10 Ways to Make A Girl Like You Over Text (Examples!)

You’re into someone and you have their number.

You’ve probably already exchanged a few texts, perhaps even gone on a date, but the convo is not going the way you want.

No problem, because you’re about to get 10 ways on how to make a girl like you over text.

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1. Don’t try to be perfect

The most popular piece of dating advice is: Just be yourself 

There’s a lot of truth to this statement. You ultimately want to be liked for who you truly are.

But it’s not like you’re talking to people pretending you’re Arnold Schwarzenegger. You’re just being yourself. Right? Well, probably not.

When we’re really into someone, we’ve already made up our minds about them: we like ‘em and we want ‘em to like us back.

So what do we do?

We try to say and do the things that we believe they want to hear. And that’s where all the trouble starts.

Your #1 goal now is to be nice. So you grind off all the rough edges of your personality and you lose your edge, the very thing that makes you attractive.

Because what do women deeply desire in a man? That he totally owns and accepts who he is. Even his flaws.

So to be attractive to women, you want to be your unfiltered awesome self. This means you want to talk to her in almost the same way as you do to your best friends.

Just with more flirting.

2. Show that you’re not afraid to speak your mind

Do this and you’ll make many girls absolutely LOVE you.

Make your texts even EDGIER. Then kick back knowing you just made her love (or hate) you another 5% more. A little hate is okay, I’ll explain in a moment.

How does being edgy make you more attractive to her? Simple.

It says that you’re a guy who’s not afraid to speak his mind. And that makes you more trustworthy and confident.

Two very sexy traits. Let me give you an example to show you what I mean.

Omg. I just ate enough olives to feed 4 people haha

Do you like olives?

Most guys would probably reply along the lines of “Yeah, I really like them!” or “Nah not a fan.” But that’s so BORING!

Here’s a better reply:

Ielgh. I think olives taste like poop

I’m 99% sure that this message would have her giggling at her phone because it’s such a strong and edgy answer.

“But Louis, aren’t you insulting what she likes?”

Good question. And the answer is, no. You’re not insulting her because she’s asking for your opinion. She doesn’t want to hear that you like the same things as her.

She wants to get to know you better and have a good time.

3. Create PASSIVE attraction

Here’s how you can make a girl like you without even texting her.

Instagram stories.

This perhaps sounds difficult or time-consuming but it’s surprisingly simple. All you need to do is: record fun things from your everyday life and use them for your stories.

Perhaps you saw someone walking their cat. Perhaps you caught a popular TV show recording a scene in your town. Or maybe you baked a beautiful cake that you dropped on the floor only moments after you took it out of the oven.

What makes this so good? Because you can give her a good time without even texting her directly. All she has to do is follow your Instagram account.

4. Use ‘togetherness’ to make her like you

Use the knowledge I shalleth bestow upon you in this tip, and your crush will imagine all sorts of cute scenarios with you.

It’s called… Togetherness.

Togetherness makes her feel like you’re a team, rather than two individuals who barely know each other.

And you’re undoubtedly already using togetherness when you’re with your friends. Like when you’re reminiscing about past adventures.

You and the girl you like probably don’t have those memories. So reminiscing about the past isn’t an option.

That’s why I recommend imagining your super strong connection.

TextGod coach Jay has mastered this form of togetherness, but not so much the art of being married. Check out this example from WhatsApp, where the girl reacts to his previous message:

At least it looks like he gets to keep the hamster. Thank God.

Btw, togetherness, just like most concepts I preach on this site, works in real life just as well as over text. So go ahead and use it in your real life conversations too.

A fun way to really create a feeling of belonging will be revealed in the next tip!

5. Talk in terms of ‘us’

Here’s how to make her feel like she’s known you forever.

Use the words: we, our, us, together.

  • We should go throw peanuts at monkeys in the zoo.
  • Did you hear the news about that 8 year old that beat up his entire class? Our child would never do such a thing. He’d be too smart and too perfectly raised.
  • They owe us money!
  • I’ll keep you accountable and you keep me accountable. First one to eat cake loses. Together we can become Victoria’s Secret models.

Easy! But there’s more. There’s one thing that will always be funny to you and her and no one else: Your inside jokes.

They’re the reason your best friend and you ended up giggling like little girls in class while no one else understood what was going on. They’re a bond-creating magic potion.

How do you create inside jokes? Well, it’s more of an art than a science. But let me give you an example.

A few weeks ago, I went on a date with a girl in the afternoon. It was a short one and we went for a walk, bought some food and drinks at a supermarket, and then sat on a bench together.

Here’s the thing, I forgot my wallet! It was still in my gym bag that I left at a friend’s place. So she had to pay for me. At which moment I jokingly called her my sugar momma.

Voilà. An inside joke was born. And I instantly re-used it with great effect when I texted her later that day.

6. Embody masculine energy

Straight women love the masculine energy of a man. She’s wired to love it. It’s in her DNA.

That’s why you want to text her like a man, not a child.

I’m going to show you how to do that right now, with one clear example.

Heyyyy sarah wyd :3

Did you see the last episode of peaky blinders omg its soooo good 🙈

anyway tim is having a party 🎉🎉 are you going too?😂

Let’s compare that to this example:

Hey, Sarah! What are you doing?

Did you see the last episode of Peaky Blinders? Omg it’s so good.

Anyway, Tim is having a party. Are you going too?

I know these are hella random texts. Look past the content of the text and focus on the way they look.

What’s the vibe?

At first glance, you can instantly tell the person spamming emojis is more immature.

Here are three rules I swear by when texting:

  • Capitalize letters that need to be capitalized.
  • Use commas and full stops where necessary (don’t end one-sentence texts with a full stop though).
  • Only use emojis when you need to clarify the emotion behind your message.

For more rules on texting that’ll make you more attractive, check the next article:

7. Blow her away with your voice

Do you know what women find incredibly sexy? The sound of your voice.

It has timbre, tone, expression, volume, intonation, and personality. It’s one of your strongest tools of seduction over text.

My voice is pretty average by the way. I never get compliments on it in real life. So give it a go and see what happens.

Do you feel a little nervous sending your crush a voice note? Just write down what you want to say. Either in full or just the gist of it with bullet points.

Did you stutter, or say something moronic, or did last night’s burrito roar from in between your butt-cheeks?

No worries. Any texting platform that supports voice messages also has a function to cancel the recording. So you can just restart and your crush won’t ever know.

Oh and btw, I get reactions like this all the time:

While in real life no one has ever complimented my voice. Go ahead, try it for yourself and thank me later.

8. Copy what I do

Here’s your chance to see one of my actual conversations. Something that I don’t reveal often.

One thing you’ll find out is this: I don’t use cheap tricks, manipulation, or other horse shit. I simply show my personality and that I like to play.

I’ll break my conversation down for you, so you can get the same results as me:

9. Give her room to chase you

In this tip you’ll learn how to be more like that one guy she wants SO BAD.

Here’s a little fact about women that most men don’t know: Almost EVERY guy that your crush has crushed on during her life… she crushed on because he gave her room to chase him.

Sounds cryptic. What does that even mean? He wasn’t always available. He didn’t text her back within a split second whenever she hit him up. He didn’t skip on his pals or hobbies to see her. He didn’t like and comment on her every Instagram story.

Leave room for her to wonder about you, to miss you, and to chase you.

IMPORTANT: This is not playing hard to get or about trying to make her feel insecure. It’s about showing her that you have more important things going on in your life than her.

She doesn’t want to be treated like the center of your universe until she’s actually earned it. So make her invest a little.

10. Send her this text that she can’t resist

Time to give you a gift!

There will be times when the girl that you like isn’t replying. Sometimes even for days. That can make you question everything and send you into a panic.

Please don’t. Because I’ve got just what you need to rekindle the spark you once had.

The text with the highest response rate ever. You can find it down below by clicking the big gold button.

Check it out and get her attention back in the blink of an eye.


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