5 Steps on How To Hookup on OKCupid (Opener to Date)

You’ve heard about OkCupid, maybe you are already using the app, but…

You don’t know if it’s the right app for hookups.

To save you time, we’ll discuss exactly how likely it is for you to get laid via OkCupid.

And how to increase your odds of getting lucky, the right way.

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Is OkCupid a hookup app?

A simple question, but does it also have a simple answer?

No. The truth on OkCupid is more nuanced.

To put it as simply as possible, OkCupid is made for millennials who are tired of superficial swiping apps, but who also aren’t ready for marriage and kids.

So the dating service offers a nice middle ground between casual hookups and diehard commitment.

Does that mean OkCupid is NOT a hookup app?


The OkCupid target audience simply wants the online experience to be more meaningful than swiping faces.

But as far as user intentions go, everyone wants one thing: A good time.

If you hit it off with your match and respectfully show that you want to keep it casual, many of the OkCupid girls will want to meet you.

Although the portion that’s seriously seeking a loving relation obviously won’t.

To decisively answer your question:

OkCupid CAN get you hookups, IF you know what you’re doing.

And that’s exactly what I am going to tell you now.

Holy Tip:

The search function lets you filter to ‘hookup’ in the ‘Availability’ section.

You can also show your potential matches that you want hookups in the ‘Looking For’ section of your profile. Although I wouldn’t recommend doing so.

If a woman sees a profile of a man who wants hookups, she’s likely to think, “O, geez. There’s another one who can only think with his donger….”

*skips to the next profile*

You’re better off saying you have little expectations.

Finish today’s article to the end and you’ll know exactly how to get laid via OkCupid.

Sound good?

Let’s get started with…

Step 1: Setting up your OkCupid profile

What keeps most men from hooking up on OkCupid are their photos.

What do guys get wrong? They use photos that tell the wrong story.

“Huh, my photos tell a story?”

Absolutely. Seducing women online is not just about showing what you look like. It’s largely about giving her a peek into your life.

And the photos of most men paint a picture that says, “I’m a nice guy with a big heart who just wants to take care of you.”

Hardly the message you want to give if all you want is to have sex.

So how do you shoot a series of photos that show you want to do the no-pants dance?

By toning down your teddybear vibe and roughing up your look.

Be careful though. Go too far down the macho road and you’ll seem too hungry for sex. Perhaps even plain creepy.

The next image shows exactly what I mean:

On the left, we have the loveable carebear. On the right, we have the carved out of marble sex-machine.

Unless you look like a testosterone-bursting work of art, you want to avoid both. Instead, you want to find the happy medium.

That said, if you strike the perfect balance between harmless and masculine, you’ll be boyfriend material.

If you want hookups, you want to lean slightly more toward the studly beefcake.

In short, you want to look masculine but trustworthy.

To look trustworthy, you want photos of the following:

  • You smiling into the camera.
  • You wearing a big cuddly sweater.
  • You with a pet.
  • You doing a harmless hobby, like cooking or playing the guitar.

To look more edgy and virile, you want photos of the following:

  • You looking away from the camera without smiling.
  • You wearing clothes with earth tones, perhaps revealing a little bit of your muscular forearms or upper quads. Be sure to never go shirtless unless it’s normal for the situation, like surfing.
  • You showing off your jawline or manly beard.
  • You doing dangerous activities, like kickboxing or skateboarding.

Once you have the right blend of masculinity and trustworthiness, you should attract girls open to casual contact.

With the photos out of the way, let’s dig into the questions.

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Filling out the right OKCupid questions

If you want the highest chance to match with girls open to bow-chicka-bow-wow, you need to apply the next tip.

OkCupid and the other swipe-focused apps have one hugely important difference… Questions.

Not just any questions, questions that feed into the algorithm and decide the quality of your matches.

Basically you get matched with women who have similar answers to yours.

Although you’ll never know exactly on which topics you see eye to eye. OkCupid only gives you a woman’s compatibility rating.

The essential point you want to understand?

Because she only sees the compatibility rating, you don’t necessarily want to focus on questions that resonate with you…

…You want to answer specific questions that show you’re open to sex so that the OkCupid algorithm matches you with girls open to knockin’ boots.

Which questions would those be?

Well, there are thousands if not hundreds of thousands of questions.

Thankfully, back in 2011, OkCupid studied which questions say what about you.

The OkCupid team found that liking beer is the best predictor of whether he or she will have sex on the first date.

“No matter their gender or orientation, beer-lovers are 60% more likely to be OK with sleeping with someone they’ve just met,” says the dating service on its blog. (The site removed the post)

A scientific paper confirms OkCupid’s findings on beer, […] participants’ sexual expectations are heightened when alcohol is available.”

Other predictors of sex on the first date?

  • “In a certain light, wouldn’t nuclear war be exciting?” implies an 83% chance of first-date sex.
  • “Could you imagine yourself killing someone?” and “Assuming you were in the position to do so, would you launch nuclear weapons under any circumstances?” both implied an 82% chance of sex on the first date.

I’m obviously not going to list ALL the questions that imply a loose attitude toward sex. So here’s a general rule of thumb:

Choose low-stress questions that reveal how open-minded you are.

Using the right bio

Bios can make the difference between knowing your match in the Biblical sense or leaning back in your chair with your boxers around your ankles.

To get you some female company, we’re going to work on your bio.

Firstly, you want to avoid:

  • Factual bios that can describe anyone, “I like music, travel, and good conversation.”
  • Long bios, there’s nothing more off-putting than a block of text.
  • Overly adult bios, “I’m 6’9 and those are two different measurements.”

I doubt any of you would ever dream of using that last line in your bio.

But even when you speak your X-rated intentions the right way, you still creep women out. When dating online, only women can be shamelessly direct about their intentions.

Us men have to be a little more subtle when it comes to attracting the ladies.

Why? The average woman can have sex whenever she pleases. So even if she wants to keep it casual, her goal isn’t plain nookie.

A woman’s goal is always to find a man who’s fun to be with and who is a bit of a challenge.

Once you know that, writing a bio gets much easier. Instead of screaming your steamy desires from the rooftops, write a bio that shows you’re a fun dude by… triggering her emotions.

There are thousands of ways to invent a bio that gets her in ‘the feels.’

So we’ll discuss a few that you can steal.

Starting with the classic hookup bio:

Girls used to hate it when I pulled their hair… Funny how things change

Because it’s a little over-used, it doesn’t trigger as many emotions as it used to. But it hits exactly the right tone: mature, but not smutty.

Now for an adult bio with a little more humor.

Can someone tell me how to lower the difficulty settings on OkCupid? I still don’t know what a… *checks notes* cliboris is

Funny? Check. Mature content? Check. Emotions triggered? TRIPLE CHECK.

Another humorous bio that doesn’t beat around the bush:

Men’s Health told me women like bad boys. Well you’re in luck, baby, because I’m bad at everything.

It shows you’re reading magazines to get better with women, as opposed to hiding your agenda. And you’re hilariously revealing how little you know.

These bios should trigger her emotions and make her want to chat with you.

So what do you do if you get a match?

What do you text?

Find out in the next step.

Step 2: What your first text on OkCupid should look like

No matter if you’re 007 himself… if you’re a stud who texts like a 10-year-old girl, you won’t ever get laid through OkCupid.

Do you ever open your fresh match with lines like:

Hey, how was your day?


Hey, what’s up?

Then I’ve got some bad news for you, bucko. She doesn’t like what she sees.

Because what does your OkCupid match think once she reads a similar text?

  • You’re boring.
  • You don’t know what to say.
  • You don’t understand she’s not here for your entertainment.

How does she reach these conclusions? Because you’re basically tossing her the conversational ball and saying, “Get back to me once you have something good.”

Fairly selfish when you look at it from that standpoint.

If you want to create attraction and increase the likelihood of a hookup, you want to send texts that brighten her day.

A text that injects her with a dose of feel-good hormones.

How do you do that? The possibilities are endless, my friend. But let me give you a couple of golden nuggets to send you in the right direction.

OkCupid opener #1

Hey (name), name a movie that best describes your OkCupid experience

No matter what she replies, she’ll almost certainly ask for your experience.

To which you can reply:

A series of unfortunate events

OkCupid opener #2

(name), hugely important question: you’re having your portrait painted, what’s your backdrop

Great question if you think she’s into art.

OkCupid opener #3

I usually don’t hand out compliments to strangers so easily, but you have great taste in men

A little confidence is attractive.

OkCupid opener #4

*channels inner Joey*

Hey… how YOU doin?’

“But Louis, isn’t this exactly what you warned us NOT to do?”

Not quite.

You’re clearly imitating Joey from friends. Which is playful and fun.

Plus, the series Friends is usually a hit with the ladies in their 20s and up.

OkCupid opener #5

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Step 3: Showing you’re a real person

One big reason men fail to get laid via OkCupid is… a lack of empathy.

Most men are clueless about what crosses a woman’s mind as she tallies up the pros and cons of meeting up with a cute stranger.

Probably because our male concerns are so straight forward, “Will she like me?”

The worries of a woman are far more serious.

As the next meme beautifully shows:

From a physical standpoint, it’s like she’s a honey glazed salmon making plans to meet up with a grizzly bear.

Unless she’s spent a few years studying under Mister Miyagi, she won’t be able to crane kick a bear into his wintersleep.

So before she steps out the door to meet you, she has to be entirely convinced of one thing:

“Will he be able to keep his claws of my yummy honey-dipped fins?”

Said simply, “Can I trust him?”

If not, the date ain’t happenin’, bruh.

In short, if you want hookups via OkCupid, you need to be trustworthy.

I’m going to assume your intentions are good, so let me show you how to build trust through texting.

And receive texts like these:

The trick to building trust?

Try really hard… not to be cool.

If you can look like a fool and share embarrassing moments, she won’t feel the need to play Miss Perfect.

Instead, she’ll feel comfortable being herself.

Now, I know you’re probably going to work your hardest to casually insert embarrassing stories about yourself in your OkCupid chats.


Sprinkle in your embarrassing moments.

Let me give you an example of an actual conversation, translated from Dutch.

Context: we’re talking about a show called Maniac. Highly recommend.

Maniac. It’s only 10 episodes long

Keep in mind, it’s not a comedy…

Too bad. Emma stone and jonah hill are HILARIOUS

Gonna watch it tonight

Btw. A bird pooped on my head today 👶

Yeah go for it!!

Hahhaa poor you

Thx 4 the info

I know what the ladies like

And the playful flirting continued from there.

So don’t go full story-telling mode.

Keep your embarrassing moments short and trust will grow.

And hookups will follow, if…

You get her excited about meeting you.

Find out how in the next step.

Step 4: Getting her excited to meet you

You won’t ever enter her holy sanctuary if you don’t know and apply the all-important insights of this step.

Before I hand you the key to her sacred temple, know that I hate unfounded advice. Something many dating ‘experts’ eagerly hand out.

So put on your goggles and lab coat. It’s time to get scientific.

Let me introduce Antonio Damasio, also known as the Neurologist of Emotions.

A title he earned after he finished his groundbreaking research on patients with emotional brain damage.

Antonio’s most known patient is called Elliot.

Elliot was a successful businessman, and exemplary father and husband until the surgical removal of a brain tumor permanently damaged his brain.

After surgeons cut out the tumor, Elliot’s life fell apart.

Despite his high IQ (only 3% of the population is smarter than him), he was suddenly unable to make the simplest decisions.

Planning an appointment, picking a restaurant, even choosing the right pen for his John Hancock was an effort.

The damage to Elliot’s brain totally crippled his decision-making abilities.


Because he could only come to a decision through a mechanical analysis of the situation.

First he has to find out all the possible options, tally up the pros and cons, and lastly weigh up every option before coming to a decision.

No wonder Elliot takes hours to choose a restaurant.

Decisions are made much easier when they’re based on emotions. Healthy people almost instantly label a choice as: good, bad, or trivial.

The reason why you don’t make a fuss of pens is because that choice barely triggers any emotions.

You just don’t care.

Antonio Damasio’s research shows that it’s almost impossible to make a choice without emotional input.

What does any of this have to do with hooking up with girls through OkCupid?


If you want to do adult things with your match, you can’t simply logic your way into her panties.

You first have to make her excited to meet up with you by…

Stimulating her emotions.

Cool it with the boring talk about work and school.

Spark her feelings with fun conversation.

Step 5: How to have a hook up date

This step will boost your hookup counter through the roof!

Which isn’t even such an impressive feat if you consider most men have at best 3 one-night stands in their entire LIFE.

Why so few, you ask?

Because the average man treats one-nighters as a game of roulette and relies completely on chance to get lucky.

That’s why you’ll learn how to approach hookups like a game of poker and influence the odds in your favor.

I’m going to assume you know how to ask her out.

If not, watch the next video before you move on:

Now for the hookup tips.

#1: Be honest

Stop sugarcoating reality and embrace your life as it is.

Don’t lie about your intentions.

And don’t think you need to position yourself as a boyfriend so that she’ll want to sleep with you.

Not only is that sketchy, but you’ll actually scare off women who sincerely want a no strings attached hookup.

Women like sex, but nothing turns them OFF more than bullshit.

So don’t give it to her. Be honest.

#2: Seduction doping

Athletes who use doping do better than those without.

Little do men know that you can also enhance your seduction skills with doping.

That drug is called…


If your hair is a bird’s nest, your shirt large enough to swim in and your BO can slay a walrus…

You are seducing women with a handicap.

Possible, but hard.

You probably don’t look terrible, but can you look at yourself in the mirror and truthfully say you look your best?

If not, you want to step up your self-care.

  • Work toward a slim body.
  • Have a clean and mature wardrobe.
  • Wear perfume (honestly the easiest way to increase attraction in a hurry).
  • And groom every part of your body that grows.

#3: Strategy

If you want to take your date to bonetown, it’s silly to meet up at a café that’s far from home.

You always want to plan your entire date within a stone’s throw of your house.

Ideally, you want a sex date to be at home.

How do you make the home-date a reality?

You plan a fun activity that isn’t just slang for banging. I’m looking at you, Netflix and chill.

Let me give you some fun home-date ideas that most ladies like:

  • Cooking together.
  • Making cocktails or smoothies.
  • Building pillow forts.
  • Costume movie night (just movies is not enough of an activity).

Before you give her directions to your home, a better idea.

Meet up in front of your local supermarket.

Your supermarket is neutral territory where she feels more safe and comfortable than at your home.

See the walking down the aisles and filling up your shopping cart as a warm-up. You’re getting used to each other without the stress of having to impress her.

After 30 minutes of grocery shopping, the first-date nerves should be mostly gone.

And you can head up to your place and do whatever you set out to do.

Holy Tip:

Girls aren’t dumb, if she enters your place she knows what she’s potentially getting herself into.

So don’t be afraid to make a move, because you don’t know whether she’s interested.

Trust me bro, she’s interested.

Although I do recommend you get at least a little physical before you get home.

I recommend you hook arms as you walk her from the supermarket back to your place.

Want to make your date even more epic?

Check out my First Tinder Date Guide and get 20 Tips for an AWESOME date.

#4: Don’t be a douche

If everything went as planned, don’t kick her out of the bed and into the curb.

Give her a few minutes of snuggling and figure out what she wants to do:

Go back home or stay with you.

Is staying with you not an option?

Offer to pay for her Uber and see that she safely gets in.

Why am I being so preachy about something so obvious?

Because if more men didn’t make women feel bad for their sexual desires, perhaps women would be more open about sex in the first place.

So do yourself and your bros a favor, treat her like a lady.

That’s pretty much it for the OkCupid Hookup article.

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Here’s what to expect:

  • Funny answers to standard questions.
  • Copy-pastable lines to tease her.
  • Witty first texts after you get her digits.
  • And more…

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Enjoy, bro.

Louis Farfields

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