THAT FUGGIN’ PUSSY.
I’m still a gentleman, I swear.
14. Drop a voice note
I’m cheating here a bit with this text.
Because it’s actually about sending a voice note.
All the above texts, and below, apply to the voice note.
What’s nice about this is that you can get a little bit more intimate without it feeling unnatural.
Like, “Sleep well. MWAHH”
(Done the masculine way. To the extent possible.)
15. Let her into your life a little more
Did she show interest in stuff that you were sharing?
Your Brazilian jiu-jitsu hobby. Your taste in music or movies? Give her a little taste. Send her a youtube clip or Spotify link of things you like.
16. Call her
We talked about voice notes already, BUT a phone call is also effective.
Especially if she had to take the last bus or train home and you weren’t done talking. Just call her as you go home. Very nice.
17. A challenge to do better
This one’s pretty simple.
You just say that the two of you need to do better on your next date.
Obviously, this one is reserved for dates that were a giga success.
18. Remind her of your lack of sleep
This text is great if neither of you gets enough shut-eye. *wink wink nudge nudge*
Just keep it classy.
19. Sexualize just a little bit
If things REALLY got hot and heavy on your last date then remind her of it.
But as with the last tip, keep it classy.
20. Tease her
This wouldn’t be a TextGod article if we didn’t bring up teasing somewhere.
It’s just so dang effective.
And a nice way to tease her is to bring up something she’s not good at.
Let’s say that during the date she told you she’s not the best cook:
21. Rate the date
Everyone uses a rating scale.
Whether it’s girls, guys, or fun factor, we all do it.
So use it here too.
Also, if you actually want your dating life to become a solid 10/10, join a free dating strategy call with one of our coaches to see how we can help.
22. Clickbait her
Spike her curiosity with this text.
Although it is a bit evil because she will always respond.
So you better have a good follow-up.
23. Use self-depreciation
Be careful with this next text.
Done wrong and you’ll look like Simpy Sam.
But done correctly and you’ll be the Hunky Hank she’s always wanted.
So mock yourself, but not too much.
24. Keep it simple
Not every text you send has to be over-the-top amazing.
Sometimes, something simple and average is good enough.
Just like TextGod coach Jay’s spicy pickle.
25. Go over-the-top
The previous text kept things simple.
But now let’s go over-the-top.
There are many ways to do this, but for this example, I’m going to use a formal letter format.
You are formally invited to dinner and dancing this Saturday evening. Attire will be an evening gown, high heels, and optionally, a fancy broach.
Please respond with your own letter marked with a lipstick kissed seal.
I look forward to your prompt response.
Sir King Louis XII of Gentsburg
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Ah yes, ol’ faithful.
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