How To Get Girls on Instagram: The Step-by-Step Guide

You might have met her before in real life…

Or you’ve never met her, and want to flirt with an unknown girl via Instagram.

Today I will give you a complete guide.

In this article you will learn:

  • The #1 way to get her to always text you back
  • How to make her text YOU after a night out
  • The fool proof way to always make her say yes when you ask her out
  • The Instagram pickup method to make her addicted to you (beware for stalkers)
  • How to turn her on WITHOUT texting her
  • How my student picked up an IG supermodel in 3 easy steps
  • And a lot of juicy screenshot examples
  • How you slide in her DMs

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What works BETTER than asking her number

Today I am going to tell you how to use your Instagram to the fullest. And…

If you don’t have Instagram yet, why it’s THE next app to download.

I know there’s a possibility that you’re a man who doesn’t have a lot of time for all kinds of apps and prefers to just meet women in real life.

I fully understand.

And this article is especially of value to you. The lessons I am going to teach here are much more than just some Instagram tips.

Buckle up!

Recently I got an e-mail from Tim:

“Hi Louis […] Everything was super chill, we had a fun night and we exchanged numbers. We’re texting now and the vibe isn’t as fun as back then… What can I do to get her on a date?”

Good one.

The situation in which Tim finds himself can be really f#&@ing frustrating. You’re close and yet if you make one wrong move you have lost her forever.

Oh well…

You’ve come to the right guy. I’ve got some golden tips to keep you far away from these kinds of situations.

There are multiple ways to fix this situation, bro. You may have heard about the first one.

#1: What you text her after a night out

when you text her after a night out, you only have one goal.

Get her out on a date.

Sometimes you can do this immediately, just because it was going so well that it’s impossible to screw up. But if this were the case I wouldn’t be receiving all those e-mails similar to that of Tim.

So what are you going to do as soon as possible?

Remind her of the vibe you two had when you met. Whether it was in the club, street, bar or the moon doesn’t matter.

Most dudes will text something like

hey this is Tim from yesterday 🙂

Sure. Could work.

But only when she’s extremely into you or when you’re just lucky.

You are better off leaving nothing to chance and giving her something that makes her feel things.

If she talked about the time she ran over a rabbit… you text her about it.

Or you talked about how you went night swimming in Spain and she totally loved it?

Text her about that.

Hey Sarah, your crush from yesterday here. Where you more kind to the rabbits on the way home this time? Tim


Hey Kim, did you get a glow-in-the-dark bikini yet for the next nightly swimming session? Tim

With these kind of texts she will feel again what she felt yesterday. When you two were vibing.

When she reads this kind of text she not only gets reminded of the feelings she had during your first conversation.

She also doesn’t have to try to remember who ‘Tim’ was. And trust me, after a night out, chances are she already has enough on her plate.

You’ll increase your response rate by about 69%.

But it can get even better…

The BEST way to get her on a date

What if I told you there was an even more powerful way?

A way where you don’t have to try your best when texting her? Everything just goes as planned.

And surprisingly enough you never see a dating coach mention it…

I’m talking about Instagram.

For many it comes as a surprise that this app is some kind of cheat code to pick up girls.

Someone who IS aware of the value of this secret, is my bro Yo Gotti

I seen your girl post her BM (W)
So I hit her in her DM
All eyes, yeah I see ‘em
Yeah, that’s your man? I’d hate to be him (whoop)
It goes down in the DM (It go down)
It go down in the DM (It go down, it go down)

In the chorus he proudly raps about how he picked up a girl through Instagram by sliding in her DMs. Her DMs are her “Direct Messages” or in other words: her inbox.

And, he sings, it’s going down. In other words, Yo Gotti has mastered his Instagram game and hooks one woman after another.

How does Instagram work?

Already downloaded the app? Then you can skip this part.

Instagram is a social media app like Facebook. The thing is that you can only post pictures and show off your daily activities via photos and videos.

Other than that you can comment on people’s posts, or send them a message. Right into her DMs.

Lastly you can create “stories”. These are pictures or videos that only last for 24 hours for everyone to see.

After that they seem like they’re gone forever. Although Instagram saves them for you in private to enjoy them again, and you can feature your flirty stories on your profile.

These stories are essential for getting girls on Instagram.

We’ll talk about this later.

Here you see an example of my previous Instagram profile.

On top you see a thumbnail with his followers and the people he follows next to it.

You can follow me on my current TextGod Instagram, where I’ll be posting juicy stories that hook girls regularly.

#2: Do this to stand out from the peasants

You can’t do a whole lot on Instagram. And this is exactly what makes this app so powerful.

It’s not AND pictures AND calling AND playing games AND who knows what else.

You post pictures and videos and that’s it.

But, there’s one very important detail to get girls on Instagram. And that’s the captions you put underneath.

It’s not that easy to make someone feel all kinds of emotions with just a picture. Especially not when you also want to look good on them.

That’s why I obligate you to always put a caption underneath your pictures. Use your brain and be a bit more creative than everyone else. You’ll notice that most people use lyrics from some kind of song. Or they put an emoji of a cocktail or beer glass when they are drinking something in the photo. If it’s a picture of them traveling, you can be sure it will be some kind of wanderlust quote.

And as always you want to be different from the peasants, bro.

A caption of mine that got very good reactions is this one:

A personal rework of the classic quote by Audrey Hepburn.

To each their own, right, Audrey?

Another example?

Well ok, one more.

Meet my German bro Julius, whom you might know if you read my Tinder Tips article.

In this picture, Julius is acting out a typical Mary Poppins scene. In the caption he gives it a funny twist.

In the hashtag he turns it up a notch by changing Mary’s famous “supercalifragilisticexpialidocious” into “supercalifragisendnudes”.

You may notice that both Julius’ and my caption are fairly sexual. That isn’t necessary, as long as you entice her. And you can do that in many more ways other than making a perverted joke.

Do things your way brother!

#3: How to get her number on Instagram

I already told you the right way to text her after getting her number.

And this method works…

… but personally, I do something else.

When I get her number, I tell her something along the lines of:

“Put your number in my phone. And also put in your Instagram so I can stalk your pictures”

Captain Obvious: You only say this when the vibe is right of course. If there’s even the slightest chance that you’d come across as creepy, then a sentence like this one will be the death of you.


Now you not only have her number but also her Instagram. And this makes a big difference.

Just think with me for a second, bro.

Over text you actively have to remind her of the connection.

You probably have encountered it yourself. You thought everything was perfect and yet there was no date.

If she follows your Instagram, she passively gets reminded of the connection…

You can do two things now:

You immediately like one of her pictures so she sees your Instagram straight away.

Or you wait a day and then like one.

Holy Tip:

Whenever you’re DMing a girl, you sometimes get stuck.

You KNOW you need to send here something, but your mind goes blank.

This is where some copypasta lines come in handy.

I have tons of ’em. But luckily for you I created a free download containing The 10 Texts That Always Work.

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#4: Getting girls on Instagram in one click

That picture you’re going to like, that’s your new secret weapon.

You can do this while you’re still standing next to her.

The upside of this is that she immediately sees your profile with you next to her. That way she gets a better view of who you are and what you do right away.

And the bigger the first impression, the easier the rest will be.

Of course she can’t just go full stalker mode on your Instagram with you still next to her.

That’s why sometimes you wait until the next day to like a picture. That way you’re sure that she’s sober and her brain is fully functional again. Only when you like a picture of her, she will know your Instagram name.

This is what her notifications will look like. Now she can easily click your name and go onto your profile.

From now on she knows your Instagram and thus comes the first enormous advantage.

She can now dig through your Instagram like a police dog on speed.

And bro, I’m telling you, girls LOVE trying to get to know everything about someone.

I can’t even keep count of how many girls know everything about another girl that they never even met. Or about some dude they never talked to.

Once they have your IG (Instagram) they become a female Sherlock.

Up to you to make your Instagram interesting enough for her to change her from Sherlock to Shercock.

Not only my girls do this, all girls do this.

How do I know?

I was on a date with a m’lady when I told her a story from a few years ago.

I noticed from her body language and facial expressions that she already knew parts of it. Things she couldn’t possible know…

…unless she dug very deep into my IG feed…

#5: How to make her feel as if she has known you for years

If you’re trying to get a girl on a date but she rejects you every time… Chances are that she doesn’t feel comfortable enough around you, yet.

No woman wants to go on a date with a guy of whom she doesn’t know whether he will take her to a nice coffee bar or stab her in a dark alley.

Now you can chat all day long with her until she has built up enough comfort…

(or until you don’t know what to say and screw up)

… or you can let Instagram do the work for you.

Because she has access to your profile, she can dig through your pictures as if it’s Christmas. Now I know she won’t check your profile everyday if you guys aren’t speaking. She probably doesn’t want to see the same pictures 69 times either.

And this, my dear, is where Instagram stories come into play.

Instagram stories are temporary pictures and videos that disappear after a period of 24 hours. If people comment on them you’ll receive a message in your DMs, only for you to see.

Here’s the profile of National Geographic:

At the top you see a yellow-red circle around the thumbnail.

This means they have a story active.

Wen you click the thumbnail, the story automatically loads:

This is what you got to see.

In the top left you see it has been posted 4 hours ago. So within 20 hours it will be gone forever. You also see 5 gray blocks at the top. This means that they have posted 5 stories. The next one starts playing as soon as you leave this one. Until you have had them all, then you will end up back on their profile.

Of course National Geographic posts completely different stories than what you are aiming for. Unless you’re a biologist or something like that.

One of my stories I have at the moment of writing is this:

A bit less educational. A bit more humorous and polarizing.

By watching someone’s story you know what that person is up to at that moment.

Imagine being a woman and you just gave your number to a guy. After texting back and forth for a bit, he asks you out. But you’re not entirely convinced. And the last thing you want is an awkward date where you have to make excuses to get away.

Now, what if you already had the chance to watch his IG (or maybe Snapchat or Facebook). Now you have a completely different image of who he is and how he acts.

And if he played it smart, you’d be addicted to his Instagram stories by now…

#6: How to get her addicted to your life

When you post interesting stories you’ll notice a lot of people start to watch them…

(you can see who watched your story)

It’s as if they’re following a tv-show of which they don’t want to miss a single episode… But your story has no fixed air time. It could be uploaded at any moment. Extra exciting.

Each time you add something to your story, she gets an emotional spike because you trigger her curiosity.

If then you also manage to make her laugh, feel sad, or experience any other emotion, you have doubled the effect.

Warning: it’s better to post fewer and better stories than more but lower quality stuff. Once they label your stories as boring she won’t watch them anymore.

You’ll also notice pretty fast that you’re keen to watch some people’s stories every time again. While you just click away the other people’s (boring) stories.

The best thing about this is that you don’t actively invest in her. Whereas each text you send her on WhatsApp is a bit of your attention that is meant solely for her…

She does all the work here. She clicks your story and watches it. You might not even be thinking about her.

Of course you’ll need stories that are interesting. Stories that trigger her emotions.

Stories that stand out. Which is  good news again,  because all the other people have sucky stories:

  • The 82th selfie in front of that same IKEA mirror to show off their outfit
  • A picture of a table with a few beers on it
  • One of many pictures in the gym. That no one cares about.

A good way to stand out is to find your own theme.

Personally I always make my stories a bit more edgy and polarizing. Humor will almost always be included. Back in the day I went completely over the top and posted the most f**ked up stories.

Stories that would make you think that no one would ever want to date me after seeing those. But the opposite was true.

Stories of friends and I climbing the fire escape onto a building, completely naked. Dancing on that fire escape with our dongs out and swinging. I put it all in my story.

A good friend of mine, and fellow dating coach, makes sure that every post contains one or more of following ingredients:

  • Humor
  • His cat
  • Memes

One of my assistants mainly posts stories about how he is working hard.

Some sort of combination of motivational speech, work tips, and random daily life updates.

Lame as f#@k according to some. But he claims he gets dates with it.

Whatever you do, make it your own.

#7: How to get your dream girl (via Instagram)

Alrighty, Instagram can increase trust and attraction in the women whom you’ve exchanged contact info with.

But what if you have a crush on someone you DON’T know yet?

Instagram is still the answer.

And today I got super juicy extra spicy deluxe screenshots for you.

A student of mine is starting to do pretty well for himself in the dating scene.

But recently we accomplished something for him that every guy dreams of…

He encountered a girl on Tinder that you would normally only encounter in your dreams.

He swiped her right and… SURPRISE… no match.

Just like almost any other model on Tinder, she had her Instagram linked to her Tinder profile.

Something you should also do by the way.

When you compare their Instagrams it becomes painfully obvious:

Him: a regular dude. No supermodel looks. No millions. No fame.

Her: an angel on earth. Supernatural looks. No millions but does earn a ton of money doing modeling. Legions of followers.

It’s the kind of girl of which you think you have no shot at.

And still it’s possible.

First of all, you go to her Instagram.

Next you have to make the first move.

What you definitely SHOULDN’T do is go straight to her DMs and compliment her or ask her out on a date.

“Marry me”

This tempting offer is something she gets in her DMs a few times a week.

As you can see, these 2 examples have been sent with 1 day in between.

These guys think that they have a chance by acting all romantic and saying they want to spend the rest of their lives with her. Probably they are hoping to get something back such as:

o m g. You’re crazy!! That’s so sweet of you. I’d LOVE to get married to a gentleman like you!

Keep dreaming boys.

You want to be a bit more subtle.

I’ll show you how to be a bit hard to get. But then you’ll have to do it the right way.  And not like these VeRy cOoL GuYs:

Hahaha, I want to thank the first guy for making me laugh like crazy.

“I found your profile on tinder but I chose not to contact you there because it’s so predictable.’

Nice try. Of course, you can’t text her on Tinder if she doesn’t like you back, sneaky bro.

The second guy also tries to be super cool. He’s even too cool for Tinder, but somehow he accidentally got onto it.

“A friend of mine got me into using Tinder, which I honestly thought was stupid but I gave it a try and I saw you.”

Then I saw you and… Uh yeah well… It wasn’t a match so uhh… I guess I’m gonna try again here with some lame excuse?

These are only two out of 666 weekly messages my girlfriend gets. 99% of those messages are just like these.

You want to play it a bit more tactical.

I actually made a video with my girlfriend. We were reacting to the Instagram account ‘Tinder Nightmares’.

Watch the video so you don’t have to make the same messaging mistakes those guys make.

Now let’s get into some practical steps to get girls to respond to you on Instagram!

Step 1: Take a look at her recent pictures and her stories

Take your time.

Wait until you see something that’s relevant to you.

This was a post in her story at that moment. Blurred out of respect for her privacy of course.

(this is something that people do on Instagram. When they post a new picture, they take a screenshot of their profile and show that they have added something new. You can see she has drawn a green circle around the new post, on the top left. She adds:


(Slytherin is one of the four houses in the Harry Potter books)

Is this relevant to me? Hell yes!

And a lot more to my student. He’s an ENORMOUS Harry Potter nerd.

Perfect to comment on.

Step 2: Comment

You always want to comment something that stands out. If you’re the 8th person to comment with “nice pic” or “cool outfit”, then you’re better off not commenting at all.

Preferably you want to challenge her a bit.

Holy Tip:

If you don’t see any picture or story on which you can comment something interesting, just wait it out.

If you try to force something there’s a big chance that you’ll screw up.

Anyway, everything related to Harry Potter is relevant to us so we took a look at her new picture.

When you upload a picture, you can caption it.

A small amount of text that says something about your pic.

She uploaded a picture of herself in a dark outfit that reminded her of Slytherin. She captioned it:

“on the ability to be whoever I desire”

To which my student commented:

“Except a wizard”

And then you wait and hope she responds.

Uh oh, I feel something pulling…


“watch me”

Great news. An answer. And it’s a pretty playful one at that.

Now you don’t respond back. You don’t keep a conversation in the comments.

Step 3: Slide into the DMs

Or in this case: Slytherin the DMs.

It’s time for step 3, in which we move the conversation to her inbox.

Can you ask her out on a date now? Or tell her she’s breathtakingly beautiful?

No, you can not.

You keep it original and playful. And preferably teasing. Challenge her, bro.

Challenge her.

How did my nerdy student handle this?

He beats her with a REAL “slytherin starter pack”

A picture of his Slytherin scarf with a text saying “real slytherin starter pack” and then some kind of gay ass star that lightens up every conversation.

And so the conversation has started.

And this, my friend, is how you pick up a 10 using Instagram.

So, hopefully, you learned something and chuckled a couple times in the process.

Use your newfound knowledge well, and I’ll see you soon in a new article or YouTube video!

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Good luck!

Louis Farfields

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