7 Real Steps To Get Dates On Tinder (Quickly)

You’re interested in Tinder.

Perhaps you’ve already been using the dating app for a while.

And you want to know how to get dates on Tinder.


Because that’s exactly what you’ll discover in this article.

Besides a sure-fire way to get Tinder dates, you’ll also get:

  • Concrete steps on how to make an attractive Tinder profile
  • 2 Stealable Tinder bios (+ an easy method to create your own)
  • My very best YouTube video yet that’ll teach you how to get more matches
  • 2 Texts to get her out on the date
  • What to do to still meet up if she rejects your date proposal

Important: Just letting you know I am currently letting guys use my Profile Checklist for free. It's a simple fill-in-the-blanks code that shows you what to change about your profile. It's the first step to getting all the matches you want. Get it here for free.

How to get the most out of this article

We’re about to go through the 7 steps of getting a Tinder date.

Starting from building your profile, all the way to texting techniques that raise attraction to copy pastable lines that set up dates.

But maybe you don’t need all that.

Maybe you’re already chatting up a cute Tinder match and want to go for the date right now.

No problem.

Using the upcoming article breakdown, you can skip to the tip that you most need so you don’t waste any time.


So here’s the breakdown of this article:

  1. Choosing photos for your Tinder profile
  2. How to create the best Tinder bio
  3. The pros and cons of connecting Spotify and Instagram
  4. The trick to sending an irresistible first text
  5. What to say after you break the ice
  6. How to recognize she likes you over text
  7. How to go for the date in a non-needy way

#1: Creating a bullet-proof Tinder profile that gets you lots of matches

The trick to a strong Tinder profile is remarkably simple.

Yet hardly anyone gets it right.


Well, for a host of reasons.

  • Most guys choose their own photos, but studies show that we’re notoriously bad at picking the photos that make the best impression
  • Using low quality photos
  • Using too many high quality photos, which makes you look like a tryhard
  • Using decent photos but in the wrong order
  • Relying only on selfies that tell little to nothing about your personality

The list goes on and on.

Do you recognize yourself in some of the above bullet points?

Then you’re in trouble.

And I can guarantee that you’re losing out on lots of Tinder matches.

So where do you start?

Firstly, you want to find out all the weaknesses in your profile so that you can fix them.

The easiest way to do that is with my free Dating Profile Checklist.

You can grab it here by clicking the link.

Once you’ve flagged the sucky parts of your Tinder profile, you get rid of the bad and… 

…replace it with the good.

What’s ‘good’ for your Tinder profile?

All the stuff that I talk about in these articles of mine:

And the stuff I talk about in this video:

Now you have what it takes to build a Tinder profile that the average Joe could only dream of…

…we move onto the Tinder bio.

#2: Creating a Tinder bio that gets her to text you

If guys are bad at choosing photos for their Tinder profile, then guys are hideously incompetent at writing a Tinder bio.

Yes, it’s really that bad.

Just get a load of this.

Now, you probably wouldn’t ever write anything like that. I know.

You’re likely writing the same stuff every guy does.

And if it’s not some mix of flag and coffee emojis, it’ll probably be a joke or inspirational quote you plucked from the internet.

The problem?

Almost every dude is doing the same.

Which makes it boring and bad.

So what IS a good Tinder bio?

  • Something short (so that it’s difficult to hate)
  • Something emotionally stimulating
  • Something that’s easy to respond to

What does that look like?

Something a little more like this:

But I think we can do better. Largely because it’s not something that’s easily replied to.

So if we want to tick ALL the three boxes, we get a bio like this:

You better know how to treat a lady

(This one works best when you’re a pretty masculine guy.)


Looking for a girl who won’t get upset when I beat her at Scrabble

The last bio is especially powerful because it challenges her. 

And if she’s the type to rise to the occasion, she’ll definitely text you first after matching.

Which is pretty much all you want your bio to do. That and giving her something to talk about halfway through the Tinder convo.

#3: The importance of connecting Instagram and Spotify to Tinder

Instagram and Spotify can potentially solve a HUGE Tinder problem of yours.

You see, most guys fall into the classic online dating trap of…

…focusing too much on their looks.

Most people reckon, “How can being too attractive be a bad thing?”

But it CAN be a bad thing if you think attraction only comes from appearances.

I’ve talked to girls at length about the world’s most handsome men and more than a few girls said they DID NOT find these Hollywood stars attractive.

Did that just make your head explode?

No worries. I’ll wait for you to put it back together.

The reason why some girls see Ryan Gosling as a wet dream and other women see him as repulsive is because much of female attraction is based on…


A handsome face with the wrong vibes is ugly.

And a mediocre face with the right vibes is attractive.

What does any of this have to do with Instagram or Spotify?

Because Instagram and Spotify are an easy way to add vibes to your profile.

One shows your taste in music and the other (probably) gives people a peek into your personal life.

Are Instagram and Spotify necessary?


Not if you add vibes through your regular Tinder photos.

More on that here.

Onto the next step.

#4: Sending a first message that she just HAS to reply to

Even if you get 100+ matches a day, that’s still meaningless if you don’t know how to break the ice.

Send the wrong first text and she probably won’t reply.

Send a horrible first message and she may even unmatch you.

What I see dudes do wrong most is without a doubt starting Tinder convos on a bad note.

Like this:

Again, I picked an especially bad opener for fun. 

A line that you likely wouldn’t send.

So let me show you something that’s probably more in tune with your tastes:

The classic ‘Hey’ and its many variations.

Simple. And completely garbage at getting replies.


Because everyone is sending it!

Which wouldn’t be bad if it was actually fun.

But it’s not. 

In fact, it’s like nuclear waste. If given a choice, no girl wants to get near it.

After all, if you say ‘Hey’ you’ll probably also go:

  • How are you?
  • What are you up to?
  • What do you do for work?

A conversation she’s had a million times.

So what do you do instead?

You come up with a personalized opener that she’s never seen before.

Which may sound a little difficult, which is why I’ve explained exactly how to do it here:

Do you have a new match that you want to talk to right now?

No worries.

Here’s an opener that she can’t resist. Just click the link and grab my strongest opener.

Now you know how to reliably get replies from your Tinder matches, it’s time for the next step… 

#5: How to recognize that she likes you over text

Most guys sabotage their chances of getting a Tinder date by doing this.

Incessant yapping about nothing.

When I mention this to my new mentees on the TextGod Mentoring Program I often get confused looks.

“If I shouldn’t be chit-chatting, what should I be doing Louis?”


You should be moving toward the date.

Which you can do in a million and one ways, so I won’t dive too deep into that.

Instead, I’ll leave you these articles to get you what you need:

But what you say isn’t HALF as important as WHY you’re saying it.

So let’s focus on that, the why.

Whenever you say something, it should be done with a clear reason.

Reasons like:

  • To build trust
  • To raise emotions
  • To show you’re a man with standards

And so on.

Does that mean I always think about why I’m texting something before I send it?


But I do always look for signs of interest so I know what’s working.

That way I can easily see if she’s ready for the date.

Because there are enough signs of interest to fill a library, I grabbed the most frequent and put them in an article.

Check it out here:

#6: How to ask her out on the date

We’ve come to the most crucial part of Tinder dating.

How to ask your Tinder match out on a date.

If you don’t get this right all the hours you spent texting will have been for nothing.

Because if you do it poorly, she may not even text you back.

Does that stress you out?


Because I’m going to make this very easy for you.

The major reason why most guys get this all wrong, is because they beat around the bush.

Or phrase the date request as if they’re begging for change.

Would you like to go out for drinks sometime?


That reeks of insecurity.

What’s the best way to ask a woman out?

Telling her what you’d like to do and giving her two options for when.

This gorgeous girl from Hinge confirms it.

What would those texts look like concretely?

First you tell her what you’d like to do.

Let’s do coffee sometime. I know a place that makes a mean macchiato

After she replies, tell her when you’d like to take her out.

Wednesday or Thursday evening at 8 work for you?

There you have it.

Short and sweet, but highly effective.

Hint: Please don’t copy paste the above line and take your Tinder date to a place that doesn’t make macchiatos. Then you’ll just look foolish. So tailor make it to your favorite date venue.

#7: What to do when she rejects the Tinder date

The moment that can turn the toughest men into scared little boys…

…she rejects the date.

She can refuse in several ways.

Let’s start with the worst scenario.

Sorry, I don’t go on dates this quickly

I first want to know someone better

Is this awful?


A mild annoyance at the worst. All this means is that you want to increase your attraction and become more trustworthy.

That usually happens naturally by texting more.

Now for the second scenario.

I can’t make it those days

Which isn’t too crazy an answer.

Yet I often see my clients get completely flustered by it.

Their usual response is to forget all date talk and switch to another subject.

When asked why they switched subjects my clients said, “She didn’t tell me when she was available so I took that as a sign that she wasn’t ready yet.”

But that was the wrong conclusion.

Even if a woman wants to go out with you, she’ll rarely give you her schedule.

Instead, she’ll wait for YOU to take the lead.

So what’s a good reply?


Now’s the time you tell me when you ARE available 😉

It’s confident, direct and playful.


If she likes you, she’ll definitely tell you when you can take her out.

These were the basics for how to get dates on Tinder.

But I have one last thing that will make your Tinder experience much better.

The 10 Texts That Always Work.

Do you ever:

  • Catch yourself not knowing what to say?
  • Looking for a funny answer but coming up with nothing?
  • In dire need of a flirty answer?

Look no more and click this link.

Inside you’ll find 10 copy pastable lines that will give you exactly what you’re looking for.

You’re welcome.

Happy dating.

Louis Farfields

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