With Hinge, it’s easy to get in touch with the women you like.
But what the heck do you say when you match?
Better still, what’s the best opener?
This is for all you people looking for good openers.
Read on and get:
- The champion opener from team Hinge that got the most replies
- 16 Other effective openers + analysis
- The 2 essentials every good pick-up line MUST have
- Why your cheesy openers scare her off
- #1 way to write an opener using her name
- The favorite opening line from team TextGod
- And more…
With hundreds of guys texting the cutie you like, dating online sometimes feels like walking through a minefield.
One wrong move and you blow your chances of dating your match.
The stress begins with the opening line.
Almost everyone agrees you want to send your match a text that stands out and makes her feel special.
A tall order.
Especially if you know next to nothing about her.
Knowing the struggle, Hinge ran an experiment to help guys find the best icebreaker.
So what happened?
First, Hinge wrote over 100 unique openers.
Then the dating app picked dozens of participants from a crowd of volunteers.
For one month, each participant got a random opener for each of his matches.
Hinge recorded the response rates for every line.
After 30 days, Hinge logged over 8 million user impressions!
Let’s find out which opener made it to the top, by climbing over the bodies of the bad.
‘Hey’ is for horses
You probably already knew that ‘Hey’ is not a winner.
That includes all it’s variations.
The reason, of course, is that it forces your match to carry the burden of the conversation.
Enter ‘Hey’ into the subtext translator and you get:
“Hey, I don’t have anything interesting to say. Entertain me.”
Hardly a first text message that makes her weak in the knees.
Surprisingly, the top three openers from Hinge were questions.
But not your ordinary interview questions, like:
But questions in the shape of games.
And when you think about it, the success of these openers makes sense.
Can you figure out why?
It’s the same reason why ‘Hey’ doesn’t work.
These playful icebreakers are entertaining PLUS easy to answer.
That combination is GOLD for writing an effective first text.
The champion opener followed the same formula.
But unlike the previous two lines, it’s not a question.
The undisputed winning opener of Hinge
The rules of the game are simple.
One person writes three statements about themselves. Two are a lie. The last the truth.
Now your match has to guess which is which.
After she guesses right or wrong, she sends you three statements about herself.
Hint: the more weird or embarrassing they are, the more fun it is to guess.
Two truths and a lie is a great way of getting to know each other.
And it naturally flows into a normal conversation.
Sometimes your match may shock you with her answer, and you want to uncover more of the truth.
12 Other good (+edited) openers from team Hinge
Sounds lame, but it’s actually a good question.
Firstly, it’s fun to answer because it’s wacky and she probably has never thought about it before.
What’s more, she will want a backdrop that expresses their personality.
Mountains, landscape, brick wall, pizzeria, spaceship.
The possibilities are endless.
Which is why it’s so interesting to see what your match picks.
It’s a fun question, because the answers are surprising.
And although you want to take her answer with a grain of salt, she’s telling you what she’s like:
A Dull Diana, an Adventurous Anne or a Negative Nelly.
This question gives you little insight into her personality, but…
It’s easy to answer for her, plus fun.
As you can probably tell, I wrote this line.
But I can guarantee you that it works.
Because she reads two tongue twisters in a row and expects a third.
But instead, she gets to punch a celebrity in the throat.
It’s not hilarious, but it’ll get a chuckle.
And that’s all you need to get a reply.
Easy to answer and people love to say what team they’re on.
Honestly, this opener will be a hit or miss.
It will work for people who get the reference.
And for people who are super nerdy or over 30.
(It’s a direct quote from Jim when he pretends to be Dwight from the sitcom, Office US.)
Otherwise, I don’t see this line working.
She most likely has a very vivid memory of being scared to death by a movie. (Mine was The Exorcist followed by The Shining. For TextGod coach Jay it was Evil Dead 2.)
And it’s a question she may not have ever got.
An original question. And pretty easy to answer.
But unless she’s really into music, it won’t excite her.
And when writing a good first text, excitement is key.
I like this question.
Perhaps because I just wrote it.
(Hinge wrote: “What 90s song would you use as the title of your autobiography?” Such a mouthful and not as funny.)
And I like it because there are so many hilarious songs to choose from.
A few that spring to mind:
- All That She Wants
- Barbie Girl
A great question from Hinge.
Even though your match may not play any games now.
She most likely did when she was a kid.
(I once dated a girl who was a complete League of Legends addict as a teenager.)
What makes this question even better, is that you instantly get a nickname!
Peach, Toad, or Cumguzzler.
Excuse me, I just heard one of them is not a Nintendo character.
Apparently ‘peach’ is the name of a fruit. What a crazy world.
An opener that lends itself to lots of variations.
The key to a good ‘choose one’-type game, is balance.
The two options must be equally appealing.
Although that’s very contextual.
Never having to work for the rest of your life, or a 10-inch donger is a no brainer.
You’ll be crazy not to choose the donger up your butt.
Here’s another example of the ‘choose one’ game.
And I think Hinge nailed it.
Let’s dig into four TYPES of openers, with even greater detail.
Starting with cheesy pickup lines.
#1: How to send cheesy openers that get replies
If you’re a fan of cheesy openers, but don’t get much success, here’s why.
Your katana game is weak.
You must defeat the Ultimate Gentlemen before you get her text.
Before you master the art of the sword, let’s start with something more practical.
Like the reason why pick-up lines rarely work.
They show too much interest.
And force her to make a choice:
Do I like him or not?
And because she has almost nothing to base her decision on, she almost always rejects you.
Do you find yourself getting ignored too often?
Or even worse… getting unmatched?
Your conversations are probably too boring!
But that’ll be a thing of the past with my 10 Texts That Always Work.
– Fun answers to boring questions
– Cut and paste teases that’ll crack her up and make you seem more attractive
– A smooth way to ask her out
– And more
But there is a way to make cheesy pick-up lines work.
And that’s to LEAD IN the opener.
What does that mean?
Before you type out your bad line and hit send, ask her if she likes cheesy pick-up lines.
Like my boy, Andrew.
Don’t you just love it when a plan comes together?
Why did asking make such a big difference?
Because she sees that you’re not a testosterone-filled caveman who only thinks with his meat scepter.
Instead, you’re a testosterone pumping beast with manners.
And that’s what all women want.
Gentleman in the streets, and a Chad in the sheets.
Next, we take it up a notch.
#2: How to create a Hinge pickup line just for her
Learn the four steps that can get you laid through Hinge TONIGHT.
Some girls have names that easily lend themselves to cheesy openers.
Girls called Faith, Alexa, Annie, Jane and Destiny.
Here are the icebreakers that spring to mind:
You’re not the only one that sees the pick-up line.
Even worse, every guy is probably blowing up her inbox with the same lines.
So you have to be different.
For starters, you want to understand her reality.
Understand what she’s likely to read on Hinge all day.
I already gave you a peek of her inbox above.
But you want to go even deeper.
Quite a lot of guys already understand that she gets harassed by the same lines.
So they show understanding by saying:
And that’s not bad.
But it’s only the start.
To really stand out from the herd, you want to wow her with a line that she hasn’t heard before.
Like this clever guy.
Gotta love self-deprecating humor.
Understanding is only one of the four steps to get laid.
For the other three, watch my four-minute video:
Next up, is another type of opener.
#3: Improvisational pickup lines
Another favorite among team TextGod…
My Little Pony.
You after I make the 1337th MLP joke.
But also, the improvisational opener.
And it starts like this:
Note: you can replace ‘historical period’ with any subject: food, animals, culture, and so on.
A great game.
And the ladies wuv it.
Zing! Nailed it.
Although my history bro has got mad comedy chops, he could use some help with the ladies.
Why do I say that?
Because she’s using him as a toy.
She keeps demanding pick-up lines and he just rolls with it.
But you’re not on Hinge to be her dancing monkey.
You’re on Hinge to meet a girl who’s cool enough to go out with you.
So I would have liked to see this:
Do you feel the difference?
The screenshot showed a man who put her on a pedestal.
But in my example you’re on equal footing.
If you’re new to writing your own material, the improv opener can be difficult.
Are you having trouble creating a good line?
Google is your friend.
Simply write ‘[subject of choice] pick up lines’ into Google and hit search.
Here’s one I found on the French Revolution:
Another one on the Iron Curtain:
And the last one on the Renaissance:
Now for the final and most dangerous type of Hinge opener.
#4: Hinge’s comedy roast battle
How to play with fire and warm her vegana heart.
If you like comedy, you are probably already familiar with roasts.
If not, let me explain what a roast is.
It’s basically like watching a YouTube comment section in person.
So when you roast your match, you make her the butt of a joke.
But you don’t just kick in the door with a joke.
You lead it in, like so:
The lady could spit fire, but not take it.
As you can see from the example, roasting her can backfire.
But what makes the roast opener so powerful, is that it triggers a lot of emotions.
Mostly negative, but that’s not a bad thing.
Because once you get her to laugh, all that emotion changes to positivity in an instant.
Making her suddenly like you, A LOT.
What’s more, she’s only used to friends bashing her.
So by giving her a good burn, you may instantly build a strong connection.
Or instantly turn into a grade-A douche.
If you like a girl with a sense of humor, try adding ‘Roast me’ to your dating profile.
That way you won’t only get better matches, but you’ll get girls opening you.
You better have thick skin though.
Because girls can be BRUTAL.
You now have a fuark ton of openers and are almost guaranteed a reply.
But that’s only the start.
Now you want to continue the conversation and ask her out.
If that’s something you struggle with, I got exactly what you need:
- Don’t know what to say
- How to keep it fun
- Or how to plan the date without seeming desperate
That wraps up the best Hinge openers.
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