11 Fun Bumble Conversation Starters For After She Said “Hey” (+30 examples)

You see a new notification from Bumble.

You excitedly open the chat and are horrified…

It’s another “Hey”.

Read on and get the best Bumble conversation starters for after she said “Hi”.

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1. Don’t toss the ball back in her court

The WORST thing you can do after she sends the most lazy text on Earth is…


Rather than take charge, you smack her nonsense right back.

Take that!

Two Y’s show too much interest, duh.

You can also let your match stew in her own unoriginality.

And watch your match expire.

Do you REALLY want to show your hate for her lazy text?  Then wait before she ALMOST leaves your ‘Beehive’ and hit Extend.

That will teach her to put in more effort!

Except that it doesn’t.

All the above only leads to a candlelit evening with a pump of lotion and Pornhub.

IMPORTANT: “Hey” is not always a sign of disinterest, she may simply not know what else to say.

RIP spelling.

Also, keep in mind that she has a window of 24 hours before she loses you as a match.

Pressured by time, she may fire off a ‘Hey’ to keep the connection alive.

So don’t be too quick to think she’s a low-effort type of gal.

Instead, draw her out of her shell by sharing something fun you just did.

Just came back from a scary film at the movies

Think I’ll let my teddy be the big spoon tonight 🙁

How do you handle scary movies?

2. Keep your goals in mind

Unlike what most people think, online dating apps aren’t really about getting to know the other person.

Of course you want to exchange a few fun factoids.

But really, you’re both trying to figure out if it’ll be fun and safe to hang out.

So why do so many men struggle with achieving this simple goal?

Because of Bumble’s unique challenge: the woman texts first.

Which isn’t a big deal by itself, until you realize that most men follow her lead.


Hey, what are you up to?

I’m going to a show tonight with friends

Nice. That sounds fun!

Although pleasant, this stuff isn’t going to make her feel that you’re a fun time.

So how do you reply to her “Hey” instead?

Perhaps with a sarcastic tease.


OMG! I can’t believe it. I feel the same way. We must be soulmates



Wow! That’s the most beautiful thing anyone has ever said to me



I hope I’m not moving too fast, but your word stirred my heart like no other. I want you to meet my parents

3. Playfully misinterpret her greeting

One of the best ways to make a good first impression is by making yourself stand out.

Most guys on Bumble will have very plain and predictable reactions to her “Hi”.



Hey yourself, Laura

While OK, it’s not really going to make her think you’re anything special.

So let’s have a little fun and show her just how creative and playful you are!

Here come three replies that’ll instantly put a smile on her face.

And they all revolve around reversing the roles.


Slow down m’lady. I like to be wooed first before we have such lewd conversations



I bet you say that to all the guys, player




Stop objectifying me, miss. I have feelings too

In my experience, role reversal works well.

It shows humor and that you don’t take yourself too seriously.

Plus, if she goes along with your game, the conversation can quickly turn muy caliente.

4. Act as if she didn’t text you anything

My favorite response to “Hey” is dead simple:

Then I report her for abuse.

Would not recommend if you’re low on matches.

Dumb jokes aside, one of my favorite ways to respond is simply to…

…ignore her “Hey”.

Aaand send her a first text like you would on any other dating app.

Because I’m in the mood for it, try out knock-knock joke.

Caution: All knock-knock jokes, even the good ones, are very childish.

Don’t say I didn’t warn you.

Knock, knock

Who’s there?


Europe who?

No, you’re a poo!

My six-year-old niece thinks it’s hilarious.

I agree.

And another for good measure:

Knock, knock

Who’s there?


To who?

To WHOM. You pleb <3

5. Notice something from her profile

Here’s an easy and overlooked way to make yourself more attractive to her.

Be interested in her.

Sounds crazy, right?

Some of you macho guys out there may even think that showing interest might look needy.

But showing interest is an essential flirting tool.


It makes her feel seen!

So when you eventually end up hitting it off, she’ll feel like you picked her for who she is. Rather than for her lovely breasticles.

Now, what do you do?

Look for something in her profile that’s interesting to you.

Does she like to ride horses and do you have an obscene mind?

Try this:

Hey is for horses. Just like the ones in your profile

OK, bit of a zany question. And I apologize if it’s too much. But I need to know

When women ride horses, do their lady parts get stimulated?

Otherwise, just go for more normal stuff.

You’ve never seen Star Wars?

Then we’re obviously going to have to change that if we ever decide to meet up

6. Play would you rather

This is an especially good option if she has a generic profile.

You know, the ones filled with bedroom selfies and a bio that says she likes to travel.

Invite her to a game of Would You Rather.

*slow clap*

I commend this guy for keeping it classy.

For those who don’t know, ‘Would you rather’ is a simple game.

You pose a dilemma in the form of a question starting with ‘Would you rather’.

And invent two options.

The person who answers has to pick one of the two.

Answering ‘neither’ or ‘both’ is against the rules and should be met with punishment.

Let the games begin!

IMPORTANT: Really try to showcase your personality with your dilemma.

Are you a bit of a sexual deviant? Try the next line:

Would you rather date a guy with a huge dong, but no arms and legs, or a guy with arms and legs but a small sling schlong?

I quite like it because it leads the conversation to the naughty and sensual.

Here’s another one that leads to fun conversations.

Would you rather be married to a 10 with a bad personality or a 6 with an amazing personality?

When she goes for the 6, she is getting trashed.

J/K. I’m not hot enough to be boring and bitter. So I’m grateful for the cute ladies who I can seduce with my bad jokes and dad personality.

Here are 7 more dilemmas:

  • Would you rather have one nipple or two belly buttons?
  • Would you rather have your dream job or find your true love?
  • Would you rather sleep with someone who doesn’t make a sound during sex, or shouts “THIS IS SPARTA” when he climaxes?
  • Would you rather lose all of your teeth or all of your hair?
  • Would you rather get your paycheck in pennies, or never be able to use cash again?
  • Would you rather never be able to do a good smokey eye or never be able to do a good contour?
  • Would you rather find a book that predicts the future, or have a book that explains everything from the past we don’t already know?

The above questions all have different flavors.

But the sex WYD is obviously the most polarizing.

If you want to filter out prude girls, that’s your go-to.

7. Challenge her to finish your sentence

Here’s another fun game that sets the right mood from the start.

Challenge her to finish your sentence.

It should look something like this:

Hi, Clara. Finish my next sentence

It’ll be fun

If I won the lottery, the first thing I’d do is…

You can obviously turn your sentence into anything you like.

Here are some ideas:

  • If I had the next day off work, I would…
  • If there’s one thing I’d like to be good at in life, it’d be…
  • If I could live anywhere in the world, I’d pick…

8. Make it easy for her to say something else than “Hi”

Do this and her first text will be way more interesting than “Hey”.

The majority of guys have bios that knock you out faster than chugging a bottle of NyQuil.

Guys aren’t boring because they can’t be fun, but because they don’t understand the power of the bio.

Before we get into the magic of a good bio, let me tell you a secret:

Just like men, women have trouble writing a good first text.

And like you, most girls turn to photos and bios for inspiration.

Imagine she sees this:

Can you blame her for being stumped?

Probably everyone on the planet shares the same two opinions.

Is there anyone who thinks the opposite: “I love the old, mundane and boring. All I want is misery and sadness?”

Alex has a more personal opinion in the third line and fourth line, but that doesn’t help her come up with an opener.

Imagine if YOUR bio DID assist her!

Instead of brooding on an icebreaker like it’s a game of Sudoku, she takes one glance at your about me description and voilà.

She strikes gold.

And sends you the exact text that you were hoping for.

Like this guy:

His profile read: “Ask me about my hidden talent.”

How do you get your ideal text? Come up with a good call to action!

For lots of inspiration, check out my next article:

9. Reply with some clickbait

With the right reply to her “Hey”, every fiber in her body will hunger for more of your texts.

Here’s how you do it.

One word…


I know, clickbait has a bit of a scummy reputation nowadays.

But this is all in good fun.

So how do you get her obsessed with your texts?

With the next shamefully simply message

Hey [name], do you know what’s interesting about your photos?

Not entirely sure this is pure magic?

Firstly, good on you for being skeptical, bro.

I applaud your scientific mind.

But your distrust is misplaced.

Let me point out just how interested she is:

  1. She sends three texts.
  2. She extends her “No” to “Nooo”.
  3. She has a chuckle and writes “haha”
  4. And she even checked out her photos to see if anything was wrong!

She CRAVES the answer.

She NEEDS her itch scratched. And it’s only you who can do the scratching.

My clickbait opener doesn’t just end there.

I also have two follow-up lines that continue the conversation and reel her in further.

When you open 6 matches at the same time.

But those are too valuable to reveal in this article.

You can find my 2 follow-up lines PLUS 7 screenshot examples by clicking this link.

Use the power of clickbait wisely, buddy.

10. Use the power of GIFs

“Hey” is obviously a very low effort opener. And I don’t want you to feel pressured into coming up with a super amazeballs answer.

So here’s a quick and effective reply that’ll get her smiling.

Send her a fitting GIF.

Consider a waving Forrest Gump.

Or if you want to be a bit more playful, a flirtatious Austin Powers.

And if you want to seem like you put in effort, even though you totally stole this clever line from me, go with this:

Is that the best you could come up with? Are you kitten me?

It’s stupidly simple.

But so very good.

11. Come up with something personal

Apply the wisdom of this tip, and you’ll instantly become one of her favorite matches.

Most men on Bumble are incredibly boring: they drive the conversation to Snoozeville.

You already know this.

But what you don’t yet know is how to leverage the boring to your advantage.

Let’s introduce Normal Ned.

Ned is a normal dude.

He never does anything weird or rude.

And when he doesn’t know what to say, he asks for her favorite food.

How does information help you?


Think what the average guy would do, then do the opposite.

That’s your roadmap to success.

Let’s practice.

Imagine you’re swiping and find the next profile:

Based off of this image alone, how do you break the ice (after ignoring her “Hey”)?

You first figure out what Normal Ned would say.

Ned would comment on her beauty.

Now you know what activates her gag reflex, you say the opposite.

Do you have any ideas?

I have two.

Here’s the first:

Oh my god. Absolutely gorgeous

I love paintings of the sea. Although I can instantly tell it isn’t an Ivan Aivazovsky. Probably my favorite painter of all time.

This example is what I’d like to send, but the odds of her replying to this are rather small. So I’ll send my next idea instead.

Storm Over The Black Sea by Ivan Aivazovsky. Absolutely gorgeous.

I’ve never seen something so beautiful

That cabinet is gorgeous. I must know the name of your interior designer

See what I did?

I started with the obvious, then gave it a spin.

Plus, I ended with “I must know the name of your interior designer” because it’s most likely her or her mom.

Which she’ll probably happy to point out.

Let’s look at another profile.

Guess what one idea is on Normal Ned’s mind.

Scratch that, Ned would have two voluptuous ideas bouncing in his skull.

So how would you break the ice when matched with this cutie?

Here’s my icebreaker:

Ja ckiedding me?

Did you not see the signs? No glassware allowed in the pool area! -5 points

To summarize my opener:

  1. A horrible play on words with her name.
  2. I put my focus on something that probably no other guy has talked about.
  3. And I tease her for her bad behaviour by taking away points.

I still don’t know where these points are coming from. But girls seem to hate it when you take them.

Girls on Bumble.

That covers what to do after she said “Hey”.

Starting a fun conversation should no longer be a problem for you.

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Enjoy, amigo.

Louis Farfields

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